Boundaries Over Burnout | Stress, Biblical Encouragement, Stability, People Pleasing, Time Management

13. Exhausted? - 3 Ways to Stop High Functioning Anxiety and Get in the Right Room

* Have you ever noticed your kids acting different around you and realized they were carrying your stress because you brought it home from work? * Are you the strong one in every room but secretly falling apart and wondering why nobody checks on you? * Do you know you need to be around a different group of people, but you feel too drained to even find them? In this episode I am sharing what happened to the people around me when I hit my worst season of burnout and what changed when I walked into one room that ended four months of being stuck. I was leading a team and I did not realize that my stress was transferring to everyone around me. My team went from confident and positive to anxious and negative and I thought it was them. It was me. After surgery I watched my own cousin tell me to snap out of it because she could not handle seeing me down. That is when I realized my burnout belonged to me and every person close to me. Then I walked into a writers' conference and being in a room full of people walking in their purpose changed my entire mindset in one weekend. I also break down the detail in Mark chapter 4 that almost nobody talks about, the other boats in the storm that received the blessing simply because they were close enough to the boat that carried Jesus. If your stress is impacting the people you love and you know you need to change what you are near, this episode is for you. Scriptures referenced: * Mark 4:35-41 — Jesus calms the storm and the other boats receive peace through proximity * Mark 4:36 — There were also other boats with Him Free Resource: Download the Peace of Mind Runway Calculator at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [https://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] — if the paycheck fear is what is keeping you stuck right now, this tool will show you exactly how many months you could survive without it. It takes 2 minutes. Book a Free 15-Minute Strategy Session at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [https://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] — if you are in the middle of this season right now and you do not know what your next step is, let's talk. No pitch. Just an honest conversation with someone who has been exactly where you are. Related Episodes: * Episode 1: Christian Women: Stop Waiting Until Retirement to Write Your Book * Episode 2: Feeling Overwhelmed? How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Calling Part 4: Connect With Twana + Next Steps Contact → twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com [twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com] for topic ideas or to be a guest on the show. Find me on Facebook and LinkedIn — search Twana Thomas and send me a connect or a follow. Website → www.boundariesoverburnout.com [https://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] Step 1: DM me the word ROOM on Facebook or LinkedIn if this episode described your life. Tell me who you are near right now and what needs to change. I read every message. Step 2: Download the free Peace of Mind Runway Calculator at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [https://www.boundariesoverburnout.com]. If the fear of losing your income is the thing keeping you stuck, you need to see your real number. Step 3: Share this episode with a woman you know who is carrying everyone and has no one carrying her. She needs to hear that proximity to the right room can change everything.

12. Burned Out on Waiting? How to Stop Controlling God’s Timing and Finally Trust the Process

* Have you ever felt God show you something so clearly that you got excited and then months went by with nothing happening? * Are you starting to wonder if you made the whole thing up because you have been waiting so long with zero evidence that anything is growing? * Do you keep forcing doors and overthinking every detail because sitting still feels like falling behind? In this episode I am sharing what God taught me through growing my first raised bed garden and why every step of planting. The soil I needed, cracking, soaking, burying, darkness, false growth, and waiting. This is exactly what He is doing in your life right now. I went out and bought a raised bed to grow healthy food for my daughter and me.  God used every part of that process to show me what He was doing in my calling. The hole at the bottom that drains excess water. The soil that has to be right before anything gets planted. The seeds that have to be soaked or cracked open before they can grow. The depth of the planting depending on the size of the harvest. The darkness underground where all the real work happens. The false growth that comes up first and looks real but is not  (just like the darnel in Matthew 13 that the enemy plants to look like wheat before the real harvest comes). I almost gave up staring at dirt thinking nothing was happening while God was building a root system I could not see. This episode will change how you see your waiting season. If God gave you a dream and you are starting to lose faith because nothing seems to be happening, this episode is for you. Scriptures referenced: * Isaiah 43:19 — See, I am doing a new thing. Now it springs up. Do you not perceive it? * Mark 4:26-29 — The seed growing secretly; the soil produces grain by itself * Matthew 13:24-30 — The Wheat and the Tares; the enemy plants darnel that looks like wheat * Galatians 6:9 — Do not grow weary in doing good; in due season you will reap if you do not give up * Habakkuk 2:3 — The vision awaits its appointed time. It will not be late. Wait for it. Free Resource: Download the Peace of Mind Runway Calculator at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [https://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] — if the paycheck fear is what is keeping you stuck right now, this tool will show you exactly how many months you could survive without it. It takes 2 minutes. Book a Free 15-Minute Strategy Session at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [https://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] — if you are in the middle of this season right now and you do not know what your next step is, let's talk. No pitch. Just an honest conversation with someone who has been exactly where you are. Related Episodes: * Episode 1: Christian Women: Stop Waiting Until Retirement to Write Your Book * Episode 2: Feeling Overwhelmed? How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Calling Part 4: Connect With Twana + Next Steps Contact → twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com [twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com] for topic ideas or to be a guest on the show. Find me on Facebook and LinkedIn — search Twana Thomas and send me a connect or a follow. Website → www.boundariesoverburnout.com [https://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] Step 1: DM me the word PLANTED on Facebook or LinkedIn if this episode described your life. Tell me what you have been waiting on God for. I read every message. Step 2: Download the free Peace of Mind Runway Calculator at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [https://www.boundariesoverburnout.com]. If the fear of losing your income is the thing keeping you stuck, you need to see your real number. Step 3: Share this episode with a woman you know who is about to give up on something God gave her because she has been waiting too long and cannot see any growth. She needs to hear this before she pulls her seed out of the ground.

