The School of Greatness

Why You're Still Playing Small (And How to Stop) | Emmanuel Acho

Not everyone is going to like you. And that is okay. Emmanuel Acho built one of the most meteoric rises in media in recent memory. Former NFL linebacker. Fox Sports host of Speak for Yourself. Author of multiple New York Times bestselling books, including Illogical: Saying Yes to a Life Without Limits, published under the Oprah imprint. He has done things no one outside of Oprah herself has done. And still, the criticism came. This conversation is about what you do with that. How do you hold your identity when the world tries to hand you someone else's version of it? Emmanuel turned down comparisons to Michael Strahan because he understood something most people miss: you cannot become the greatest version of yourself by trying to become someone who already exists. He stopped setting goals. Not because he stopped caring, but because he realized goals create a ceiling. Instead he started moving toward objectives, things that stretch beyond what logic says is possible. He fell and got back up. He didn't fail. There is a difference. If you have ever achieved something and felt emptier than you expected, or gotten harder on yourself the more successful you became, this episode will crack something open in you. Emmanuel’s books: Uncomfortable Conversations with a Jew * Amazon [https://amzn.to/4vY1Ep5] * Ebook [https://apple.co/49bBSE8] * Audio Book [https://apple.co/49EiLCM] Illogical: Saying Yes to a Life Without Limits * Amazon [https://amzn.to/4eQeCyV] * Ebook [https://apple.co/4nIaSlF] * AudioBook [https://apple.co/3Psvr96] Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man * Amazon [https://amzn.to/4cTM70I] * Ebook [https://apple.co/3RkMgDr] * AudioBook [https://apple.co/4o1fS5b] Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Boy * Amazon [https://amzn.to/4vYx26G] * Ebook [https://apple.co/4tPz8Uv] * AudioBook [https://apple.co/43i9qwK] In this episode you will: * Understand why reframing failure as falling, not losing, can keep you moving when everything feels like a setback * Explore the self-love scale Emmanuel used to assess himself at a six and a half, and what it takes to grow that number through success instead of despite it * Discover why Emmanuel Acho stopped setting goals and replaced them with objectives that remove the ceiling on what you can achieve * Learn how to protect your identity when success brings comparisons, criticism, and pressure to become someone else * Hear the story of how a call from Oprah Winfrey led to Emmanuel becoming the only person outside of Oprah to have multiple books published under her imprint For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1934 [https://lewishowes.com/1934] For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Follow The Daily Motivation [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-daily-motivation/id1634106069] for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Lewis Howes Solo [Everything You Want In Life Comes When You Let Go] [http://greatness.lnk.to/1906SC] Kevin Love [http://greatness.lnk.to/1923SC] Amy Purdy [http://greatness.lnk.to/1918SC] TOPICS Emmanuel Acho, Illogical, goals vs. objectives, self-love and success, public criticism, identity and comparison, reframing failure, Oprah imprint, mindset and limiting beliefs, breaking through barriers Get more from Lewis!  Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! [https://lewishowes.com/money] Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/1jWO57cwx0cXxHEwbfw85j?si=b570febb9a234e9f] Text Lewis AI [https://greatness.lnk.to/chat] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/] Website [http://lewishowes.com/] Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/] X [https://twitter.com/LewisHowes] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Fear, Shame, and the Fight to Get Out of Your Own Way | Joel Kinnaman

You can be wildly successful and still be quietly falling apart inside. Joel Kinnaman has appeared in some of the most talked-about shows in Hollywood. He has starred in The Killing, Robocop, House of Cards, Altered Carbon, and is currently in his fifth season of For All Mankind. And he will be the first to tell you that none of that made the war inside his head any quieter. Before every live theater performance for three straight years, he threw up. He kept a bucket backstage. The negative voices in his mind were relentless, and he spent years drinking heavily, using drugs, and force-feeding himself in a desperate attempt to hide the shame he felt about a physical condition that had left him feeling deformed since childhood. What changed everything was not a breakthrough moment. It was a choice to stop running from the fear and bury himself in the work. He memorized a 