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Your Kids Need to Feel Safe at Both Houses | Co-Parenting Standards & Dad's Responsibilities

#singlemotherhood #podcast #coparenting  When your children are moving between two homes, your job as a parent does not pause at the door. The security, consistency, and standards have to travel with them. We are talking about what it means to make sure your children feel genuinely welcomed and safe whether they are with mom or with dad, the shared responsibilities that both parents have to honor, and some of the questions people argue about in private but never address directly. This episode is for every co-parent who wants to do this the right way, for the sake of the children caught in the middle. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00:04 You cannot let up on the security of your children ever 00:00:08 Should you send your kids with clothes to the other parent's house? 00:04:17 Should a dad have more than one bedroom when his kids are with him? 00:05:07 More moms are losing their children to dads 00:06:44 Kids should feel welcomed and at home in both households 00:08:08 Shared responsibilities as a co-parent what both sides owe the children 00:11:50 You cannot let up on your children's security  00:16:13 At what age should children stop sleeping in the bed with their parents? 00:17:18 How children can shift the attention dynamic in a relationship 00:18:44 Ways to soothe your child and build healthy sleep habits 🎙️ Real Talk. Real Life. Real Moms.Welcome to The Pick Up Line Podcast — the unfiltered, unapologetic podcast where single moms Dina and Mauri keep it real about motherhood, personal growth, healing, and second chances. Whether you're in the carpool lane or sipping coffee *or wine* after bedtime, you're not alone — we've got your back. 💬 What to Expect: Every week, we talk about the real stuff — parenting struggles, mom guilt, dating again, mental health, faith, fitness, and learning to show up for yourself even on the hard days. If you're a single mom, a strong woman, or just someone who needs some honest conversation and encouragement, this space is for YOU. New episodes every week — Subscribe and turn on notifications! 🔗 FOLLOW & LISTEN: 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@pickupthepod 🎧 Listen on Spotify: (https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jGqwR71GBraeNyF9JFRif?si=xfDMVc9zSDqnqjs-yPfiSw) 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pickupthepod 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pickupthepod?_t=ZP-8zx5QZ5k7dG&_r=1

The Real Financial Weight of Single Motherhood

#singlemom  #childsupport  #financialreality #singleparenting #momlife  #coparenting  Child support is not a salary. It was never meant to be. And for most single mothers, it barely scratches the surface of what it actually costs to raise a child alone. This week we are having the financial conversation that single parents need to hear. What it really means to be the primary provider emotionally, practically, and financially when the other parent's contribution is the legal minimum and the rest falls entirely on you.  This is not a pity conversation but one for the woman who are tired, still standing, and still building. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00:11 Child support has never made anyone rich  00:00:34 Child support as the secondary parent is the bare minimum of your responsibility 00:02:58 There are no stipulations on what good parenting looks like 00:04:18 Dating someone who has a child and understanding what that dynamic requires 00:07:03 Why a new girlfriend sometimes needs to take a step back when it comes to the mother of her partner's children 00:10:56 The real frustration of carrying the full financial and emotional load as a single mom 00:14:09 Scheduling your entire life around your kids  00:15:29 Child support has never made anyone rich  00:22:11 It is okay to be a mother who loves her work that does not make you less present 00:22:41 Delegating as a mother is not giving up 00:23:11 A mother can absolutely rebuild and still follow her career and her dreams 🎙️ Real Talk. Real Life. Real Moms.Welcome to The Pick Up Line Podcast — the unfiltered, unapologetic podcast where single moms Dina and Mauri keep it real about motherhood, personal growth, healing, and second chances. Whether you're in the carpool lane or sipping coffee *or wine* after bedtime, you're not alone — we've got your back. 💬 What to Expect: Every week, we talk about the real stuff — parenting struggles, mom guilt, dating again, mental health, faith, fitness, and learning to show up for yourself even on the hard days. If you're a single mom, a strong woman, or just someone who needs some honest conversation and encouragement, this space is for YOU. New episodes every week — Subscribe and turn on notifications! 🔗 FOLLOW & LISTEN: 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@pickupthepod 🎧 Listen on Spotify: (https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jGqwR71GBraeNyF9JFRif?si=xfDMVc9zSDqnqjs-yPfiSw) 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pickupthepod 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pickupthepod?_t=ZP-8zx5QZ5k7dG&_r=1

Divorce Doesn't Have to Break You | Co-Parenting, Rebuilding & Dating Post Divorce with Jamilla S.

