Dilemmas On Screen: A Jewish Perspective

Cinderella: Orphans, Stepmothers, and Fairy Godmothers, Oh My! - Rabbi Gershon Schaffel

What can Cinderella teach us about Jewish ethics? In this episode, join Rabbi Gershon Schaffel for a surprisingly deep journey through one of the world’s most famous fairy tales, explore questions you probably never expected Cinderella to raise: 1. What obligations does Judaism place on caring for orphans? 2. Does a child have to honor a stepmother — especially an unfair one? 3. Could Cinderella wear a dress made from discarded materials? 4. Is marrying royalty considered ideal in Jewish thought? 5. Is marrying INTO royalty restricted to only a select few? 6. Is there any Jewish concept similar to a “fairy godmother”? 7. What does Judaism think about benefiting from miracles? 8. Is there any benefit to returning one shoe - to clarify, if I lose one of a pair of earrings, am I liable for both earrings, or for only one? Whether you grew up with the 1950 animated classic or know Cinderella through modern retellings, this episode uncovers layers of meaning hiding beneath the glass slipper. I am excited to welcome Rabbi Gershon Eliezer Schaffel to this episode to answer our questions. Rabbi Schaffel was raised and continues to live in Skokie, Illinois, with his family.  He received his bachelor’s degree from the Hebrew Theological College and his Rabbinical Ordination from Rabbi Shlomo Morgenstern, former Dean of Hebrew Theological College. Rabbi Schaffel received Yadin Yadin semichah in the area of Jewish Business Law which qualifies him to serve as a judge in a Jewish Court (Bais Din) involving civil matters. In addition to serving as the Rabbi of Young Israel of Skokie since 1995, Rabbi Schaffel teaches at several schools in the Chicago Jewish community and leads one of the most well attended Daf Yomi shiurim. Rabbi Schaffel also writes articles for Business Weekly, Daf Yomi Digest, and Mishna Brurah Yomi which are distributed worldwide. He lectures on a variety of topics for many different community organizations. For more Rabbi Schaffel, please follow his podcast at https://listen.jewishpodcasts.fm/rabbigershonschaffel [https://listen.jewishpodcasts.fm/rabbigershonschaffel]for links to various podcast platforms.

Titanic: Does Judaism Believe in Love at First Sight? - Rabbi Raffi Bilek

In one of the most iconic endings in film history, Rose closes her eyes after telling the story of the Titanic—and returns, somehow, to Jack. For many, it’s a beautiful and emotional conclusion. But for others, it raises a deeply uncomfortable question: after a lifetime of marriage, children, and family, why does Rose’s final vision center on a man she knew for just a few days? In this episode, we explore the tension at the heart of Titanic: is this a story of true love—or something more complicated? The characters Jack Dawson and Rose DeWitt Bukater captured the hearts and imaginations of a generation. Joined by marriage counselor Rabbi Raffi Bilek, LCSW and relationship coach, we take a step back from the emotion and ask a fundamental question: does Judaism believe in love at first sight? What exactly are we feeling in those powerful, immediate connections—and can they be trusted as a guide for lifelong decisions? Through the lens of Torah and real-world relationship experience, we examine the difference between passion and commitment, between infatuation and love. We explore what it actually means to build a lasting relationship. Finally, we revisit the controversy surrounding Rose’s final choice and consider whether her story is as romantic as it seems, or whether it is a culmination of an unrealistic fantasy. I am excited to welcome Rabbi Raffi Bilek to this episode to answer our questions. Rabbi Bilek was born in Montreal, Canada, and moved to the U.S. as a teenager. He went to college at Brown University in Providence, RI, where he studied computer science and graduated with honors. After college he spent a year teaching underprivileged children in a school in Brooklyn, and then moved to Jerusalem where he remained for six blessed years. Rabbi Bilek has a master's degree in social work from Yeshiva University, semicha from Rabbi Zalman Nechemia Goldberg of the Jerusalem Beis Din and Rabbi Noach Weinberg zt''l of Aish HaTorah, and a clinical social work license for Maryland. His experience includes work in psychiatric outpatient settings, family therapy institutes, domestic violence units, and community service agencies. He has worked with individuals, couples, and families, with children, teenagers, adults, and the elderly.  Rabbi Bilek is presently working as the Program Director for the Montgomery County Abused Persons Program in Rockville, MD and the director of the Baltimore Therapy Center, LLC. Rabbi Bilek currently learns masechet Brachos and Shabbos, and the commentary of Rav Schwab on the Torah. He speaks English, Hebrew, French and Spanish, enjoys playing Scrabble and Bananagrams and telling good (and bad) jokes. He lives in Baltimore, Maryland with four beautiful daughters and his very special wife who is his greatest support in life. Check out his website and books below. https://www.frumcounselor.com/about [https://www.frumcounselor.com/about] https://www.thecommunicationbook.com/ [https://www.thecommunicationbook.com/] https://www.amazon.com/First-Ten-Letters-Secrets-Universe/dp/1952370787 [https://www.amazon.com/First-Ten-Letters-Secrets-Universe/dp/1952370787]

