Krystine's FLR Podcast

0151 Female Led Relationships: Can You Be a Domme and a Mom?

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] ///// RE-RELEASE ///// This one’s for all of you trying to do it all. I sat down with my subbie for a real-life, messy, honest talk about something we don’t hear enough about: what happens to your dynamic when you also have a family to raise? Can you still lead? Submit? Play? Hold space for kink and power exchange while also packing school lunches and managing bedtime routines? This episode was sparked by an article I read on boldpleasures.com about parenting and equality—and it hit me hard. Because so much of what we do in our FLR works because we communicate. And also because we fumble. And figure it out. And get it wrong. And come back to each other. So whether you’re trying to raise good humans while keeping your subbie in line, or just wondering if you can be a Domme and a damn good mom at the same time… let me tell you: you can. And I’ve got stories to prove it. Inside This Episode: * Why “submission” has zero place in parenting—but mutual respect does * How we balance our FLR with equal parenting responsibility * The quiet ways power dynamics can still show up at home * What our daughter sees, what we want her to know, and how we talk about it * How we stay connected when the schedule’s full and the sink’s overflowing * The truth about being a “24/7 Domme” (spoiler: I’m usually barefoot and tired) * How to raise kids with healthy examples of leadership, love, and emotional safety * Why obedience doesn’t disappear just because the dishwasher needs emptying Ask Yourself: * What do your kids see when they watch you and your partner? * Is there a clear understanding of power, love, and respect in your home? * Are you creating the kind of relationship your children can learn from—not just tolerate? * Do your dynamic and parenting style actually complement each other? My Favorite Quote This Episode: > “I want my daughter to know she doesn’t have to do something she doesn’t want to do. I want her to be confident in her ability to say fucking no—and not feel guilty for someone else’s disappointment.” Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

0150 Female Led Relationships: Pegging, Swinging & Parenting: A Campfire Conversation

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] Look… I tried to keep this one focused. I really did. But when you’re sitting around a fire at kinky summer camp with my subbie, Carli, and Bill (and a few surprise voices), things take on a life of their own. This episode is all about the chaos and connection of progressive swinging — and how it intersects with pegging, cuckolding, roleplay, parenting, lifestyle identity, and yes… poop talk. I know. It always circles back to poop. You’ll hear me talk openly about how this lifestyle works in real life, not fantasy. From awkward first swings, to learning what turns us on, to dealing with logistics when your partner’s testicles are too big for the cage (true story). So whether you're just exploring the lifestyle, or deep into FLR with some swinging sprinkled on top — this one’s for the real ones who are out here making it work through laughter, trial, error… and a lot of love. What You'll Hear in This Episode: * Our real-life campfire conversation about swinging, FLR, and power play * Honest (and messy) stories from our first time trying the lifestyle * How pegging, teasing, and chastity fit into swinging dynamics * What progressive swinging actually looks like when the kids are around * The reality of poop talk, parenting overlaps, and trying to stay sexy in the chaos * Conversations about The Story of O, Exit to Eden, and kink lit favorites * Submissive chair drips, pink panties, and surprise toys like the Lovense button * Why laughter might be the biggest kink in the room This Episode Is For: * FLR couples exploring kink and swinging * Curious listeners wondering what “real life” looks like in a Female-Led marriage * Dommes navigating pegging, parenting, and personal identity * Submissive men trying to figure out where they fit in this mess * Anyone who’s ever tried to keep it sexy... while covered in bug spray Call to Action: If this episode made you laugh (or cringe), share it with your favorite kink-curious friend.  And if you’ve ever felt alone in your exploration, come join the conversation on https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

0149 Female Led Relationships: Peg-tember, Spanking, and the Hodgepodge of FLR Life

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] ///// RE-RELEASE ///// We're kicking off Peg-tember with a bang—and a paddle. This re-released episode dives into the often misunderstood world of pegging and spanking in female-led relationships, right in time for Labor Day weekend (again). MY subbie and I unpack feedback from TikTok, share personal anecdotes from their FLR journey, and tackle the misconceptions around mental health, dominance, and kink dynamics with humor, heart, and clarity.  This is your reminder that pleasure, power, and partnership can all coexist in healthy, grounded ways—even in a camper. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: * The TikTok backlash that inspired this conversation * Pegging basics, myths, and practical tips from a Facebook post Krystine couldn’t stop thinking about * Why spanking and dominance aren't always about punishment * Mental health, kink, and the very real emotional dynamics of FLR * Reclaiming control and respect through open, ongoing communication Why It Matters: Whether you're just curious about FLR or you're already living it, this episode gets real about what happens after the fantasy. It’s not all whips and chains—sometimes it’s body language, poop logistics, safe words, and deep emotional connection. And sometimes? It’s just a hodgepodge. Links & Extras: Worksheet for FLR Communication & Consent [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1_aF6-neApZpTN95yYdJO2FnGRngGsirn/view?usp=sharing] (Patreon Exclusive) Want more on pegging? Check out the companion post for Peg-tember on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Submit your questions, comments, or episode topic requests via text or emai- —I'm listening! Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

