The Selfish Woman

How To End A Marriage Without Going To War: With Kate Daly of amicable

Nobody teaches women how to leave. You get handed a lawyer's number, a horror story from a friend, and the quiet impication that if your marriage ended...somethig must have gone wrong. But what if divorce didn't have to become a bloodbath to be real? In this episode, Valerie sits down with Kate Daly, co-founder of Amicable, to talk about the divorce conversation almost nobody is having: How to end a marriage without destroying yourself in the process. This conversation is practial, honest, emotional, and surprisingly hopeful. Especially for women trying to navigate the impossible tension between choosing themelves and carrying everyone else's emotions too. Whether you're considering divorce, in the middle of one, or rebuilding after it, this episode witill change the way you think about what's possible. IN THIS EPISODE: * How to have the conversation without it becoming emotional warfare * What to do before lawyers get involved, and why it matters * The mistake women make when managing their partner's emotions * What 'amicable' actually means (and why it's not weakness) * The two things that truly impact kids during divorce * How to co-parent without losing yourself * The new rules for communicating with your ex * Why divorce may not be the end of your life, but the beginning of finally living it. THE SELFISH WOMAN TAKE: Most women spend years managing the marriage long before they ever leave it. Managing moods. Managing tension. Managing disappointment. Managing themselves. This episode is about another way. Not perfect or painless, but conscious, clear, and far less desructive than the story we've been sold about what divorce has to look like. Go to Amicable for free resources [https://amicable.io]

'Reinvention' is Bullshit: Episode 134

The Confession Booth is open! I'm calling BS on the 'reinvention trend'....one that I was fully participating in for the last few years. Nobody reinvents themselves on purpose. Not the way the industry sells it. Real change doesn't start with a plan, it starts with one thought that won't let you go: I want something different. In this episode, I'm dismantling the whole reinvention myth, and replacing it with something that actually works. It's a confession, a rallying cry, and the most extravagant permission slip I've ever handed out. You'll hear: * The reinvention lie * Why your perspective is supposed to shift as you grow * What real change looks and feels like, and why there's no parade for it * The one sentence that starts everything * Why 'terrixciting' is the most honest word for where you are right now Resources mentioned: The Selfish Year [https://valeriejones.ca/book] The Phoenix [https://valeriejones.ca/the-phoenix] The Quiz: [https://reveal-your-mask.netlify.app/] why you keep holding yourself back Book a call with me! [https://valeriejones.ca/consult]

Stress Is Not The Problem...This Is: With Dr. Rachel Goldman

We've all been there: a plan falls apart, a deadline shifts, or a minor inconvenience feels like the end of the world. Or, we spend way too much of our time and energy worrying about 'what if.' We usually blame the situation for how we feel, but today's guest says the 'problem' isn't what's happening - it's how we're wired to react to it. I'm joined by Dr. Rachel Goldman, a clinical psychologist, NYU professor, and a leading expert in the mind-body connection who has shared her insights alongside icons like Oprah and Mel Robbins. Ahead of the April launch of her highly anticipated book, "When Life Happens," Dr. Rachel breaks down the science of CBT and explains why we need to stop trying to 'delete' stress and start building a Coping Toolbox. This episode is a survival guide for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the weight of 'doing it all' and is ready to reclaim their peace of mind. What We Discuss: The Stress Reframe: Why stress is inevitable, but our physiological and mental reaction to it is a choice. The "All or Nothing" Trap: How to break the cycle of perfectionism when things go sideways. Building Your Coping Toolbox: Specific strategies to regulate your emotions in real time. Mindset as a Skill: Why resilience isn't a personality trait - it's a strategy you can train. When Life Happens: A deep dive into the mindset shifts needed to navigate life's messiest moments. Resources & Links: Pre-Order the Book [https://whenlifehappensbook.com/] Follow Dr. Rachel [https://www.instagram.com/drrachelnyc] Subscribe to The Selfish Woman Podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/7Ik1Ez3lyvCXYGT4cdpqZX?si=ea54bf294c5c4ca0] Subscribe to The Selfish Woman Podcast on Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-selfish-woman/id1598491354]

The Wrong Life: Ep. 130

I left Spain to figure out what was wrong with me. I had the dream life. The cobblestone streets. The European light. The copper bathtub imported from England that cost eleven thousand euros. And I was miserable in ways I didn't have words for yet. So I left. Convinced I was the problem. I was wrong. In this episode I'm recording from Harrison Hot Springs - sitting in a mineral pool, in the middle of a meditation that turned into a download - and I finally understand what I was actually running from. And why leaving was the most sane thing I ever did. This is the episode for the woman who has spent years trying to fix herself. The woman who has read the books, done the work, followed the rules - and still feels like something is fundamentally broken. Nothing is broken. But something is wrong. And until you figure out what that is, you will keep building beautiful lives on foundations that cannot hold you. This is where we start. Join The Phoenix [https://subscribepage.io/thephoenix] Get the book [https://valeriejones.ca/theselfishyear]

You Didn't End Up Here by Accident: Numerology, Patterns & Your Life Path with Ann Perry

What if your life isn't random? In this episode, I sit down with numerologist Ann Perry to break down what your numbers reveal about you, and how they shape your relationships, your patterns, and the way you move through the world. We also dive into: * What if your soul chose this life? * What if the challenges you've faced weren't random...but selected? * And how do you hold that idea without dismissing real pain or turning it into toxic positivity? What You'll Learn: * What numerology is, and why it works * How your numbers influence your identity and decision-making * Why you keep repeating the sane relationship dynamics * How to better understand your kids, partner and coworkers * The controversial idea that your soul chose this life (and what that really means) * How to stop overthinking and start trusting yourself Links: Ann Perry's website: https://www.annperrynumerologist.com [https://www.annperrynumerologist.com] Ann's book: https://amzn.to/4icbFsq [https://amzn.to/4icbFsq] Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nwkCP4v_atI?si=QjWGaBPy7zNER2jy [https://youtu.be/nwkCP4v_atI?si=QjWGaBPy7zNER2jy] And if you're ready to stop overthinking and step over the edge and into your next level.... Join The Phoenix: subscribepage.io/4M2VOU [https://subscribepage.io/4M2VOU]