Fatherhood Field Notes

In this candid episode, host Ned Schaut sits down with author and speaker Eric Rogell to confront the trap many fathers fall into—trying to be the “nice guy” who’s always liked instead of the man who leads with courage and conviction. Eric shares why advice often misses the mark, and why children need fathers who live out wisdom through the Sacred Seven Core Values: courage, honesty, integrity, commitment, duty, honor, and love. From fatherhood and step-parenting to manhood at “Level 60,” Eric unpacks how dropping the need for approval allows dads to guide their kids with strength, presence, and authenticity. This conversation challenges men to stop chasing validation, embrace their role as mentors, and build a legacy rooted in love and honor. Chapters: * 00:00:00 – Welcome to Fatherhood Field Notes Podcast * 00:01:19 – Meet Eric * 00:03:25 – Late 50s accomplishments: writing a book, producing a documentary * 00:04:24 – Turning point through meditation and taking command of life * 00:06:16 – No plans to retire from purposeful work * 00:07:28 – Untapped wisdom in older, retired men * 00:08:29 – Difference between advice (head) and wisdom (heart) * 00:09:47 – Using “wisdom, not advice” by sharing stories and mistakes * 00:14:25 – Value of letting kids make mistakes: “prepare the child for the road” * 00:16:35 – Creating healthy challenges, like running an excavator * 00:18:44 – The Sacred Seven Core Values: Courage, Honesty, Integrity, Commitment, Duty, Honor, Love * 00:22:26 – The “King and Kingdom” principle: care for yourself to care for family * 00:25:42 – Navy SEAL lesson on why most commitments fail after five days * 00:28:10 – Advice for men in the stepfather role * 00:28:34 –Don’t try to be liked; earn respect * 00:31:25 – Three Lights of Leadership: Friend, Guide, Guardian * 00:38:14 – What will your kids think of you at 60? * 00:38:58 – Complex relationship with father: once seen as villain, later as hero * 00:42:16 – Discovering father’s generosity through stories after his passing * 00:43:37 – Importance of a father’s attention, not just time * 00:46:28 – It’s okay to be the “villain” when acting as guardian Guest Link: * Lions Raised as Lambs Website [https://www.lionsraisedaslambs.com/] * Eric’s Website [https://ericrogell.com] * Eric on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/ericrogell/?hl=en] Links and Resources: * Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness:  * RUK Fitness [https://go.riseupkings.com/rukfitness-optin] * This episode is sponsored by The Adventure of Fatherhood [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * Order The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book here [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/product-page/adventure-of-fatherhood-book] * Check out the TEDx [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1L3cr-W8BGo&t=1s] ---------- Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood? * https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/ [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * https://www.rebelandcreate.com/ [https://www.rebelandcreate.com/] Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review! Follow us: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes/] * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate [https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate/]

In this Craft of Fatherhood episode, host Ned Schaut challenges fathers to reflect deeply on a pivotal question: What are you modeling for your kids? Drawing from candid stories and personal struggles, Ned explores how the way we speak about others, show up in marriage, approach work, and set the tone at home creates a lasting picture for our children. He invites listeners to evaluate whether their actions align with the values they hope to pass on and ends with a powerful affirmation about identity and intentional fatherhood. This episode is a call to lead by example—because what we model matters more than what we say. Chapters: * 00:00:00 - Introduction: Welcome to the Craft of Fatherhood Podcast * 00:00:20 - Central Question: What are you modeling for your kids? * 00:00:47 - Personal Reflection: Modeling marriage for growing daughters * 00:01:21 - Anecdote: How a parental divorce influenced a daughter's view on marriage * 00:02:22 - Self-Reflection Point 1: The words you model in your home * 00:02:50 - Self-Reflection Point 2: The example you set in your marriage * 00:03:12 - Self-Reflection Point 3: How you model work and approachability * 00:03:51 - Self-Reflection Point 4: The values you model in your home environment * 00:04:11 - A challenge: How would your kids describe what you value? * 00:04:50 - Affirmation Prompt: Who do you say that you are? * 00:05:10 - A Father's Affirmation: I am here to listen, provide, protect, and care Links and Resources: * Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness:  * RUK Fitness [https://go.riseupkings.com/rukfitness-optin] * This episode is sponsored by The Adventure of Fatherhood [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * Order The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book here [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/product-page/adventure-of-fatherhood-book] * Check out the TEDx [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1L3cr-W8BGo&t=1s] ---------- Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood? * https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/ [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * https://www.rebelandcreate.com/ [https://www.rebelandcreate.com/] Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review! Follow us: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes/] * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate [https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate/]

