Yu Up? with Rachel Yu

28 - Modern Men Are Gold Diggers

Obi joins Rachel with a bold thesis: modern men are gold diggers — they’ve just rebranded it as “emotional stability.” They break down the coded language men use when dating (“good family,” “great circle,” “grounded”) and why many men aren’t looking for low-maintenance women — they want high-maintenance women whose lifestyle they don’t have to fund. From finance bros quietly “marrying up” to dating someone for their network, family wealth, or social status, the conversation flips the traditional gold digger narrative completely. They then introduce Obi’s “risk management framework” for avoiding these men: beware of hobbies, dreams (aka “potential”), and men who call themselves foodies. It spirals into confidence vs. competence, why mediocre men feel like CEOs, how women accidentally overcompensate to prove they’re not gold diggers, and why true value shows up as stability, problem-solving, and consistency. From prenups and power dynamics to why melting cheese on crackers is actually a relationship test — this episode is part dating guide, part economic analysis, and fully unhinged in the best way. -- Follow the host Rachel Yu on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/therachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu], and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@therachelyu] Follow Obi O'Brien on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sayhiobi/] Follow the show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yuupwithrachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu/podcasts] and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@yuupwithrachelyu]

27 - Everyone Is a Little Bisexual

Dominic joins Rachel to shut down one of the internet’s favorite accusations: there are no fake bisexuals. They unpack why coming out as bi — especially as a man — makes zero sense if it’s “for attention,” why society assumes everyone is straight by default, and how bisexuality gets gatekept differently for men vs. women. From frat houses being “accidentally gay” to the death of the term “metrosexual,” the conversation spirals into identity, labels, and why everyone might be a little bisexual deep down. Then it completely derails (in the best way) into strip club chaos, making out with strippers, hooking up with lesbians, and the undeniable truth that men are just… easier. They debate bisexual dating dynamics, horny math, and why New York might guarantee you a hookup if you try hard enough. Along the way: gay lion conspiracy theories, celebrity smash rankings (Zendaya, obviously), and the ultimate bisexual fantasy of wanting both people in a couple. Unhinged, hilarious, and deeply educational — depending on how you define “education.” -- Follow the host Rachel Yu on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/therachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu], and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@therachelyu] Follow Dominic Fell on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/dominic_fell/] Follow the show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yuupwithrachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu/podcasts] and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@yuupwithrachelyu]

26 - Dump His Ass

Britt joins Rachel with one very clear message: dump his ass. They unpack why women stay too long in toxic relationships — from lying, cheating, and yelling to emotional manipulation and “if he wanted to, he would” situationships. Britt shares her experience of staying in a deeply unhealthy marriage and how sunk cost fallacy, denial, and lack of examples kept her stuck longer than she should’ve been. The takeaway is simple: if he’s making your life worse, you don’t need to fix it — you need to leave. The conversation expands into what healthy love actually looks like: no screaming fights, just calm disagreements, mutual respect, and aligned values. They talk about red flags like misogyny, political incompatibility, and men who don’t even like women — and why dating within the queer community often feels safer and more emotionally aware. It ends on the real love story: your friends. Because when men disappoint, your girls will always be there — and honestly, they might be your real soulmates anyway. *I apologize for the scratchy audio in the second half of the episode. Didn't realize the recorder ran out of battery until after the recording. -- Follow the host Rachel Yu on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/therachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu], and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@therachelyu] Follow Britt Migs on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/brittymigs/] Follow the show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yuupwithrachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu/podcasts] and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@yuupwithrachelyu]

25 - I Love You (But Only Temporarily)

Bini joins Rachel with a truly unhinged theory: you can only say “I love you” three times in a relationship — after that, it loses meaning and you should probably break up. What starts as a debate about love languages spirals into immigrant parents who never say “I love you,” Spanish versions of love (“te quiero” vs “te amo”), emotional risk in relationships, and whether saying “I love you” is actually just… pressure in disguise. They propose alternatives like “I’ve been loving you recently” and treating love like a lease that needs renewal. Then the episode derails (in the best way) into celibacy, having sex with mid men, why bad sex feels existential, and the realization that not everyone is even enjoying it. From there: New York dating games, who can be more nonchalant, being mentally 35 in a 25-year-old body, and an alarming habit of drunk-DMing celebrities like they’re already friends. Parasocial relationships, missed connections, and chaotic self-awareness — this episode is romantic, philosophical, and deeply unserious all at once. -- Follow the host Rachel Yu on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/therachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu], and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@therachelyu] Follow Bini Yamin on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/bini.mp4/] Follow the show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yuupwithrachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu/podcasts] and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@yuupwithrachelyu]

24 - Beauty Standards Are Killing Women

Rebecca joins Rachel with a heavy but honest take: beauty standards aren’t just annoying — they’re emotionally and physically harming women. They unpack Western beauty ideals, global pressure to look “mixed,” and how women are expected to be both effortlessly beautiful and highly accomplished. From makeup with questionable ingredients to plastic surgery, pretty privilege, and dating dynamics, the conversation dives into how much of modern life is shaped by appearance — whether we admit it or not. They also wrestle with the contradiction: if beauty standards are harmful, why do so many of us still participate? From makeup as a “quick fix” for confidence to the deeper internal work no one wants to do, they explore personal choice vs societal pressure, online hate, and what it means to be a “bad feminist.” The episode ends on a quieter note — maybe the goal isn’t to escape beauty standards entirely, but to question them, loosen their grip, and occasionally walk outside exactly as you are. -- Follow the host Rachel Yu on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/therachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu], and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@therachelyu] Follow Rebecca Kaplan on ⁠Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/rebeccatkaplan/] Follow the show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yuupwithrachelyu/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@therachelyuu/podcasts] and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@yuupwithrachelyu]