0506 Female Led Relationships: The Importance of Money Matters

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] Today we’re diving into one of the most overlooked—but absolutely crucial—parts of any FLR dynamic: financial control. Who holds the money? Who decides how it gets spent? And how do we build structure around money without turning it into a battlefield? Spoiler alert: I hold the debit card. And it’s not just about power—it’s about respect, ritual, and responsibility. What I Talk About in This Episode: * Why dominance isn’t just in the play—it’s in the practice * Real-life examples from our FLR money rituals * How communication builds trust around finances * What to do when your sub tops from the bottom (and how to recover) * Weekly money check-ins as emotional regulation tools * Chore-based point systems that build structure without infantilizing * How I reclaimed my power after years of being the “default manager” * The deep emotional empowerment that comes from owning the finances > “You don’t have to be a CPA to run an FLR household. You just need trust, clarity, and the confidence to say, ‘This is what’s best for us—and I’m deciding it.’”“We forget that holding the money is a kink for some of us. It’s symbolic. It’s ritual. And it’s real fucking power.” Five Tips for Starting a Financial Control Dynamic: 1. Start with a conversation, not a command. Ask, but be firm. 2. Define clear categories. Needs, wants, fun, rituals. 3. Set financial rituals. Weekly check-ins, allowance transfers, updates. 4. Use symbolic tools. Apps, charts, envelopes, or even a ritual wallet. 5. Reinforce with structure. Consistency is where confidence is built. Listener Invitation: Got rituals around money? Creative systems that work for your FLR? Tell me. I want to hear it all. Your ideas may inspire an upcoming episode (confidentiality always respected). * KrystineKellogg@gmail.com [KrystineKellogg@gmail.com] * DM me on socials * Or join https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control

0148 Female Led Relationships: Staying Kinky with Kids in the House

Sadly I cannot respond directly to your text, so please Email me! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1318534/open_sms] ///// RE-RELEASE ///// This one is real talk about parenting, boundaries, and keeping your kink alive when your life is anything but quiet So… you’re kinky and you have kids? Welcome to the club. In this episode, I’m diving into something that every kink-positive parent wrestles with at some point: "How do you stay connected to your identity—and your dominance—when the kids are home, the bedroom has no door, and your sex life feels like it’s on permanent hold?" I pulled from a couple of excellent articles (linked below) and shared how I’ve navigated being a Domme, a mother, and a woman with a wild, creative, and very adult job. This one’s a little raw, a little funny, and hopefully a whole lot helpful. What I Talk Through: * My own challenges with maintaining a kinky dynamic in a house full of people * The exact conversation I had with my daughter about setting boundaries and owning her pleasure * How I balance sex positivity with age-appropriate parenting * The time a toddler brought a butt plug into the living room 😳 * Creative ways to store toys when space (and privacy) are limited * My thoughts on nudity, shame, and breaking generational trauma around body image * Being honest (but not explicit) with your kids when they ask questions * Using what’s in your kitchen drawer as your next spanking tool 🔪🥄💥 > “Just because you had kids doesn’t mean your kink card expires. It just means you need a lockbox, a little creativity, and a hell of a lot of communication.”“We don’t need to tell our kids everything—but hiding from who we are? That’s where we lose ourselves. Discussion Prompts: * How do you navigate being kinky and being a parent? * Have your kids ever stumbled on a toy or overheard something… spicy? * What boundaries do you hold around your identity as a Dominant partner and a parent? Come share your story in the Patreon community—because you're definitely not alone in this. Articles Referenced: * https://www.vice.com/sv/article/how-to-still-be-kinky-once-you-have-kids/ Support the show [https://www.patreon.com/krystinekellogg] Help Support The Show? [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1318534/supporters/new] https://www.krystinekellogg.com/ [https://www.krystinekellogg.com/] Email Me! KrystineKellogg@Gmail.com Want to support the podcast and be involved with the behind-the-scenes, including voting on episode topics, as well as tiptoe with me into this whole "coaching" thing. Find my Patreon HERE [https://patreon.com/krystinekellogg?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator]! Keywords: domestic discipline, female led relationship dynamics, accountability, communication, people pleaser, personal growth, female led relationship challenges, discipline strategies, humor in relationships, shared growth, female led relationship advice, discipline and play, understanding in partnerships, personal anecdotes, physical touch, relationship rules, partnership growth, podcast insights, female-led relationships, submissive rewards, holiday appreciation, partner devotion, relationship dynamics,, control and appreciation, partner confidence, submissive devotion, unique dynamics, balance of control, partner nurturing, relationship empowerment, submissive strength.pegging, female-led relationship, kink, empowerment, dominance, submission, ass play, emotional connection, intimacy, power play, strap-on, control