Supporting Passions: A Father-Daughter Story of Trust, Creativity, and Growth
Building Lasting Bonds: Lessons from "Dad and Daughter Connection" with Drew and Eva Bennett
On the latest episode of the "Dad and Daughter Connection" podcast, Dr. Christopher Lewis brings listeners an inspiring and heartfelt conversation with Drew Bennett and his daughter Eva. This episode dives deep into the journey of father-daughter relationships, the importance of celebrating individuality, and how simple acts of connection can shape a daughter's confidence and independence.
One of the standout themes is the power of acceptance and encouragement. From a young age, Eva shares how Drew Bennett always made her feel seen, heard, and valued – whether through supporting her interests in comics and pop culture, or giving her the freedom to express herself creatively. Eva Bennett highlights moments where her dad invested wholeheartedly in her passions, from discussing favorite characters to spending weekends at comic conventions. These shared experiences became more than hobbies; they were opportunities to bond, laugh, and build trust.
Cosplay, in particular, played a unique role in strengthening their connection. Eva Bennett describes their adventures crafting costumes for conventions, often designing duo costumes (like Lord of the Rings' Eowyn and Theoden or Spider-Verse's Peter B. and Mayday Parker). Drew Bennett shows up not just as her dad, but as a supportive partner in creativity – accompanying her to events, holding props, and celebrating her success.
But this episode isn't just about shared interests – it's also about giving children the independence to grow. Drew Bennett reflects on the balance of guidance and freedom, stressing the value of supporting his daughter's choices and letting her explore her own path. Eva Bennett expresses gratitude for this sense of trust, which helped her feel safe sharing challenges and seeking advice.
As Eva prepares to leave for college, both reflect on how their relationship will evolve. They promise to keep in touch through quick texts, TikToks, and special traditions like convention weekends, showing that even as life changes, strong roots make lasting bonds.
In their closing advice, Dr. Christopher Lewis, Drew Bennett, and Eva Bennett urge other parents to "meet your kids where they're at." Even if you don't fully understand their passions, dive in, listen, and show that you care.
If you're a dad (or a parent) hoping to nurture a close, meaningful relationship with your daughter (or child), this episode is packed with authentic stories, practical wisdom, and the reassurance that showing up – whatever form it takes – truly matters.
Listen to this powerful episode of "Dad and Daughter Connection" and discover how small moments can forge lifelong connections. Subscribe today and join the journey toward building stronger family bonds!
TRANSCRIPT
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to connect and work with each other, to be able to work, go on a journey together. Because all of us as fathers are on a journey as we're trying to build that relationship with our daughters.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:06]: And that's why this show exists every week. I love being able to have you here to listen, to, learn, to be able to show up. Because by showing up, not only are you doing this for yourself, but you're doing it for the relationship between you and your daughter. And that's why every week, I love being able to bring you different guests, different people with different experiences, and I always love it when I have the opportunity to be able to have a father and a daughter on the show, because I know it. It doesn't always happen, but today I do. And today I'm introducing to you Drew Bennett and his daughter Eva. And I've known Eva since she was very young, virtually. I've known Drew for many years as well, and Drew's been a guest on other podcasts that I've had, but we've never had Drew and Eva on.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:49]: And I'm really excited to be able to have them both on to talk about the journey that they've been on, and I'm looking forward to introducing them to you. Drew, Eva, thanks so much for being here today.
Drew Bennett [00:01:58]: Oh, thanks for having us.
Eva Bennett [00:01:59]: Thank you for having me.
Drew Bennett [00:02:00]: It's my pleasure. I love being able to have dads and daughters on, and I guess I'm going to be asking both of you some questions because I want to get a better sense of your relationship. And I'm going to start with you, Eva. What's one thing that your dad did that made you truly feel seen, heard, and valued as a daughter?