105-minute one-man show in 10 days, playing 16 different characters, and walked on stage without throwing up for the first time. That experience taught him something he still carries: preparation is armor. The deeper a role is in your bones, the more freedom you have to be alive inside it. He is still working on the personal side. He describes himself as a disaster in relationships, not from a lack of care, but from years of treating his career as the only thing that could not touch him. He talks about wanting to find the balance between the structure that builds trust and the childlike wonder that keeps him creative. That tension is where this conversation lives. Joel’s IMDB [https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1172478/] In this episode you will: * Understand how shame about a physical condition called pectus excavatum triggered an eating disorder that took years to unpack and overcome * Discover how Joel turned debilitating stage fright and a 3-year pattern of pre-performance vomiting into a breakthrough that rewired his relationship with fear * Learn why preparation is the most underrated performance skill and why Joel insists on being at least 3 nights ahead on every scene he shoots * Hear why Joel sees himself as a different man in his career versus his personal relationships, and what he believes he needs to change to close that gap * Explore how Joel uses psilocybin experiences, breathwork, and the Buddhist concept of shepa to create space between triggers and reaction in his daily life For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1933 [https://lewishowes.com/1933] For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Follow The Daily Motivation [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-daily-motivation/id1634106069] for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Lewis Howes Solo [7 Habits To Be Happier] [http://greatness.lnk.to/1867SC] Josh Groban [http://greatness.lnk.to/1818SC] The Jonas Brothers [http://greatness.lnk.to/1794SC] TOPICS Joel Kinnaman, stage fright, eating disorder recovery, pectus excavatum, performance anxiety, preparation as armor, shepa, psilocybin, self-loathing, personal growth, For All Mankind, relationship consistency Get more from Lewis!  Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! [https://lewishowes.com/money] Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/1jWO57cwx0cXxHEwbfw85j?si=b570febb9a234e9f] Text Lewis AI [https://greatness.lnk.to/chat] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/] Website [http://lewishowes.com/] Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/] X [https://twitter.com/LewisHowes] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Science of Doing Less to Achieve More | David Epstein

Too many options isn't freedom. It's paralysis dressed up as possibility. David Epstein, investigative journalist and author of the bestseller Range, is back with a counterintuitive idea: the constraints you've been avoiding might be the exact thing that unlocks your best work. His new book, Inside the Box: How Constraints Make Us Better, makes the case that boundaries don't limit you. They focus you. You'll hear how a company in the early nineties assembled arguably the greatest collection of tech talent ever, had unlimited resources, and still collapsed under the weight of its own options. Meanwhile, two people who left that company with small, focused projects built eBay and the Palm Pilot. The lesson isn't about talent. It's about the bounding box. David introduces his BCS Press Release framework: batch your work so you're not toggling all day, make your commitments visible so you can actually subtract the right ones, use satisficing rules to make decisions without drowning in choices, and write the press release before you start anything, so you know what matters before you're too deep in to see clearly. This conversation also gets personal. David talks about the childhood arm injury that ended his baseball career and pushed him toward running and memory techniques he still uses today. He opens up about forgiveness, about the grudges that are hard to shake, and about the Harvard Study of Adult Development, the longest study of human happiness ever conducted, which concluded that happiness is love. Real relationships. Mutual obligation. The stuff you keep forgetting to schedule. David’s socials: Website [https://davidepstein.com/] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/davidepstein/] X [https://x.com/DavidEpstein] David’s books: * Inside the Box: How Constraints Make Us Better [https://amzn.to/4s1Wu8o] * Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World [https://amzn.to/4v1Fyl6] * The Sports Gene: Inside the Science of Extraordinary Athletic Performance [https://amzn.to/4bX0AIK] In this episode you