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Don't Put Me in a Box (One Year of Proof the Plan Works)

Episode 56: "Don't Put Me in a Box" (One Year of Proof the Plan Works) Someone put you in a box today. Maybe you did it to yourself, calling it a marketing problem or a confidence problem, when the truth was something else entirely. Episode Description: This is the One Year on Air episode, and instead of a highlight reel, Host Shelly Rood gets specific about the two places she got boxed in this year: the podcast itself, and the women veteran support services her team runs. She walks through the category design epiphany that finally explained why "marketing agency" and "lifestyle coach" never fit, credits Category Pirates and Macy Robison's Thought Leadership Archetype Quiz for the language, and plays six guest moments from the year that all pointed to the same plan without ever naming it. Then the real numbers: top 1% globally for consistency, an invitation to co-host Veterans Radio, and the next benchmark on deck, Episode 100. In This Episode: * Why going into the box was never the problem, staying there was * The category design epiphany, and what Category Pirates taught Shelly about naming her own business * Six guest voices, one plan nobody had named yet * The real number behind Year One, and what's next for Year Two Chapters: 00:00 Box Box Box Reset 00:57 One Year Milestone 02:46 The Unnamed Category 05:36 Women Veterans Wildflower 09:07 Category Design Breakthrough 19:30 Year Two Call To Action Featured Voices: Carrie Mead (Ep17), Donald Miller (Ep2), Vicki Selva (Ep33), Adam Castillo (Ep47), Nancy Dakin, and Andy Stumpf (Ep55) each appear with the single moment from their episode that mattered most this year. Next Week: Episode 57 kicks off Season 2. Same framework, same edge, new territory. Resources: * Thought Leadership Archetype Quiz (Macy Robison): https://macyrobison.com/quiz [https://macyrobison.com/quiz] * Category Pirates (Christopher Lochhead & Eddie Yoon): https://www.categorypirates.news/ [https://www.categorypirates.news/] * Join the community: join.othersoverself.com [join.othersoverself.com] Affiliate Disclaimer: I only recommend products I genuinely use. Full disclosure: https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/ [https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/] Get the Gear: 📊 My Business Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report] 🎯 StoryBrand.ai: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai] 📈 My Marketing Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report] Listen: [Apple Podcasts] | [Spotify] | [YouTube] | https://othersoverself.com [https://othersoverself.com] Connect: LinkedIn: [Mission Ambition] | Instagram: @TheShellyRood Email: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] Rate & Review: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts

Drownproof: Eight Life Lessons to Keep Your Head Above Water

EP55: Drownproof: Eight Life Lessons to Keep Your Head Above Water You've built your whole identity around what you accomplish, and it worked, until the day it didn't. This week, host Shelly Rood sits down a fellow Veteran - a retired Navy SEAL - who says the strongest people he's ever known are the first ones to ask for help, and who's still working out what it costs when you don't. Andy Stumpf spent seventeen years as a Navy SEAL, six of those on SEAL Team Six. In February 2005, an insurgent shot him at close range on a deployment in Iraq, doctors weren't sure he'd walk the same again. He came back, and later set two world records skydiving from 36,500 feet to raise $750,000 for the Navy SEAL Foundation. His book, "Drownproof: Eight Life Lessons to Keep Your Head Above Water," is a New York Times bestseller with a foreword from Jocko Willink. In this conversation, Andy talks candidly about why asking for help gets treated as weakness in high-performance cultures when it's actually the opposite, why money is a tool to say no rather than a way to acquire things, and what his own career cost his marriage and his kids the first time around. We also get into a live, unresolved question: what happens when the label you've earned starts doing more work for your identity than you want it to. CHAPTERS 00:00 Show Intro and Teaser 01:18 Season One Finale Setup 01:52 Meet Andy Stumpf 04:08 Montana Life and Big Sky 04:54 Spirituality and Saying I Dont Know 07:23 Podcast Questions and Relationship Themes 09:50 Entrepreneurial Path and Coffee Shop 13:00 Money as a Tool to Say No 14:53 Drown Proof and Identity Beyond SEAL 17:24 Asking for Help and Alcohol Culture 21:41 Competition Social Media and Jujitsu 35:50 Final Advice and Host Closing Reflections KEY TOPICS * Why the most capable people ask for help first, not last * Reframing money as a tool to say no, not a way to acquire things * The real cost of chasing danger and delaying what matters most * Being more than the label you've earned, even one you're proud of GUEST Andy Stumpf, retired Navy SEAL (SEAL Team Six), New York Times bestselling author of Drownproof: Eight Life Lessons to Keep Your Head Above Water, host of Cleared Hot. RESOURCES * Grab Drownproof: Eight Life Lessons to Keep Your Head Above Water at your favorite bookstore * Go deeper into Andy's point of view: andystumpf.com [https://andystumpf.com] CONNECT WITH HARDCORE AND AT EASE * Join the community: join.othersoverself.com [https://join.othersoverself.com] * Take the Wildflower Assessment for Women Veterans: othersoverself.shop [https://othersoverself.shop/products/wildflower-assessment-for-women-veterans] * Be At Ease Woman Veteran gatherings: womanveteranstrong.org [https://womanveteranstrong.org] * Mission Wildflower on Substack: shellyrood.substack.com [https://shellyrood.substack.com] * Questions or booking inquiries: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] ABOUT THE HOST Shelly Rood is the host of Hardcore and At Ease, an Others Over Self® show for mission-driven leaders who want to keep their edge without going over the edge.

