The Great Equalizer

Episode 109 | TRAUMA FAWN! The other F-word with Dr Ingrid Clayton

Ever felt like: * You disappear in relationships? * You can’t say no? * You manage everyone else’s emotions? * You’re “too nice” at your own expense? Beyond just “being nice”, good old people pleasing can make you susceptible to being abused or taken advantage of. But did you ever think about it as another trauma response? In this powerful episode of The Great Equalizer, hosts Sam and Charlene sit down with internationally renowned clinical psychologist and trauma therapist Dr Ingrid Clayton to unpack fawning — the lesser-known trauma response that joins fight, flight and freeze. Dr Clayton, author of Believing Me and Fawning, has spoken on and been referenced on some major podcasting platforms including The Dr Phil Podcast and The Mel Robbins Podcast — and now she’s bringing the conversation to TGE. For parents in the 2020s — especially millennial moms navigating boundaries, burnout, and identity — this episode is essential listening. Here’s some of what we cover: 🙇🏼‍♀️ What fawning actually is 🙇🏻‍♀️ The “Good Girl Complex” 🙇🏼‍♀️ Financial fawning, sexual fawning & fawning as social currency 🙇🏻‍♀️ Trauma bonding, narcissistic dynamics & The Drama Triangle 🙇🏼‍♀️ Worthiness wounds and shrinking yourself to survive 🙇🏻‍♀️ Parenting triggers and breaking generational cycles 🙇🏼‍♀️ Somatic healing, EMDR & body-based trauma recovery 🙇🏻‍♀️ What “unfawning” really looks like 🙇🏼‍♀️ One practical step you can take to begin the healing process. 🎧 Tune in now and don’t forget to like, comment and subscribe. And please leave us a loving comment or review! Every episode that gets out has the capacity to bring one mom closer to sanity. We believe it! __ #TheGreatEqualizer #Fawning #TraumaResponse #PeoplePleasing #GoodGirlComplex #ParentingPodcast #MillennialMoms #MentalHealth #TraumaHealing #EMDR #SomaticHealing #Boundaries #WomenWellness #Unfawning #DrIngridClayton

Episode 108 | Refiloe Moahloli on inner-child healing and South African stories that matter

Being around award-winning author Refiloe Moahloli is an immersive experience — one rooted in curiosity, childlike wonder, and deep respect for young people as whole and autonomous humans. In this episode of The Great Equalizer, we welcome back one of South Africa’s most beloved children’s book authors to chat about what it means to write from the inside out. Refiloe reflects on a transformative season of personal healing, creative renewal and gratitude. This is the season that shaped her latest book, How Many Ways Can You Say Thank You?, which is the third instalment in her celebrated trilogy (including How Many Ways Can You Say Hello? and How Many Ways Can You Say Goodbye?) which explores language, culture, connection and ubuntu.  Refiloe chats with Sam and Charlene about:  🖤 Honouring the inner child, 💛 Storytelling rooted in lived experience, 🖤 Raising grateful kids in an increasingly noisy world, 💛 Knowing yourself as the most radical form of validation. We also get some insight into some other books that Refiloe's been working on, like Dance to Your Own Beat and All That I Am (a collection of South African poems and nursery rhymes). She also chats about her upcoming early readers and gives us a sneak peek into the South African YA romance she's working on. 🎧 Whether you’re a parent, writer, educator, or simply someone navigating their own healing journey, this episode will inspire you in all the ways that only Refiloe Moahloli can. To this special guest: Thank you, dankie, ngiyabonga — and welcome back, you little firecracker 🧨 🎙️ Subscribe to TGE’s Current Read for more conversations with today’s most exciting authors: https://youtu.be/_X4-Lm7qGKg?si=9lQ5Y_YqbQWPlgox __ 🖤 LISTEN 💛 LIKE 🖤 SHARE 💛 (and let us know what you think of the episode!) #TheGreatEqualizer #RefiloeMoahloli #SouthAfricanAuthors #ChildrensLiterature #InnerChildHealing #GratitudePractice #Ubuntu #LocalStories #ParentingWithPurpose #WritingLife #AfricanStorytelling #KidsBooks #YAfiction #CreativeHealing #WomenInLiterature #SouthAfricanPodcasts

Episode 107 | MOTHERHOOD & MURDER PLOTS! Author Katherine Faulkner on writing and raising kids

