Honey in the Heart | Relationships, Self Love, Breakup Recovery

Do you ever find that insecurity about your body and appearance prevents you from connecting the way you want in relationships? Are you ever consumed by people pleasing to the extent you lose your voice while dating or having sex? This is a very common experience for many folks, particularly women. In today’s episode we have with us therapist Nicole Mathieson, who is an expert on the “beauty load” and how to heal low self esteem and body shame within relationships.  Nicole and I, located on completely different sides of the world, have long been internet friends, and truth be told colleague crushes!  We could truly talk for hours, and it only made sense to record another convo together after I was on her podcast last year. Enjoy! IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSSED: * How to deal with physical insecurity and doubts about our attractiveness * What is “beauty load” and how it shows up in dating and long term relationships * The steps to open up sexual intimacy after recognizing it’s been unsatisfying for a long time within a relationship * What does self advocacy mean and how it’s tied to self esteem * How people pleasing impacts our relationships and what you can do to shift it * The connection between women’s voices and sense of attractiveness * How breakups affect our self esteem. * Nicole’s step by step process to heal low self esteem and self worth * How our body image affects our capacity to feel pleasure Special announcement! My poetry book, Love in my Hands, is now published and available for purchase! Head on over to kenzieeason.com/book [http://www.kenzieeason.com/book] to get your copy! Connect with Nicole: Instagram: @nicole.mathieson [https://www.instagram.com/nicole.mathieson/] Website: www.nicolemathieson.com [http://www.nicolemathieson.com] About Nicole Mathieson: Nicole Mathieson is a counsellor and author who has impacted the lives of thousands of women through her writing, speaking, podcasts and her work as a counsellor. Her relatable and big-hearted wisdom sees her explore personal and intimate topics that many others dare not speak about. Nicole believes that we have so much power to change relationship dynamics once we understand ourselves and our partnership better. In her upcoming book, The Beauty Load, Nicole explores how the way we feel about our bodies affects our relationship confidence and capacity for intimacy. Nicole’s aim is to help individuals and couples develop their confidence and relationship skills so that they can create the relationships they have always wanted. Connect with Mackenzie Instagram: @_honeyintheheart_ [https://www.instagram.com/_honeyintheheart_/] Website: kenzieeason.com [http://www.kenzieeason.com] Complimentary 1:1 Session: kenzieeason.com/compsession [http://www.kenzieeason.com/compsession] Book |Love in My Hands: kenzieeason.com/book [http://www.kenzieeason.com/book]

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT Since it’s the holiday season, when stress, expectations, and family dynamics can make it extra challenging to navigate matters of the heart - I’m offering 10 complimentary 1:1 breakthrough sessions during the first three weeks of December. These are real, true 60 minute sessions with my grounded feedback and perspective on how you can personally mend your heart and turn relationship trials and tribulations into transformation. Folks leave these sessions feeling more clear, self connected, and empowered, with new tools and healing action steps to implement afterward. These usually book up quickly, so if you’re feeling the call, head to kenzieeason.com/compsession [https://www.kenzieeason.com/compsession] to get yours reserved. __________________________________________ Have you ever suddenly felt like music was the exact medicine you needed during a heartbreak? Ever noticed how honest, raw, and cracked up open you feel in the midst of a breakup? It's well know that heartbreak has been the catalyst for some of the best music albums to date (have you listened to Adele's new album WOW). In today’s episode we have musician and songwriter Juan Holladay with us as he spells out his process of harnessing heartbreak and relationship lessons for creativity. If you’ve ever wondered how to channel your breakups into art, or how to use music as a process to support your healing and love life, check out this episode. IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSSED: * Juan’s family lineage and his personal journey with creativity, music, and finding his voice * The gift his ex girlfriend gave him during a breakup that shifted his whole song writing process * The power and medicine of songwriting and music during heartbreak * How music creation has assisted in his decision making in matters of the heart * Two categories of songwriting * How to step into creativity and songwriting when you’re raw, heartbroken, and in the midst of darkness or a breakup. Connect with Juan: Prophecy (featuring The Ones & SmudgeCamp) by Juan Holladay: https://youtu.be/CsKy6t6egbA [https://youtu.be/CsKy6t6egbA] What I Really Want (featuring Sebastian Campaign & Laine Lewis) by Juan Holladay: https://youtu.be/weE72-7Ql5I [https://youtu.be/weE72-7Ql5I] 'Beauty Sleep' 5-song EP by Juan Holladay: Beauty Sleep | Juan Holladay | Super Solar Records [https://supersolarrecords.bandcamp.com/album/beauty-sleep] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/0KWRJTgUot2juwI0k8sYIP?si=xcx7RMlhQ3WgO7_m-V4JFw [https://open.spotify.com/artist/0KWRJTgUot2juwI0k8sYIP?si=xcx7RMlhQ3WgO7_m-V4JFw] Apple Music: https://myurls.co/juanholladay/links/5f71fe9221404c0047127ec5/click [https://myurls.co/juanholladay/links/5f71fe9221404c0047127ec5/click] Instagram: @juan_holladay [https://www.instagram.com/juan_holladay/] About Juan Holladay: Hailing from the desert southwest, Juan Holladay is a singer-songwriter whose voice and guitar work features on Emerica's 'This Is Skateboarding', Disney+'s 'Encore!', Secret Agent 23 Skidoo's Grammy award winning children's album 'Infinity Plus One', and more. In 2006, he relocated from Tucson to Asheville and formed a psychedelic Soul/R&B band called the Secret B-Sides. Since then, he has come into a more lo-fi, down tempo, sample based sound with the release of new solo material and video content. The nature of Juan's art is candid and personal, reflecting heavy collaboration with Asheville's creative community. Connect with Mackenzie Instagram: @_honeyintheheart_ [https://www.instagram.com/_honeyintheheart_/] Website: www.kenzieeason.com [https://www.kenzieeason.com] Complimentary 1:1 Session: kenzieeason.com/compsession [https://www.kenzieeason.com/compsession] Subscribe to the Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/honey-in-the-heart-relationships-emotions-intimacy/id1291634385 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/honey-in-the-heart-relationships-emotions-intimacy/id1291634385]

