Sex Matters.

We start with a listener question… “Are ball gags meant to make you gag?” (Inspired by episode 52) [https://sexmatterspodcast.com/podcast/episode-52-to-gag-or-not-to-gag-that-is-a-question/] Some about ball gags… purpose and safety. Stormy Daniel’s warning on the safe word that is NOT “safe” with a ball gag. Our relationship to sex? How do we engage in sex and sexuality… body, mind, spirit? What is it today, yesterday and how will it change and shift over time… to ourselves, our partners, our own evolution. Our values. Sex for sex sake Exploration Connection Used for pleasure USE for pleasure A gift Value in sexual experience… your value for you, how others value you, your body, Joy and fun How are your sexual experiences feeding you? Are YOU feeding them? Are they feeding you? How does role play and BDSM fit into this conversation? Journal? MORE WITH JUDY AND PATRICIA PATRICIA ENGELKING, PhD – Relationship Doula Learn more about Patricia, working with her as your coach on Patricia’s website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.com [https://www.patriciaengelking.com/] Find her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking [https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking] Her book – Crossing the river called suffering Or Her latest book… Embrace Your Sexual Energy You can click right to amazon through this website… Look on the right side. 🙂 [https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/11.2.0/72x72/1f642.png] JUDY BREUER– WEEKLY WELL-BEING PODCAST AND WELLNESS ADVOCATE Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance Podcast WellnessRenPodcast.com [http://WellnessRenPodcast.com] or listen on iTunes and other places you listen to podcasts.

Judy and Patricia came to this conversation with VERY different directions. The what. the why. the ego? Why do you ask to have sex with your ex? Why do you say yes if asked? What do you get out of it? Power? Disposable? Jack hammers? Empowered? Friends with benefits? Just the benefits? A few questions to ask ourselves as we enter into relationships Is the “just one more time” REALLY just one more time??.. Are ya going in eyes wide open… or eyes REALLY tightly shut? There are real emotions and real people’s lives involved What do you think?? Instagram: @stylo_erotique MORE WITH JUDY AND PATRICIA PATRICIA ENGELKING, PhD – Relationship Doula You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.com [https://www.patriciaengelking.com/] Find her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking [https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking] Her book – Crossing the river called suffering Or Her latest book… Embrace Your Sexual Energy You can click right to amazon through this website JUDY BREUER– WEEKLY WELL-BEING PODCAST AND WELLNESS ADVOCATE Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance Podcast WellnessRenPodcast.com [http://WellnessRenPodcast.com] or listen on iTunes

A conversation Patricia had about gagging during a blow job sparked some interesting conversations… SO, we continued the conversation here… Take a listen and chime in. Hear the responses and where people weighed in… and our added conversation. We’d love to hear from men in relationships with men and women…. what do YOU think? As the gag-ER… Click the “ask a question” link above and share away! MORE EPISODES OF SEX MATTERS PODCAST. AT… https://sexmatterspodcast.com/ [https://sexmatterspodcast.com/] Thank you for spending your time with us! SUPPORT THE PODCAST! YOUR GENEROUS… OR EVEN CONSERVATIVE… SUPPORT… BE THAT MONETARY SHARING, FEEDBACK, QUESTIONS… IT GOES A LONG WAY TO HELPING TO KEEP SEX MATTERS. PODCAST ALIVE AND KICKING. THANK YOU!!! https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters [https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters] FIND MORE OF JUDY AND PATRICIA PATRICIA ENGELKING, PhD – Relationship Doula You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.com [https://www.patriciaengelking.com/] Find her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking [https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking] Her book – Crossing the river called suffering Or Her latest book… Embrace Your Sexual Energy You can click right to amazon through this website JUDY BREUER– WEEKLY WELL-BEING PODCAST AND WELLNESS ADVOCATE Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance Podcast WellnessRenPodcast.com [http://WellnessRenPodcast.com] or listen on iTunes

Today we explore…. Patricia’s inspiration… The Way off the Superior Man.   Patricia pulled out an intriguing section in said book… Tolerating her leads to resentment. (Written in 1997… this is the 20 year anniversary addition.) The whys… the hows. We explore the author’s suggestions and add some of our own. We also talked about Indian food and moods, partner equality and other fun stuff. Take a listen… what do YOU think? Does this resonate? The book this chapter of discussion was taken… The Way of the Superior Man [Paperback] [Jan 01, 2017] David Deida https://amzn.to/3jn6u9C [https://amzn.to/3jn6u9C] Patricia also mentioned this book. Sex Matters: How Modern Feminism Lost Touch with Science, Love, and Common Sense by Mona Charen https://amzn.to/33kGXse [https://amzn.to/33kGXse] MORE EPISODES OF SEX MATTERS PODCAST. AT… https://sexmatterspodcast.com/ [https://sexmatterspodcast.com/] Thank you for spending your time with us! SUPPORT THIS PODCAST! YOUR GENEROUS… OR EVEN CONSERVATIVE… SUPPORT. GOES A LONG WAY TO HELPING TO KEEP SEX MATTERS. PODCAST ALIVE AND KICKING. THANK YOU!!! https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters [https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters] FIND MORE OF JUDY AND PATRICIA PATRICIA ENGELKING, PhD – Relationship Doula You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.com [https://www.patriciaengelking.com/] Find her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking [https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking] Her book – Crossing the river called suffering You can click right to amazon through the website JUDY BREUER– WEEKLY WELL-BEING PODCAST AND WELLNESS ADVOCATE Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance Podcast WellnessRenPodcast.com [http://WellnessRenPodcast.com] or listen on iTunes

IT IS OUT!!! So is Episode 50 And so it is Patricia’s 50th Birthday! Half way to being a centurion! YOU GO GIRL! CELEBRATE WITH US! And hear more about WHO should get “Embrace Your Sexual Energy”… Patricia’s new book. Yes, EVERYBODY of course! Wink, wink. Nudge nudge. But WHO and WHY this book can speak to so many… walk them through a journey of learning ourselves and our own mind. (You can check it out here… 🙂 [https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/11.2.0/72x72/1f642.png] https://amzn.to/2Fu1ktQ [https://amzn.to/2Fu1ktQ] Judy shares some of her perspectives on the book and why it matters. There are so many ways you could use this book. Know, it is an introspective journey that you will be taking… You are invited! –Have questions you want us to chat about… about sex… about Patrica’s Books? Send your questions, comments and thoughts here. https://sexmatterspodcast.com/questions/ [https://sexmatterspodcast.com/questions/] MORE EPISODES OF SEX MATTERS PODCAST. AT… https://sexmatterspodcast.com/ [https://sexmatterspodcast.com/] Thank you for spending your time with us! SUPPORT THIS PODCAST! YOUR GENEROUS… OR EVEN CONSERVATIVE… SUPPORT. GOES A LONG WAY TO HELPING TO KEEP SEX MATTERS. PODCAST ALIVE AND KICKING. THANK YOU!!! https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters [https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters] PATRICIA ENGELKING, PHD – RELATIONSHIP DOULA You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.com [https://www.patriciaengelking.com/] Find her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking [https://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lking] Her book – Crossing the river called suffering You can click right to amazon through the website JUDY BREUER– WEEKLY WELL-BEING PODCAST AND WELLNESS ADVOCATE Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance Podcast WellnessRenPodcast.com [http://WellnessRenPodcast.com] or listen on iTunes