PolySoCal

Endings in a Polyamorous Web of Links

In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel explores one of the hardest realities in ethical non monogamy: endings. When relationships become deeply interconnected, breakups can affect far more than just two people. The conversation examines how polyamorous relationships end, how emotional fallout spreads through a polycule, and how communication, maturity, and self awareness can help people navigate painful transitions. Through personal experiences and thoughtful discussion, the group talks about unhealthy dynamics, hierarchy, metamour conflict, and the importance of building strong foundations before adding new partners into a relationship web. Alonzo Banx, Heather, Cupcake, Noah

Poly Meets Kink: Where Do the Lines Actually Exist?

In this episode, PolySoCal brings in an East Coast triad to explore the intersection of polyamory and kink. The conversation dives into whether poly is inherently kinky, how BDSM frameworks influence communication and structure, and where emotional relationships differ from play or connection. Through real experiences, the group breaks down the overlap, the misconceptions, and the realities of building relationships rooted in honesty, power dynamics, and intentional communication. This episode highlights that while poly and kink often intersect, they are not the same, and each relationship defines its own boundaries.  Alonzo Banx, Noah, Heather, Joshua, Cat, Natalie

The Hard Parts of Poly and Why We Stay

In this roundtable episode of PolySoCal, the group takes an honest look at the harder side of polyamory. While the community often celebrates the freedom and connection that poly relationships can bring, the panel digs into the realities that come with it. Jealousy, insecurity, heartbreak, communication struggles, and the emotional work required to maintain multiple relationships are all part of the conversation. Through personal stories and candid discussion, the group explores why people continue choosing poly even when it becomes difficult, and how security, trust, and communication help partners navigate the challenges.   Alonzo Banx, Cupcake, Noah, Dalia, Heather, Lana, Blake, Max

Can You Come and Go? Belonging and Boundaries in Poly Communities

In this episode of PolySoCal, the panel explores a deceptively simple question: can people move in and out of poly relationships and communities, or does belonging create deeper responsibilities? The conversation looks at how connection, identity, and commitment intersect in non monogamous spaces. Panelists share personal experiences about stepping away from relationships, returning to community, and navigating the tension between personal freedom and emotional accountability. The discussion highlights how trust, communication, and respect shape whether relationships remain open doors or closed chapters. Host Alonzo BanX, Psy, Patty, John, Kat

Love Languages & Attachments with Dr. Joli Hamilton

In this episode, PolySoCal welcomes back Dr. Joli Hamilton for a deeper conversation about love languages, attachment needs, and how people experience connection in relationships. The discussion explores the limitations of rigid love language categories and how emotional needs shift based on context, life experience, and personal growth. Through personal stories and expert insight, the panel examines how curiosity, communication, and self awareness allow partners to better understand and support each other. This episode reframes connection not as a fixed formula, but as an evolving process of discovery.