Your Parenting Long Game

Episode 364: When Your Child Is Disrespectful... Say Less

https://rachel-bailey.com/364-2/When your child rolls their eyes, snaps "You're so annoying," or yells "Whatever!", it's natural to jump in with, "Don't talk to me that way!" or "That's unacceptable." You want to teach them to be respectful... but those reactions usually only make situations worse. In fact, the best thing to do when your child is disrespectful is to do less. In this episode, you'll learn: * Why doing less is not "letting them get away with it" and not the same as being weak, passive or permissive * How to stay grounded and model regulation instead of reacting to your child's Yuck with your own * When and how to address disrespect so that your child learns that it's not acceptable... and so they can actually respond differently in the future -- Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions [https://resources.rachel-bailey.com/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

Episode 363: How We Often Prevent Children's Growth (And How to Fix It)

As parents, so many of our decisions in the moment are focused on keeping the peace, calming the meltdown, protecting our nerves. But while that might reduce drama in the short term, it often prevents our children from developing the confidence and resilience they need for long-term success. In this episode, you'll learn why discomfort is essential for growth and how to respond in those hard moments without rescuing, over-explaining, or giving in. In this episode, you'll learn: * The hidden ways we unintentionally block our child's resilience by avoiding discomfort * Why discomfort is not dangerous, but necessary, for developing confidence and emotional strength * A new way to respond when your child is upset, frustrated, or overwhelmed so they learn "I can handle hard things" -- Free resources to support you as you're raising children with big emotions [https://resources.rachel-bailey.com/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

Episode 362: Your Child Can Focus on Things They Enjoy... Why Can't They Unload the Dishwasher?

Have you ever wondered how your child can spend hours building a virtual world… yet when you ask them to do any daily task, they act like it's torture? In this episode, I explain the REAL reason your child resists everyday tasks and why it has nothing to do with laziness, disrespect, or lack of motivation. Once you understand how the brain responds to stimulation and Yuck, you'll be able to shift from fighting your child's resistance… to understanding it and leading them through it. In this episode, you'll learn: * Why your child's brain sees boring tasks as "dangerous" and actively avoids them * The difference between motivation strategies and activation strategies and why one works while the other backfires * What you can start doing immediately to help your child cooperate more easily (and build confidence at the same time) -- Free cheat sheet: Helping Kids With Daily Tasks [https://resources.rachel-bailey.com/cheatsheets] Free quiz: The "Everyday Routines" Quiz: What's Your Style? [https://resources.rachel-bailey.com/quizzes] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://resources.rachel-bailey.com/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

Episode 361: A Quick Tip to Stop Responding in a Way You Regret

http://rachel-bailey.com/361When our kids resist, melt down, or push back, our instinct is to get them to calm down or cooperate...fast. We talk more, repeat rules, and try to convince them to "get it together." But the more urgent we become, the more our kids resist and the harder everything feels. Fortunately, there a quick shift can help you respond more effectively, and in a way that you don't regret. In this episode, you'll learn: * Why urgency fuels kids' resistance (and why it's so hard to stop being urgent in the moment) * How to recognize when your own fight-or-flight response is taking over * A simple shift that helps you slow down so that you can regain influence and your child can calm down more quickly -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve [https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel's Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

Episode 360: When Your Child Says That Coping Strategies "Don't Work"

When our kids are upset, we often suggest strategies to help them calm down or manage tough situations—like taking deep breaths, counting to ten, or breaking down assignments into smaller steps. But when those strategies don't instantly erase the discomfort, both kids (and parents!) often conclude that "nothing works." In this episode, you'll learn: * How to assess whether a strategy really "works" or not (so kids stop insisting that nothing works!) * A powerful exercise you can try with your child to help them build tolerance for discomfort * Simple ways to introduce the idea of tolerance in everyday situations (like chores, screen time, or schoolwork) -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve [https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel's Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]