#motherhood #coparenting #datingafterdivorce  #singlemoms #divorcerecovery Divorce is one thing. Figuring out who you are on the other side of it is a whole different journey. This week our host Mauri sits down with guest Jamilla for a conversation that is honest, layered, and long overdue. They are talking about what it really takes to raise children after a marriage ends, how to build a co-parenting relationship that actually works for the kids, and what it means to find yourself again after years of pouring everything into a marriage and a family. If you are going through a divorce, freshly out of one, or still rebuilding years later pull up and listen. You are not starting over. You are starting from experience. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:03:16 Raising kids after divorce & what that actually looks like day to day 00:03:46 Kids always know their parent's moods because they are paying attention 00:06:24 Co-parenting after divorce 00:08:30 Remaining a family even after divorce 00:13:32 Co-parenting schedules: how to structure it and stick to it 00:15:59 Moving on after a divorce and giving yourself permission to do so 00:16:25 Knowing who is around your children at all times 00:16:52 The deal breakers that led to the divorce 00:18:12 Loving someone will not change them 00:21:15 Finding yourself after divorce as a woman 00:25:55 Losing yourself to motherhood 00:27:55 Setting boundaries after a divorce 00:32:23 Rebuilding the life you created  00:34:33 Dating after divorce 00:47:36 As a side chick you will never win 00:49:29 Trusting your intuition when dating after divorce 00:54:02 Secrets allow abuse — why transparency in relationships protects you 🎙️ Real Talk. Real Life. Real Moms.Welcome to The Pick Up Line Podcast — the unfiltered, unapologetic podcast where single moms Dina and Mauri keep it real about motherhood, personal growth, healing, and second chances. Whether you're in the carpool lane or sipping coffee *or wine* after bedtime, you're not alone — we've got your back. 💬 What to Expect: Every week, we talk about the real stuff — parenting struggles, mom guilt, dating again, mental health, faith, fitness, and learning to show up for yourself even on the hard days. If you're a single mom, a strong woman, or just someone who needs some honest conversation and encouragement, this space is for YOU. New episodes every week — Subscribe and turn on notifications! 🔗 FOLLOW & LISTEN: 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@pickupthepod 🎧 Listen on Spotify: (https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jGqwR71GBraeNyF9JFRif?si=xfDMVc9zSDqnqjs-yPfiSw) 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pickupthepod 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pickupthepod?_t=ZP-8zx5QZ5k7dG&_r=1

Abusers Come In All Different Shades | What Black Women Need to Know About Domestic Violence