In this heartfelt conversation, host Ned Schaut sits down with Gary Stache— a husband, father of five, grandfather of seven, and Vice Chairman with CBRE Capital Markets, Investment Properties — to explore what it really means to love unconditionally as a dad. Gary shares raw stories of raising a blended family, guiding kids through rebellion, and embracing both tough love and tender moments. With wisdom from 40 years in business and 30 years of parenting, Gary reveals why he never plans to retire, how faith shaped his role as a father, and why being present matters more than perfection. Most importantly, he reflects on raising his children with values and ensuring those values are passed down as the true legacy. His insights on marriage, mentorship, and modeling love will encourage every dad to embrace the messy adventure of fatherhood. Chapters: * 00:00:00 - Welcome to the Fatherhood Field Notes Podcast * 00:01:34 - Meet Gary * 00:02:10 - Family background and children * 00:02:46 - Career at CBRE and choosing not to retire * 00:04:47 - The father’s role: loving unconditionally * 00:04:58 - Story: a cherished memory with his young daughter in a special dress * 00:05:53 - Becoming a stepfather and raising a blended family * 00:07:10 - Story: disciplining a stepson by removing his bedroom door * 00:09:35 - Tip for fathers: praying before disciplining children * 00:11:16 - Leading with love: beginning every hard talk with “I love you” * 00:11:53 - Overcoming the past: growing up without hearing “I love you” * 00:12:22 - Story: a teenage son showing affection * 00:14:17 - A blended family’s honor: stepdaughter naming her child after him * 00:15:06 - Building unity: inviting his wife’s ex-husband to family gatherings * 00:19:32 - Balancing discipline with fun and engagement * 00:20:05 - A united decision: asking the kids for permission to propose * 00:20:40 - Lessons from his father: valuing the outdoors and family first * 00:22:17 - A moment of healing: asking his father to say “I love you” * 00:23:40 - Advice for single men: letting God define your future wife * 00:27:21 - Loving adult children: allowing them to learn their own lessons * 00:29:21 - Rebelling against distraction: turning off the phone and avoiding social media * 00:32:43 - Continuing family values Guest Link: * Gary Stache on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/garystachecbre/?utm_source=chatgpt.com] * Gary Stache – CBRE Profile [https://www.cbre.com/people/gary-stache?utm_source=chatgpt.com] Links and Resources: * Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness:  * RUK Fitness [https://go.riseupkings.com/rukfitness-optin] * This episode is sponsored by The Adventure of Fatherhood [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * Order The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book here [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/product-page/adventure-of-fatherhood-book] * Check out the TEDx [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1L3cr-W8BGo&t=1s] ---------- Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood? * https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/ [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * https://www.rebelandcreate.com/ [https://www.rebelandcreate.com/] Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review! Follow us: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes/] * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate [https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate/]

