The Shit That Matters

Stop Being A Victim of ‘Time’

If you’ve been stuck in the thought loop of “I wasted so much time”… this episode is going to shift something. In this conversation, Anamaria Velasquez breaks down how we unconsciously make ourselves victims of time by attaching meaning to our past. From her own experience in network marketing and family business, Ana shares how she built an identity around being “the woman who wasted years”… and how that kept her stuck until she chose to see it differently.  This episode will help you release regret, reclaim your power, and see your past as something that shaped you… not something that took from you. What You’ll Learn *  Why you’re not actually a victim of time  *  How “lost time” becomes an identity that keeps you stuck  *  The shift from “What did this take from me?” to “What did this build within me?” *  The 4 Levels of Consciousness:  *  Life happens to me (victim)  *  Life happens by me (control)  *  Life happens through me (flow)  *  Life happens as me (alignment)  *  How to move out of victim consciousness and into self-trust If this episode resonated, don’t just sit with it… integrate it. Inside the Light Library, you’ll find the Levels of Consciousness Workbook and other tools to help you move from feeling stuck to seeing clearly and taking aligned action. 👉https://www.lightoasis.co/light-library  [https://www.lightoasis.co/light-library] Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana [https://www.instagram.com/growwithana] Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ [https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ [https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_?_t=ZT-8y67JItpWVp&_r=1] Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter [https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter] Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/ [https://www.lightoasis.co/]

I Lost Time Being The Good Girl... Here's The Truth About That

What did being the “good girl” actually cost you? In this episode, Ana Velasquez breaks down the hidden impact of good girl conditioning, people-pleasing, and self-editing. Not just the big moments, but the subtle ways you hold yourself back every day. If you’ve been feeling disconnected, stuck, or like you’re “behind” in life, this conversation will shift how you see your past and your next move. Because it’s not just about lost time. It’s about the moments you weren’t fully in your life. And the choice you have now to change that. In This Episode, We Cover: *  What “good girl conditioning” really costs you  *  How people-pleasing and overthinking disconnect you from your life  *  Why you feel stuck or behind (and what’s actually happening)  *  The emotional shift from regret to self-trust  *  How to stop editing yourself and start fully expressing who you are  Key Takeaway At some point, this stops being about what it cost you and starts being about what you’re still choosing.  Ready for Clarity? If you keep asking yourself  “What am I doing with my life?” This is your next step. In this private 2-hour session, you’ll get clear on what you actually want and walk away with a direction and plan you can move on immediately. 👉 Book your session here:  https://www.lightoasis.co/what-am-i-doing-with-my-life-session [https://www.lightoasis.co/what-am-i-doing-with-my-life-session] Connect + Share Podcast IG: @theshitthatmatterspod If this episode hit, share it with someone who needs it. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana [https://www.instagram.com/growwithana] Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ [https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ [https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_?_t=ZT-8y67JItpWVp&_r=1] Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter [https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter] Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/ [https://www.lightoasis.co/]

The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 8 How to Stop Overthinking and Find Your Next Step

This episode closes out The Honest Middle series with a truth you might need to hear: you don’t need more time to figure your life out, you need direction. If you’ve been feeling stuck, questioning everything, and caught in a loop of overthinking, nothing is wrong with you. You’re in a season of growth where you’re outgrowing who you’ve been, but you haven’t fully stepped into who you’re becoming yet. Ana breaks down why so many people stay stuck here longer than they need to. It’s not because they’re incapable, it’s because they keep trying to think their way forward instead of choosing a direction and taking action. In this episode, you’ll learn how to get specific about what feels off, recognize what you’ve already outgrown, tell the truth about what you actually want, and choose your next step without needing the full plan. Because you don’t need to see your entire future to move forward. You just need to decide what’s next. If you’re ready to stop looping and start moving, I also share how you can go deeper with me inside my “What Am I Doing With My Life?” session, where I help you get clear, build self-trust, and take aligned action Book Here ➝ https://www.lightoasis.co/what-am-i-doing-with-my-life-session [https://www.lightoasis.co/what-am-i-doing-with-my-life-session]  At the end of the day, you’re not stuck because you’re behind, you’re stuck because you haven’t chosen yet. Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana [https://www.instagram.com/growwithana] Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ [https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ [https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_?_t=ZT-8y67JItpWVp&_r=1] Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter [https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter] Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/ [https://www.lightoasis.co/]

The Honest Middle Series | Ep. 7 The “What Am I Doing With My Life?” Phase Explained

