We're All Insane

My Mom Was My First Bully

#foryou #podcast In today’s episode, Kétlye opens up about growing up in a strict military household where being herself was never accepted. From physical punishment to being stripped of her dignity after coming out, she spent years believing she was the problem. Now, she’s sharing what really happened, what it’s taken to survive, and how she’s still trying to heal, forgive, and rebuild. This is a conversation about identity, family, shame, and what it means to keep choosing yourself— even when the people closest to you don’t. Ketlye's Links: Youtube: https://youtube.com/@cousinnchaos?si=eI8aKFJP5iUS9qT8 00:22:06 — Why do some children grow up feeling like they’re being dressed for someone else’s approval rather than their own comfort? 00:22:42 — How does a parent’s idea of appearance shape a child’s self-identity long term? 00:23:19 — Why are some kids restricted from certain toys or interests based on outdated gender rules? 00:23:59 — What happens psychologically when a child’s harmless interests are repeatedly taken away? 00:30:43 — How does fear of getting in trouble at home affect behavior at school? 00:31:19 — Why do children panic when teachers threaten to contact their parents? 00:31:56 — What does extreme distress in class reveal about what a child may be experiencing privately? 00:32:54 — Why do small childhood mistakes sometimes trigger extreme consequences at home? 00:33:50 — How do school confrontations escalate into larger issues when home life is already unstable? 00:34:12 — Why do some kids confess immediately when confronted, even before being accused? 00:34:35 — How do food-related punishments impact a child emotionally and physically? 00:34:55 — Why do some punishments seem designed to humiliate rather than teach? 00:43:53 — What leads a parent to remove a child’s ability to sleep in their own bed as discipline? 00:44:33 — How do teens secretly attempt to cope with harsh living conditions at home? 00:44:47 — What are the emotional effects of sleeping on the floor for long periods of time? 00:45:22 — Why do certain household punishments continue for months without reconsideration? 00:45:42 — How can strict household rules interfere with a teen’s educational future? 00:46:01 — Why do some parents try to prevent their child from attending college out of anger or control? 01:16:12 — Why do some young adults hide emotional struggles from their families after moving out? 01:16:32 — What happens when someone seeks emotional comfort from a parent and receives none? 01:17:02 — How does a parent’s emotional detachment affect a young adult during heartbreak? 01:17:41 — Why do some people end up finding more emotional support in friends than in family? 01:18:03 — How does seeing a partner’s healthy family highlight dysfunction in your own upbringing? 01:20:31 — How does growing up in a strict or unstable home affect college life and independence? 01:20:54 — Why can small moments of support from a parent feel overwhelmingly emotional after years of tension? 01:21:20 — Why do some adults feel nervous sharing new relationships with their families? 01:21:38 — What causes family reactions to shift when a child reveals romantic involvement? 01:22:13 — How do unresolved family dynamics resurface during early adulthood transitions? 01:45:15 — Why do some people resist therapy even when their behavior harms loved ones? 01:46:26 — What does it mean when someone says “shame dies in safe spaces”? 01:47:14 — How does a parent justify sleeping comfortably while enforcing harsh living conditions on their child? Topics: Family Trauma, Identity, Coming Out, Mother Wounds, Shame, Childhood Trauma If you have a unique story you'd like to share on the podcast, please fill out this form: https://forms.gle/ZiHgdoK4PLRAddiB9 or send an email to wereallinsanepodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

My Daughter Has Been Abducted for 15 Years

#foryou #podcast In 2010, two days after Christmas, Iain hugged his daughter goodbye—believing she was simply going to the library. He never saw her again. What followed was a shocking case of familial human trafficking, international abduction, and systemic failure. The U.S. Embassy called it “out of jurisdiction.” Courts ignored his pleas. Desperate, he confronted the man he believed was his daughter’s abuser—only to be incarcerated for 50 months in Poland. Iain spent four years in prison, wrote a book, and is now speaking worldwide, still fighting to be heard. Iain's Links: https://www.iloveyoulikeone.com/ https://www.amazon.com/Love-You-Like-One-Daughter/dp/B0D3NSZ9YV/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086719568994 https://www.instagram.com/iloveyoulikeone/ Time Stamps: 00:00:00 — What is it really like starting your career inside a tiny music label? 00:02:15 — Why do some bosses immediately bad-mouth the person you replaced? 00:04:02 — How do toxic workplaces subtly make you question your worth? 00:05:48 — Why do young women get “wing-clipped” by industry executives? 00:07:40 — How does being told “you’ll never be an artist” affect your identity? 00:10:12 — Why do manipulative leaders discourage employees from dreaming? 00:12:44 — What are early red flags when joining a new label or startup? 00:14:50 — How does constant phone access become a form of control? 00:16:30 — Why do some bosses require hours-long daily phone calls? 00:18:55 — How do toxic workplaces blur personal and professional boundaries? 00:20:48 — What does emotional manipulation look like in the music industry? 00:23:12 — How does a “golden child” dynamic trap people in bad jobs? 00:25:30 — Why do young employees feel guilty for wanting to quit? 00:27:44 — How does psychological dependency form inside toxic jobs? 00:30:05 — Why do uncomfortable comments from coworkers get normalized? 00:32:12 — How do older male coworkers cross personal boundaries? 00:34:40 — What makes people stay even when a job feels unsafe? 00:37:15 — How do artists get shaped and controlled behind the scenes? 00:39:28 — Why are some labels treating artists like products instead of people? 00:41:50 — How does power imbalance show up in the music business? 00:43:59 — Why do some executives call employees after hours to vent opinions? 00:52:02 — Why would a boss want an employee in a “position he can control”? 00:53:12 — How do racist political comments from a boss impact an employee? 00:58:40 — Why do some artists feel broken down by their own label? 01:00:58 — How does creative control get taken away from developing artists? 01:02:14 — Why do employees feel responsible for the harm being done? 01:16:35 — What does workplace abuse look like when you don’t realize it’s abuse? 01:17:52 — How does self-doubt keep people stuck in manipulative jobs? 01:19:14 — Why do toxic leaders resist fixing illegal or unethical contracts? 01:24:45 — Why do older industry men hide their intentions from young women? 01:26:30 — How do people rebuild their careers after leaving a toxic industry? Topics: Child Abduction, Cult, System Failure, International Kidnapping, Familial Betrayal, Exploitation If you have a unique story you'd like to share on the podcast, please fill out this form: https://forms.gle/ZiHgdoK4PLRAddiB9 or send an email to wereallinsanepodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Traveled Route 66 Alone in Full Blown Alcoholism