11. Burnout Recovery: What God Taught Me When I Lost the Paycheck I Was Afraid to Lose

* Have you ever used a sick day just to sit in absolute silence because you had no other excuse to stop? * Are you so afraid of losing your income that you keep tolerating a job that is stealing your health and your peace? * Do you know something has to change but you cannot figure out how to move when the bills depend on you staying right where you are?   In this episode I am sharing the full story of how burnout almost took me out and what God did when I finally stopped trying to fix it myself. I once scheduled an elective surgery partly so I would have a medical excuse to rest. I sat in a chair with the heat on, a book in my lap, everything set up for peace, and my mind still would not stop. So I opened my journal and wrote the most desperate prayer of my life. Three days later God answered it in a way I did not see coming. This is the story of the breaking point, the prayer, the Zoom call where my manager expected tears and got peace, and the choice I had to make when I hit the fork in the road — chase another paycheck or trust the God who just showed up exactly how I asked. If something is stealing your peace and you are still tolerating it, this episode is for you. Scriptures referenced: * Psalm 23:1 — The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want * Exodus 14:14 — The Lord will fight for you; be still * John 15:5 — I am the vine; you are the branches * Philippians 1:6 — He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion * Genesis 2:2 — God rested on the seventh day Free Resource: Download the Peace of Mind Runway Calculator at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] — if the paycheck fear is what is keeping you stuck right now, this tool will show you exactly how many months you could survive without it. It takes 2 minutes. Book a Free 15-Minute Strategy Session at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] — if you are in the middle of this season right now and you do not know what your next step is, let's talk. No pitch. Just an honest conversation with someone who has been exactly where you are. Related Episodes: * Episode 1: Christian Women: Stop Waiting Until Retirement to Write Your Book * Episode 2: Feeling Overwhelmed? How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Calling Part 4: Connect With Twana + Next Steps Contact → twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com [twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com] for topic ideas or to be a guest on the show. Find me on Facebook and LinkedIn — search Twana Thomas and send me a connect or a follow. Website → www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] Step 1: DM me the word PEACE on Facebook or LinkedIn if this episode described your life. Tell me where you are in your season. I read every message. Step 2: Download the free Peace of Mind Runway Calculator at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com]. If the fear of losing your income is the thing keeping you stuck, you need to see your real number. Step 3: Share this episode with a woman you know who is tolerating something that is stealing her peace because she is afraid of what she will lose if she stops. She needs to hear this story.