You’re Not Lost — You’re in the Part No One Talks About If you’ve been feeling stuck, behind, or like you should have things figured out by now… this episode is going to hit. Because what if nothing is actually wrong? In Episode 7 of The Honest Middle series, Ana breaks down the truth about the in-between phase—the space where your old life no longer fits, but your next chapter hasn’t fully arrived yet. This is the part most people try to rush, fix, or escape. But what if this phase isn’t a problem… and the only thing making it harder is the pressure you’re putting on yourself to figure it out? This episode will help you understand what’s really happening in your mind, your body, and your identity—and how to move through it with more trust, clarity, and ease. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: *  Why feeling “lost” is often a sign you’re evolving  *  What’s actually happening in the in-between phase  *  How urgency is keeping you stuck  *  Forcing clarity vs. allowing it  *  Why trust is the missing piece  *  The 3 ways the universe responds  *  Navigating identity shifts and grief  *  Why your purpose isn’t just one thing  Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – What the Honest Middle really is 02:30 – The pressure to figure it out 05:00 – This isn’t a problem—it’s a transition 08:00 – Why this phase feels disorienting 11:00 – The “I’m behind” narrative 14:00 – Trust as the missing piece 17:00 – Fear vs. love 20:00 – The universe’s 3 responses 23:00 – Nothing is being withheld 25:30 – Releasing urgency 27:30 – Identity shifts + grief 29:00 – You’re not behind Keywords: identity shift, feeling lost in life, personal growth, self trust, spiritual awakening, life transitions, finding clarity, purpose discovery, human design, emotional healing, identity crisis At some point, you have to stop asking “What am I doing with my life?” and actually do something about it. If you’ve been stuck in the loop—thinking, journaling, talking—and still waking up in the same place, this is your move. This session cuts through the noise, gets honest about what you want, and locks in your next step. You’ll leave with clarity, direction, and a plan you can actually move on. You don’t need more information. You need to see clearly and move. 👉 Book your “What Am I Doing With My Life?” Session here: https://www.lightoasis.co/what-am-i-doing-with-my-life-session  Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana [https://www.instagram.com/growwithana] Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ [https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ [https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_?_t=ZT-8y67JItpWVp&_r=1] Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter [https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter] Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/ [https://www.lightoasis.co/]

The Honest Middle | Ep. 6 Living in Alignment (Without Burning It Down)

You’ve done the work. You’ve awakened. You know something is shifting… But your life still looks the same. Welcome to Episode 6 of The Honest Middle series, where we talk about the part no one prepares you for…👉 the in-between The space where your identity is evolving, but your reality hasn’t caught up yet. In this episode, Ana breaks down how to start living differently without burning your entire life down and why the real transformation happens through micro shifts, not massive overhauls. We explore how to stop abandoning yourself in everyday moments, how to trust your body over conditioning, and how tools like Human Design can help you make aligned decisions that actually stick. If you’ve been asking: “Do I stay? Do I go? Where do I even start?” This episode is your grounded, no-BS answer. ✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode *  Why you don’t need to burn your life down to become who you’re becoming  *  The power of micro shifts rooted in truth *  How to stop living from “shoulds” and start living from alignment *  What it actually looks like to trust your body in real time *  How Human Design helps you make decisions with clarity and confidence  *  Why you feel like you’re failing (and why you’re actually not)  *  The difference between awareness vs. embodiment *  How to begin rewriting your identity through action ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome + what “The Honest Middle” really is 02:15 – The moment where everything feels different… but nothing has changed 04:30 – Do you burn it all down or stay? The real question 06:00 – Why you don’t need to blow up your life to change it 08:10 – Micro shifts: the real path to transformation 11:45 – What alignment actually looks like in everyday moments 15:20 – Letting go of people-pleasing + embracing discomfort 18:40 – Human Design explained simply (and why it matters) 23:10 – The 5 Human Design types + how they make decisions 29:30 – Why you feel like you’re failing (but aren’t) 34:15 – Awareness vs. embodiment: where most people get stuck 39:00 – Boundaries, identity, and real-life integration 45:10 – How to start living your new identity today 49:30 – Invitation into deeper work (Discovering You) 🔗 Resources & Links ✨ Get your free Human Design chart:  https://www.lightoasis.co/freehd [https://www.lightoasis.co/freehd] ✨ Explore Discovering You (next-level integration + embodiment work) join the Waitlist: https://www.lightoasis.co/discovering-you-live  [https://www.lightoasis.co/discovering-you-live] 🔑 Keywords  identity shift, personal growth, self trust, human design, alignment, embodiment, nervous system, self awareness, transformation, boundaries, healing journey, spiritual growth, life transitions, becoming your highest self, mindset shifts Connect with me! Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growwithana [https://www.instagram.com/growwithana] Business Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/ [https://www.instagram.com/lightoasis.co/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_ [https://www.tiktok.com/@growwithana_?_t=ZT-8y67JItpWVp&_r=1] Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter [https://www.lightoasis.co/newsletter] Work With Me: https://www.lightoasis.co/ [https://www.lightoasis.co/]