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When You Feel Like the Outlier: Perfectionism, Anxiety & God's Grace | 031

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2432103/fan_mail/new In Part 1 of this powerful two-part conversation, Lenee’ Pezzano sits down with Dr. Ashleigh Moreland, a neurophysiologist, therapist, and founder of the Re-Mind Institute, to talk about perfectionism, anxiety, the nervous system, identity, faith, and the God who goes after the one. Ashleigh shares how, in science, outlier data is often excluded so the results look cleaner — but Jesus does not exclude the outlier. He goes after her. Together, Lenee’ and Ashleigh explore what happens when perfectionism becomes protection, when the brain starts scanning for threats, and when love, safety, and worth become tied to performance. If you have ever felt like you have tried everything — prayer, journaling, counseling, worship, discipline, repentance, and “I’ll do better next time” pep talks — but still feel stuck, this episode will help you understand that your struggle is not evidence that you are broken beyond repair. It may be evidence that somewhere along the way, your nervous system learned to protect you from pain — and now God wants to meet you there with truth, safety, love, and renewal. In this episode, you’ll hear: How perfectionism can become a safety strategy  Why your brain may constantly scan for threats  How past experiences shape your present view of God, yourself, and others  Why fear of punishment can distort your relationship with God  The difference between the brain and the mind  Why renewing the mind is more than behavior change  How Jesus comes after the outlier instead of excluding her This is Part 1 of a two-part series with Dr. Ashleigh Moreland. In Part 2, we will continue the conversation into what it looks like to practice coming to God just as you are — and how His fathering heart begins to reshape the way you live, love, parent, lead, forgive, and surrender. Take the Grace Scale Quiz [https://leneepezzano.com/grace-scale] and find Lenee’s book, You Will Make Mistakes: Discovering God’s Grace in the Midst of Perfectionism, [https://leneepezzano.com/book] at leneepezzano.com. [https://leneepezzano.com/home] Connect with Dr. Ash here: - ReMIND Institute [https://www.re-mind.institute/meetdrashmoreland233139] - Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/atw22] - Instagram [https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fdr.ashleighmoreland%3Ffbclid%3DIwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAYnJpZBExNHVLQ3hMVUEwdXl4RGZHVnNydGMGYXBwX2lkEDIyMjAzOTE3ODgyMDA4OTIAAR5n8AuBycKqEzpf-cgcFLZNM3iITOX4RZJd_er1MSd3EAMA--jywVE42qDJdg_aem_jccs1EGO463YDUoozN00TQ&h=AUDJiF9z1GmbaVRWMyELdgqo656QIB6cJi5llkJ_5L9R5RIKi3re-2_D6qKDFRAeuomOY1SRntk5EA7o9Yqd5u8JZkT9__g5YXwxRCHXpChk6RRV0jYV_jUaqK5cnAaWBw] - LinkedIn [https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Flinkedin.com%2Fin%2Fdr-ashleighmoreland%3Ffbclid%3DIwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAYnJpZBExNHVLQ3hMVUEwdXl4RGZHVnNydGMGYXBwX2lkEDIyMjAzOTE3ODgyMDA4OTIAAR4cVXkh7kwr_DY7z37qqtuDH56OievLTYWiwESOKv2uJNSCA2BNd3jlL8BkeA_aem_ZL03uEowg0-MSeDI9Odf3Q&h=AUAo-LU0jjFvj5MEjW8vjvrbpddtMcgyT4q1Y3nLGmVN-tGC8P7PsWa0MrF-1ViexnPO-PGATEFKZ27fn01cvSitO2eaj4rsE7kg5tE8elmHoWnm0Z901edgK8IRpTJ6Mg] 🌐 Connect with Lenee' Pezzano and The Redeemed Perfectionist         👥 Find Your People -- Join The Redeemed Perfectionist Facebook          Community: The Redeemed Perfectionist | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/groups/767426355226683]         📖 [http://bit.ly/3BYL417📖] Embrace Grace: Discover You Will Make Mistakes                 https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗]         🔗 [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗] Start Your Journey – Explore Resources & More           https://www.leneepezzano.com/ [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱]         📱 [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱] Let's Connect - Follow along on Instagram:          https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/ [https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/]         📞Ask Lenee' Anything!: https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano [https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano ]         💰Show support:  The Redeemed Perfectionist | Where Grace Meets Grit: Healing the Perfectionist Heart | Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/TheRedeemedPerfectionist]

