Uncommon: The DadWork Podcast

68 - What October 7th Taught Him About Regulating Under Fire w/ Om Ben Avraham

Om landed in Israel on October 5th, 2023. Two days later, the world changed. He was there. His family was there. His friends were there. And the man who had spent years learning to regulate his nervous system — who had meditated in caves in Europe, lived in India, done the deep work — was about to find out if any of it was real. It was. But it took months to process. Months of shaking. Months of feeling unsafe in the deepest part of his being. And it was only because of the tools he'd spent years building that he came out the other side — regulated, grounded, and more committed to this work than ever. This conversation goes deep. We get into the patterns men run to avoid feeling — over-positivity, avoidance, the dreamer who's always chasing the next thing instead of being here. The difference between talking about the work and actually doing it in your body. Why you can read every book, hire every coach, and still not shift — because you cannot read your experience. You can only experience it. And we get into what it actually means to be witnessed by a group of men. Not talked at. Not coached. Witnessed. And why that changes everything. Om is one of the most grounded men I know. He's also my co-facilitator at The Rite — June 12-15 in Nevada City, California. Only 6 spots left. 66% off Apply at his website 👇 If this conversation moves you — that's probably why. And if you listened, tip me $5 on Venmo [https://venmo.com/u/robertbilljr]. Find Om: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/primal_freedom/] ombenavraham.com [http://ombenavraham.com] // Persist

67 - Why 61% of Dads Feel Like They're Not Cutting It (And What To Do About It)

Frank had the balls to ask the question most men are too afraid to voice. Am I present enough? Am I focusing on the right things? Am I building a career at the expense of the years I'll never get back? This episode is for Frank. And it's for you. Because if you're asking the question — you already know something's off. The world is built to distract you. To show you everyone's highlight reel. To keep you in performance mode — chasing the title, the house, the car — while the years with your kids accelerate and you wonder where the time went. My son is five. I blinked. There are three of them now. You can't put life back in the box. So we get into it. The performance trap. The provider paradox. The 2026 version of the absent dad — physically there, nowhere near present. What your kids actually need from you. And the one practice that makes all of it possible. You don't have to choose between being successful at work OR being the father your kids need. You can have both. But you do have to put in the work. This one's worth your time.

66 - Why 78% of Men Are Living Paycheck To Paycheck (It's Not What You Think) w/ Brennan Schlagbaum

Brennan Schlagbaum paid off $76,000 of non-mortgage debt in one year on a combined $92K income. Built financial freedom. Got his wife home. Moved across the country for his daughter's healthcare. And turned a spreadsheet into a national bestselling book. But this episode isn't really about money. It's about the emotional weight of providing. The story you inherited that money is scarce and hard and something to be afraid of. And the system that actually works when willpower runs out. Most families have $2,000 sitting in their budget they don't know about. Not because they're irresponsible — because nobody ever showed them how to look. 88% of your financial decisions are running on autopilot right now. And 78% of men are living paycheck to paycheck not because they don't make enough — but because they never built a system. Brennan built one. For his family first. Then for 3,000 others. The three month look back. The 30 minute money date that actually brings you and your wife closer. The cashflow goal worksheet that turns vague dreams into hard dates and real numbers. Your wife staying home doesn't have to be a fantasy. Financial freedom isn't reserved for people who make more than you. It starts with a system. And it starts here. Find Brennan: Instagram — @budgetdog Email — brennan@budgetdog.com [brennan@budgetdog.com] Book — The Roadmap to Financial Freedom

65 - The Love Language BS That Might Just Destabilize Your Marriage

Love Languages aren’t fixing your marriage. They might be the reason it feels off. Not because they’re wrong… —but because they turn love into a checklist. Acts of service. Words of affirmation. Physical touch. Cool. But if you’re just “doing the reps” without presence, without intention… she feels it. And that’s where most men get stuck. You’re showing up. You’re doing what you think you’re supposed to do. But it still feels like roommates. In this episode, I break down: * Why Love Languages fall short * How they quietly turn your relationship into a transaction * The real question your wife is asking (it’s not about her “language”) * Why stress kills connection faster than anything * And what actually brings your marriage back to life Because at the core of it— Every Love Language is trying to say one thing: “I choose you.” And if she doesn’t feel that… nothing else lands. If you’re tired of the distance… If you want the edge, the connection, the polarity back… This is where it starts. 📩 DM me “READY” or hit the link to apply. No more drifting.

64 - You're Only Worth What You Produce...RIGHT? w/ Daniel Grose

You’re working. Providing. Showing up. Trying to be a good husband. A good dad. And still… It feels like it’s not enough. So you do what most men do. You push harder. Work more. Try to fix it. And somehow that just creates more distance. Because underneath all of it is this belief: 👉 “I’m only worth what I can contribute.” And when that’s running the show… Everything gets twisted. * Your wife’s emotions feel like pressure instead of connection * Conflict turns into defense instead of understanding * You start tying your identity to work… or her approval * When she’s off, you’re off * You try to fix the marriage without becoming a different man You’re not broken. But you might be building your life on something that will never hold. There’s another way to live this. But it starts with getting honest about where your worth actually comes from.