The Lord of the Rings: Was Frodo Wrong to Show Mercy to Gollum? - Rabbi Yoni Ganger

In this third episode tackling The Lord of the Rings, Rabbi Yoni Ganger (MEOR: Harvard) and I tackle one of the saga’s most powerful moral questions: Was Frodo right to show mercy to Gollum? Tolkien famously suggests that it was precisely the mercy of Bilbo and Frodo that allowed the quest to destroy the Ring to succeed. Without pity, there would have been no salvation. But from a Torah perspective—is that really true? In this episode of Dilemmas on Screen – A Jewish Perspective, we explore: * What does Judaism actually mean by mercy (רחמים)? * Is mercy always virtuous—or can it sometimes be destructive? * When does compassion become irresponsibility? * Does Judaism believe that “putting good energy into the world” guarantees good outcomes? * Are there people who are beyond redemption? * And perhaps most unsettling: can empathy itself sometimes be dangerous? We examine powerful Torah sources, including: * The story of Yosef and his brothers * Shaul and Amalek * The destruction of the Second Temple * Talmudic discussions about capital punishment and restraint We also analyze whether Gollum was truly redeemable—and whether Frodo’s empathy clouded his judgment. Is mercy about canceling justice? Or is it about delaying justice to allow for growth? And most importantly: when someone is actively dangerous, does the Torah expect us to stay merciful—or to act? A nuanced, timely, and deeply relevant discussion.   To tackle these questions, I am excited to welcome back Rabbi Yoni Ganger to this episode to answer our questions. Rabbi Ganger formerly joined us on two podcast episodes The Lord of the Rings, "Was Frodo's Failure a Moral Failure", and for Whiplash, "Pushing to Greatness or Pushing Too Far?" Rabbi Ganger has lived in Boston with his family for the last 11 years working on the Harvard campus as the program director of MEOR, a Jewish outreach organization. He also runs the MEOR BOSTON Jewish Young Professional program. In addition to Jewish education, Rabbi Ganger works as a therapist at the Center for Anxiety, a private practice therapy group with several offices in the Northeast that specializes in treating a wide variety of mental health issues using evidence-based treatments. Rabbi Ganger aims to weave psychology with Jewish wisdom both on campus and in his practice in order to best serve both his students and his clients. Rabbi Ganger also has two of his own podcasts: Realizing Potential and MEOR Mastery covering the basics of everyday Jewish life. Please reach out at yganger@meor.org for any questions about Judaism, Psychology, or Lord of the Rings.  MEOR Mastery: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/meor-mastery-master-the-basics-of-jewish-practice/id1799495092 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/meor-mastery-master-the-basics-of-jewish-practice/id1799495092] Realizing Potential Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/41WAyzvlRt4kK6GbyFgiKW [https://open.spotify.com/show/41WAyzvlRt4kK6GbyFgiKW]   The source mentioned in the .edu article can be found here: https://pillars.taylor.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1116&context=inklings_forever [https://pillars.taylor.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1116&context=inklings_forever]

Nobody Wants This: Intermarriage (Part 2) - Rabbi Moshe Friedman

In this follow-up episode to our Nobody Wants This discussion on intermarriage, we “double-click” on a listener question we didn’t fully unpack last time: what ARE Jewish values — and how do they differ from the broader Western values most of us grow up with today?  We move beyond surface-level differences like holidays or synagogue vs. church and explore deeper theological ideas and how these ideas may manifest themselves culturally. From Judaism’s love of argument and debate (rooted in Torah and Talmud) to its radical view that the physical world—food, work, money, pleasure—can be a path to holiness rather than an obstacle, we examine how Jewish ideas filter down into everyday behavior, humor, ambition, and even a readiness to challenge authority. The conversation also tackles big questions head-on: • Why Jews argue—and why that’s a feature, not a bug • Why food, wine, and physical enjoyment play such a central role in Jewish life • How Judaism differs from other religions in its relationship to politics, economics, and the material world • What “chosen people” actually means (hint: responsibility, not superiority) • Why being commanded can be spiritually greater than acting purely on instinct Along the way, we draw on biblical stories, Talmudic principles, pop culture (from Meet the Parents to Harry Potter), and personal anecdotes to show how these values still show up today—sometimes in ways people don’t even realize. If you’ve ever wondered whether intermarriage creates real value conflicts—or whether those conflicts run deeper than December decorations—this episode gets to the core of it. I am excited to bring back Rabbi Moshe Friedman on the podcast. He formerly joined us for our first episode released, Harry Potter, and whether Harry owes a debt of gratitude to the Dursleys, despite their mistreatment, in addition to our more recent episode on The Avengers: Was Thanos Right? Do the Ends Justify the Means? Rabbi Friedman is a Jewish educator, musician, spoken word artist, video essayist, and author.  He has spoken and performed for audiences around the world, and continues to explore innovative ways of spreading Jewish wisdom through art, music, and media.  You can find his work at rav-mo.com [http://rav-mo.com/] and on his YouTube channel "Mensch Sense" at https://www.youtube.com/@menschsense1 [https://www.youtube.com/@menschsense1].  If you enjoy this podcast, please leave us a review and share with your friends. We also welcome comments and reviews with suggestions for future episode ideas as we continue to dissect moral dilemmas in the biggest movies and TV shows out there, all from a Jewish perspective.

