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The Myth of "Full Recovery" with Mallary Tenore Tarpley | What's Your Story #87

Mallary Tenore Tarpley opens up about her deeply personal journey through anorexia and the biggest secret the medical world rarely acknowledges: "full recovery" is often an illusion. She reveals her groundbreaking framework for living in the "middle place"—the messy but beautiful space between acute sickness and perfection where slips are accepted, and true healing actually begins. Key Topics Discussed: * The trauma of losing her mother to breast cancer at age 11 and how the desire to "stop time" triggered severe anorexia. * The reality behind navigating five hospitalizations and the transition into residential treatment. * The "Middle Place" framework: why letting go of the pressure for a tidy, perfect recovery is the key to sustainable health. * The challenge of blending deeply personal memoir writing with investigative journalism and cutting-edge science. * What Mallary learned from interviewing and surveying hundreds of eating disorder patients, doctors, and researchers. * How loved ones can actively support someone in recovery without placing the crushing expectation of perfection on them. * The dangers of perfectionism and learning to embrace life's imprints and setbacks as part of the process. Indexed Chapters 00:00 - Introduction 03:15 - Losing Her Mother and the Desire to "Stop Time" 08:42 - The Hidden Realities of Anorexia and Hospitalization 15:30 - The Secret to Surviving the "Middle Place" of Recovery 22:15 - Why "Full Recovery" Can Be a Dangerous Illusion 31:05 - The Challenge of Interviewing Hundreds of ED Patients 38:40 - How to Support Loved Ones Without Expecting Perfection 45:12 - Blending Journalism with Deeply Personal Trauma 52:50 - Letting Go of Perfectionism to Find True Healing   If you had to write a memoir about your own life, what would the most unpredictable, messy chapter be called?  Let us know in the comments! 👇   LISTEN TO THE PODCAST Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0aFWnedfyylxVs5vJrD8tY Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan]   CONNECT WITH MALLARY TENORE TARPLEY LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mallary-tenore-tarpley-6719484/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/mallary-tenore-tarpley-6719484/] SubstackSubstack newsletter: mallary.substack.co [http://mallary.substack.co] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mallarytenoretarpley [https://www.instagram.com/mallarytenoretarpley] Personal website: mallarytenoretarpley.com [http://mallarytenoretarpley.com/]   CONNECT WITH THE PODCAST Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JaimeSpeaks Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JaimeMarcoSpeaks LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimeamarco Website: https://www.jaimemarco.com Got feedback or a guest recommendation? Email: connect@jaimemarco.com

Accidental Hoops Star to Pickleball Cruises with Shell Dailey | What's Your Story with Jaime and Stan | Ep #86

Discover how Shell Dailey went from a dancer who didn't know how to dribble to an undefeated college basketball champion. She reveals the hilarious story of getting caught staring at Kareem Abdul-Jabbar during a game, and how she transitioned from the stressful world of coaching to hosting pickleball wellness cruises. Tune in for an inspiring journey about finding your true purpose, embracing life's pivots, and playing the game of life with passion.  Key Topics Discussed: * Shell’s 40th college reunion celebrating the University of Texas's historic 34-0 undefeated national championship basketball season. * Her hilarious introduction to basketball at age 12, where she left a dance recital and scored 14 points in her first game without knowing the rules. * Playing under legendary coach Jody Conradt and revolutionizing the women's game with a faster, physical playstyle. * The unforgettable moment Shell was caught starstruck by Kareem Abdul-Jabbar, Magic Johnson, and Pat Riley during her own college game. * Leaving her corporate job at Neiman Marcus to follow her true calling as a college basketball coach at TCU. * The realities of youth sports parenting and raising her son, Eric, who now plays basketball for UCLA. * Pivoting her career post-coaching to launch pickleball wellness retreats on Royal Caribbean cruise ships. * The inspiration behind her book, "More Than a Coach," and how she navigated the profound grief of losing both her parents within six months of each other. Indexed Chapters * 0:00:02 - Welcome & Introducing Basketball Legend Shell Dailey * 0:04:30 - Celebrating an Undefeated 34-0 National Championship 40th Reunion * 0:08:29 - From Dance Recitals to Scoring 14 Points on the Court * 0:13:50 - Fixing the "Ancient" Set Shot and Learning to Dribble * 0:21:21 - Getting Discovered by Texas and the Power of Coach Jody Conradt * 0:28:39 - The Origins of Professional Women's Basketball: WNBA & ABL * 0:30:45 - Starstruck: Meeting Kareem, Magic, and Pat Riley * 0:35:10 - Leaving Neiman Marcus to Find Purpose in Coaching * 0:41:26 - Raising a Star: Son Eric's Journey to UCLA Basketball * 0:47:33 - Finding Love on the Court & International Hoops * 0:52:34 - The Big Pivot: Pickleball Wellness Retreats on Cruise Ships * 1:01:17 - Writing "More Than a Coach" and Overcoming Deep Loss If you had to drop everything right now to jump into a sport you know absolutely nothing about—just like Shell did with basketball —what sport would you choose to save the day? Drop your wild answers in the comments below! 👇🍿     LISTEN TO THE PODCAST Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0aFWnedfyylxVs5vJrD8tY [https://open.spotify.com/show/0aFWnedfyylxVs5vJrD8tY] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan] YouTube: https://youtu.be/UBIDahYFW9I [https://youtu.be/UBIDahYFW9I]   CONNECT WITH SHELL DAILEY Website: https://shelldailey.com/ [https://shelldailey.com/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shell.dailey/ [https://www.facebook.com/shell.dailey/]   CONNECT WITH THE PODCAST Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JaimeSpeaks [https://www.instagram.com/JaimeSpeaks] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JaimeMarcoSpeaks [https://www.facebook.com/JaimeMarcoSpeaks] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimeamarco [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimeamarco] Website: https://www.jaimemarco.com [https://www.jaimemarco.com] Got feedback or a guest recommendation? Email: connect@jaimemarco.com