Eva Bennett [00:02:20]: I think that's something that, honestly, my dad has always been really, really good at is, like, making sure that I feel seen and heard, and especially in terms of, like, what I'm interested in at the time, because I definitely got a nerdy streak from my dad. So when I was growing up, he had all of these things like Transformers and Marvel and stuff that he was really into, and he would share with me on, like, a child appropriate level. And then when I got older and started to have my own interests and stuff, he was always really good about making sure that I had space to talk about that and to talk about what I care about and feel like I was able to share that stuff.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:58]: I guess I want to flip that a little bit, because, you know, you just heard Eva talk about that you supported her passion in the things that were most important to her. How did you support Eva in pursuing her passions and her dreams?
Drew Bennett [00:03:12]: Well, like, Eva was talking about some of the shows and things that she likes, and really, it was just like, giving her the space to explore certain things that, you know, I did certainly try to influence some of the loves of different nerdy genres, specifically Transformers. I am a huge fan of that and have a huge collection. You know, one of the things, it's like, I really want to share my collection of toys with the kids and. And they really didn't care too much about the toys. But early on, we watched some of the shows together, and Eva found characters that spoke to her, and we would talk about the characters and what those characters like, and any chance I got to expose Eva to different characters that would. Would speak that I thought would speak to her, I would. So I found Avatar the Last Airbender. And I was like, all right, with both kids, we're gonna.
Drew Bennett [00:04:08]: We're gonna sit down and watch this, because this is a fantastic show. And we watched one episode, and they're like, eh, it was good. And then I don't know when it was, like, months later, Eva finds it on Netflix and watches all the seasons. I was like, what? I like, there was things like, I want to spend this time. I want to have these things that we can talk about. So there are a lot of different. I think a lot of it started with pop culture stuff that we could connect with. And so every year, I would bring Eva to Free Comic Book Day, which I collect comics.
Drew Bennett [00:04:39]: We love comics. And when Eva was real little, I'd be at Free Comic Book Day with a little Power Ranger Princess with me. And then Eve would start to find her own way of expressing in costumes, which is something that has grown into something that's even more of a passion for Eva is. Is costuming, which I'm sure we'll talk about later, especially with college and stuff. But those things kind of came about from the influences of different genres of entertainment that we connected with together. I always wanted to, like, when a new show would come out. Way back when, when I was doing stuff with. With Netflix, they had shows like she Ra Came out and Kipo and Voltron.
Drew Bennett [00:05:27]: And so we would watch these things together, and there would always be different characters that we could discuss a connection with that, you know, maybe Eva had a connection to a specific character, and I had different connections to different characters, but we could always find those sort of things to talk about together.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:45]: Now, speaking of costuming, I know that one of the things that you've bonded on over the years is cosplay, and some of that came down to the costumes that Eva, that you created and that you got your dad involved with as well. Why don't you both talk a little bit about that and those connections that you built through that?
Eva Bennett [00:06:03]: Yeah, so I've always kind of been interested in dressing up as a kid. I remember we used to have. This was like a knight's cape, so the back had fabric that looked like chainmail, and it was all silver at the top. And there's a photo of me when I was little in, like, a purple T shirt and leggings and that cape and, like, Thor's helmet with my foam sword that I had as a kid, and I still have it. So I've always been interested in dressing up and mashing together whatever pieces I could find in the costume bin with kind of no rhyme or reason to it. And as I've gotten older, I've gotten into some sewing and a lot of fiber arts and a good way for me to put that to use and kind of have, like, a clear goal in mind when I make stuff is to make costumes. So I've gone into making a lot of costumes, and dad took us to a convention, I think, in, like, 2019. And I wasn't sewing at the time, but I put together costumes for all of the days that we were there.
Eva Bennett [00:07:03]: And then Covid happened. And then a couple years after, I think in maybe 2022, we ended up going back to that same convention. And by then, I had picked up with making and putting together costumes again. And then I think two years ago now, I talked dad into doing a, like, a duo costume with me. And it was a father daughter costume, actually. He went as Peter B. Parker from the Spider Verse movies and I did like a teenage Mayday design. So we did that together and that was really fun.
Eva Bennett [00:07:36]: And I'm still in the planning phase of this right now, but I'm working on another father daughter costume for us right now, which is Eowyn and King Theoden from the Lord of the Rings. So not exactly father daughter, but close enough. And my dad was awesome enough to let me do that, and he's going to let me put him in a big crazy costume that I make.
