Divorcing With Sanity

Making sense of the mess your divorce left behind

It may feel like you're completely destroyed from the divorce. The secret nobody tells you is - your life is already changing for the better, even if it doesn't feel like it. In this podcast episode, Yan talks about why breaking down is not the same as being destroyed, and why the mess you're in right now might be exactly where you need to be.

The weight of keeping the divorce a secret: Testimonial from an expat teacher

When she was going through her divorce, my client R didn't tell a single person at work. It wasn't because she was coping with flying colours - it was because in her tight-knit expat community, she (felt like) she couldn't afford to. This podcast episode is about what it costs you to "be fine" every day while secretly falling apart, and how R broke through that wall to find herself again.

Why the right decision to divorce can feel so painful

The marriage hurt you and your children, and you made the brave and very right decision to leave. So why does it still hurt this much? This episode talks about the pain that doesn't disappear just because you did the right thing - and offers 3 honest, practical ways to carry the pain without letting it take your life away.

Why everything that broke in your marriage was not about you

When a marriage breaks down, the first thing we do is blame ourselves. We replay every flaw, every mistake, every way we weren't enough. But what if the breaking was never really about you? This episode explores why your cracks are not your failures - and how to start being kinder to yourself.

When the Family You Loved Turns Against You

When divorce arrives, it sometimes brings a second betrayal - the family you gave everything to suddenly becomes the family that turns against you. This episode is for the nights when that bitterness won't let you rest, and you need someone to remind you: their version of you is not the truth.