Nobody Wants This: Intermarriage (Part 1) - Rabbi Rick Fox

In this episode, we welcome back Rabbi Rick Fox to discuss Nobody Wants This, the Netflix rom-com that sneaks a very real Jewish dilemma into what looks like a light, funny love story. The show follows Joanne, a non-Jewish woman, and Noah, a Reform rabbi, who fall for each other and quickly realize that their relationship raises some uncomfortable questions neither of them can ignore. We dig into the core issue the series keeps circling: intermarriage. The series follows Joanne, a non-Jewish woman, and Noah, a rabbi, as they fall for each other—only to realize that love alone doesn’t resolve the deep religious, cultural, and communal tensions their relationship creates. We look at Noah’s tension as a Reform rabbi who’s trying to be honest about who he is and what he represents, and Joanne’s parallel struggle—whether conversion is something she truly wants, or whether pretending it doesn’t make her uncomfortable is already a problem. Along the way, we talk about what Judaism can bend on, what it can’t, and why these questions still hit so close to home for so many people.    Here are a few questions we’d like answered: 1. Well, let’s get it out of the way - intermarriage. Good, great, grand, wonderful? Or disaster, spiritual annihilation? Bring it on. What’s so bad about it? 2. Judaism does value change. Judaism changes. We adapt. That’s how we’ve survived. So what’s so wrong with this? Why can’t Judaism change and just allow this to happen? 3. Regarding conversion:  1. there is something authentic about Joanne being real. She doesn’t know that she wants to convert, and she is willing to break off the relationship for her.  2. Similarly, Noah does say, “I don’t want to be the person who’s asking you to be someone different.” 4. Is it wrong because the kids won’t be Jewish? What’s the source for the mother determining Jewish kids, anyway? 5. Seriously, though - would this be better if it was a non-Jewish boy marrying a Jewish girl? The kids will be Jewish!   I am excited to welcome Rabbi Rick Fox back to the podcast as he joins us on this episode to answer our questions. Rabbi Fox formerly joined us twice. First, to discuss the Matrix, and what the Torah approach is to taking the blue pill or the red pill. Second, to discuss Pulp Fiction and the Jewish perspective on the events in our lives, whether it is Divine intervention or luck. Rabbi Fox is the Executive Director of MEOR Penn, which is a Jewish outreach organization, servicing the Jewish community at the University of Pennsylvania as a campus chaplain, educator and mentor. A graduate of the Wharton School of Business at Penn with a minor in music. Rabbi Fox began his career in marketing consulting even as he remained an avid musician. While on sabbatical in Israel, Rabbi Fox developed a passion for Jewish education, eventually returning to teach Jewish students at his alma mater in 2015. Rabbi Fox resides in Philadelphia with his wife and four children. His wife, Rivkah Fox, is an active shadchanit i.e. matchmaker and founder of BlindFate, a dating platform for Jews all over the world. You can find Rabbi Rick Fox online on his podcast, “So, What Does Judaism Say About..?”, which is available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts and Amazon, and on Instagram @rabbirickfox. You can find his wife Rivkah Fox on Instagram @rivkahfox. If you enjoy this episode, please leave us a five star review, share it with your friends, and hit follow! That’s the best way to grow our following, and feel free to leave a movie suggestion and dilemma in the comments. We’d love to hear from you.   Rabbi Rick Fox: https://www.instagram.com/rabbirickfox/ [https://www.instagram.com/rabbirickfox/] Rivkah Fox: https://www.instagram.com/rivkahfox/ [https://www.instagram.com/rivkahfox/] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Skgi4px0z692jdlwSeiRz [https://open.spotify.com/show/3Skgi4px0z692jdlwSeiRz] Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-what-does-judaism-say-about/id1632137067 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-what-does-judaism-say-about/id1632137067] Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/66b36dd4-0052-40a4-b3c4-40241ed7616e/so-what-does-judaism-say-about [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/66b36dd4-0052-40a4-b3c4-40241ed7616e/so-what-does-judaism-say-about]