Drew Bennett [00:07:56]: It's funny because, like, the costumes that I've had, I go as Bobby Singer from Supernatural, which all I have to do is slap a hat on my head and I've got the grumpy old man look and the beard and I've got this, you know, dirty ball cap that I can be Bobby Singer. And I've done that the past two years with Comic Con. We go to it's Granite State Comic Con in New Hampshire. And that's become the thing that Eva and I do together. We went as a whole family. I think it was 2018, where the kids kind of participated in the kids costuming side. And then Eva and I went a few times where Eva was in costume and I was the support system of holding all her stuff.
Eva Bennett [00:08:39]: And you're really the best for doing that.
Drew Bennett [00:08:42]: So I do that. But then, oh, you know what? I could do this character. And that was kind of been a bit of a hit because people love Supernatural and I do look like Bobby Singer when I put the costume on. But when we went as Peter B. Parker and Mayday Parker, that was a lot of fun because again, you know, all I had to do is put on schlubby clothes. I did a mixture of the two movies into and across the spider verse. And so where the first one he had the sweatpants and the two different shoes, and then the next one he had the pink robe. So I kind of mixed those two together walking around as Peter B.
Drew Bennett [00:09:18]: Park with like a. With a Spider man shirt. Eva had a really cool costume that went along with it. And so, yeah, so when Eva's done working on these ones from Lord of the Rings, which is another genre that when Eva gets into something, she gets fully into it. How many times you've watched the special editions of Lord of the Rings? More than I have ever had. Three times at this point.
Eva Bennett [00:09:41]: And the Hobbit since the beginning of the year, which is when I watched it for the first time. The beginning of the year, we're only on round two.
Drew Bennett[00:09:48]: We're in April, like, I've had these movies. I've been waiting to watch them on a big screen, and then we got the big screen, and I never watched them, and then I'm like, oh, wait for the kids to watch them. Then I was at Eva's suggestion to watch Lord of the Rings, so we watched Lord of the Rings and since has watched Lord of the Rings and then gotten so far into it, so. And it's awesome to watch the progress that Eva's made, not only within cosplay community and in conventions, but then she's also turned that love of costuming into a position at school. So been the costume lead for the school's theater program for the past two years, and. And that's going to be a focus towards college. So it's really interesting how the progress has been made. And I am always just in awe that Eva will come downstairs and say, hey, mom, can I borrow crochet needle? And, like, two hours later, she'll come down with, like, this whole thing that you made, like, oh, yeah, I taught myself on YouTube, and, like, now I can crochet.
Drew Bennett [00:10:50]: And. And then not just. Just get into it more and more and more to perfect those skills. There's so many, like, skills that Eva has just developed on her own that it's just, like, fascinating to me how. How amazing she can do them. I'm like, I. I can't do any
Eva Bennett [00:11:08]: of that at all.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:11:11]: So. You know, Drew, one of the things that I'm hearing from you is, I mean, you really have tried to guide Eva over her lifetime in many different ways. She may have taken your advice and may not have. We know that as fathers. But I. One of the things that comes to mind that I wanted to ask you was, as Eva has grown up, how did you balance guiding Eva while also giving her the ability and the independence to become the person that she is becoming?
Drew Bennett [00:11:41]: I think never really had to say, you have to do things this way, or, like, it's always just been the freedom to explore what Eve's wanted to do. I feel that we kind of give the leeway of just like, hey, you want to try this? Try this. You want. The only times I've ever, ever pushed on anything was, you got to watch this. Check this out. But I know that if you push Eva, she digs in her heels and, like, no, not going to do it. But then occasionally she'll go find something like that on her own, and it's like, oh, I discovered that I've been trying to get you to show, like, Like, I've been wanting to watch this or do this. Okay.
Drew Bennett [00:12:17]: I know it's like, it's going to be in her own time, and if it's something that speaks to her, it's going to be full in 100%. So it's really just been discovering what those things are. And then I always try to. If there's something that Eve is into, I'd like to, like, read it or watch it. Some things. There are some things that I just. I never really got into that didn't speak to me, but it spoke to you. And I understand how that was, how much you enjoyed that.
