Choose: Exploring What's Possible

I was heartbroken when I learned that my friend Jane’s 90-year old mom was in hospice. I’d had the pleasure of spending a few days with Ruth at her home in Florida a few years back and I was touched by her zest for life, her humor and her overall kindness. Jane shared with her community that she’d be honoring her mom’s request to slow down and would be taking a sacred sabbatical. There would be no weekly emails or offerings. Instead she’d focus on her own rest and rejuvenation. During our conversation Jane shared that it was her choice, made over 14 years ago, to stop playing  small that set her up to take the time off she needed to grieve, heal and rejuvenate. As Jane shared her story, I felt full body chills as her words about stepping out and playing bigger hit home. I’ve been hiding, keeping my work and message hidden. And, in honor of Ruth’s beautiful memory, I’m making a similar choice to stop playing small. Please listen to Jane’s words, see how they impact you, and what they inspire you to do for yourself. Click here [https://www.globalexpertsaccelerator.com/2018/08/14/sacred-sabbatical/]to learn Jane’s steps on taking a sacred sabbatical. To connect with Jane directly,click here [janed@janedeuber.com]. To subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, visitthis page [https://itunes.apple.com/al/podcast/choose-exploring-whats-possible/id986529548?mt=2].

Kathe Crawford, the author ofUnlocking Secrets: My Journey to an Open Heart [https://www.amazon.com/Unlocking-Secrets-Journey-Open-Heart-ebook/dp/B07BFLFDV6], chose to share a secret she'd kept for 30 years. This secret wound its tentacles around her mind and heart but she got to a point where she was ready to be set free. If you’ve ever struggled with whether or not you should share your secret, you’ll be captivated by her story. I’ve time stamped some of the highlights from our podcast below but you can click here to listen to the entire conversation [https://itunes.apple.com/al/podcast/choose-exploring-whats-possible/id986529548?mt=2]. * [02:34] Since I’m fascinated by choices I was struck with Kathe’s observation that there are lot of little choices that lead to the actual big choice – in her case revealing her secret. And when she made the choice to reveal her secret, the whole universe really did open up for her, including her new book. * [05:36] Kathy reveals her secret, that her husband was diagnosed with AIDS in the mid-eighties. She lived with that, without telling a soul for 30 years! She shares how people responded when she finally opened up. We spoke about how so often the things we don't share are the things we feel shame about, but when we have the courage to share what scares us, there's magic on the other side, always. * [09:14] Kathe openly shares what held her back from sharing her story and how she finally reached a point in her life where she said, "I am worth it." She'd been looking and searching for answers on the outside, when she knew the answer was right inside of her the whole time. * [00:16:05] Kathe shares the moment when she finally reveals her secret. She had eight minutes to tell her 30-year story, and when she looked up at the audience there was not one bit of rejection or shame. She realized that she'd been running and looking for this love and approval when in fact, she had it all the time. She just had to be brave enough and courageous enough to open herself up. Once you've had a chance to listen, I'm curious to hear what you think. Please leave a comment on my blog [http://kimdeyoung.com/choosing-to-share-a-30-year-old-secret/] and let me know.

Bill Donaldson is a veritable Clark Kent. Financial consultant by profession and founder of the non-profit Love Has a Home by passion. In October of 2017, Bill made a choice to bring a positive message of love to the world. He came up with the phrase “Love Has a Home Here,” and created  the logo printing it on various products such as t-shirts, lawn signs, hats, car magnets and other items that will spread the message wherever the product is seen. Here are a few highlights from our conversation. * [02:34] Bill shared how his inspiration came to him while he was driving. (So many people have told me that’s when they get their best ideas!) He noticed a lawn sign with a great message about non-hatred. But what struck him was the very word that the sign opposed was there; front and center. He wondered, “Do we really need this negative approach to solving problems?” He made the choice right there on spot to do something and shortly thereafter the phrase, “Love has a home here,” was born. * [07:19] Bill shares how his connections got him to the next level with sharing this important message. I love how that happens. When you have an important message so often the right people show up to help you share it with the world. * [11:19] Bill works as a financial consultant and he’s a dad so I asked him how he’s juggling everything and fusing his new mission with the other parts of his life. I loved his answer, “The truth is no matter what I’m doing, I’m bringing it with me.” He speaks about how his choice filters into every part of his life. * [16:40] Then we got into how fear can hold us back. But according to Bill, when you do what you love, you let go of the outcome. He says about our choices, “Don’t worry about what might happen. You just trust that what you’re doing is good work and let it go from there. Let higher powers take it from there.” * [23:15] When you have a very big, amazing idea it’s overwhelming at times. Bill acknowledges all the work that goes into our ideas and how to makes space and get support for your labor of love. Don’t go it alone!

Shelli shares her story about how 25 years ago she was hired as her city’s first female firefighter and made the choice to say yes to her truth. She was brave enough to rewrite her story and today she’s a coach, speaker (witha phenomenal TED talk [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nApOVdlaZRE]), and author teaching others to say yes to their truth. Here are some of the highlights, but you'll definitely want to listen to her whole story. 1:  The world had labeled her an artist but it wasn’t fitting. [01:41] 25 years ago Shelli was a 108-pound manicurist ending high school and trying to figure out what to do with her life. She shares how it wasn’t until she shed the label of “Shelli the artist” to one that was “Shelli who likes art, and whatever else Shelli feels like liking” that she became free to explore other opportunities. 2: Three words that changed her life. [06:16]  She was intrigued by firefighting, but she thought, “I’m not big enough, brave enough, smart enough, and strong enough. There are no girls in firefighting.” But her friend who was a firefighter challenged her saying: “There’s going to be a girl one day. Why not you?” The words “Why not me?” reverberated in her thoughts. A switch went off. She spent the next 1,162 days hacking and learning every single thing she needed to learn to succeed. 3: Forget logic, learn how to hack possibility. [12:56] Shelli talks about the times that sucked as a firefighter, but how they were the times she grew the most. Today she coaches people on their internal story – the story that keeps you small. She shared with me her five pillar system that helps people hack possibility – foundation, alignment, courage, expertise, and community. My heart leapt when she said, “And to accomplish anything lofty or worthy of your time and your greatness, you cannot lead with logic. You have to lead with possibility.” 4: Everything is possible when… [26:35] Shelli explains everything is possible when you learn to tell yourself a better story. When you do, you not only heal yourself but you can change the world. On the other hand, not managing your story can be catastrophic to your emotional health, to your mental health, and to your physical health because it’s not living in your truth. 5: Reframing your story is not for the weak of heart. [30:43] Shelli had some profound insight on reframing your story. She said you have to be brave because the stories that are holding you back also serve you in some way. There is the payoff for believing the old story, otherwise, you would let it go. So you have to drill down and see where you’re out of alignment and that requires you to step into something that’s not comfortable.