Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education

Am I a bad person for paying for sex?

Today, we're answering a listener question about sex work from the perspective of a client. Is it bad to pay for sex? Why did it make this listener feel awful afterwards? It's time to dispel some myths about sex work and see what the root of this shame might be. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3XXt-xUq4KALu5ZnfPNwGsmIad1XQBqlHjuVsqSeDxWCuXQ/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1] FROM THIS EPISODE: Come to our Bi Flirting Night on 6/12 in Oakland, CA! [https://partiful.com/e/w2d2bV4SqGSfaUSjyLVD] | Our episode "The Realities of Queer Disabled Sex and Pleasure with Andrew Gurza" [https://pod.link/1286811573/episode/NGRlMzQ2YTMtZjllNC00NDQ2LWI5ODEtYjkxMjk1Y2Y2YTgy] | Our episode "Hardwired for Connection: Intimacy, Pleasure, and Survival with Dr. Justin Garcia" [https://pod.link/1286811573/episode/NTg4MGJkNWItYjZjNi00ZWI0LWEwNDQtNzE4N2ZlNzg5M2Qz] TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZ: Find your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the good stuff with curated pages, poems, and audios. No slow burn. No fluff. Just pleasure.; Take the quiz here: https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz [https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz] ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Sex Ed with DB [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/] is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. GET IN TOUCH: Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com [sexedwithdb@gmail.com] CONNECT WITH US: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithdbpodcast/]; TikTok: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb]; Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.threads.net/@sexedwithdbpodcast]; YouTube: Sex Ed with DB [https://www.youtube.com/@SexEdwithDB]; X: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb] SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 14 SPONSORS: Uberlube [https://tidd.ly/47CjpPz], Magic Wand [https://bit.ly/45YTySn], Nancy [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/discounts], and Happy V [https://happyv.com/products/probiotics-vaginal-health-supplement?utm_source=sexedwithdbpodcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=ep9&utm_term=2026&utm_content=prebioticprobiotic]. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here [https://bit.ly/3s7fS7d]! DISCOVER SEX POSITIVE EVENTS IN YOUR CITY: Subscribe to our newsletter [https://substack.com/@sexedwithdb] for S.E.X I.R.L: your curated monthly list of sex-positive events, spaces, and experiences happening in person across major cities. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS: Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop] SEASON 14 TEAM: Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) [https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellebezalel/] (she/her); Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them); Social Media & Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her) MUSIC: Intro theme music: Hook Sounds; Background music: Bright State by Ketsa; Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa.; Thank you Ketsa! [https://ketsamusic.com/about]

