Why Not?

86. What does success mean to you?

I often hear success talked about as if it has some universally agreed upon definition. And often the implication has something to do with career and/or money. But it can mean anything you want. Anything. In this episode I explore my own thoughts on success, I share ways I cultivate the feeling of success or arrive at it, and tons of questions for you to explore and arrive at your own definition. I hope this episode sparks more conversation and allows us all to lean into how incredible and magical we all are right now in this moment. Read more: On Substack [https://jillifred.substack.com] Talk more: Via Email [jill@jillifred.com] See more: On Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/jillifred]

85. Self Care + Rest are for YOU, not to increase Productivity

Yes, I myself have said "Rest is Productive." And it can be. For sure. But also - when was the last time you rested or cared for yourself for the SAKE of resting + caring for yourself, and not as a means to get back to work? Today I share lessons from my latest burnout so we all learn from it. Listen in to hear: * Why rest CAN be productive - but why that's not helpful as your underlying motivation * Another way of thinking about resting and self care * Leaning into indulging in rest and self care for the sake of them * A lesson if you're someone who only takes forced pauses, not intentional, indulgent pauses * Some great questions sprinkled in to support you resting and caring for yourself * Thinking about caring for yourself as you would your inner or younger child self * Many many reminders to just take that nap if ya wanna! Every lessons has layers and this is my latest layer in my burnout lesson. I'm honored to share it with you and hope it gives you some jumping off points for your own lessons, your own rest, your own self care. 💚 Read more: On Substack [//jillifred.substack.com] Talk more: Via Email [jill@jillifred.com] See more: On Instagram [//www.instagram.com/jillifred]

84. Productivity + Capacity

Not all of productivity is active creation. AND some is co-creation. Our society prioritizes doing doing doing but I reject it + show you in this episode a different way to think about and relate to productivity. Listen in to hear: * What productivity is and isn't * An example of non-toxic productivity in farming + gardening (truly transformational idea) * How to get yourself to do things when your default is to do nothing - and why you're not  lazy or wrong or bad * Why resting is resting and not productive (yes I've gone back on my own words - evolution of thought is wonderful) * Why leaning into your capacity is so much more important than just producing producing producing * How so much of art happens in the liminal space, lean in * You will not hear in this episode "How to be more productive" but you will hear why not * How to explore your capacity Prioritize your day to day, your lived experience over what + how much you produce. Productivity is neutral - but our societal view of it is mostly toxic. This episode is a different take on how we can relate to productivity taking our own capacity into account. It's a love letter from my heart. 💚 Episode mentioned: * 16. How to Get Anything Done [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1263386/6478465] * I mentioned an episode where I talked about toxic productivity - but it doesn't actually exist - SORRY - email or DM me if you want me to create one and dive further into this topic tho! What's next?: Email me to work together 1:1: right here [jill@jillfred.com]Connect with me on IG: right here [https://www.instagram.com/jillifred] Get weekly love notes from me: right here [https://jillifred.substack.com] Music: Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp here [https://younggohards.bandcamp.com/] Grab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here [https://jillifred.bandcamp.com/]

83. On Accountability

You don't have to shame yourself into action. You don't have to feel terrible when you don't do the thing. AND you can still hold yourself accountable. And get things done. Listen in to hear: * What accountability is and what it definitely is not * How take responsibility for your action + inactions without shame * Why it IS ok that you didn't do the thing AND what to do next * How to hold yourself accountable * The questions to ask yourself before, during, + after doing the thing you said you would do * How I get myself to do things in the moment * A sidenote on "it's my fault" and what that really means Listen in and start taking responsibility for your actions + inactions so you CAN spend your time the way you want now! Episode mentioned: * 16. How to Get Anything Done [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1263386/6478465] What's next?: Work with me 1:1: right here [http://www.jillifred.com/consult]Connect with me on IG: right here [https://www.instagram.com/jillifred] Get weekly love notes from me: right here [https://skilled-mover-3113.ck.page/5a656897c3] Music: Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp here [https://younggohards.bandcamp.com/] Grab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here [https://jillifred.bandcamp.com/]

82. On Confidence

Confidence is about the quality of your self trust, not the quality of your work. It's not about "Am I good enough?" "Is my art good?" It's - "I trust in my capacity to learn, and grow, and evolve, and create." Period. Listen in to hear: * Why yes you CAN do what you want - even if it hasn't happened yet (And how to think about it so that you CAN) * Why confidence has nothing to do with how good your art is, how good your work is, whether or not you've done something before * How to overcome Imposter Syndrome and be confident anytime about anything * How I think about confidence and why I'm always confident in my guitar skills even when I don't think I'm good (What?? Yes.) * Why you already have confidence, you're just choosing it to be in your LACK of results and how to switch that This episode will completely shift how you think about confidence and your ability to feel confident. Listen in and enjoy! What's next?: Work with me 1:1: right here [http://www.jillifred.com/consult]Connect with me on IG: right here [https://www.instagram.com/jillifred] Get weekly love notes from me: right here [https://skilled-mover-3113.ck.page/5a656897c3] Music: Intro and outro music by Young Go Hards: bandcamp here [https://younggohards.bandcamp.com/] Grab my solo ep + merch, Hot Tub Socks: bandcamp here [https://jillifred.bandcamp.com/]