Surviving the #1 Maternal Killer with Nicole Delaney | What's Your Story with Jaime and Stan EP #85

What happens when a high-flying tech career and a six-figure salary still leave you feeling empty? Nicole Delaney walked away from it all to reinvent herself, only to face the ultimate test: a life-threatening pregnancy diagnosis known as the "number one maternal killer". This episode reveals how Nicole navigated 40 days of hospital isolation, a five-hour emergency surgery, and the traumatic fallout that reshaped her marriage and her mindset forever.  If you’re interested in: * The Corporate Burnout: Traveling 100,000 miles a year in a high-stakes tech role and the decision to quit from a beach chair. * Placenta Accreta Awareness: The harrowing reality of a diagnosis where the placenta attaches to scar tissue, leading to extreme hemorrhage risks. * The "Positive Sanctuary": How Nicole transformed her hospital room with affirmations to maintain a resilient mindset during a 40-day stay. * The Hybrid OR Experience: A behind-the-scenes look at a complex, 5-hour C-section and hysterectomy involving nearly 40 medical professionals. * Trauma and Relationships: An honest conversation about why 90% of her marriage's end was rooted in the aftermath of medical trauma. * The "I Am the Storm" Mantra: The origin of Nicole’s powerful tattoo and how she uses it to anchor her daily life. * Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids: Normalizing struggle, asking for help, and teaching the "Let Them" philosophy to the next generation. You’ll want to watch this episode.   LISTEN TO THE PODCAST Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0aFWnedfyylxVs5vJrD8tY [https://open.spotify.com/show/0aFWnedfyylxVs5vJrD8tY] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan] YouTube: https://youtu.be/ZGS7OualsbU [https://youtu.be/ZGS7OualsbU]   CONNECT WITH THE PODCAST Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JaimeSpeaks [https://www.instagram.com/JaimeSpeaks] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JaimeMarcoSpeaks [https://www.facebook.com/JaimeMarcoSpeaks] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimeamarco [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimeamarco] Website: https://www.jaimemarco.com [https://www.jaimemarco.com] Got feedback or a guest recommendation? Email: connect@jaimemarco.com

From 50th Place to 3 World Records with Anna McLean | What's Your Story with Jaime and Stan Ep. 84