Don't Be Boring, Here's the Fix: Storytelling 101

Episode 54: "Don't Be Boring, Here's the Fix: Storytelling 101" Ever watched someone's eyes glaze over the second you started talking? You're not imagining it. And it's fixable. Episode Description This year, two interviews landed on Shelly's calendar that felt like a dream to book. Both guests are good people living lives of real service. Both conversations still fell flat, and not because of who they were. In this solo episode, Shelly unpacks what those two conversations had in common, and holds it up against a very different reaction from early in the show's history, a conversation with an eleven-time New York Times bestselling author that still stands as one of the best interviews on the podcast. The difference wasn't credentials. It was storytelling. You'll walk away with a new way to think about who owns your story, who doesn't, and the one shift that turns "talking about yourself" into a story people lean into instead of tune out of. Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Promise 01:22 Two Interviews Fell Flat 03:09 Donald Miller Breakthrough 05:39 Why Stories Hook Us 09:10 Zoom In on Stakes 11:43 Permission vs Craft 15:48 Interviewer Skill Gap 17:09 Three Questions to Open Up 21:21 Takeaways and Closing Key Topics * Why the most accomplished people can still tell a boring story * The difference between owning your story and earning permission to tell it * What good storytelling borrows from Save the Cat and The Seven Basic Plots * Why the interviewer's own skill matters as much as the guest's story Next Week: Episode 55 — Andy Stumpf, US Navy SEAL (ret.) Resources & Links Learn More: * Hardcore and At Ease Framework: https://www.OthersOverSelf.com [https://www.OthersOverSelf.com] * Personal Mission Statement Workshop: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] * Book a Strategy Session: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] Affiliate Disclaimer: I earn commissions when you purchase through links on this site, podcast, or social media. I only recommend products and services I genuinely use and believe will help you. These commissions come at no additional cost to you and help support the content I create. For complete details, see our full affiliate policy. Get the Gear: 📊 My Business Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report] 🎯 StoryBrand.ai: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai] 📚 Business Made Simple: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms] 🚀 Flight School: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/flight-school [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/flight-school] 📈 My Marketing Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report] Subscribe & Connect Listen: Apple Podcasts [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/listen] | Spotify [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/listen] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbwdY5eMeQlCbUmUIAmiiedzPazjuPBxG] | https://othersoverself.com Connect: LinkedIn: Mission Ambition [https://www.linkedin.com/company/missionambition/] | Instagram: @OthersOverSelf [https://www.instagram.com/othersoverself/] | Twitter/X: @OthersOverSelf Email: info@missionambition.org Rate & Review: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts Work with Shelly: One-on-One Coaching | Personal Mission Statement Workshop | Team Training. Book a discovery call: info@missionambition.org