Drew Bennett [00:12:43]: There was a lot of, like, Minecraft smp.
Eva Bennett [00:12:46]: Yes. All the Minecraft stuff that I've enjoyed.
Drew Bennett [00:12:49]: Yeah. So, like, what. These kind of came about during the pandemic where people made these videos. It was just something that Eva liked, and it kind of influenced the different cosplays that she created early on. And Eva would try to explain the storylines and, like, oh, that's. That's really, really, really cool. It's not something that I would be into, but I can appreciate it. And I would try to say, oh, check out this.
Drew Bennett [00:13:17]: Or it would always just kind of give her the freedom to just explore certain things that were of interest and then try to find what was mutually of of interest to the two of us.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:13:28]: And, Eva, how has the relationship with your dad influenced the way you navigate life, relationships, or challenges today?
Eva Bennett [00:13:39]: I think dad has talked about giving me a lot of freedom to explore what I'm interested in, look at what I'm interested in, and I think that's been really important in how in my life, like, I've never felt like I was gonna get laughed at, or I never thought that my parents were gonna think it was weird that I was into this thing or, like, so having that kind of relationship definitely made it easier for when I was having a problem or if I wasn't happy about something, I felt like I could go talk to my parents. Like, I didn't feel like I had to hide anything, really, because they've always given me the space to do what I want to do and have the mutual understanding of, we are giving you this freedom because we trust you, and that's helped build trust in return.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:14:21]: It definitely makes sense. And, Drew, what's one way that you consistently are showing Eva that she can always count on you?
Drew Bennett [00:14:30]: I try to be at anything that I can be to support. So if there are shows, if there's something I know Eva likes, try to get tickets to it or go to different things, but just, I mean, I'm always around. One of the things is I have a weird work schedule. So I think after the first. First year that Eva was born, I was still traveling and I hated it because I never was around. So I switched my whole way of working to work overnights on weekends so that I would be home all week. So we don't do a lot of weekend stuff, but during the week, I'm always there. We try to have, you know, as a whole family, we try to sit down and have dinner every night, and we all talk about, you know, what went on during the day.
Drew Bennett [00:15:14]: Might be the same repetitive questions, but we do, you know, get into talking and we know what. What everyone's into and what they're doing and how the school days went. And I always found that that was important to be there and home in that way for those meals and, yeah, I think just being around, I guess.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:15:32]: Eva, can you share a favorite memory with me that you and your dad shared that made you feel really connected with him?
Eva Bennett [00:15:40]: I mean, going back to what we've been talking about before, but, like, the conventions that we do, it's like a two hour drive to get there. So I. We get up early, and I'm up at 8 already getting bags packed, getting hair done, makeup done. I'm doing all this stuff. And then we get in the car and I'm like, so hyped up. And then we're in the car for two hours. And you would think that it would get awkward, but it's really nice because then dad and I get to chat and he gets to tell me about the book series that he was reading. What was the.
Drew Bennett [00:16:09]: Yeah, it was a Silvers. Yeah. Book series by a guy named Shane Silvers who wrote about this character named Nate Temple. And it was. This whole guy wrote like 34 books starting in like 2015 or something like that.
Eva Bennett [00:16:22]: So it's like a crazy expansive universe. There's a ton of books, and you've read them in like, every order that you can because there's like multiple series and they overlap in different places. And I've tried so hard to follow them. I'm so sorry to tell you this, but I don't know what happened in that book series. There was so much happening.
Drew Bennett [00:16:40]: Well, it's funny because it's the same thing when you try to tell me about the SMPs, and I'm like, okay, so this one is this, and there's that, and, oh, okay. But I can recognize Eva's passion for and love for this thing, whereas she can recognize it in me for what I love and why I love it, but is not gonna remember all the details about it and that I don't think it really matters what the details of those are. It's how she feels, talking about it and how it makes her feel and how it's influenced the friendship she's made. And we go to a convention, and she is cosplaying this character, Technoblade. The first time we went to the convention, first time we did it was not at Granite State. It was at WickedCon. But we're walking around and there's these people. They're like, hey, Technoblade and Eva less lit up.
