What Did I Say?

Adults with ADHD Parenting Kids with ADHD with Guest Justin Gillespie.

In episode 27, "Adults with ADHD Parenting Kids with ADHD," host, Dan Rothenberg interviews Justin Gillespie, a therapist and owner of a center for people with ADHD in Plymouth, Michigan. They delve into the challenges and experiences of adults with ADHD who parent children with the same condition. Gillespie emphasizes the importance of parental involvement in therapy and the necessity of creating a structured home environment tailored to a child's individual needs. They also discuss the genetic component of ADHD, the impact of rejection sensitivity dysphoria on self-esteem, and the importance of parental self-care. Gillespie highlights the crucial role that parents play in shaping their children's self-perception and self-talk. The episode also touches on the misdiagnosis of ADHD in adults, particularly women, as bipolar disorder.

Doing the Dad Thing with Guest, Coach Steve Anderson

In Episode 26 of our podcast, we welcome guest Coach Steve Anderson, a dedicated father coach who's passionate about helping fathers be the best they can be. Steve shares his experiences and insights on fatherhood, discussing the challenges fathers face and the importance of being present and understanding for your children. He talks about the balance of guiding and advising, while also providing love and unconditional support. Steve also shares his unique perspective on fatherhood from his experience as a substitute teacher. This episode is a must-listen for any father seeking guidance or anyone interested in the complexities and rewards of fatherhood. 0:00:00 - Introduction and welcome of guest, Steve Anderson 0:00:18 - Steve's introduction and The Best Dad Project 0:00:54 - Discussion about the focus on fatherhood 0:01:16 - Steve's personal experiences with his own father 0:02:01 - The challenge of becoming the dad your children need 0:02:24 - Discussion about coaching and therapy 0:03:32 - Focus on the future and being the dad you want to be 0:04:18 - The challenges and opportunities of parenthood 0:05:09 - Discussion about Steve's relationship with his own father 0:06:21 - Working with teenage boys and the long game 0:07:00 - The challenges faced by fathers today 0:07:38 - Discussion on neuroscience for coaches 0:08:29 - The difference between counselling and coaching 0:09:16 - Discussion about emotional expression 0:10:36 - The importance of acceptance in fatherhood 0:11:05 - Discussion about learning from other fathers 0:12:02 - Discussion about parenting decisions and challenges 0:13:30 - Individual treatment of children 0:14:18 - Personal experiences with parenting 0:16:00 - Steve's experience as a substitute teacher 0:18:31 - The complexity and challenges of school 0:19:36 - Imagining school as a job

Dan Rothenberg Parenting Seminar II The Do’s and Don’ts

In Episode 25 of "What Did I Say?" hosted by Dan Rothenberg, presenting the second part of a three-part parenting seminar titled "Do's and Don'ts". With over a decade's experience working with teenagers and young adults, Dan shares his insights on parenting techniques that promote a healthier family dynamic. He encourages the use of logical, short-term consequences instead of emotionally charged ones, arguing that this helps young people learn more effectively. The episode also explores the importance of respecting a teenager's privacy and the negative impact of over-monitoring. Lastly, Dan advocates for allowing children to experience their emotions fully, asserting that it's a part of their emotional intelligence growth. Tune in for an insightful discussion on parenting. Chapters 0:00 - Introduction and Welcome 0:20 - Overview of the Session 0:30 - Personal Experience as a Parent 0:40 - Do #1: Use Logical Consequences 1:00 - Explanation of Logical Consequences 1:30 - Example of a Logical Consequence 2:00 - Importance of Consistency 2:10 - Example of an Emotional Consequence 2:30 - Negative Effects of Uncertain Consequences 2:40 - Importance of Respect and Agency for Adolescents 3:10 - Concept of Short Term Consequences 3:30 - Notion of Control Over Kids 4:00 - Don't #1: Over-Monitoring Kids' Texts and Social Media 4:30 - Explanation for Not Monitoring Content 5:00 - Negative Effects of Invasion of Privacy 5:20 - Importance of Trust in Kids 5:30 - Effect of Mistrust on Motivation 6:00 - Importance of Approval from Parents 6:30 - Do #2: Allow Children to Feel their Feelings 7:10 - Distinction Between Feelings and Emotions 8:00 - Importance of Feeling Feelings 8:30 - Negative Effects of Diving into Anger 9:20 - Encouraging Room for Children's Feelings 9:30 - Misinterpretation of Allowing Feelings 9:50 - Difference Between Feelings and Emotions 10:10 - Negative Effects of Not Allowing Children to Feel 10:50 - Example of Expectations and Agendas 11:10 - Concluding Remarks I provide therapy services that focus on three issues that are vital to the success of young people: * Values: Who am I and where am I going? * Anxiety Management: The stress and fear blocking our journey. * Resilience Building: The ability to bounce back and learn from challenges. Clarifying strengths and values creates the opportunity for young people to find an authentic and achievable path to success. I work with young people to go down this path while managing the stress and fear along the way. Anxiety goes down, resilience goes up and values move forward. The result: Completed homework – Increased Self-Esteem – Self-Motivation – More Confidence in Relationships – Ability to Combat Bullying If you think your teen might benefit from my services, feel free to contact me today! 𝗗𝗮𝗻 𝗥𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻𝗯𝗲𝗿𝗴Licensed Therapist Website: https://danrothenberg.com/ Phone: (503) 333-8988 Email: info@danrothenberg.com

Episode 24: Parenting Seminar, Part 1. Values Vs. Emotions.

In this episode of "What Did I Say?", host Dan Rothenberg delves into the first part of a three-part parenting seminar titled "Values Vs. Emotions". As a therapist who works with teenagers and young adults, Dan discusses the impact of parental interactions on kids and the reciprocal relationship between parental actions and the anxiety experienced by both parents and children. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the values and core interests of adolescents and how supporting these values can foster a positive relationship. Dan shares a relatable story about a fictional teenager named Rowan, who undergoes a transformation from pursuing his passion for art to succumbing to peer pressure and engaging in bullying behavior. He explores the role of emotions and how they can derail individuals from their values. The episode concludes with two suggestions for parents: focusing on supporting their child's values by approaching them with curiosity rather than judgment, and becoming aware of repetitive lecturing and letting go of the need to constantly remind their child. By managing their own anxiety and providing a supportive environment, parents can help their children navigate the challenges of adolescence while staying true to their values.

Episode 23: Writing the College Admissions Essay. With Guest, Ben Urwand

In this episode of "What Did I Say?" with Dan Rothenberg, the focus is on the college admissions essay. Dan is joined by guest Ben Urwand, an expert in college essays. They discuss the challenges students face when writing this important essay and provide valuable insights and advice. Ben emphasizes the importance of authenticity and individuality in college essays. He highlights the misconception that students should try to mimic successful essays and advises against reading examples of essays written by others. Instead, Ben encourages students to reflect on their own experiences and find their unique voice. The conversation delves into the common pitfalls of cliches and gimmicks in college essays. Ben stresses the need to avoid cliched statements and instead focus on genuine personal stories that respond to the essay prompts. He shares examples of successful essays that effectively showcase diversity and individuality. Throughout the episode, Dan and Ben discuss the process of brainstorming, drafting, and revising college essays. They offer practical tips on how to overcome writer's block and perfectionism, encouraging students to write freely and without judgment in the initial stages. This episode of "What Did I Say?" provides valuable guidance and a fresh perspective on writing compelling and authentic college admissions essays.