What Strong Looks Like After the Hard Stuff

EPISODE 53: "WHAT STRONG LOOKS LIKE AFTER THE HARD STUFF" Strong is not the absence of hard stuff. It is what you build on the other side of it. This episode shows you what that looks like in practice. The leaders who perform at the highest level have usually been through the most. The question nobody asks out loud is how do you stay yourself through all of it — still sharp, still clear, still in the game — when the terrain has been relentless. In this conversation we explore that through the lens of someone who has lived it. From crime scenes to command, from dual military marriage to raising sons who deployed, she has been inside more of the hard stuff than most. What she found inside it, and how she came out the other side, is the conversation worth having. Daina Durham went into the Military Police Corps and came out a CID Special Agent with purview over everything at the felony level — from procurement to fraud to death to murder. She was the only female agent in an office of twenty guys. Her last position before retiring: chief executive of a law enforcement agency. Daughter of a veteran. A veteran. Married to a veteran. Mother of veterans. In this episode you'll hear how she kept a 38-year marriage alive through dual deployments and competing careers, why the strongest leaders are often the last to recognize stress injuries in themselves, what it looks like to rebuild your identity after the uniform comes off, and how she found her way to solid ground after decades inside the hardest terrain a person can walk. CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome And Big Question 03:09 Meet Dinah Durham 06:26 From Street Cop To Army CID 08:51 Marriage Under Deployment Stress 21:10 Leaving Service And Inner Work 31:01 Marriage Maintenance Mindset 33:29 Stop Comparing and Be Real 34:37 Integrity and Authentic Leadership 38:41 Female Friendship and Identity 52:11 Healing Trauma and Finding Hope In this episode you'll discover: ✓ Why the strongest performers are often carrying the most they've never named — and what changes when they finally open the file ✓ What 38 years of military marriage teaches about connection that daily communication never will ✓ The difference between perfection (a trap) and excellence (a standard you can actually build on) ✓ How to recognize the moment the rucksack needs to be inventoried before it carries you FEATURED GUEST: Daina Durham | Army CID Special Agent | Law Enforcement Executive | Counselor, Warrior Set Free Connect: warriorsetfree.org [warriorsetfree.org] NEXT WEEK: Episode 54 — A special message from Shelly on the relationships that determine how far you go. LEARN MORE: Hardcore and At Ease Framework: https://www.OthersOverSelf.com [https://www.OthersOverSelf.com] Mission Wildflower (Women Veterans): https://shellyrood.substack.com [https://shellyrood.substack.com] Wildflower Assessment for Women Veterans: https://othersoverself.shop/products/wildflower-assessment-for-women-veterans [https://othersoverself.shop/products/wildflower-assessment-for-women-veterans] | Strategy Session: info@missionambition.org Affiliate Disclaimer: I only recommend products I genuinely use. Full disclosure: https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/ [https://othersoverself.com/affiliate-disclaimer/] GET THE GEAR: 📊 My Business Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/biz-report] 🎯 StoryBrand.ai: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/storybrand-ai] 📚 Business Made Simple: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/bms] 🚀 Flight School: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/flight-school [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/flight-school] 📈 My Marketing Report: https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/marketing-report] LISTEN: Apple Podcasts [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/listen] | Spotify [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/listen] | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbwdY5eMeQlCbUmUIAmiiedzPazjuPBxG] | CONNECT: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/company/missionambition/] | Instagram @TheShellyRood [https://www.instagram.com/othersoverself/] | Email: info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org] RATE & REVIEW: Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts [https://hardcore-and-at-ease.captivate.fm/listen] WORK WITH SHELLY: One-on-One Coaching | Workshops | Team Training | info@missionambition.org [info@missionambition.org]

FISDAP Study Guide: Paramedic Exam Prep Answers (Bonus Episode)

FISDAP Study Guide: Paramedic Exam Prep Answers (Bonus Episode) What you're getting: This episode is a straight resource drop. We're going audio on the Fisdap Medical Study Guide—all the questions, all the answers, organized by medical topic so you can listen, study, and prepare without staring at a blank outline wondering where to start. The problem this solves: If you're studying for paramedic certification or teaching paramedic education, you've seen the question outlines. They tell you what to learn but not always how to answer. You're hunting through Bledsoe's Paramedic Care looking for specifics on lung sounds, toxidromes, septic shock presentations, seizure types. The studying becomes the obstacle instead of the learning. How to use this: Listen front to back if you're cramming. Jump to the chapter you need if you're targeting weak spots. Test yourself: pause the audio, answer the question in your own words, then play through the answer to see what you missed. The best study tool is the one you actually use—and this one works whether you're driving to your shift, at the gym, or at the kitchen table at midnight. Topics covered: * Respiratory & Pulmonology * Toxicology * Psychiatric * GI/GU * Neurology * Endocrinology * Nephrology * Infectious Diseases * Hematology * Miscellaneous conditions Reference: Bledsoe's Paramedic Care: Principles & Practice, Volumes 1 & 2