Midlife Cry, Sis (Formerly known as The Bettys Podcast)

139 - So Long, Farewell

Hello, Queens! Betcha didn’t expect a bonus episode! Well, you’re welcome. Alexis and Mary give some final updates as we wrap up this show.  Mary talks about cars and school, while Lexy talks about her job and being toxic AF.    We also talk about emotions, and Disney/Pixar’s Inside Out 2 [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt22022452/?ref_=ext_shr_lnk], and we’ve included a blooper reel at the end of this episode for your listening pleasure.   You can find some of our episodes on YouTube. Check it out here [https://www.youtube.com/@MidlifeCrySis-ci9ip]   Thank you for listening, and for your love and support while we’ve been podcasting. We’re so grateful for you, and we hope we’ve helped you a little bit on your own journeys.   We love you!

138 - Frida, Bruce, and Big Magic

Hello, Queens. This is a bit of a different episode–Mary is flying solo today. She ties together a few things: artist Frida Kahlo [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frida_Kahlo], musician Bruce Springsteen [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruce_Springsteen], and the book Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert [https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/books/big-magic/], which she has been talking about for several weeks now. You can find links to all of the books we have recommended on the podcast here on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/OL1GRUYOJH0Z?ref_=wl_share].    Mary goes quickly through the sections of the book, and describes how both Kahlo and Springsteen used these concepts in their creative careers. As promised, here’s a link to Mary’s Bruce Springsteen playlist [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2IliZEwl3JeIeIaXOWUX3h?si=855255c120b5449d] on Spotify.   Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com [midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com]  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast [https://www.instagram.com/midlifecrysis_podcast/], or join our Facebook group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1027773071640717/].  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast [https://www.tiktok.com/@thebettyspodcast] and on Twitter @bettys_podcast [https://twitter.com/bettys_podcast].    We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.   We love you!

137 - Emotional Immaturity

Hello, Queens! We start today’s episode with a Mama Ximena tip of the day/pearl of wisdom: “Be patient with yourself. Wait until the water is clear–then you can think. Don’t try to think in a whirlwind.” Or a whirlpool. How’s Feral February going for you? Lexy is dejunking, to help make her psyche as strong and brilliant as possible. And Mary will never pass up a chance to plug Gretchen Rubin [https://gretchenrubin.com/], who says that outer order leads to inner calm. Read her manifesto here [https://gretchenrubin.com/articles/outer-order-inner-calm-manifesto/], and check out her book Outer Order, Inner Calm here [https://gretchenrubin.com/books/outer-order-inner-calm/]. (And here’s a link to our ever-expanding Amazon book recommendations! [https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/OL1GRUYOJH0Z?ref_=wl_share])   Mary has been thinking about how the concept of “Fight, Flight, or Freeze’ can apply to many different situations–from housekeeping to emotional immaturity. She mentions again the We Can Do Hard Things podcast [https://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/], particularly the two-part series on emotional immaturity (episodes 263 and 264) with Clinical Psychologist Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson [http://www.lindsaygibsonpsyd.com/]. Listen here on Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/263-healing-from-emotionally-immature-parents-with/id1564530722?i=1000637517353] or here on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/344qecXTx793cJhIUBjl54?si=TrS80BLERCaa9qkxS3NnwA].   We refer to the “Islands of Intelligence” theory (read more about it here [https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0166411508627594] and here [https://pz.harvard.edu/projects/multiple-intelligences]), and how different people can be geniuses at different things. But as the saying goes: "Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" (often attributed to Einstein, but nobody is really sure. See this USA Today article written about it [https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/factcheck/2021/04/27/fact-check-einstein-never-said-quote-fish-climbing-trees/7384370002/]).   Here’s the link the article from Om Swami [https://omswami.com/] called Four Kinds of Maturity [https://os.me/four-kinds-of-maturity/]. And here’s the link to the article from verywellhealth.com about Emotional Immaturity [https://www.verywellhealth.com/emotional-immaturity-warning-signs-5218497].  If you like what you hear, please visit our Patreon page [https://www.patreon.com/MidlifeCrySisPodcast]! Support starts at just $5/month.   Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel, if you’d like to see a more interactive and entertaining version of this episode! Check it out here [https://www.youtube.com/@MidlifeCrySis-ci9ip]!    Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com [midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com]  and please follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast [https://www.instagram.com/midlifecrysis_podcast/], or join our Facebook group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1027773071640717/].  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast [https://www.tiktok.com/@thebettyspodcast] and on Twitter @bettys_podcast [https://twitter.com/bettys_podcast].    We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.   Thank you for listening today, Queens. Remember to treat yourself like a toddler, and go take a nap. We love you!