will: * Discover why having too many options can kill your creativity and how the psychology of the path of least resistance explains it * Learn the BCS Press Release framework for batching work, making commitments visible, and using satisficing rules to stay focused * Understand the difference between kind and wicked learning environments and why the 10,000-hour rule only applies to one of them * Explore what MIT, Northwestern, and Census Bureau research reveals about the average age of fast-growing startup founders and why late bloomers have an edge * Apply the subtractive neglect bias and the subtraction game to cut commitments and create more clarity in your work and relationships For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1932 [https://lewishowes.com/1932] For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Follow The Daily Motivation [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-daily-motivation/id1634106069] for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Lewis Howes Solo [5-Step Mental Reprogramming Process] [http://greatness.lnk.to/1929SC] Emma Grede [http://greatness.lnk.to/1914SC] Kevin Love [http://greatness.lnk.to/1923SC] TOPICS David Epstein, Inside the Box, Range, constraints and creativity, BCS Press Release framework, kind vs. wicked learning environments, 10000-hour rule, Harvard Study of Adult Development, satisficing rules, subtractive neglect bias Get more from Lewis!  Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! [https://lewishowes.com/money] Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/1jWO57cwx0cXxHEwbfw85j?si=b570febb9a234e9f] Text Lewis AI [https://greatness.lnk.to/chat] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/] Website [http://lewishowes.com/] Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/] X [https://twitter.com/LewisHowes] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Person (And How to Finally Stop) | Faith Jenkins

Most people learn how to love the hard way. What if you didn't have to? Faith Jenkins is a TV judge who has presided over more divorce cases than most people will ever witness in a lifetime. She has also been through roughly 10 serious relationships of her own, waited until 42 to marry, and did both pre-engagement and premarital counseling before saying yes. She knows this terrain from every angle. What she learned will shift the way you think about every relationship you are in or hoping to find. The true measure of someone is not who they are when things are going great. It is who they are under pressure. Pain is inevitable, she says. Suffering is optional. You cannot be cynical about love and expect to attract it at the same time. That single idea might change everything. Somewhere between the heartbreak and the closed doors is the version of you who is finally ready, and that is the person your partner actually gets to meet. Faith married the right person six months after writing down that she would. She did not fight the breakup that made space for him. She radically accepted it, let it go, and stepped into the biggest open door of her life. Faith’s book: Sis, Don't Settle: How to Stay Smart in Matters of the Heart [https://amzn.to/3QQs8IV] Faith’s website [https://faithjenkins.com/] Faith on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@judgefaithjenkins/videos] Faith on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/judgefaithjenkins/] In this episode you will: * Understand why emotional maturity, not chemistry, is what separates a healthy ending from a destructive one * Learn Faith's practice of radical acceptance and how separating your feelings from the facts protects your peace through breakups * Discover why doing pre-engagement counseling before getting engaged gives you real clarity on alignment before pressure sets in * Recognize the hidden reasons so many people settle, from fear of loneliness to past experiences that erode self-worth * Apply Faith's approach to staying open to love after betrayal, and how reframing your past protects your future partner from paying for it For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1931 [https://lewishowes.com/1931] For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Follow The Daily Motivation [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-daily-motivation/id1634106069] for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Lewis Howes Solo [Find The PERFECT Relationship] [http://greatness.lnk.to/1891SC] Esther Perel [http://greatness.lnk.to/1851SC] Matthew Hussey [http://greatness.lnk.to/1782SC] TOPICS Faith Jenkins, Sis Don't Settle, emotional maturity, radical acceptance, red flags in relationships, divorce and marriage lessons, love languages, pre-engagement counseling, heartbreak recovery, choosing love consciously Get more from Lewis!  Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! [https://lewishowes.com/money] Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/1jWO57cwx0cXxHEwbfw85j?si=b570febb9a234e9f] Text Lewis AI [https://greatness.lnk.to/chat] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/] Website [http://lewishowes.com/] Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/] X [https://twitter.com/LewisHowes] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Sleep Doctor's 5 Rules for Your Best Night Ever | Dr. Michael Breus