On this episode of The Great Equalizer, hosts Sam and Charlene sit down with bestselling author Katherine Faulkner: journalist-turned-novelist and the mind behind Greenwich Park, The Other Mothers, and her latest psychological thriller, The Break In. After a decade as an investigative journalist and editor, Katherine has become one of the sharpest voices in modern domestic suspense – a master at throwing “ordinary women into extraordinary, what-would-you-do situations” (as deftly put by author Abigail Dean). In this episode, we chat about: 🖤 Katherine’s transition from newsroom to novelist life 🤍 The short story inspiration behind The Break In   🖤 The intersection of motherhood, domesticity and danger evident in Katherine’s work 🤍 The psychology of safety, secrecy and suspense within the home 🖤 How Katherine manages to write while raising two kids (spoiler alert: with difficulty!) About the book: The Break In follows a London mother who kills an intruder in self-defence, only to find that nothing about the man, or her own life, is as it seems. A chilling, twist-filled exploration of guilt, privilege, and how well we really know the people closest to us. 🎙️ Subscribe to TGE’s Current Read for more conversations with today’s most exciting authors: https://open.spotify.com/show/0t7nFSaRvJlpot09GwQtkd?si=8b5298e3c474465c __ 🖤 LISTEN 💛 LIKE 🖤 SHARE 💛 (and let us know what you think of the episode!) __ #KatherineFaulkner #TheBreakIn #DomesticThriller #PsychologicalThriller #MumNoir #BookPodcast #CrimeFiction #CurrentRead #TGERadio #BookLovers #AuthorInterview #WomenWriters #BookTube #ReadingCommunity #SuspenseFiction #TheOtherMothers #GreenwichPark

Episode 106 | GOOD ENOUGH MOTHERING with psychoanalyst Andy Cohen

In a world with heightened expectations on parents to perform, is “good enough” mothering really a good thing?    On this episode of The Great Equalizer, we welcome Joburg-based psychoanalyst and mom of two Andy Cohen.   Andy talks us through parenting in the world’s current pressure cooker, giving us some insight into why people are suddenly so psychologically triggered when they become parents.   We chat about Andy’s new book, Parenting Psychoanalysed: Letters to a Parent, which includes letters from 39 analysts across the world, as well as a letter from Andy herself.   Leaning into the intersectionality of parenting and psychology, Andy tells us why she thinks parents were the world’s first psychoanalysts, also expanding on renowned paediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott’s theory of “good enough mothering”.   Watered down over the years through the filters of social media, this is a concept that seems to have been misconstrued. Winnicott’s theory, however, is a golden thread that weaves its way throughout Andy’s book.   And so, in this insightful episode of The Great Equalizer, we unpack why it’s so crucial for mothers and fathers not to strive for perfection in parenting.   Join the conversation and, as always, please let us know what you think of the episode 🫶🏼   🖤 LISTEN 💛 LIKE 🖤 SHARE 💛 SUBSCRIBE  __ #ParentingPodcast #Psychoanalysis #ConsciousParenting #ParentingJourney #MentalHealthAndParenting#ParentingSupport #FamilyWellbeing #ParentingInsights __ Did you enjoy this episode? Then don’t miss a previous TGE interview with marriage and family therapist Bryana Kappadakunnel, founder of the Conscious Mommy community and author of Parent Yourself First (a book about raising confident, compassionate kids by becoming the parent you wish you’d had): https://youtu.be/0d176c86HSc?si=wYDVffQWiTuCppbQ

Episode 105 | FOOD FOR MENOPAUSE with Dr Linia Patel

On this very special episode of The Great Equalizer, Sam and Charlene are joined LIVE by world-leading dietitian and performance nutritionist Dr Linia Patel. With a BSc in Biochemistry and Physiology from the University of Cape Town, Dr Linia found her groove in Nutrition and Dietetics, adding to her already impressive resume a Master’s degree in Sports Nutrition and a PhD in Public Health and Epidemiology. Born and bred in Zambia, with a home in Italy and an office in London, it was such a privilege to catch Dr Linia in Johannesburg for an intimate sit-in conversation, together with our very first live audience. A variety of women aged 20 to 60 gathered for a great discussion, and one thing we all had in common was TIME (or a lack thereof). As a busy woman herself, Dr Linia understood the assignment, collating all her wisdom and insight on eating for wellness in womanhood. All this advice has now been published in a new book called Food for Menopause – a guide to feeding our body with the best nutrition on a time-poor budget. Tune in to this episode to hear more about Dr Linia's dual passions for food and women’s health. Learn more about how food supports your wellbeing as a woman (especially as you age). Listen to what this expert nutritionist  has to say about protein, weight gain, calorie-restrictive diets, poor body image, and a ‘strong vs skinny’ mindset as we dive into a thriving mid-life. __  🖤 LISTEN 💛 LIKE 🖤 SHARE 💛 SUBSCRIBE And tell us what you think of the episode 🫶🏽  _ #perimenopause [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/perimenopause] #menopause [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/menopause] #womenshealth [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/womenshealth] #menopausesupport [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/menopausesupport] #menopausesymptoms [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/menopausesymptoms] #menopausehealth [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/menopausehealth] #menopauserelief [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/menopauserelief] #womenover [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/womenover] #hormones [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/hormones] #over [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/over] #perimenopausehealth [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/perimenopausehealth] #hormonebalance [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/hormonebalance] #menopauseawareness [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/menopauseawareness] #menopausematters [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/menopausematters] #midlifewomen [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/midlifewomen] #hormonehealth [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/hormonehealth] #postmenopause [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/postmenopause]