136 - Disappointment

Hello, Queens! Alexis and Mary are talking about how many people may disappoint us, and how difficult it can be to give ourselves permission to disappoint others. The solution is not always in the pulling of weeds, but possibly in allowing ourselves to be in our ‘disappoint everybody’ era.   Lexy talks about The Courage To Be Disliked [https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness/dp/1501197274/ref=asc_df_1501197274/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=693443598479&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16349669986921428178&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9029755&hvtargid=pla-554722105364&psc=1&mcid=9e7371fd28063eeaa2eb26840baf64d8&gad_source=1] by Ichiro Kishimi. As usual, here is a list of all our book recommendations here on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/OL1GRUYOJH0Z?ref_=wl_share]. Mary mentions the film (500) Days of Summer [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1022603/], and in particular this clip of Expectations vs. Reality [https://youtu.be/yxV9G4-UM6M?si=8-TnWXfYnhgJdyuK]. We also talk about boundaries and beliefs.   Our challenge this week is to look objectively at yourself and your relationships, goals and career, and figure out what belief system you are using to support your fear of disappointment. What is disappointment doing for you? Is it motivating you, or is it shutting you down?   You can support our podcast, please visit our Patreon page [https://www.patreon.com/MidlifeCrySisPodcast] for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.   Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here [https://www.youtube.com/@MidlifeCrySis-ci9ip]!    Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com [midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com]  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast [https://www.instagram.com/midlifecrysis_podcast/], or join our Facebook group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1027773071640717/].  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast [https://www.tiktok.com/@thebettyspodcast] and on Twitter @bettys_podcast [https://twitter.com/bettys_podcast].    We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.   We love you!

135 - Breathwork, Bridgerton, and Being ALL THE THINGS

Greetings, Queens! Alexis and Mary are recording at 1:30am, and we’re a little loopy after doing a heavy breathwork session. We may or may not have new merch that says: “Fire Crotch. Give me a meat stick.”   Mary talks a little about her obsession with Bridgerton on Netflix [https://www.netflix.com/title/80232398], especially Season 3, which just debuted last week. They are based on a book series by Julia Quinn [https://juliaquinn.com/], which you can find here [https://a.co/d/dzedUfr]. Mary hasn’t read the books, so she can’t exactly recommend them, but (as per usual), here are all of our book recommendations here on Amazon [https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/OL1GRUYOJH0Z?ref_=wl_share]. But the books, plus the ingenious golden touch of the incomparable Shonda Rhimes [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shonda_Rhimes], equals magic. We do give some ***SPOILERS*** so don’t hate! You can support our podcast, please visit our Patreon page [https://www.patreon.com/MidlifeCrySisPodcast] for some extra goodies. Support starts at just $5/month, and it would be really great if we got paid to, like, talk.   Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel. Check it out here [https://www.youtube.com/@MidlifeCrySis-ci9ip]!    Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com [midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com]  and follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast [https://www.instagram.com/midlifecrysis_podcast/], or join our Facebook group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1027773071640717/].  We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast [https://www.tiktok.com/@thebettyspodcast] and on Twitter @bettys_podcast [https://twitter.com/bettys_podcast].    We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.   Remember to watch out for clear dipping oil if you don’t want crispy hair. We love you!