In this episode of Fatherhood Field Notes: The Craft of Fatherhood, host Ned Schaut gets real about the tension between being a “fun dad” and a responsible parent. Reflecting on moments with his teens and college-aged kids, Ned shares how easy it is to say yes to dirt bikes, hangouts, and late-night drives—but how crucial it is to also enforce accountability, chores, and responsibility. Through candid stories about family dinners, devotions, and even shutting down screen time, he explores how fatherhood shifts with each season—from raising young kids to guiding adult children—and why dads must lead their homes with love, calm firmness, and consistency. At the heart of the conversation is learning when to hold the line and when to step back—when to enforce discipline and when to show mercy. Ned opens up about moments where he intentionally stayed quiet, choosing relationship over reaction, and how that practice can change the way kids respond. With practical tips, raw honesty, and affirmations like “I am the CEO of this house” and “I will not surrender my responsibility to lead this home,” this short but powerful episode challenges fathers to ask: Do I need to say yes more, no more—or show mercy more often? Chapters: * 00:00:00 – Welcome to Fatherhood Field Notes * 00:01:32 – “Good Dad, Shitty Parent” * 00:03:52 – Balancing fun dad vs. structured parent * 00:06:27 – Tip 1: Present a united front; don’t say “because mom wants it” * 00:07:14 – Tip 2: Know when to stay silent * 00:08:00 – Tip 3: Enforce consequences (screen time off for missed devotions) * 00:08:51 – Tip 4: Balance saying yes and no * 00:09:54 – Parenting beyond 18—shift into advisor role * 00:12:15 – Affirmation 1: “I am the CEO of this house” * 00:13:49 – Affirmation 2: “I will not surrender my responsibility to lead” Links and Resources: * Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness:  * RUK Fitness [https://go.riseupkings.com/rukfitness-optin] * This episode is sponsored by The Adventure of Fatherhood [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * Order The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book here [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/product-page/adventure-of-fatherhood-book] * Check out the TEDx [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1L3cr-W8BGo&t=1s] ---------- Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood? * https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/ [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * https://www.rebelandcreate.com/ [https://www.rebelandcreate.com/] Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review! Follow us: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes/] * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate [https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate/]

In this heartfelt episode of Fatherhood Field Notes, host Ned Schaut sits down with Daniel Lehmann — pastor, father of four, and leader at Living Stones Church — to unpack what it really means to raise kids with stability, authenticity, and truth. From defining the role of the father as one who “trains kids in the way of the Lord” to navigating teenage years with firmness and love, Daniel shares candid stories from 25 years of marriage and parenting. Together, Ned and Daniel discuss when to extend mercy, when to stand firm, and why your home should never be a place of performance. Daniel also opens up about a traumatic brain injury and how embracing weakness has reshaped his view of fatherhood, faith, and family. This episode will leave you encouraged, challenged, and equipped with real tools for leading your home with love, integrity, and courage. Chapters: * 00:00:00 - Welcome to the Fatherhood Field Notes Podcast * 00:01:34 - Meet Daniel Lehmann * 00:02:40 - Daniel's Family Snapshot * 00:03:33 - Parenting Grown Children * 00:05:46 - Defining the Father's Role * 00:06:50 - How to Pass on Faith * 00:10:01 - Authenticity Over Performance * 00:11:45 - Three Pillars of Training Kids in the Lord * 00:18:20 - The Cell Phone Struggle * 00:20:30 - Learning from His Own Father * 00:22:25 - Connecting with Each Child Uniquely * 00:24:48 - Pivoting from Career to Family * 00:28:10 - Grace, Mercy, and Fatherhood * 00:29:45 - A Story of Misplaced Mercy * 00:34:00 - The Principle of Mercy vs. Enabling * 00:38:35 - A Life-Changing Health Scare * 00:40:55 - Embracing the Power of Weakness * 00:43:50 - Motivation Through Adversity * 00:46:40 - The Secret to 25 Years of Marriage * 00:48:40 - A Blessing for Fathers Guest Link: * Daniel Lehmann on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/daniellehmann1/] Links and Resources: * Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness:  * RUK Fitness [https://go.riseupkings.com/rukfitness-optin] * This episode is sponsored by The Adventure of Fatherhood [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * Order The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book here [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/product-page/adventure-of-fatherhood-book] * Check out the TEDx [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1L3cr-W8BGo&t=1s] ---------- Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood? * https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/ [https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/] * https://www.rebelandcreate.com/ [https://www.rebelandcreate.com/] Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review! Follow us: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotes/] * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes [https://www.youtube.com/@Fatherhoodfieldnotes] * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate [https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreate/]