ADHD, Perfectionism & Faith: Why You Feel Exhausted Trying to “Get It Right” with God | 30

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2432103/fan_mail/new If you’ve ever found yourself wondering… “Why does everything feel so hard—even when I’m trying my best?” “Why can’t I stay consistent with God, my goals, or my routines?” “Why do I feel overwhelmed, behind, or like I’m failing?” This episode is for you. In today’s conversation on The Redeemed Perfectionist Podcast, we’re diving into the powerful and often misunderstood connection between ADHD, perfectionism, and faith—especially for high-achieving Christian women. Joined by coach Cassie Miller, we unpack what ADHD actually looks like beyond the stereotypes, and why so many women silently struggle with overwhelm, emotional sensitivity, procrastination, and all-or-nothing thinking. But more importantly—we talk about God’s heart in the middle of it all. Because this isn’t just about productivity.  It’s about identity.  It’s about grace.  And it’s about breaking free from the belief that you have to “get it right” to be loved by God. ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn: *  What ADHD really is (and why it’s not a character flaw)  *  Why high-achieving women are often overlooked or undiagnosed  *  How perfectionism can develop as a response to overwhelm  *  The difference between internal struggle and external appearance  *  Practical ways to reduce overwhelm and build momentum  *  How to quiet self-criticism and release shame  *  What it looks like to walk with God in grace—not performance  If your faith has started to feel heavy…  If your mind feels loud…  If you’ve been striving to stay consistent but keep falling into the same patterns… this episode will help you feel seen, understood, and equipped with a new way forward. And friend—this is just the beginning. This episode is part one of a series where we’re going to go deeper into what this looks like in your daily life, how to navigate overwhelm in real time, and how to step into a rhythm of grace that actually feels sustainable. If you’re ready to go deeper in breaking free from perfectionism, you can also explore my book, You Will Make Mistakes: Discovering God's Grace in the Midst of Perfectionism, where I share the journey God walked me through to move from striving to freedom. 🎧 Press play and discover what it looks like to move from performance to partnership… and from exhaustion to grace. 🌐 Connect with Lenee' Pezzano and The Redeemed Perfectionist         👥 Find Your People -- Join The Redeemed Perfectionist Facebook          Community: The Redeemed Perfectionist | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/groups/767426355226683]         📖 [http://bit.ly/3BYL417📖] Embrace Grace: Discover You Will Make Mistakes                 https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗]         🔗 [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗] Start Your Journey – Explore Resources & More           https://www.leneepezzano.com/ [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱]         📱 [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱] Let's Connect - Follow along on Instagram:          https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/ [https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/]         📞Ask Lenee' Anything!: https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano [https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano ]         💰Show support:  The Redeemed Perfectionist | Where Grace Meets Grit: Healing the Perfectionist Heart | Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/TheRedeemedPerfectionist]

