What I Wish I Knew At 30

She Built Race for Life, But First She Had to Stop Proving Herself | Rachel Roxburgh

Most people believe successful people have everything figured out by 30. Identity Architecture™ teaches something different. In this episode, Fran Harper speaks with Rachel Roxburgh about grief, leadership, purpose, career growth, and why clarity often comes after action, not before it. Rachel's journey demonstrates how curiosity, resilience, and embracing opportunity can create a meaningful life without following a perfect plan. If you're navigating uncertainty, questioning your career path, or searching for more purpose, this conversation offers practical wisdom and reassurance that you don't need all the answers to move forward. Topics include identity shifts, career transitions, leadership development, overcoming grief, personal growth, life lessons, and finding purpose. 🔗 CONNECT WITH FRAN → Identity Reset Audit: https://info.franharpercoaching.com/audit [https://info.franharpercoaching.com/audit] → Work with Fran: Fran@franharpercoaching.com [Fran@franharpercoaching.com] → Website: franharpercoaching.com [http://franharpercoaching.com] → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theidentityarchitectfran/ [https://www.instagram.com/theidentityarchitectfran/] → LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/franharper/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/franharper/] → Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fran.harper.79/ [https://www.facebook.com/fran.harper.79/] → TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@franharpercoaching [https://www.tiktok.com/@franharpercoaching] → Subscribe for new episodes weekly: https://www.youtube.com/@WhatIWishIKnewat30 [https://www.youtube.com/@WhatIWishIKnewat30] #IdentityArchitect  #WhatIWishIKnewAt30  #FranHarper  #Leadership  #WomenInLeadership  #CareerPivot  #NotForProfit  #CharitySector  #PersonalDevelopment  #IdentityCoaching  #PurposeDrivenWork  #CareerGrowth  #Podcast  #BusinessCoach  #LifeLessons  #FindYourPurpose  #CareerAdvice  #WomenWhoLead  #RaceForLife  #CancerResearch  #SelfWorth  #CareerTransformation

What Happens When You Stop Resisting Who You Need To Become | Aaron Hendon

Why do so many people know who they want to become but never take the actions required to get there? In this episode of What I Wish I Knew At 30, Fran Harper sits down with entrepreneur, speaker, coach, and The Mindful CEO, Aaron Hendon. Aaron shares how he built a successful business while simultaneously avoiding responsibility, resisting proven systems, and refusing to grow into the leader the business required. He explains how a major mindset shift changed everything and opened the door to greater self-awareness, leadership, and personal growth. Together they discuss: • Entrepreneurship and leadership • Responsibility and self-awareness • Growth mindset vs fixed mindset • Mindfulness and performance • Why resistance keeps people stuck • Business lessons learned the hard way • Creating lasting personal change If you enjoy life lessons podcasts, life coaching podcasts, entrepreneur podcasts, leadership conversations, and personal development content, this episode offers practical wisdom and powerful insights. What I Wish I Knew At 30 is a life lessons podcast exploring identity, leadership, resilience, purpose, business growth, and personal transformation.

He Lost His Partner to Suicide at 25, Then Became Someone Else | Todd Maguire

At 25 years old, Todd Maguire experienced a tragedy that changed the course of his life forever. After losing his partner to suicide, everything he believed about himself, relationships, faith, and the future was shattered. Unable to process the grief, Todd buried himself in undercover policing, creating a new identity known as "Donnie", a fearless undercover operative who didn't care about danger, consequences, or even whether he survived. From the outside, it looked like bravery. Inside, it was grief, trauma, PTSD, and a desperate attempt to avoid unbearable pain. In this episode of What I Wish I Knew at 30, Fran Harper and Todd explore grief, suicide loss, men's mental health, identity, trauma recovery, fatherhood, resilience, and what it takes to rebuild your life after devastating loss. Using the Identity Architecture™ framework, Fran unpacks how people often create identities to survive painful experiences, and how those same identities can eventually keep us stuck. Together they discuss: • Losing a partner to suicide • Grief, guilt, and self-blame • PTSD and emotional avoidance • Undercover policing and identity shifts • Men's mental health and vulnerability • Alcohol, coping mechanisms, and self-destruction • Fatherhood and healing • Letting go of unanswered questions • Learning to love yourself again • Recovery after trauma and loss This is a powerful conversation about grief, survival, healing, and the identities we create when life breaks us. Sometimes the identities that save us during our darkest moments are the very identities we need to outgrow in order to heal. True recovery begins when we stop running from our pain and start rebuilding who we are beneath it. If this conversation resonated with you, follow What I Wish I Knew at 30 and share it with someone navigating grief, trauma, loss, or their own healing journey. #ToddMaguire #MensMentalHealth #GriefRecovery #PTSDRecovery #TraumaHealing #IdentityArchitecture #FranHarper #SuicideLoss #EmotionalResilience #WhatIWishIKnewAt30

Hospitality Burnout & Mental Health: Why Chefs Are Breaking Down | Kris Hall

Hospitality has long rewarded resilience, endurance, pressure tolerance, and self-sacrifice. But what happens when the identity people adopt to survive in kitchens… starts destroying them mentally? In this episode of What I Wish I Knew at 30, Fran Harper sits down with Kris Hall, founder and CEO of The Burnt Chef Project, to explore burnout, chef mental health, ADHD, emotional exhaustion, leadership pressure, and the hidden mental health crisis inside hospitality culture. Kris shares his own journey through depression, masking, anxiety, and secretly attending therapy while working in hospitality, before building a global movement helping hospitality workers access mental health support around the world. Together they discuss: * burnout in hospitality * chef mental health * workplace stress * emotional exhaustion * ADHD & masking * leadership burnout * self-sacrifice culture * asking for help * identity collapse * sustainable leadership This is a conversation about pressure, purpose, identity, and why resilience without self-care eventually becomes survival mode.

Why High Achievers Feel Like Frauds | Mark Normoyle

30 years. Every award. The whole time, he thought he was a fraud. This is the Performance Identity Trap. In this episode of What I Wish I Knew at 30, Fran Harper sits down with Mark Normoyle, former Executive Chef at RACV, current chef at Fonterra and one of Australia's most respected names in high-performance hospitality. Together they explore the Performance Identity Trap, what happens when your entire sense of self is built on what you deliver, not who you are. Using Identity Architecture™, Fran unpacks the performance identity that drove Mark's three-decade career, and the award-winning moment that finally broke it open. Together they discuss: * burnout in hospitality * leadership under pressure * mental health for chefs * mentorship * performance identity * kitchen culture * resilience * executive chef pressure * work-life balance * asking for help * building great teams * hospitality leadership And ultimately: what happens when the role you built your life around… stops feeling like you. #MarkNormoyle #HospitalityLeadership #ChefBurnout #MentalHealth #IdentityArchitecture #FranHarper #BurnoutRecovery #Leadership #HospitalityIndustry #WhatIWishIKnewAt30