Sex, Dating, and Finding Your Pleasure After Divorce with Dr. Lexx Brown-James

In this episode, DB welcomes back three-time guest Dr. Lexx Brown-James [https://www.instagram.com/lexxsexdoc/] to talk about what she's learned from working with folks in relationships for almost two decades. From gaining confidence to giving yourself the time you need to the dating apps, let's break down some of what post-divorce folks might experience in dating. What is it like getting back into the dating pool after a divorce? In one word, according to Dr. Lexx: intentional. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES [https://lexxsexdoc.com/] is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for shame free sexuality education and building intimate partner connection. As an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, Dr. Lexx lectures, trains, and does therapy for academic, professional and general audiences. As a multiple time best seller, Dr. Lexx is an international sexologist. Featured in prominent media like CNN, Essence, It Gets Better, Scary Mommy, and Therapy for Black Girls, Dr. Lexx's goal is to educate others about sexuality from womb to tomb. FROM THIS EPISODE: Come to our Bi Flirting Night on 6/12 in Oakland, CA! [https://partiful.com/e/w2d2bV4SqGSfaUSjyLVD] | Nicole Kidman divorce meme [https://i.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/002/952/039/ab2.png] | Princess Diana revenge dress image [https://media.vogue.co.uk/photos/619cb87481b9572fb027135d/master/pass/GettyImages-73399197.jpg] and Wikipedia page dedicated entirely to this dress [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Revenge_dress] TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZ: Find your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the good stuff with curated pages, poems, and audios. No slow burn. No fluff. Just pleasure.; Take the quiz here: https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz [https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz] ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3XXt-xUq4KALu5ZnfPNwGsmIad1XQBqlHjuVsqSeDxWCuXQ/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1] ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Sex Ed with DB [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/] is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. GET IN TOUCH: Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com [sexedwithdb@gmail.com] CONNECT WITH US: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithdbpodcast/]; TikTok: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb]; Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.threads.net/@sexedwithdbpodcast]; YouTube: Sex Ed with DB [https://www.youtube.com/@SexEdwithDB]; X: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb] SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 14 SPONSORS: Uberlube [https://tidd.ly/47CjpPz], Magic Wand [https://bit.ly/45YTySn], Nancy [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/discounts], and Happy V [https://happyv.com/products/probiotics-vaginal-health-supplement?utm_source=sexedwithdbpodcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=ep8&utm_term=2026&utm_content=prebioticprobiotic]. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here [https://bit.ly/3s7fS7d]! DISCOVER SEX POSITIVE EVENTS IN YOUR CITY: Subscribe to our newsletter [https://substack.com/@sexedwithdb] for S.E.X I.R.L: your curated monthly list of sex-positive events, spaces, and experiences happening in person across major cities. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS: Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop] SEASON 14 TEAM: Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) [https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellebezalel/] (she/her); Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them); Social Media & Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her) MUSIC: Intro theme music: Hook Sounds; Background music: Bright State by Ketsa; Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa.; Thank you Ketsa [https://ketsamusic.com/about]!

How do I balance religion and my sexual desires?

In this episode, DB answers an anonymous question from a listener about how to manage religious beliefs with changing views on sex, desire, and relationships. What does it mean when who we're becoming clashing with who we think we're supposed to be -- and how does that impact our relationships? ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3XXt-xUq4KALu5ZnfPNwGsmIad1XQBqlHjuVsqSeDxWCuXQ/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1] FURTHER LISTENING: Our episode "Sex, Spirituality, and Religion with Reverend Pleasure" [https://pod.link/1286811573/episode/ZDhkY2M2MTMtZWU2OS00OTk3LWJhYWUtMWE5MDZkMDQzNDA0] TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZ: Find your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the good stuff with curated pages, poems, and audios. No slow burn. No fluff. Just pleasure.; Take the quiz here: https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz [https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz] ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Sex Ed with DB [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/] is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. GET IN TOUCH: Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com [sexedwithdb@gmail.com] CONNECT WITH US: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithdbpodcast/]; TikTok: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb]; Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.threads.net/@sexedwithdbpodcast]; YouTube: Sex Ed with DB [https://www.youtube.com/@SexEdwithDB]; X: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb] SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 14 SPONSORS: Uberlube [https://tidd.ly/47CjpPz], Magic Wand [https://bit.ly/45YTySn], Nancy [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/discounts], and Happy V [https://happyv.com/products/probiotics-vaginal-health-supplement?utm_source=sexedwithdbpodcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=ep7&utm_term=2026&utm_content=prebioticprobiotic]. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here [https://bit.ly/3s7fS7d]! DISCOVER SEX POSITIVE EVENTS IN YOUR CITY: Subscribe to our newsletter [https://substack.com/@sexedwithdb] for S.E.X I.R.L: your curated monthly list of sex-positive events, spaces, and experiences happening in person across major cities. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS: Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop] SEASON 14 TEAM: Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) [https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellebezalel/] (she/her); Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them); Social Media & Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her) MUSIC: Intro theme music: Hook Sounds; Background music: Bright State by Ketsa; Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa.; Thank you Ketsa [https://ketsamusic.com/about]!

