Other Peoples Parenting

Good Inside - The Parenting Rules Most of Us Weren’t Taught.

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times [https://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/21/books/vicarious-living-power-of-snob-appeal.html] best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles [https://www.amazon.com/Ivy-Chronicles-Karen-Quinn/dp/0670033812] , founder of Habit Coach [https://habitcoach.com/] and Testing Mom [https://www.testingmom.com/]) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) -The focus is the exploration of Dr. Becky Kennedy's parenting philosophy as articulated in her book "Good Inside." We consider that misbehavior in children serves as a window into their emotional states and unmet needs, rather than a reflection of their character. Throughout the discussion, we examine the significance of fostering emotional intelligence and resilience in children, emphasizing the necessity for parents to approach conflicts with empathy and understanding. We also appreciate the book's structured approach, which offers practical frameworks and specific strategies for addressing common parenting challenges, thereby equipping caregivers with the tools necessary for effective guidance. This episode covers the transformative power of nurturing a compassionate, connected relationship between parents and their children. Takeaways: * In this episode, we explore Dr. Becky Kennedy's book, "Good Inside," which provides valuable insights into understanding children's behavior beyond mere discipline. * The podcast emphasizes the importance of viewing misbehavior as a clue to a child's emotional needs rather than a reflection of their character. * Listeners are encouraged to adopt the perspective of assuming the best in children, known as the 'most generous interpretation', to foster better communication. * A critical takeaway from the discussion includes recognizing that children's emotional development is influenced by their early years and the attachment they form with caregivers. Links referenced in this episode: * habitcoach.com [https://habitcoach.com] * otherpeoplesparenting.com [https://otherpeoplesparenting.com] Companies mentioned in this episode: * Habit Coach * Testing Mom * Dr. Becky Kennedy * Testing Mom

Being There - The First Three Years Don’t Come With A Redo Button.

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times [https://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/21/books/vicarious-living-power-of-snob-appeal.html] best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles [https://www.amazon.com/Ivy-Chronicles-Karen-Quinn/dp/0670033812] , founder of Habit Coach [https://habitcoach.com/] and Testing Mom [https://www.testingmom.com/]) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - we discuss the importance of maternal presence during the formative years of a child's life, as posed by Erica Commissar's book, "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters." We talk through our opposite opinions of the content, particularly regarding the implications of a mother's absence and the societal pressures surrounding motherhood and career aspirations. The conversation covers balancing professional obligations with the emotional and developmental needs of children, emphasizing that while some aspects of the book resonate, others warrant scrutiny due to their potential to induce guilt in working mothers. We advocate for a more inclusive perspective that recognizes the nature of parenting and the varied circumstances that families encounter. This book focuses on the compelling argument that a mother's presence during the years of infancy is paramount to the emotional and psychological development of the child. Throughout our discussion, we dissect the author's assertions, noting that while one of us finds profound resonance in the author's perspective, the other perceives an overtly prescriptive stance that may not universally apply. The conversation covers the delicate balance between maternal employment and child-rearing, ultimately questioning the societal implications of the author's thesis. Takeaways: * This episode examines the book 'Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters', authored by Erica Commissar. * We explore our differing interpretations of the book's core thesis, focusing on maternal presence during early childhood. * We expressed concerns about the implications of guilt placed upon working mothers by the book's arguments. * The discussion also emphasized the need for societal support for working mothers, noting that economic factors often dictate parenting choices. * The podcast highlights the importance of being emotionally present for children, regardless of whether the mother can stay home full-time. * The episode concludes with a reflection on the balance between career and motherhood, advocating for individual choice in parenting. Links referenced in this episode: * testingmom.com [https://testingmom.com] * habitcoach.com [https://habitcoach.com] Companies mentioned in this episode: * Habit Coach * Testing Mom * Erica Commissar * Gail Sheehy * Dr. Ellen Jacobs * Kardashians * Testing Mom

Mom Groups - Because Parenting Isn’t Stressful Enough.

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times [https://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/21/books/vicarious-living-power-of-snob-appeal.html] best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles [https://www.amazon.com/Ivy-Chronicles-Karen-Quinn/dp/0670033812] , founder of Habit Coach [https://habitcoach.com/] and Testing Mom [https://www.testingmom.com/]) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) - the discussion revolves around the dynamics of mom groups, an exploration prompted by recent discussions surrounding the experiences of celebrities like Ashley Tisdale. We explore the nature of these groups, which can range from supportive and nurturing to toxic and exclusionary, reflecting the complexities of female friendships. We highlight both the challenges and benefits associated with motherhood and communal support, emphasizing that while some groups may foster camaraderie and understanding, others can perpetuate feelings of isolation and inadequacy. The discussion also touches upon the importance of moderation and the potential need for structured guidance within these social circles, as evidenced by the experiences of a long-standing mom group that has successfully navigated interpersonal conflicts over the years. We invite listeners to consider the significance of finding or cultivating a healthy support system in their parenting journeys, as the right group can profoundly impact one’s experience of motherhood. Articles Discussed: Breaking Up With My Toxic Mom Group [https://www.thecut.com/article/ashley-tisdale-french-mom-group-mean-girls-parenting.html] The Reason UES Momma's Disappeared [https://www.thecut.com/article/ues-mommas-facebook-group-shutdown-meta-tiffany-ma.html] Marriage, Kids, Careers: For 44 Years They've been Talking it Out [https://www.nytimes.com/2025/11/26/nyregion/group-women-friendships-marriage-family.html] Takeaways: * In this episode, we explore the complexities and dynamics of mom groups, emphasizing their potential to either nurture or harm women's friendships. * We discuss the recent controversy surrounding Ashley Tisdale's experiences in a toxic mom group, highlighting the social pressures involved in motherhood. * The episode underscores the importance of supportive communities for mothers, contrasting healthy groups with those that foster exclusion and negativity. * We examine a long-standing mom group in Long Island that has thrived for decades, showcasing the benefits of facilitated discussions and mutual support. * Listeners are encouraged to seek out or create local mom groups that foster genuine connection and support without excessive barriers to entry. * Throughout the episode, we reflect on our personal experiences with group dynamics, emphasizing the value of communication and understanding in nurturing friendships. Links referenced in this episode: * testingmom.com [https://testingmom.com] * otherpeoplesparenting.com [https://otherpeoplesparenting.com] * thecut.com [https://thecut.com] * nymag.com [https://nymag.com] Companies mentioned in this episode: * Habit Coach * Testing Mom * Ashley Tisdale * Facebook * The Cut * New York magazine * New York Times * Moby Max * Brain Pop * Scholastic * Testing Mom