10. Overwhelmed? How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Calling

* Are you saying yes to everything and  exhausted from it? * Do you serve at church, host every gathering, and show up for everyone and then wonder why you feel empty after doing all the right things? * Have you ever stayed somewhere God told you to leave because you were afraid of what people would think if you walked away? In this episode I am sharing how I spent years confusing performing for God with obeying Him. I will also share the two moments that finally broke the cycle. One involved my daughter going missing at church. The other involved blood on my hand and an entitled text message at a family cookout. This is the episode for the woman who gives everything to everyone and has nothing left. I walk through 4 practical steps to help you figure out what is actually yours to carry, how to stop doing the most for people who never asked you to, and what to do when someone tests a boundary you just set. Because they will. If you are exhausted, resentful, and wondering why doing all the right things still leaves you empty, this one is for you.   Scriptures referenced: * 1 Corinthians 12:12–27 — One body, many parts; not every lane is yours * Exodus 14:14 — The Lord will fight for you; be still * Galatians 1:10 — Am I trying to please people or God? * Matthew 11:28–30 — Come to me, all who are weary * 1 John 4:18 — Perfect love casts out fear   Free Resource: Download the Peace of Mind Runway Calculator at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] — find out exactly how many months you could survive without your paycheck and what skills you already have for your next chapter.   Book a Free 15-Minute Strategy Session at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] — if this episode described your life and you do not know what your next step is, let's talk. No pitch. Just an honest conversation.   Related Episodes:   * Episode 1: Christian Women: Stop Waiting Until Retirement to Write Your Book * Episode 3: Burnout Recovery: What God Taught Me When I Lost the Paycheck I Was Afraid to Lose   Part 4: Connect With Twana + Next Steps Contact → twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com [twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com] for topic ideas or to be a guest on the show.   Find me on Facebook and LinkedIn — search Twana Thomas and send me a connect or a follow.   Website → www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com]   Step 1: DM me the word BOUNDARIES on Facebook or LinkedIn if this episode hit home. Tell me which moment made you stop and think. I read every message.   Step 2: Think of one thing you are doing right now that nobody asked you to do. Share this episode with the woman in your life who needs to hear it is okay to put it down.   Step 3: Book a free 15-minute strategy session at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] if you are ready to figure out your next step with someone who has been exactly where you are.

9. Feeling Anxious & Stuck? 3 Ways to Stop Getting in Your Own Way When God Opens the Door

* Have you had a book idea, a business, or a calling on your heart for years but keep telling yourself "one day"? * Are you working full-time, convinced you do not have the time or the talent to start? * Do you scroll past other women building their purpose and wonder why it feels so impossible for you? In this episode I am sharing the 4 steps that took me from burned out, excuse-filled, and frozen to writing from a place of rest. You can stop waiting and start pursuing your calling today, even with just 15 minutes a day. I sat in a room full of writers at the Blue Ridge Christian Writers Conference and most of them were past retirement age. I love that for them. But I could not stop thinking about the women my age and younger who have a dream they keep pushing to someday. If that is you this episode is your permission slip. I am sharing what happened when I tried to skip the most important step, what God taught me in the silence, and the 4 steps that changed everything. Whether you want to write a book, start a business, or finally answer what God keeps nudging you about, this one is for you. Scriptures referenced: * Habakkuk 2:2 — Write the vision and make it plain * Psalm 23:1 — The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not want * 1 John 4:18 — Perfect love casts out fear * Ephesians 2:10 — Good works prepared in advance * Exodus 14:14 — The Lord will fight for you; be still Free Resource: Grab the Peace of Mind Runway Calculator at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] — find out exactly how many months you could survive without your paycheck. It takes 2 minutes. Related Episodes: * Episode 2: Feeling Overwhelmed? How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Calling * Episode 3: Burnout Recovery: What God Taught Me When I Lost the Paycheck I Was Afraid to Lose Part 4: Connect With Twana + Next Steps Contact → twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com [twanalthomas@boundariesoverburnout.com] for topic ideas or to be a guest on the show. Find me on Facebook and LinkedIn — search Twana Thomas and send me a connect or a follow. Website → www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] Step 1: DM me the word READY on Facebook or LinkedIn if you are committing to starting your calling this week. I will personally cheer you on. Step 2: Grab the free Peace of Mind Runway Calculator at www.boundariesoverburnout.com [http://www.boundariesoverburnout.com] so you know exactly where you stand before you start building. Step 3: Leave a review on Apple Podcasts if this episode gave you the push you needed. It helps other women find the show and takes less than two minutes.