What happens when the "slowest girl on the team" decides to row across the Atlantic and Pacific Oceans? Anna McLean reveals the exact mental shift—and the "Ferrari pit stop" secret involving massive amounts of Nutella—that helped her survive 40-foot waves and 47 days of isolation. Learn why your biggest regrets 20 years from now won't be the risks you took, but the ones you didn't.  If you’re interested in: * The "Slowest on the Team" Mentality: Overcoming a sports scholarship where Anna started at the bottom of the rankings. * Micro-Moves for Growth: Shifting from competing with others to focusing on personal improvement. * The Wackadoodles & The Siblings: How Anna and her brother Cameron prepared for two years to row the Atlantic. * Surviving the Storm: A harrowing night with 40-foot waves and a broken auto-steering system. * Ocean Logistics: Managing a desalinator, solar power, and freezing cold freeze-dried meals. * World Record Achievements: Becoming the first brother-sister duo to row an ocean and the youngest females to cross the Pacific. * The Motherhood Voyage: Anna's surprise announcement of being 19 weeks pregnant and her perspective on following dreams with a family. You’ll want to watch this episode. LISTEN TO THE PODCAST Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0aFWnedfyylxVs5vJrD8tY [https://open.spotify.com/show/0aFWnedfyylxVs5vJrD8tY] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan] YouTube: https://youtu.be/0ldZjETHM5Q [https://youtu.be/0ldZjETHM5Q]   CONNECT WITH ANNA MCLEAN Website: https://annamclean.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annamcleanofficial/ Anna Rowing Pictures: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1-02fuRAhlaBa_xlc5ZJBp_dA-lFe7Mj_?usp=sharing   CONNECT WITH THE PODCAST Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JaimeSpeaks Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JaimeMarcoSpeaks LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimeamarco Website: https://www.jaimemarco.com Got feedback or a guest recommendation? Email: connect@jaimemarco.com

Stop Chasing the Scale: The Psychology of Change ft. Jonathan Boulware | What's Your Story Ep. 83

After a terrifying health scare that felt like a stroke and a heart-wrenching final promise to his mother, Jonathan Boulware transformed from a 300-pound casino executive into a lifestyle change expert. In this episode, he reveals why focusing on a weight-loss goal is actually the reason most people fail and how mastering the psychology of your "Why" is the only way to sustain health for a lifetime. Discover the five-step framework used to bridge the gap between a doctor’s orders and real-world results.  If you’re interested in: * The Mirage Legacy: Working under Steve Wynn during the peak era of the volcano and Tyson fights. * Behavioral Psychology: Why 50% of our behavior is driven by automatic habits and how to override them. * Grief as a Catalyst: Using the loss of a parent to fuel a mission for community health. * The "Why" vs. The Goal: Why your deep-seated emotional reason for change beats a scale-based goal every time. * Holistic Health: Transitioning from "weight management" to "identity-based" living where health is the #1 priority. You’ll want to watch this episode. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- INDEXED CHAPTERS * 00:10 – Introduction: Meeting Jonathan Boulware * 02:48 – How to Pronounce "Boulware" and the Vegas Roots * 06:43 – Why a Stanford Sociology Degree is the Secret to Hospitality * 07:34 – Behind the Scenes: The Mirage Casino in the 1990s * 08:23 – Legacy: Growing up as the son of an African-American Neurologist * 10:53 – A Frightening Case of Mistaken Identity in LA * 15:04 – Managing $100,000 Credit Lines and Movie Star Egos * 18:19 – How the 2008 Recession Forced a Move to Reno * 22:18 – The Turning Point: Pushing 300 Pounds and a Health Scare * 23:56 – Honoring Rosie: The Final Promise to His Mother * 28:20 – The 5 Steps to Permanent Lifestyle Change * 32:14 – Why Forgiveness is the First Step to Weight Loss * 34:35 – The Truth About Weight Loss Drugs and GLP-1s * 43:04 – Beyond the Mirror: Brain Health and Exercise * 44:44 – Jonathan’s Stats: 6'3" and the Journey to 237 lbs * 56:51 – Bonus: Nevada UFOs and Ghost Stories Love this episode? Tell us your "Why" or your favorite takeaway from Jonathan’s story. Share the Wisdom: See a moment that could help a friend? Use the YouTube "Clips" feature to grab a 60-second highlight of Jonathan’s advice and share it on your socials!   LISTEN TO THE PODCAST YouTube: https://youtu.be/R2FbwHEvKSE [https://youtu.be/R2FbwHEvKSE] Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whats-your-story/id1768048076] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0aFWnedfyylxVs5vJrD8tY [https://open.spotify.com/show/0aFWnedfyylxVs5vJrD8tY] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/3c4c493e-e2f2-4b4b-bfd3-52174caeaf7c/whats-your-story-with-jaime-stan]   CONNECT WITH JONATHAN BOULWARE LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonathan-boulware/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonathan-boulware/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@the432playbook [https://www.youtube.com/@the432playbook] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the432playbook/ [https://www.instagram.com/the432playbook/]   CONNECT WITH THE PODCAST Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JaimeSpeaks Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JaimeMarcoSpeaks LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimeamarco Website: https://www.jaimemarco.com Got feedback or a guest recommendation? Email: connect@jaimemarco.com [connect@jaimemarco.com]