Why Women Struggle With Sleep: From Adolescence to Menopause | Dr. Shelby Harris
Sleep problems are incredibly common among women—but they're often misunderstood.
In this episode of The Parenting Pair Podcast, clinical psychologists Annalise Caron and Suzanne Allen sit down with renowned sleep expert and board certified behavior sleep medicine specialist Dr. Shelby Harris to explore why women experience unique sleep challenges throughout their lives, from adolescence and parenthood to perimenopause and menopause.
Together, they unpack the biological, hormonal, emotional, and lifestyle factors that contribute to insomnia and sleep disruption, while offering practical, evidence-based strategies to improve sleep quality and overall well-being.
Whether you're a parent struggling with sleep, supporting a teen with sleep challenges, navigating midlife hormonal changes, or simply wondering why a good night's rest feels so elusive, this conversation is filled with actionable insights and hope.
In this episode, we discuss:
✔️ Why insomnia is more common in women
✔️ Hormones, sleep, and life transitions
✔️ The impact of stress, anxiety, and caregiving responsibilities
✔️ Sleep challenges during pregnancy, parenthood, perimenopause, and menopause
✔️ Common misconceptions about insomnia
✔️ Evidence-based strategies for improving sleep
✔️ When to seek professional support
Highlights from this episode:
00:00 Introduction: Why Women Struggle With Sleep
00:46 Meet Dr. Shelby Harris, clinical psychologist and Diplomate in Behavioral Sleep Medicine
03:10 Book Recommendation: The Women's Guide to Overcoming Insomnia
03:52 How Women's Sleep Changes Across the Lifespan
07:31 How Sleep Differs Between Women and Men
09:04 Trouble Sleeping? Why You Should Get Evaluated
09:39 What Insomnia Really Is (And What It Looks Like)
13:56 Why Women Often Delay Seeking Help for Sleep Problems
14:56 When and Where to Get Your Sleep Evaluated
20:53 CBT-I Explained: The Gold Standard for Insomnia Treatment
24:47 Sleep Apnea and Weight: Are They Related?
27:02 Sleep Apnea in Women: What the Research Shows
32:20 Revenge Bedtime Procrastination or "Momsomnia"
38:15 Follow Dr. Shelby Harris for More Sleep Tips
40:26 Dr. Shelby Harris's Top Recommendations for Better Sleep
Sleep affects every aspect of our lives—from emotional regulation and mental health to parenting, relationships, and physical health. Understanding how sleep changes across the lifespan can help you make informed decisions and develop healthier habits.
Resources discussed in this episode:
Where to find Dr. Shelby Harris:
https://www.drshelbyharris.com/
@sleepdocshelby
The Women's Guide to Overcoming Insomnia, Dr. Shelby Harris
https://wwnorton.com/books/9780393711615
The Essential Guide To Children's Sleep: A Tired Caregiver's Workbook for Every Age and Stage, Dr. Andrea Roth, Dr. Allison Shele & Dr. Shelby Harris
https://www.apa.org/pubs/books/essential-guide-childrens-sleep
The Parenting Pair Podcast: Why Teens Don't Sleep (and What Parents Can Do About It)
https://drscaronandallen.com/podcast/episode/why-teens-dont-sleep-and-what-parents-can-do-about-it/
The Parenting Pair Podcast: Sleep Struggles in Tweens and Teens: Insomnia, Nightmares and When Parents Should Seek Help
https://drscaronandallen.com/podcast/episode/sleep-struggles-in-tweens-and-teens-insomnia-nightmares-and-when-parents-should-seek-help/
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