The Nancy Levin Show

E243: People-Pleasing, Self-Abandonment and 3 Ways to Heal Your Connection

Feeling numb doesn't mean something is wrong with you – it means something important has been missing. If you're doing everything right on the outside but feel disconnected on the inside, this episode is for you. Emotional numbness often hides beneath productivity, people-pleasing, and constant motion, quietly pulling you away from your truth without you even realizing it. I explore why numbness isn't a failure but a survival strategy – a response to years of self-abandonment, over-responsibility, and living from obligation instead of desire. When your life hasn't made space for your truth, disconnection becomes the way you cope. I then share three simple, grounded tools to help you gently interrupt autopilot and restore connection with yourself. This is about coming home – without force, without shame, and without needing to change everything all at once. What we explore: * Why emotional numbness often looks like productivity * How people-pleasing quietly disconnects you from your desires * The cost of living on autopilot * Three simple tools to restore connection and self-trust * How to move from avoidance into aligned, honest action * Why your desires are signals – not problems If this conversation is stirring something inside you and you're ready to reconnect with the part of you that's been dormant, I invite you to join my free five-day experience, Reignite Your Spark at https://www.nancylevin.com/spark [https://www.nancylevin.com/spark] Connect with me: Newsletter [https://nancylevin.com/the-practice/]nancylevin.com [https://nancylevin.com/]Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nancy_levin/]Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/NancyLevinAuthor]

E242: When the Life You Built No Longer Fits

I was at the airport when a voicemail stopped me in my tracks and forced me to face a truth I'd been avoiding for years. My knees buckled, and my carefully curated life came crashing down. Nothing would ever be the same again. There comes a moment when the life you've carefully constructed no longer fits. Not because anything is wrong, but because you've outgrown who you were when you built it. In this episode, I share the real story behind my own reinvention — not the polished version, but the slow, honest return to myself that began when performance stopped working. I take you behind the scenes of the unraveling that changed everything and the realization that success, approval, and perfection could never replace self-trust. What emerged from that season became the foundation of my reinvention coaching framework and the Transformation Equation: vision, choice, and action — not as ideas, but as lived, embodied practices. If you're high-achieving, capable, and quietly wondering if there's more, this conversation is for you. Reinvention doesn't require burning your life down. It asks for radical honesty, self-trust over approval, and the willingness to take one aligned step at a time back home to yourself. What we explore: * What it means when success no longer feels fulfilling * Why reinvention is a return to truth, not becoming someone new * The moment external validation stops working * How vision creates clarity without needing all the answers * Why readiness is a myth and willingness is what matters * The power of small, aligned choices over perfection * How self-trust becomes the foundation for lasting change If something stirred in you while listening, I invite you to take a gentle next step with me. Reignite Your Spark is a free five-day experience designed to help you reconnect with your desires and begin aligning your life with your truth. You can join me at https://www.nancylevin.com/spark [https://www.nancylevin.com/spark] Connect with me: Newsletter [https://nancylevin.com/the-practice/]nancylevin.com [https://nancylevin.com/]Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nancy_levin/]Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/NancyLevinAuthor]

E241: Are You Afraid to Want More? Trust Your Desire!

What if the very desires you've been suppressing are the breadcrumbs leading you back to yourself? Many of us have been conditioned to dismiss or diminish our deepest longings. We shrink our desires, preemptively reject ourselves, and settle for "good enough," believing that wanting more is selfish, indulgent, or risky. Over time, this resistance becomes familiar – it masquerades as responsibility, maturity, or practicality. In this episode, I guide you to recognize that your desire is not the problem. The resistance is protective, yes, but it's no longer serving you. Your longings – for rest, creativity, connection, and change – are invitations to reconnect with your authentic self. Through compassion and presence, you can begin to honor your desires and allow them to guide you toward growth, joy, and full self-expression. By shifting from self-repression to self-permission, you step into a life that feels alive, expansive, and aligned. This is your invitation to reclaim your spark, follow your desire, and experience the transformation that comes when you finally say yes to yourself. What we explore: * Why we resist our deepest desires and longings * How conditioning and guilt shape our relationship to wanting * The protective role of resistance and how to honor it * Reframing desire as guidance, not indulgence * Practical ways to reconnect with what you truly want * The ripple effect of honoring your desires on your life and others Join me for Reignite Your Spark, a free five-day experience designed to help you reconnect with your desires through simple daily practices and reflection. Sign up at http://nancylevin.com/spark [http://nancylevin.com/spark] Connect with me: Newsletter [https://nancylevin.com/the-practice/]nancylevin.com [https://nancylevin.com/]Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nancy_levin/]Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/NancyLevinAuthor]

E240: What Everyone Misses About Transformation: The Choices That Create Real Change

You can feel it — that quiet ache telling you something has to change. As this year comes to a close, you may find yourself standing at an edge. Tired of circling the same patterns. Tired of doing everything "right" and still feeling stuck. This moment isn't a failure. It's the space between who you've been and who you're becoming — uncomfortable, uncertain, and deeply meaningful. Real transformation doesn't come from vision boards, affirmations, or wanting things badly enough. Change only happens when desire is matched with different choices and different actions. When we stop performing growth and start participating in our own lives. When we tell the truth about where we're abandoning ourselves, crossing our own boundaries, or waiting for feelings to change before we act. This episode is an invitation to step out of waiting and into responsibility — not as punishment, but as freedom. To stop postponing your life for the right moment and begin choosing yourself now. This isn't about resolutions. It's about reclamation: of your voice, your energy, your truth, and your right to live with intention instead of autopilot. What we explore: * Why wanting change isn't enough * The illusion of manifestation without action * How boundaries reveal where change actually begins * The cost of self-abandonment and people-pleasing * What it means to stop performing and start participating * Why discomfort is often the doorway to freedom If you're ready to move beyond surface-level change and reconnect with the part of you that's been quietly waiting, I invite you to join my free five-day experience Reignite Your Spark at http://www.nancylevin.com/spark [http://www.nancylevin.com/spark] Connect with me: Newsletter [https://nancylevin.com/the-practice/]nancylevin.com [https://nancylevin.com/]Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nancy_levin/]Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/NancyLevinAuthor]

E239: New Year's Resolutions Don't Work. Try This Instead!

January often arrives with a quiet demand to 'fix yourself.' To try harder. To finally get it right. If you're a high-achieving people-pleaser, you've likely learned that resolutions start with hope and end with guilt. They're built on pressure, not truth. And they quietly reinforce the belief that who you are right now isn't enough. In this episode, I offer a different way to enter the new year—one rooted in self-worth, not self-correction. Instead of resolutions, I invite you to choose non-negotiables: simple, sustaining rituals that reconnect you to yourself. These small daily choices create clarity, strengthen boundaries, and help you stop abandoning yourself in the name of productivity. This conversation is for anyone who feels exhausted by starting over every January and ready to choose presence, sustainability, and self-trust instead. What we explore: * Why traditional resolutions are rooted in lack * How non-negotiables support self-worth and clarity * Why small daily rituals are more powerful than big goals * The connection between burnout and self-abandonment * Letting go of what's complete to make space for what's true * Choosing yourself without needing permission If you feel a pull to reconnect with what lights you up, I invite you to join my free five-day experience, Reignite Your Spark, designed to help you reclaim your energy, clarity, and inner truth. Visit http://www.nancylevin.com/spark [http://www.nancylevin.com/spark] to begin. Connect with me: Newsletter [https://nancylevin.com/the-practice/]nancylevin.com [https://nancylevin.com/]Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nancy_levin/]Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/NancyLevinAuthor]