The Unconscious Flyness Show

What if Everything We Learned About Being Men Was Wrong?

What If Everything We Were Taught About Being Men Was Wrong? What if some of the biggest lessons we learned about manhood were never true in the first place? For generations, men have been handed a blueprint for masculinity: Be the provider. Don't show emotion. Handle everything yourself. Stay strong no matter what. But what happens when the advice you've been given doesn't actually lead to the life, relationships, or fulfillment you were promised? In this episode of the Unconscious Flyness Show, we take a hard look at the lessons many men inherited from their fathers, grandfathers, communities, and culture—and ask whether those lessons still serve us today. In This Episode We Discuss: * The difference between what men were told and what they actually observed growing up. * Why being a financial provider doesn't automatically create a healthy relationship. * The hidden costs of emotional suppression and performative toughness. * How inherited beliefs shape the way men approach love, marriage, fatherhood, and personal growth. * Why many men struggle to adapt to changing expectations in modern relationships. * The role that pride, vulnerability, accountability, and self-reflection play in becoming a better man. Most importantly, we ask a bigger question: Are men repeating patterns they never consciously chose for themselves? Join the Conversation What's one lesson about manhood, relationships, or masculinity that you learned growing up that turned out not to be true? Drop a comment and let us know. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

Is Misogyny Poisoning Masculinity?

What if I told you that true healthy masculinity was rooted in accountability and not misogyny? Welcome to Flyness U, a special 9 episode series hosted by Pat Lee where he shares some helpful teachings and words of affirmation designed to help unite Black men who and Black women to build a united front as a collective. Pat unpacks a difficult but necessary conversation: how misogyny is poisoning masculinity and preventing men from experiencing true freedom, connection, healing, and purpose. For generations, many men have been taught that masculinity means suppressing emotions, controlling women, avoiding vulnerability, and equating power with aggression. But that version of masculinity has created emotional isolation, broken relationships, unhealthy gender dynamics, and internal conflict. The truth is, misogyny doesn’t just harm women, it also damages men by disconnecting them from empathy, accountability, emotional wellness, and authentic self-worth. In this conversation, he breaks down how misogyny has been normalized in media, music, dating culture, social media, podcasts, and everyday conversations. Pat explores how toxic ideas about manhood are often passed down through trauma, survival tactics, peer pressure, and societal conditioning. More importantly, the discussion reveals what healthy masculinity actually looks like and why redefining masculinity is necessary for the future of relationships, families, and community. If you’ve ever questioned the messages society gives men about power, dating, emotions, gender roles, or relationships, this conversation is for you. Whether you agree, disagree, or are still figuring it out, the goal is to create honest dialogue around misogyny, masculinity, and healing. Growth starts with self-reflection, and redefining masculinity starts with truth. If this video resonates with you, make sure to LIKE, COMMENT, and SUBSCRIBE to Unconscious Flyness for more conversations centered around culture, healing, relationships, emotional intelligence, Black identity, and healthy masculinity.

Kevin Hart Said WHAT?

Our hot topics of the week is now its own segment! Every week, hosts Chad DeShawn and Pat Lee discuss the trending topics of the week and share our thoughts only as we can! This week, we discuss the questionable credentials of Cheyenne Bryant, Drake's Iceman release, and The Roast of Kevin Hart! It's an informative and comedic episode, so don't miss out!

Are Men The REAL Gold Diggers?

What if we told you that men are the real gold diggers? We know that women have been given this unfair label for decades, but what stops us from calling men the same? How are they taking advantage of women financially? Learn the reasons plus more on this week's episode of the Unconscious Flyness Show!

Why Black People Experience Imposter Syndrome Differently

Imposter Syndrome hits different when you’re a Black man trying to navigate spaces that were never built with you in mind. In this episode of The Unconscious Flyness Show, Chad DeShawn and Pat Lee get into how imposter syndrome shows up in corporate America, content creation, code-switching, respectability politics, and the constant pressure to shrink yourself just to make other people comfortable. We talk about the penalty for being yourself, why Black professionalism is judged through a different lens, and how hair, beards, tattoos, personality, and even the way we speak can become “problems” depending on who’s looking. But the truth is simple: you can play the game without becoming the game. Then it's on to the hot topics of the week, including Tamara Mowry catching that Threads smoke, Usher and Chris Brown allegedly taking the “Black and Blue Tour” on the road, Sneako catching a Dr. Pepper-flavored fade, and Chad officially entering free agency as an NBA fan because the Chicago Bulls ain't worth a damn. Same show. Same shenanigans. Same necessary conversations. Tap in, laugh with us, argue with us, and let us know in the comments: How has imposter syndrome shown up in your life? Like, comment, subscribe, and share this with somebody who needs to hear it.