#podcast #domesticviolenceawareness #datingadvice  ⚠️ Content warning: This episode contains discussion of domestic violence, murder-suicide, and violence against women. Please listen with care. This week we are sitting down for one of the most important conversations we have had on this show. Because what is happening to women and specifically to Black women right now cannot be ignored, minimized, or talked around anymore. We are not here to judge. We are here to talk about it honestly the red flags, the different faces of abuse, why abusers do not change and what it means to protect yourself and your children when a relationship becomes dangerous. We are also honoring the stories of women we have lost and asking the hard question: what would it have taken for someone to intervene sooner? This conversation is for the woman in it. The woman who just got out. The mother trying to protect her children. And every woman who loves someone she is worried about. ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00:04 Violence against women and children is at a crisis point right now 00:00:08 Why DV victims don't receive help until a line has already been crossed 00:00:15 Pay attention to the red flags & what to look for 00:00:23 Why women stay  00:00:28 Understanding the many different forms abuse takes 00:00:32 Abusers do not change  00:02:17 Murder-suicide — what it is and why it is an act of cowardice 00:03:53 The Essence article: violence against Black women has no justification 00:05:21 Men should walk away before it ever reaches this point 00:05:30 The Laci Peterson case and what it still teaches us today 00:05:42 Violence against women and children is not slowing down 00:07:00 DV victims are often not helped until it is already too late 00:07:46 The system's failure — why help doesn't come when it should 00:09:12 Recognizing red flags before it escalates 00:09:53 Mothers protecting their children from abusive fathers 00:10:32 Abuse in any form is never acceptable 00:12:05 Women stay because they don't believe they have a way out 00:13:53 We are living in a country that does not value women enough 00:16:53 Do not allow a man to come between you and your relationship with your child 00:18:18 The many faces of abuse — not all of it is physical 00:19:33 It is okay to keep your children away from dangerous situations 00:22:20 The Ashley Janea murder  00:25:35 You cannot force someone to leave a DV situation but you can stay close 00:26:42 The Dr. Cerina Fairfax murder-suicide honoring her story 🆘 IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW NEEDS HELP National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 — available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can also text START to 88788. You are not alone and there is a way out. 🎙️ Real Talk. Real Life. Real Moms.Welcome to The Pick Up Line Podcast — the unfiltered, unapologetic podcast where single moms Dina and Mauri keep it real about motherhood, personal growth, healing, and second chances. Whether you're in the carpool lane or sipping coffee *or wine* after bedtime, you're not alone — we've got your back. 💬 What to Expect: Every week, we talk about the real stuff — parenting struggles, mom guilt, dating again, mental health, faith, fitness, and learning to show up for yourself even on the hard days. If you're a single mom, a strong woman, or just someone who needs some honest conversation and encouragement, this space is for YOU. New episodes every week — Subscribe and turn on notifications! 🔗 FOLLOW & LISTEN: 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@pickupthepod 🎧 Listen on Spotify: (https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jGqwR71GBraeNyF9JFRif?si=xfDMVc9zSDqnqjs-yPfiSw) 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pickupthepod 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pickupthepod?_t=ZP-8zx5QZ5k7dG&_r=1

Before You Fall for an Athlete, Watch This | WAG Life, Motherhood & Moving Forward

#nbalifestyle  #dating #datingadviceforwomen #singlemoms #startingover   #coparenting  The glam. The courtside seats. The lifestyle you see on television. That is not the whole story. This week we have our very own Mauri Goans sitting down to share and inform ladies on the lifestyle of a WAG and the difference you see living it versus what you see on television!  ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00:17 Let the man chase you don't chase him! 00:00:10 You don't want someone who is for everybody 00:01:03 Once a man reaches a certain level of money and status they all become the same 00:01:19 Women who date athletes. What that world actually looks like 00:01:23 How do you even meet athletes? 00:02:27 The real downsides of dating an athlete 00:03:21 Mothers and wives associations of the NBA 00:04:41 Dealing with infidelity as a WAG 00:06:56 Taking a back seat to the ego of an athlete 00:07:30 Don't believe everything you see on social media 00:08:01 How to date a man. The standard every woman should know 00:10:27 A woman should always have her own before a man enters the picture 00:11:11 You don't want someone who is for everybody 00:13:15 Women should not be jealous of one another 00:14:22 Dealing with groupies as a WAG 00:17:02 Athletes are hoes 00:18:22 Dealing with the athlete's family 00:21:56 Having kids with an athlete and raising them 00:23:39 Baby moms and dads need to figure out how to get along for the kids 00:25:36 Maintaining a friendship after the relationship ends 00:27:34 Your choices as a parent affect your children 00:27:45 Stay at home moms is it still realistic? ❤️ IF THIS RESONATED Like this video and leave a comment! We want to hear your story too. Subscribe and share this with a woman who needs to hear that she is not alone. 🎙️ Real Talk. Real Life. Real Moms.Welcome to The Pick Up Line Podcast — the unfiltered, unapologetic podcast where single moms Dina and Mauri keep it real about motherhood, personal growth, healing, and second chances. Whether you're in the carpool lane or sipping coffee *or wine* after bedtime, you're not alone — we've got your back. 💬 What to Expect: Every week, we talk about the real stuff — parenting struggles, mom guilt, dating again, mental health, faith, fitness, and learning to show up for yourself even on the hard days. If you're a single mom, a strong woman, or just someone who needs some honest conversation and encouragement, this space is for YOU. New episodes every week — Subscribe and turn on notifications! 🔗 FOLLOW & LISTEN: 📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@pickupthepod 🎧 Listen on Spotify: (https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jGqwR71GBraeNyF9JFRif?si=xfDMVc9zSDqnqjs-yPfiSw) 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pickupthepod 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pickupthepod?_t=ZP-8zx5QZ5k7dG&_r=1