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT Since it’s the holiday season, when stress, expectations, and family dynamics can make it extra challenging to navigate matters of the heart -  I’m offering 10 complimentary 1:1 breakthrough sessions during the first three weeks of December. These are real, true 60 minute sessions with my grounded feedback and perspective on how you can personally mend your heart and turn relationship trials and tribulations into transformation. Folks leave these sessions feeling more clear, self connected, and empowered, with new tools and healing action steps to implement afterward. These usually book up quickly, so if you’re feeling the call, head to  kenzieeason.com/compsession to get yours reserved.  Claim your complimentary 1:1 session by clicking HERE [https://www.kenzieeason.com/compsession] _____________________________________________________ Intimacy is something everyone craves, yet is also something that confuses or terrifies many of us. How do we actually connect sexually, emotionally, spiritually with our partners - especially if we have sexual trauma, feel the passionate fade, or are navigating past hurst - even infidelity. In today’s episode I have with us an expert on just that! Sadé is a gifted and very knowledgeable therapist who works with folks in this very area. Join us in this earnest and tender conversation about the spectrum of connection and healing. IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSSED: * Sade’s story of coming into her work of sex therapy and couples therapy * The different levels and types of trauma that people experience * Importance of choosing safe partners and what that actually means * The steps to begin the journey of healing from sexual trauma * How media and culture suppresses our sexual fulfillment * The difference and transition between initial dating passionate stage and mature companionship love stage of relationship, and how sexual trauma can hide in both * Importance of knowing your own pleasure, turn ons, and desires independent of your partner * What is purity culture and how it affects sexuality * Common challenges women have with their sexuality * How to deal with having a different sex drive than your partner * How to begin healing when there has been infidelity or cheating in a relationship * Common relationship healing myths * The power of sex and redemption * Steps of healing if there is abuse in the relationship Connect with Sadé: Instagram@myintimacytherapist [https://www.instagram.com/myintimacytherapist/] Podcast My Intimacy Therapist Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/my-intimacy-therapist/id1548620810] Website myintimacytherapist.com [https://www.myintimacytherapist.com] About Sadé Ferrier Sadé Ferrier is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the state of Georgia, and certified sex therapist through the Institute of Sexual Wholeness. She specializes in counseling couples through affair recovery, sexual dysfunctions, and communication issues. The uniqueness of her approach is its emphasis on deconstructing shameful aspects of Purity Culture and  helping couples construct a satisfying version of emotional, spiritual and sexual intimacy. As a first-generation Jamaican-American, she finds great pride in interpreting life and relationships from a multicultural perspective. Connect with Mackenzie Instagram: @_honeyintheheart_ [https://www.instagram.com/_honeyintheheart_/] Website: www.kenzieeason.com [https://www.kenzieeason.com] Book Your Complimentary 1:1 Session: kenzieeason.com/compsession [https://www.kenzieeason.com/compsession] Subscribe to the Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/honey-in-the-heart-relationships-emotions-intimacy/id1291634385