Drew Bennett [00:17:29]: And I still didn't quite understand the whole Technoblade thing and how important it was, but I know how it made Eva feel, and I saw how it made Eva feel, and that was what was the most important.
Eva Bennett [00:17:40]: But I really love our drives to conventions because they're two hours, so we both get a lot of time to talk, and we also get a lot of time to, like, just sit in the quiet if we want to, especially on the way home. We kind of. By the end of the weekend, we're kind of done. We don't really want to be around people anymore, so we, you know, sit and we don't talk to each other for two hours. And that's great that we're able to do that and not, like, feel awkward. And we're not, like, you know, fighting by the end of the weekend. Because as much fun as conventions are, they can also be really stressful because you're in a place with a lot of people and you're dressed up and you're probably not super comfortable in what you're wearing, but you're wearing it because you love it. And.
Eva Bennett [00:18:16]: And, like, you're hot and gross, and there's people everywhere, and you're kind of done. But, like, we have such a good relationship that we can get to the end of those two days and be on the drive home. And the drive home feels like this massive, huge, like, endeavor. And we're sitting in the car and we're together, and we're not talking to each other, but we're sitting there and we're. It's. It's nice to be able to sit in the quiet with somebody and not feel like you have to fill the space. Like, you can if you want to, but you don't have to, and that's going to be okay, too. So all of that to say, I think one of my favorite memories is just doing that convention with you, like, drive up, drive back included.
Eva Bennett [00:18:56]: Even if the drive back doesn't seem as fun in the moment.
Drew Bennett [00:19:00]: Well, it's funny. I've noticed that at the end of a school day, if you had a particularly tough school day, I pick Eva up from school most of the time that I might ask a question or two at the beginning of the drive, but then the rest of it is in quiet because I know you need time to just process the day and relax without so many questions. And I'm very much the same way. It's like I'm home by myself all day, and then I don't hear a lot of things. I don't talk a lot throughout the day. And sometimes I do want to talk a little bit, but sometimes I'm just like, all right, there's too much activity coming at me. And I know that you kind of do the same thing or feel the same way sometimes with that. And I try to be like, okay, we could just be comfortable in the quiet.
Drew Bennett [00:19:44]: And we know it's not that anybody's feeling any feelings of, like, resentment or anything. It's just that we know we need some quiet time. That's all.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:19:52]: You know, I can tell this bond that you have is a very strong one. We touched on it just a second ago. But, Eva, you've got some big changes coming, right? You're heading to college, going to be taking that passion for costuming on to your dream school. And I guess I want to talk about that a little bit, because your relationship's going to change a bit, and you're not going to have that person to talk to all the time. Right? Neither of you will. So talk to me about either the conversations you've already had or how that makes you feel in regards to this change that's coming.
Eva Bennett [00:20:25]: I mean, it's definitely going to be a big change, but I'm not going to be too far from home. So I can. If I'm really missing being at home and missing being near mom and dad, I can come home. I'm not allowed home within the first two months, but according to Mom.
Drew Bennett [00:20:40]: Okay, I was going to say I didn't. I didn't say that.
Eva Bennett [00:20:42]: According to Mom, I'm not allowed back in the first few months, but after that, if I. If I feel like I need to come home and I need to be with you guys, I can do that, and that's okay. And I am also. I know that if I need you guys When I'm not able to be back home, I can call you guys for whatever, and I might need a little bit of a push reminder to give you guys updates on what I'm doing. And that's just because I really am terrible at talking to other people and keeping them updated on stuff. So that might be a little bit of a struggle. Just because I have a bad memory when it comes to, like, you know, sharing my projects and giving update pictures. Because I just go and I do stuff and I don't.
Eva Bennett [00:21:22]: I'm normally not sharing it with anybody, so I kind of. I forget that there are other people who, like, want to see that. So I think that's going to be a little bit difficult. But I know that, like, if I need something or if I just want to talk to you guys, I can call, I can text. I think it'll be fine. I will miss you guys, though. I'll miss being, like, in the same house.
