BFFR! with Love, Tori and Ami

What are the Three Principles and How Can They Help Us?

In this episode, Tori Elle and Ami discuss the Three Principles that Ami teaches, a "Principles-based" psychology and how understanding the fundamental nature of or "basic facts" about these principles can help teens, youth and also adults live with more peace of mind and less stress and anxiety. Includes helpful metaphors and examples. www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep5/three-principles [http://www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep5/three-principles]

Planning for the Future

In this episode, Tori and Ami discuss the anxieties people share around planning for the future, especially young people. Planning for the future can feel overwhelming. Is it too much to plan for the “rest of your life” when you are still so young? The pair discusses picking a college major, “beating yourself up” vs. being gentle with yourself, trusting your internal guidance system and what stress-less day-to-day planning can look like. They discuss To-Do lists, high expectations, when to call it quits on a “big goal" and when to persevere and push through. www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep4/planning-for-the-future [http://www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep4/planning-for-the-future]

Dating

Tori and Ami dive into the topic of dating, exploring its nuances and complexities from both their generational perspectives. Ami, an author of books on resilience and teen wisdom, admits her trepidation in discussing dating due to her long-term relationship history with Tori's father. Tori, a high school senior, shares her experiences and observations about modern dating dynamics among teenagers. The conversation delves into questions about what constitutes “dating” and how it differs between generations. Tori explains that traditional dating rituals like going to dinner or movies are rare among high schoolers, who often start by hanging out with friends and gradually transition to one-on-one time. Ami reflects on her own dating experiences, recounting how her relationships evolved without traditional dates but still involved meaningful connections. They also touch upon the topic of saying "I love you" in relationships and how the timing and sincerity behind it vary for each individual. Through their candid discussion, Tori and Ami offer unique insights into the complexities of dating in different stages of life, highlighting the importance of communication, authenticity, and understanding in romantic relationships. www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep3/dating [http://www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep3/dating]

Good People and Bad People

In this episode, after some reflection on the Israel-Gaza war and the mood it has created in their home and community, Ami and Tori delve into ideas about and definitions for “good” and “bad” people. How does someone become a good or bad person? Are good and bad people born that way? Should we ever give up on people as being “bad” forever? This discussion includes some aspects of the psychology Ami teaches (“Three Principles”) and points to an underlying goodness in humans, even if that goodness is obscured. Tori references the TV program, “The Good Place,” as instructive regarding good and bad people. What should motivate us to be “good” and what should not? What if we sometimes have bad thoughts? Is that terrible? Is that normal? How can we naturally be good? www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep2/good-people-and-bad-people [http://www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep2/good-people-and-bad-people]

Fake Friends!

In this episode, Tori and Ami discuss the concept of “fake friends” and explore how these relationships manifest differently for teenagers and adults. They share personal experiences and observations about what defines a “fake friend”--for example, someone who may act supportive but ultimately fails to show up when needed or displays inconsistent behavior. Tori and Ami also reflect on their own behaviors and acknowledge instances where they may have been less than genuine in their friendships. They emphasize the importance of understanding that people's actions aren't always malicious and that misunderstandings or forgetfulness can often play a role in perceived slights. Throughout the episode, they delve into broader themes of friendship, social dynamics, and the impact of societal expectations on how we relate to others. They encourage listeners to consider the complexities of human relationships and the value of empathy and understanding in navigating these dynamics. Overall, the podcast provides a candid and introspective exploration of the concept of fake friends and offers insights and perspectives for listeners to reflect on in their own lives. www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep1/fake-friends [http://www.amichen.com/bffr-pod/Ep1/fake-friends]