Big Sister Energy

A Soft Girls Guide To Boundaries

✨ Episode 6: The Soft Girl’s Guide to Boundaries ✨ This episode is for the girls who aren’t naturally soft — the ones who got sharp because they had to. We’re talking about what happens when you learn boundaries late… When saying yes turned into resentment… When softness got buried under survival… And why setting boundaries can feel scary when you’ve never had them before. This isn’t therapy talk. This is real girl conversation — coffee-in-hand, phones-down, “can I say something without you getting mad?” energy. We’ll cover: • why late boundaries come out sharp • how guilt keeps you over-explaining • the difference between isolation and self-respect • and how to soften without self-abandoning You don’t need to become harder. You don’t need to disappear to keep the peace. You just need to become clearer. Soft girls still get to choose themselves. 🖤✨

The People Pleaser Hangover

There’s a kind of exhaustion that doesn’t come from doing too much. It comes from saying yes when your body wanted to say no. In this episode of Big Sister Energy, we talk about people-pleasing as a survival pattern — how it forms, why it sticks, and the quiet toll it takes over time. We explore the resentment that shows up later, the disconnection that grows when honesty gets delayed, and what recovery actually looks like in real life. This isn’t about becoming harder or caring less. It’s about slowing down, listening to yourself, and learning how to choose honesty without losing connection. If you’ve ever felt tired after being nice, this episode is for you.

Healing A Relationship With God

In this episode, I’m opening up about something I’ve never really shared in full before — my relationship with God, how it got tangled up in fear and pressure, how it broke, and how I slowly found my way back to a version of Him that actually feels safe. I didn’t grow up in church. I grew up in chaos. Then suddenly, in high school, my parents “found God,” and everything shifted overnight. I jumped headfirst into church because it felt like structure… but over time, the pressure, the expectations, and the way people used God’s name started to wear me down. Eventually, I walked away — quietly — and spent years trying to figure out what I believed. And here’s the part I never understood until now: stepping back wasn’t me failing. It was me protecting the tiny piece of faith I still had. In this episode, I share how motherhood, therapy, honesty, and a lot of unlearning brought me back to a relationship with God that feels gentle, peaceful, and real — without fear, without performance, and without anyone speaking for Him. This is not a sermon. This is not me pushing anything on you. This is a story about healing, rethinking faith, and discovering a God who loves you without conditions. If your relationship with God is complicated… or you’ve been hurt by religion… or you don’t know where to start… this episode is a safe place to just listen, breathe, and be curious. Everyone is welcome at my table. Always.

Maybe It’s You

This one’s a truth bomb, bestie. In Episode 3, we talk about the moments no one likes to admit — the ones where the problem isn’t the season, the people, or the timing… it’s actually you. With softness and a little sass, we break down accountability, self-awareness, emotional patterns, and the quiet ways we sabotage our own growth. I share the story of how I pulled myself out of a deep season of depression, the marriage and motherhood moments that humbled me, and the exact habits and excuses that held me back for years. If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, resentful, or lost in your own life… this episode is your wake-up call wrapped in a warm hug. Honest, grounding, and a little uncomfortable in the best way — “Maybe It’s You” will help you see yourself clearly and finally step into the woman you’re becoming.

The Day I Stopped Shrinking

In this episode, I’m getting real about something I didn’t even know I was doing for most of my life: shrinking. Shrinking my voice. Shrinking my laugh. Shrinking my needs. Shrinking myself. This is the story of how I realized I’d been living as the backup character in my own life — and what it looked like to finally stop disappearing. We’re talking childhood conditioning, one-sided friendships, boundaries, loud laughs, identity, confidence, and that moment you get tired of abandoning yourself just to make other people comfortable. It’s honest, messy, funny, and probably going to call you out in the gentlest big-sister way. If you’ve ever played small, kept the peace at your own expense, or watered yourself down to be “easier,” this one is for you. ✨ Truth in 3 ✨ Big Sis Challenge ✨ Raw Lori energy start to finish Share it with the friend who needs a reminder that she gets to take up space. Follow the show so you never miss an episode. Let’s grow together, sis. 🩷✨