Christian Perfectionism: When Obedience Breaks You | 029

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2432103/fan_mail/new If you’ve ever felt like you were doing everything “right” in your faith—but something still felt off… this episode is for you. In this powerful conversation, Lenee’ Pezzano sits down with Christine Jaynes to unpack a rarely discussed reality: What happens when your obedience to God… actually breaks you? This episode dives deep into: *  The hidden danger of Christian perfectionism  *  How “good” theology can still lead to burnout  *  The difference between obedience rooted in fear vs. love  *  Why striving for God can disconnect you from Him  *  How to discern God’s voice vs. internal pressure  *  Breaking free from religious mindsets and performance-based faith  Christine shares her raw and honest story of: *  Marriage, motherhood, and extreme obedience  *  Physical breakdown and emotional exhaustion  *  Misunderstanding biblical submission  *  And the moment everything began to shift  If you’ve ever thought:  “I just want to please God… but why does this feel so heavy?” This conversation will bring clarity, freedom, and a fresh perspective on God’s heart. Because God never asked you to carry what His grace already covered. Connect with Christine here: Free tool to help you practically walk with Jesus daily:  Walking in the Spirit Guide [https://trainintruth.com/walkinginthespirit]. Christine's resource page [https://www.trainintruth.com/tntofferings]. Live monthly trainings and community in Christine's FB community. [https://www.facebook.com/groups/trainintruth] Scriptures from today: * 2 Timothy 1:7  “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind (discipline).” * Ephesians 3:19  “To know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge…” * Ephesians 4:16  “From whom the whole body, fitly joined together…” * Isaiah 54:17  “No weapon formed against you shall prosper…” * Matthew 18:20  “Where two or more are gathered in my name…” * Hebrews 10:37  “He that shall come will come…” * Hebrews 5:14  “By constant use, learn to discern good from evil.” * John 10:27  “My sheep hear my voice…” * Romans 14:23  “Whatever is not from faith is sin.” * Exodus 20:3  “You shall have no other gods before Me.” 🌐 Connect with Lenee' Pezzano and The Redeemed Perfectionist         👥 Find Your People -- Join The Redeemed Perfectionist Facebook          Community: The Redeemed Perfectionist | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/groups/767426355226683]         📖 [http://bit.ly/3BYL417📖] Embrace Grace: Discover You Will Make Mistakes                 https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗]         🔗 [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗] Start Your Journey – Explore Resources & More           https://www.leneepezzano.com/ [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱]         📱 [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱] Let's Connect - Follow along on Instagram:          https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/ [https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/]         📞Ask Lenee' Anything!: https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano [https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano ]         💰Show support:  The Redeemed Perfectionist | Where Grace Meets Grit: Healing the Perfectionist Heart | Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/TheRedeemedPerfectionist]

Christian Perfectionism: When "Should" Isn't God's Voice | 028

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2432103/fan_mail/new Christian Perfectionism: When “Should” Isn’t God’s Voice (with Mary Gallagher) Have you ever felt like you’re never doing enough for God… no matter how hard you try? In this powerful episode of The Redeemed Perfectionist, Lenee' Pezzano sits down with Mary Gallagher to uncover the hidden burden of Christian perfectionism, and how the word “should” may be quietly fueling your exhaustion, shame, and spiritual burnout. If you’ve ever thought: * “I should be a better Christian…” * “I should be doing more for God…” * “I shouldn’t feel this way…” …this conversation will help you discern whether that voice is truly God—or religious pressure disguised as obedience Together, we explore: *  The difference between Holy Spirit conviction vs. shame and condemnation *  Why God does not motivate through “shoulds” *  How perfectionism leads to spiritual burnout and anxiety *  The root of perfectionism: shame, fear, and identity distortion *  How to recognize God’s voice—one that invites, not pressures *  Practical steps to break free from performance-based faith  This episode is for the woman who loves God deeply…  but feels exhausted trying to live up to expectations she was never meant to carry. ✨ In This Episode, You’ll Learn: *  Why “should” language reveals hidden perfectionism  *  How religious environments can distort God’s voice  *  The truth about identity in Christ vs performance-based Christianity *  How to stop striving and start walking in grace and freedom *  A simple exercise to identify and release “should” thinking  ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 Is every “should” really God’s voice?  03:00 Mary’s story of religious pressure  11:00 “Gold stars for Jesus” & burnout  17:00 The moment God spoke truth  28:00 Hearing God vs religious pressure  32:00 Is perfectionism rooted in shame?  45:00 First step to break free from striving  54:00 Closing prayer FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Are You Living from Grace or Performance? Take the Faith-Based Perfectionism Quiz.  [https://leneepezzano.com/grace-scale] Download Mary Gallagher’s Free Identity Guide.  Get it here [https://www.promisedlandmindset.com/shouldleadmagnet]. 🌐 Connect with Lenee' Pezzano and The Redeemed Perfectionist         👥 Find Your People -- Join The Redeemed Perfectionist Facebook          Community: The Redeemed Perfectionist | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/groups/767426355226683]         📖 [http://bit.ly/3BYL417📖] Embrace Grace: Discover You Will Make Mistakes                 https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗]         🔗 [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗] Start Your Journey – Explore Resources & More           https://www.leneepezzano.com/ [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱]         📱 [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱] Let's Connect - Follow along on Instagram:          https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/ [https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/]         📞Ask Lenee' Anything!: https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano [https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano ]         💰Show support:  The Redeemed Perfectionist | Where Grace Meets Grit: Healing the Perfectionist Heart | Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/TheRedeemedPerfectionist]