Pleasure as Resistance with Ericka Hart

Welcome to Season 14! We're kicking it off with an incredible conversation with Ericka Hart, author of the new book Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire, and Liberate Yourself! DB talks to Ericka about colonization, pleasure, shame, joy, and working in sex ed. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Ericka Hart (pronouns: she/they) is a black queer femme activist, writer, highly acclaimed speaker and award-winning sexuality educator with a Master's of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University. IN THIS EPISODE: Ericka's book: Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire, and Liberate Yourself [https://bookshop.org/a/119227/9780593497975] (this is an affiliate link, which really helps out our show!), Ericka's course Sex Ed as Resistance [https://ihartericka.com/sex-ed-as-resistance], the article we discussed in The Buzz [https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/ng-interactive/2026/mar/09/sex-education-mississippi-church], how to find out whose land you're living on right now [https://native-land.ca], and the Indigenous Women Rising Rain Fund [https://www.iwrising.org/donate]. DB donated, and if you can, you should too! TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZ: Find your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the good stuff with curated pages, poems, and audios. No slow burn. No fluff. Just pleasure.; Take the quiz here: https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz [https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz] ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3XXt-xUq4KALu5ZnfPNwGsmIad1XQBqlHjuVsqSeDxWCuXQ/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1] ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Sex Ed with DB [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/] is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. GET IN TOUCH: Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com [sexedwithdb@gmail.com] CONNECT WITH US: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithdbpodcast/]; TikTok: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb]; Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.threads.net/@sexedwithdbpodcast]; YouTube: Sex Ed with DB [https://www.youtube.com/@SexEdwithDB]; X: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb] SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 14 SPONSORS: Uberlube [https://tidd.ly/47CjpPz], Magic Wand [https://bit.ly/45YTySn], Nancy [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/discounts], and Happy V [https://happyv.com/products/probiotics-vaginal-health-supplement?utm_source=sexedwithdbpodcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=ep5&utm_term=2026&utm_content=prebioticprobiotic]. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here [https://bit.ly/3s7fS7d]! DISCOVER SEX POSITIVE EVENTS IN YOUR CITY: Subscribe to our newsletter [https://substack.com/@sexedwithdb] for S.E.X I.R.L: your curated monthly list of sex-positive events, spaces, and experiences happening in person across major cities. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS: Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop] SEASON 14 TEAM: Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) [https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellebezalel/] (she/her); Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them); Social Media & Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her) MUSIC: Intro theme music: Hook Sounds; Background music: Bright State by Ketsa; Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa.; Thank you, Ketsa [https://ketsamusic.com/about]!

Start Here: Pleasure, Orgasms, Kink, & Better Sex | Sex Ed with DB

We are coming back with Season 14 on May 20th, 2026! Join us in this new pleasure season of conversations with sex ed experts, answering anonymous questions from real listeners, and takes on the sexual wellness news and media happening right now. Want to have your question answered by DB on an episode? There's still time! ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe3XXt-xUq4KALu5ZnfPNwGsmIad1XQBqlHjuVsqSeDxWCuXQ/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1] TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZFind your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the good stuff with curated pages, poems, and audios. No slow burn. No fluff. Just pleasure. Take the quiz here: https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz [https://sexedwithdb.fillout.com/smutquiz] ABOUT SEASON 14 Season 14 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies -- you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH USInstagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/sexedwithdbpodcast/] TikTok: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb]Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast [https://www.threads.net/@sexedwithdbpodcast] X: @sexedwithdb [https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb]YouTube: Sex Ed with DB [https://www.youtube.com/@SexEdwithDB] SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 14 SPONSORS Uberlube [https://tidd.ly/47CjpPz], Magic Wand [https://bit.ly/45YTySn], Nancy [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/discounts], and Happy V [https://happyv.com/products/probiotics-vaginal-health-supplement?utm_source=sexedwithdbpodcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=ep5&utm_term=2026&utm_content=prebioticprobiotic]. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here [https://bit.ly/3s7fS7d]! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com [sexedwithdb@gmail.com]Subscribe to our newsletter [https://substack.com/@sexedwithdb] for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories! FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop] ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB [https://www.sexedwithdb.com/] is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education — delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. SEASON 14 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them) Social Media & Communications Manager: Iva Markicevic Daley (she/her) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa, Always Faithful by Ketsa, and Soul Epic by Ketsa. Thank you Ketsa! [https://ketsamusic.com/about]