Drew Bennett [00:21:40]: Yeah, it's definitely something that is not going to hit me until it hits me and thinking about it. We've already made our plans for September to go to the convention again, so we have that to look forward to. I'll come up to school, pick Eva up for the weekend, and we'll go to the. To the convention. We've got that. But, like, other ways, too, that we kind of communicate in our own little ways is that we'll, like, send each other different tiktoks of things that we love. So, like, there's a guy who does, like, what is it, the mandolin or the liar who will takes, like, 80s songs or other songs and does, like, medieval covers. Yeah, medieval covers of, like, 80s hair bands and stuff like that.
Drew Bennett [00:22:22]: Because since you drive to school with me, you're going to get the 80s hair band playlist and also metal and stuff like that. It was just funny because when Eva and I were in Krav Maga, when we were taking that, our sensei would always play these different songs that are always on our playlist. He'd quiz the teens and be like, who. Who sings this? So. And Eva would always know it because it was in the car, because this is the stuff that I listened to, which is fun. But then we find something like that we know that particularly speaks to our interests. We'll send a quick little TikTok that we might have found back and forth and that, you know, to me it's just another way of saying, like, I see you and I see what you love. And this made me think of you.
Drew Bennett [00:23:03]: That's How I send those things along in, you know, just like, another way. So if we don't talk all the time, okay. I want to see everything that's going on. But I know Evie's got to have this room to grow and make these new connections and these new friendships. But I know that there's always, like, space for her mom and dad. But we're not going to be overbearing in that way. We're going to miss her, certainly. But to wanting to be at every point of thing, we want to be there for the big stuff, and I mean, also for the little stuff, to be supportive, but we don't have to be there every minute holding hands kind of thing.
Drew Bennett [00:23:38]: So I think what I've seen Eva in the past few years, specifically growing up and becoming more independent with stuff, has been amazing. So Eva started her first job last year where she does a teaching assistant for a summer science school. And seeing Eva meet a whole group of kids that became great friends, I was like, I'm not worried about Eva making friends in college because I think no matter where Eva goes, gonna find her people. And I think that's great. It's very. They find deep friendships, so that's a good thing I see happening. And so, yes, I'm going to miss Eva big time, and I don't want to know what's going on. And I think on our end, we have to maybe prompt.
Drew Bennett [00:24:23]: Hey, what are you working on this week? Or, you know, things like that, but not too much, you know, I mean, I don't want to be like, constantly, hey, give me an update, give me an update. But once in a while, what's going on? Or once in a while, I was thinking of this. Are you into this? Have you heard about this? That sort of thing. Just finding the ways that we could continue to connect across being away.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:43]: Now, I always finish our interviews with what I like to call the dad connection. 6 and usually it's just a dad on. But now that I have both of you, I'm going to ask you both the questions. So, Eva, what's one word that describes your relationship with your dad?
Eva Bennett [00:24:55]: Like, the first word that came to mind was silly. Because I feel like we like. Of course we're able to have really important talks and we're able to talk about stuff like that, but we're also able to be silly and talk about stuff that doesn't feel as important but kind of it still is. That was the first word that came to mind.
Drew Bennett [00:25:14]: I can see that too, because I know that, like, when you were little, we'd play certain music, and I do silly dances, and you're only the person who sees the silly dances. And I can be silly.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:27]: And what word would you say, Drew?
Drew Bennett [00:25:30]: I would say independent. That Eve has always been independent, fights for what she believes in, and is just very, very strong in that. In the. In the independence. So what. You asked what it describes our relationship, didn't you?
Eva Bennett [00:25:47]: Yep.
Drew Bennett [00:25:47]: Not what describes Eva. Is that a question for later? I'm sorry, Did I just totally mess that up? That is how I think of Eva. But, like, our relationship, I want to say, like, the word is fandom, that we appreciate the fandoms that we enjoy, and we can appreciate each other's. So I think that's helped us bond is the different things that we love together and separately and how we can talk about them together.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:12]: And, Eva, what's the best piece of dad advice you've ever received?