Hearing God’s Voice: Why Perfectionism Leaves You Confused | 027

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2432103/fan_mail/new Hearing God’s Voice: Why Perfectionism Leaves You Confused | 027 Anxiety, fear, rejection and confusion may still feel louder than God's voice.   The truth? The enemy isn’t after your peace—he’s after your ability to hear God clearly for yourself. If this resonates, you may benefit from Heather's Prophetic Healing Workshop every 3rd Monday of the month.  Reserve your spot here. [https://heatherobrien.net/workshop?fbclid=IwY2xjawQ8osFleHRuA2FlbQIxMABicmlkETFTMGZJeGFDdUptdnBNN1Rkc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQQMjIyMDM5MTc4ODIwMDg5MgABHnZbaatqKfvR9lcJbHOCPXHe-CcxXiHcSXWAsWNGW7CKkX5M2mlh3fg_bCny_aem_mc04llRhQCEhoLbSTLFi7w] Scripture References John 16:13 - Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come. 1 John 4:18 - there is no fear in love but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment.  He that feareth is not made perfect in love.  Ephesians 3:18-19 - ...may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— ...to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Romans 12:2 - And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. _________________________________________________________________________________________________ Have you ever wondered if you’re really hearing God’s voice — or just reacting to fear, pressure, and the need to get everything right? In this episode of The Redeemed Perfectionist, we explore how perfectionism can create spiritual confusion and distort the way you relate to God. When your faith has been shaped by performance, fear of punishment, people pleasing, or the pressure to avoid disappointing God, it can become difficult to recognize his voice as gentle, present, and full of grace. Lenee' is joined by prophetic healing coach Heather O’Brien for a conversation about Christian perfectionism, fear of man, inner striving, control, and the healing process of learning to hear God from a place of connection instead of pressure. Together, they talk about fear of punishment, spiritual confusion, renewing the mind, and what it looks like to walk with God in a more peaceful, relational way. If you’ve felt stuck in overthinking, self-doubt, or anxiety about whether you’re following God “right,” this episode will help you breathe, slow down, and recognize what may actually be shaping your spiritual life. 🌐 Connect with Lenee' Pezzano and The Redeemed Perfectionist         👥 Find Your People -- Join The Redeemed Perfectionist Facebook          Community: The Redeemed Perfectionist | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/groups/767426355226683]         📖 [http://bit.ly/3BYL417📖] Embrace Grace: Discover You Will Make Mistakes                 https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗]         🔗 [https://amzn.to/4hKwhpW🔗] Start Your Journey – Explore Resources & More           https://www.leneepezzano.com/ [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱]         📱 [https://www.leneepezzano.com/📱] Let's Connect - Follow along on Instagram:          https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/ [https://www.instagram.com/leneepezzano/]         📞Ask Lenee' Anything!: https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano [https://www.speakpipe.com/LeneePezzano ]         💰Show support:  The Redeemed Perfectionist | Where Grace Meets Grit: Healing the Perfectionist Heart | Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/TheRedeemedPerfectionist]