The Old Men And The Seat

38 - Chosen Family and the Weight of Things

Byron and Paul are back after a two-month break, reuniting in their home podcast studio to catch up on Christmas, family, and the things that weigh us down. The conversation opens with reflections on their Christmas celebrations. Byron shares the joy of spending Christmas morning with Paul and their sons, watching the now-adult boys slip back into childhood as they played Nintendo Wii together for hours. But beyond the warmth, Byron opens up about a significant decision: not inviting his father to Christmas. This leads to a raw and honest discussion about cutting ties with toxic family members, the relief that comes with such decisions, and the cultural expectations that make them so difficult - particularly for Byron, who comes from a Chinese background where family obligation runs deep. Paul shares his own experience of making similar choices 30 years ago, and neither has a moment's regret. The hosts explore what family really means to them now: it's not about bloodlines, but about the people who show up, who love you, and who you choose to have in your life. Friends, neighbours, and chosen family take centre stage.  The episode then shifts to a thoughtful examination of possessions and the burden they carry. From luxury watches locked away in safety deposit boxes to semi-professional kitchen equipment sitting unused, Byron and Paul discuss the emotional and financial weight of the things we accumulate. They touch on:  - The Pieter Levels digital nomad philosophy of owning only what fits in a backpack  - Marie Kondo's "Does it bring you joy?" approach to decluttering  - The hidden costs of ownership: insurance, maintenance, storage, and time  - The difference between assets (things that bring joy and utility) and liabilities (things we own but don't use)  - Digital ownership illusions (the Bruce Willis movie library lesson)  - Cherished possessions worth keeping, like Byron's copy of A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles As two men in their mid-fifties, they reflect on the journey toward simplicity: fewer possessions, more authentic relationships, and a focus on what truly matters - time and the people we love. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

37 - Dementia, Stress, and the Cost of Living Crisis: The Bodhi Tree (SONG 2)

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37 - Dementia, Stress, and the Cost of Living Crisis: The Bodhi Tree (SONG 1)

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37 - Dementia, Stress, and the Cost of Living Crisis

In this candid episode, Byron and Paul tackle sobering news: dementia has overtaken heart disease as the leading cause of death for Australians, with 17,500 deaths registered last year. Both hosts share deeply personal experiences, having lost their mothers to the disease. Drawing from their family histories, they explore the potential link between chronic stress and dementia, examining how their mothers' stressful lives—marked by single parenthood, financial pressure during the late 1980s recession, and caregiving responsibilities—may have contributed to their early decline. The conversation shifts to an honest examination of their own lives today. Despite being in privileged positions, both hosts grapple with Australia's overwhelming cost of living: million-dollar median house prices, $9 coffee, $100 daily expenses just to visit the city, and aged care facilities requiring $1 million bonds plus $100,000 annually. This leads to serious contemplation of the "bodhi tree option"—relocating to Thailand where accommodation costs just $700 per month, meals total $30 per day, and quality of life could dramatically improve. They discuss retirement visa requirements ($36,000-$37,000 in a Thai bank account) and compare potential monthly expenses of $2,000 in Thailand versus over $100,000 annually in Australia. Byron shares a recent health wake-up call: his doctor warned he's now in a high-risk category for stroke, heart attack, and diabetes, forcing him to confront how work stress has compromised his health over the years. Paul reflects on exercise as his primary stress relief and questions whether their current lifestyle is sustainable. The episode touches on food insecurity in Australia, with Byron's charity work revealing people in their 50s accessing charity meals for the first time after job loss. They discuss the cumulative effects of stress (illustrated by Byron's "glass of water" metaphor), the rising costs of dementia care, and whether modern life's pressures justify the sacrifice. Key themes: dementia prevention, stress management, cost of living crisis, retirement planning, geographical arbitrage, work-life balance, health consciousness, and questioning societal expectations. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

36 - Redefining Masculinity: From External to Internal

In this episode, Byron opens up about his evolving understanding of masculinity—from his post-divorce years chasing external markers of success (the Porsche, multiple partners, the best table at restaurants) to his current view that true masculinity means being comfortable with who you are. Byron reflects on how his definition has shifted from externally focused to internally focused, emphasizing that vulnerability is actually strength. The conversation explores how mental models from our past shape us, the importance of unlearning limiting beliefs, and why life is ultimately a "single player game." Paul and Byron also discuss role models, the value of reading biographies, and the difference between being a good human being versus conforming to societal expectations of what it means to "be a man." ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.