Eva Bennett [00:26:17]: I feel like just the message of be yourself and you'll find your people, because that's something I've always been very worried about, and that's something that you seem to have no worries about for me on my behalf. So I think that's. That's a big piece of advice that I have gotten a lot, if not. If I haven't internalized it entirely yet. But it's something that I have gotten and has always been a very important message to me from my dad.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:40]: What about for you, Drew? What's the best piece of dad advice you ever received?
Drew Bennett [00:26:44]: I think from my dad, I used to work with him cleaning up, and he was a contractor, and on the job sites, I would do a lot of the cleaning. And that has helped me in different jobs over the years. It's like, if you've got time to lean, you've got time to clean. I know that's mostly in the restaurant business, which I kind of picked up a second job to do that. And that has always just been my. There's always something that you can do to help, to be. To be useful, and that's always something that he may have. Might never have said, if you got time to lean, you got time to clean.
Drew Bennett [00:27:13]: But that's like how I've internalized that, is that if you're there, you're there to help, to work, and to do what you can. And that's what I've taken with anything that I've ever done is like, you know, you're there. You do what you can while you're there sort of thing.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:27]: Now, this is a question that we've been talking a lot about. And it may be the same answer, but you can have a different answer. So I'm just going to say that. So, Eva, what's one activity you and your dad love doing together?
Eva Bennett [00:27:38]: I mean, saying going to a convention feels like cheating, because that's what we've talked about this whole time. But that's definitely my favorite thing. That's our thing that we do, just the two of us.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:27:48]: Drew, do you want to give a different answer?
Drew Bennett [00:27:49]: I mean, that is definitely something that I love doing, but I also just like nerding out over something that we both enjoy. So talking about it in such depth, because one of the things Eva will do is that after reading something, like a lot of books. So we both really loved the Percy Jackson series. And it was funny because that was the series that I was like, you gotta read this. I know you're gonna love it. And he's like, nah, now I like this other thing. No, no, no, no. And then Eva's cousins was reading it, and they decided to swap and say, okay, you read this, I'll read this.
Drew Bennett [00:28:24]: And then Percy Jackson became the more interesting thing than the other. Oh, no. Oh, okay.
Eva Bennett [00:28:30]: Sorry. I'm gonna cut in for a second. When we swapped, I still didn't like it until you got tickets to see the musical.
Drew Bennett [00:28:35]: That's right.
Eva Bennett [00:28:36]: You made me come and see the musical, and that's when I started to love it, and I loved it so much that I got a T shirt when I was there, and that's still in my closet somewhere.
Drew Bennett [00:28:44]: Yeah.
Eva Bennett [00:28:44]: So sorry. I just had to get the timeline right. Right.
Drew Bennett [00:28:46]: And then there. So. And then there. There's. And we can always find something to talk about there in that. So with the different characters and stuff like that. So bonding over, like, our love of reading. Both big readers.
Drew Bennett [00:28:58]: Right now, I'm more audio because I just don't have the time, and I love audiobooks so much. I may also. I will read a book, but I just love so many of the different ways that people do the narration of audiobooks. It's amazing. So I love that. But it's also absorbing what's going on in the books and being able to talk about the books. And we have this really beautiful bookstore in our area called Unlikely Story that's actually owned by the author of Diary of a Wimpy Kid, Jeff Kinney. You haven't run into him? No, he's there all the time.
Drew Bennett [00:29:27]: But I've never met him and never run into him.
Drew Bennett [00:29:29]: But he has such a wonderful bookstore, and that we love going there for books and just bonding over books, I think is something that. And if Eva's reading something that just really, really into, it might not be the genre that I'm into, but I'll give it a try. And one of the books she really loves, I read it, and I was like, oh, this is really interesting. So discovering new things together is fairly important too.
Eva Bennett [00:29:52]: My answer kind of felt like I was cheating. The father daughter dance for school. We've always done that together. That's something that we really enjoy doing together, and that kind of feels like a cliche. Cause, like, every. Pretty much every dad and daughter does that, because that's, like, the thing specifically for them.