You already know sleep matters. What you don't know is why you keep waking up at 2 AM, why your tracker is probably lying to you, and why the rules you've been following may not be meant for you. Dr. Michael Breus is one of the world's leading sleep doctors - not just a sleep expert, but a clinical psychologist who actually treats patients and pressure-tests every theory in real life. The difference matters. The rule saying you need a pitch-black, 65-degree room with no TV and no partner? He sleeps with two French bulldogs and a big screen on. His point isn't that sleep hygiene doesn't matter. It's that it has to work for your actual life. One thing that might reshape how you think about your body: every human on earth wakes up between 1 and 3 AM. It's biology. Your core body temperature drops to prevent hypothermia, and your body briefly surfaces. Most people roll over and go back to sleep. If you don't, the fix isn't pills - it's understanding what's happening and using tools like 4-7-8 breathing to lower your heart rate below 60 and let sleep return naturally. Your chronotype - lion, bear, wolf, or dolphin - is genetic. It shifts across your lifetime. Forcing a wolf to be a lion doesn't make them a better performer; it makes them worse. The biggest unlock, according to Dr. Breus, isn't more sleep. It's doing the right things at the right time for your specific biology. Dr. Breus has a five-step daily framework he gives every patient. It's specific, it's sequenced, and most people are violating at least three of the steps without knowing it. Dr. Breus’s books: * Sleep Drink Breathe: Simple Daily Habits for Profound Long-Term Health [https://amzn.to/4bFtw9s] * Energize!: Go from Dragging Ass to Kicking It in 30 Days [https://amzn.to/4bR0nqA] * The Power of When: Discover Your Chronotype and the Best Time to Eat Lunch, Ask for a Raise, Have Sex, Write a Novel, Take Your Meds, and More [https://amzn.to/48h32Zw] * The Sleep Doctor's Diet Plan: Lose Weight Through Better Sleep [https://amzn.to/3NCZWZ4] * Beauty Sleep: Look Younger, Lose Weight, and Feel Great Through Better Sleep [https://amzn.to/4dkwXUb] Take The Chronotype Quiz! [https://sleepdoctor.com/greatness] Dr. Breus on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/thesleepdoctor/?hl=en] Dr. Breus on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/thesleepdoctor/] In this episode you will: * Learn the five-step framework Dr. Breus uses with CEOs, elite athletes, and patients to dramatically improve sleep quality without medication * Discover the 4-7-8 breathing technique developed by Dr. Andrew Weil and how it lowers your heart rate to unlock sleep when your mind won't stop * Understand chronotype science - whether you're a lion, bear, wolf, or dolphin - and how aligning your schedule to your biology changes everything from performance to sex drive * Uncover the truth about sleep trackers, melatonin supplements, and why eight hours is not the universal target you've been sold * Master the Napa Latte protocol and non-sleep deep rest (Yoga Nidra) as emergency recovery tools when life disrupts your sleep For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1930 [https://lewishowes.com/1930] For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Follow The Daily Motivation [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-daily-motivation/id1634106069] for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Andrew Huberman [http://greatness.lnk.to/1219SC] Dr. Baland Jalal [http://greatness.lnk.to/1815SC] Shawn Stevenson [https://lewishowes.com/podcast/shawn-stevenson-sleep/] TOPICS chronotype, circadian rhythm, sleep drive, adenosine, 4-7-8 breathing, Yoga Nidra, non-sleep deep rest, Napa Latte protocol, melatonin, chrono longevity, sleep anxiety, Dr. Michael Breus Get more from Lewis!  Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! [https://lewishowes.com/money] Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/1jWO57cwx0cXxHEwbfw85j?si=b570febb9a234e9f] Text Lewis AI [https://greatness.lnk.to/chat] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/] Website [http://lewishowes.com/] Tiktok [https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/] X [https://twitter.com/LewisHowes] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.