Dad Truths - The Unfiltered Truth About Fatherhood

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times [https://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/21/books/vicarious-living-power-of-snob-appeal.html] best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles [https://www.amazon.com/Ivy-Chronicles-Karen-Quinn/dp/0670033812] , founder of Habit Coach [https://habitcoach.com/] and Testing Mom [https://www.testingmom.com/]) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) -we explore a parenting book that offers valuable insights into the experiences of fathers, particularly emphasizing the unique challenges they face in contemporary parenting. We delve into the humor and heart author Mike Julianelle (@dadandburied) leads with addressing the often unrecognized burdens of parenting. Our conversation highlights the importance of shared responsibilities and the necessity for fathers to be actively engaged in nurturing their children. The book not only illuminates the practical aspects of parenting but also fosters a deeper understanding of the emotional landscape of fatherhood. Takeaways: * The podcast emphasizes the unique challenges and experiences of parents in navigating the complexities of child-rearing. * We explore the concept that parenting books are often geared towards mothers, leaving a significant gap in literature that addresses fathers specifically. * Throughout the episode, we delve into the notion that no parent is ever truly prepared for the responsibilities of raising a child, highlighting the unpredictability of parenting. * The discussion reflects on the societal expectations placed on mothers versus fathers, illustrating the differing perceptions of parental involvement and competency. * We discuss the importance of open communication between partners in parenting, particularly about the division of responsibilities and emotional labor. * The podcast also touches on the funny and poignant reality of parenting, where every new stage brings its own set of challenges that require adaptability and resilience. Links referenced in this episode: * habitcoach.com [https://habitcoach.com] * expectingbetter.com [https://expectingbetter.com] Companies mentioned in this episode: * Habit Coach * Testing Mom * Mike Julianelle (@dadandburied) * Expecting Better * Emily Oster

Calm The Chaos - Parenting the Most Challenging Child

On this episode of 'Other People's Parenting' hosted by mother daughter duo Karen Quinn (New York Times [https://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/21/books/vicarious-living-power-of-snob-appeal.html] best selling author of The Ivy Chronicles [https://www.amazon.com/Ivy-Chronicles-Karen-Quinn/dp/0670033812] , founder of Habit Coach [https://habitcoach.com/] and Testing Mom [https://www.testingmom.com/]) and Schuyler Hurwitz (amateur parent) -we talk about the insights found in the book "Calm the Chaos" by Dana Abraham, which presents a framework intended for parents grappling with the complexities of raising children exhibiting challenging behaviors. Abraham believes the key to navigating such tumultuous parenting landscapes lies in fostering positive interactions, establishing effective communication, and employing structured strategies to cultivate emotional regulation in children. Throughout the episode, we reflect on the necessity of understanding the underlying causes of disruptive behaviors, emphasizing that all behavior is a form of communication. We also explore the significance of maintaining your composure during volatile moments, serving as a stabilizing presence for your child. As we delve deeper into the various techniques proposed by Abraham, we advocate for a tailored approach, recognizing that parental strategies must be adaptable to the unique dynamics of each family. The podcast delves into the intricacies of parenting, specifically focusing on the challenges faced by parents of children who exhibit disruptive behavior. Schuyler Hurwitz and Karen Quinn, illuminate the themes presented in Dana Abraham's book, *Calm the Chaos*, which aims to provide insights and strategies for managing and understanding the emotional turmoil that can arise within the family dynamic. The discussion reveals the emotional weight borne by parents who feel overwhelmed, often questioning their ability to effectively nurture their children in the face of chaos. We examine the author's perspective that behavior is a form of communication, urging parents to uncover the underlying needs that drive their child's actions. They emphasize the importance of positive interactions and the necessity for parents to maintain their own emotional reserves in order to foster a supportive environment for their children. Overall, the episode serves as a poignant reminder that amidst the challenges of parenting, understanding and connection remain paramount to fostering harmony within the familial structure. Takeaways: * In this episode, we delve into the parenting book entitled 'Calm the Chaos', authored by Dana Abraham, which provides valuable insights for parents. * The author emphasizes the importance of understanding that all behavior is communication, which can help parents address their children's needs effectively. * A significant takeaway from the discussion is the concept of positive interactions, highlighting the necessity of five positive interactions for every negative one. * The podcast underscores the necessity of parents maintaining their energy reserves, suggesting practical strategies like journaling and self-care to manage stress. * The episode articulates a framework for supporting children who may struggle with behavioral issues, encouraging a focus on root causes rather than punitive measures. * Lastly, we explore the idea of reframing a child's struggles as potential superpowers, which can lead to positive outcomes and personal growth. Companies mentioned in this episode: * Habit Coach * Testing Mom * Calm the Chaos * Dana Abraham * Zara * Bed, Bath and Beyond