Drew Bennett [00:30:08]: But, yeah, I mean, not every school has it, but it has been something that has been important part of our lives, because we even have our little things that we do at the father daughter dance. Like, we take the selfie with the dessert, or we'll dress alike with. To match.
Drew Bennett [00:30:24]: Done that the past, you know, years. And that's something that I really, really love. Yeah.
Drew Bennett [00:30:28]: And every time we go to get the picture, people are like, wow, how you guys? Because it's just, like, I want to support in one way that shows that we're there together and having a good time. And it's not just, all right, all the girls go off and dance together, and all the dads sit at the table. There's some of that. I don't dance so much, but I'll dance enough. But. But we do. That has been a good one. And this.
Drew Bennett [00:30:49]: This was our last one this year, so that was kind of tough.
Eva Bennett [00:30:52]: It was a good one.
Drew Bennett [00:30:53]: It was a good one. It was a good one. Yeah.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:30:56]: Now, Drew, the next two questions are for you.
Drew Bennett [00:30:58]: Okay.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:30:59]: If you could give Eva one life lesson in a single sentence, what would it be?
Drew Bennett [00:31:03]: Pursue happiness. What it is that makes you happy. It might be hard, but that is going to be the thing that's going to be the most important as you go through life. So do that thing that makes you happy.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:31:14]: And what's one thing that you've learned about yourself since becoming a dad?
Drew Bennett [00:31:18]: I know early on, I did not have very much patience, especially with more Eva's brother. But I've developed much more of that in a way that, like, there's so much that doesn't matter as far as, like, the things that I got stressed out about that just didn't matter. But the things that do matter are the things that stick. So I try to give the kids Just the freedom to do that which they want to do, because I know that they're smart kids. They're. They're good and kind kids. That is probably one of the most important things, is that they're good and kind. They think about other people and just not a lot of that.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:31:54]: So, Eva, in closing today, and Drew, you'll have a chance at this, too. What advice would you give to other dads who want to build a lasting and meaningful relationship with their daughters?
Eva Bennett [00:32:04]: Try to connect with them about things that they love, like meet them where they're at. And I know dad has talked about that a lot, but I think that that's a really important part of why we have such good relationship, because he's talked about trying and reading books and stuff that I love, because there was a book that I like four times last that I loved so much, and you read it. You borrowed my copy, and you read it, and you didn't love it. It wasn't really your thing. You didn't entirely get it, but you knew that I loved it, so you still gave it that try. And I think it's things like that that are why we are able to have such a good relationship. Try and meet your kids where they're at. Even if you don't totally get it, give it a shot, because it might give you an opportunity or, like, a window into understanding them better.
Drew Bennett [00:32:45]: You definitely meet them where they are and you find something that the two of you can enj. It might be something that you didn't know or you were adverse to doing. Like, maybe your daughter loves cooking, so you experiment with cooking together. Or they love photography or they love I'm not a sports guy. Maybe they love sports, but, like, wherever they're into, be into it enough that you can talk about it and show that you're making an effort into what they like. That's a good way to just start the ball rolling is be there where your child is at.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:33:25]: Well, Drew, Eva, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. And, Eva, I wish you the best as you go forward into the next step of your journey into college and beyond. And, Drew, thank you for sharing this special bond that you have together, and I wish you both the best.
Eva & Drew Bennett [00:33:44]: Thank you.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:33:44]: Thank you. That's a wrap for this episode of the dad and Daughter connection. Thanks for joining us on this journey to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Remember, being an engaged dad, dad isn't about being perfect. It's about being present. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe and share it with a fellow dad. And don't forget, you can find all our episodes@dadanddaughterconnection.com until next time, keep showing up, keep connecting, and keep being the dad she needs. We're all in the same boat and it's full of tiny screaming, passing? We spend the time, we give the lessons, we make the meals, we buy them presents and bring your A game? Cause those kids are growing fast? The time goes by just like a dynamite blast? Calling astronauts and firemen? Carpenters and muscle men? Get out and be the world you now Be the best dad you can
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