Are you going through a break up or rocky time in your relationship? Is your love life SO not where you want it to be? This can be such a challenging time, but to have it happening during the holidays? Ouch.  It amps up intensity and heart ache. All the emphasis on togetherness, special memories, and being merry and bright can make it painfully apparent the lack of that special someone in your life. Or at least the lack of it feeling really good with that special someone. Don’t worry, I’ve got you. There is a way to make it through this holiday season without suffering and feeling totally collapsed. In this episode I’ve compiled my top 11 tips so you can navigate this time of year of family, travel, and stress with grace and your heart still in tact (even if it feels torn apart). Stay in Touch with Mackenzie Website: www.kenzieeason.com [http://www.kenzieeason.com] Instagram: @_honeyintheheart_ [https://www.instagram.com/_honeyintheheart_/] Become an Insider Sign Up to Receive Monthly Love Letters from Mackenzie https://www.kenzieeason.com/lovelettersignup [https://www.kenzieeason.com/lovelettersignup] About Mackenzie Mackenzie wants to live in a world where tears are celebrated and hugs are held just a little longer.A world where all women know their inherent worth, trust themselves, and are empowered by their loving self-connection and thriving relationships. As a love coach, she’s most known for her emotional genius, intuition, and the capacity to create a warm and truly loving space for others to dive deep. Kenzie specializes in helping women understand their emotional pain, cultivate clear communication, and reclaim their power in the face of fear or manipulation. When’s she’s not giving 1:1 coaching sessions [https://www.kenzieeason.com/mentorship], offering online courses, or recording interviews for her podcast Honey in the Heart, you can find her playing mermaid in the ocean, eating acai bowls, and binge watching episodes of her favorite show, Queer Eye. She is incredibly grateful to call Maui her home.

I’ve been eyeing Jeff Brown on social media for quite some time now. Each of his poignant pieces would reverberate through me with a powerful ,”Yes, Amen, and Hallelujah!” Jeff has a powerful way of articulating the nuances and intricacies of grounded spirituality and love. His teachings are direct and deep, calling out the BS and painful shortcomings of new age culture and spiritual relationships.  Given my history with spiritual gaslighting and my passion for the realness, I knew Jeff was the perfect first guest for Honey in the Heart! Jeff covers a lot of ground in this episode, particularly the importance of “Enrealment” in relationship. If you are craving some insights and guidance on how to have a thriving relationship - to yourself, god, and your partner - that includes ALL of yourself (not just the love and light), this is an episode you don’t want to miss! IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSSED: * What the term “Enrealment” means in both intangible and tangible terms. * How typical spiritual constructs are based on patriarchal systems and bypassing * The danger and dysfunction of “Twin Flames” * How gurus can get away with terrible behavior, misconduct, and painful personal lives * The importance of being in your physical and emotional body to have a healthy, nontoxic relationships * How relationships help us excavate our trauma and past pain * Steps to get grounded if you notice you’re dissociated and bypassing in your relationship * Why support is essential to understanding how relationships can be a portal to divinity * How yoga is often used for spiritual bypassing and dissociation from the f*cked up humanness * The difference between soulmates and woundmates - and why it’s important to tell the difference * Qualities essential to have a relationship based on grounded spirituality / enrealment * How tantra and sex can be used to escape and disassociate * Why suicides are happening more and more in new age communities * What’s required to actually have a grounded love experience Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffbrown.co/ Instagram: @jeffbrownsoulshaping Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SOULSHAPING/ Become an Insider: Sign Up to Receive Monthly Love Letters from Mackenzie https://www.kenzieeason.com/lovelettersignup Subscribe to the Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/honey-in-the-heart-relationships-emotions-intimacy/id1291634385 About Jeff Brown: A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of 6 popular books: Soulshaping, Ascending with Both Feet on the Ground, Love It Forward, An Uncommon Bond, Spiritual Graffiti and Grounded Spirituality. He is also the producer and primary journeyer in the award-winning spiritual documentary, Karmageddon, which also stars Ram Dass, Seane Corn, Deva Premal and Miten. After writing a series of inspirations for ABC’S ‘Good Morning America’ in 2010, and appearing on Fox News.com and dozens of radio shows, Brown wrote the viral blog ‘Apologies to the Divine Feminine (from a warrior in transition)’ that autumn, catapulting him to a greater degree of notoriety, particularly in social media. Jeff’s new terms and short writings became a phenomenon some years ago, and continue to be shared by seekers and growers worldwide. His quotes have been shared in social media by Alanis Morrissette, Fergie, Chrissy Metz, and many other well-known figures. Most beautifully, they have touched and benefited millions of souls. This gratifies him deeply. In April, 2018, Jeff was invited to Ottawa by Sophie Grégoire Trudeau–gender equality activist and the wife of Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau–to film a conversation about emotional healing and inclusivity. She had been sharing Jeff’s words in speeches and social media posts for some time. Excerpts from that powerful dialogue are viewable on Sophie’s Facebook and Instagram pages. Jeff is also the founder of Soulshaping Institute and Enrealment Press. He lives in Canada with his wife, poet Susan Frybort