#foryou #podcast Riley traveled Route 66 alone during the darkest stage of her alcoholism. What started as an escape turned into a harsh look at the reality of her addiction. She shares what that journey was truly like and how it became a turning point. Riley has now been sober for over two years, and this story is a reminder of how far healing can take you. Riley's Links: Tik Tok: riwhey_orthehighway Instagram: riwhey_orthehighway 00:00:00 — What does it feel like to finally admit you’re an alcoholic?00:01:06 — How does childhood ADHD treatment shape your mental health later in life?00:02:18 — Why do kids start believing they need medication to be “tolerable”?00:03:01 — Can Adderall make someone feel numb or disconnected?00:03:44 — What are the early signs your ADHD medication is too strong?00:04:24 — Why do some teens feel socially “different” even when outgoing?00:05:16 — Why do some teenagers chase alcohol so aggressively?00:06:44 — Why do some people want to drink again after getting violently sick?00:07:23 — How does teen partying evolve into emotional dependency?00:08:36 — Why do young people crave the weekend “high” during the week?00:10:27 — When does teen drinking cross into addiction territory?00:11:16 — Why does weed feel like a solution when ADHD meds cause anxiety?00:12:22 — What actually happens when you mix Adderall and alcohol?00:13:10 — How does weed turn into a full dependency?00:15:14 — What changes when alcohol becomes fully legal and accessible?00:16:02 — How does a friend intervention actually feel from the inside?00:17:12 — Why do some people spiral when moving back home?00:18:14 — How do restaurant jobs quietly fuel addiction?00:20:17 — What pushes someone to flee their life and drive across the country?00:23:31 — Why do people believe a new city will fix their problems?00:24:50 — What does a real breakdown look like during a solo road trip?00:31:19 — How does alcohol cause you to lose entire days of your life?00:34:14 — Why do beautiful experiences feel empty during addiction?00:36:33 — How does addiction recreate the same chaos no matter where you go?00:41:22 — What does alcoholism physically look like in the body?00:53:11 — Why does “comfort” become dangerous in long-term recovery?00:54:45 — What happens when you break all the early sobriety rules?00:55:39 — Why do people relapse even after doing the “right” things?01:00:58 — What does making amends actually feel like?01:02:18 — Why is willingness the key to staying sober long-term? Topics: Addiction, Recovery, Sobriety, Alcoholism, Route 66, Healing If you have a unique story you'd like to share on the podcast, please fill out this form: https://forms.gle/ZiHgdoK4PLRAddiB9 or send an email to wereallinsanepodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Forced into Child Labor

#foryou #podcast A childhood built on fear, control, and unthinkable loss—followed by years of silence, survival, and the long fight to reclaim her life. Tana opens up about the darkness she was born into, the strength it took to escape, and what healing really looks like after a lifetime of trauma. Links: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline https://988lifeline.org/ PHP vs IOP: What’s The Difference? https://thebridgeway.com/blog/php-vs-iop-whats-the-difference/ The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker & | Hachette Book Group https://share.google/J8ErtTuzmLl7wFixF https://www.linkedin.com/in/tana-jo-almand-47b1b9149?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=android_app 00:00:00 What happens psychologically when a child grows up working instead of playing? 00:02:15 How does witnessing tragedy at a young age permanently alter your brain? 00:04:32 Why do children of abusive parents confuse control with love? 00:07:05 What does it mean to be a parentified child forced to raise yourself? 00:09:20 How can trauma make you forget entire years of your childhood? 00:12:00 Why do some survivors still protect the people who hurt them? 00:14:45 How can emotional neglect feel more damaging than physical abuse? 00:17:05 What happens to kids who are never told “I love you,” only “work harder”? 00:19:32 How does growing up in isolation distort your sense of normal? 00:22:00 Why do abused children develop hyper-awareness and people-pleasing? 00:24:15 What are the long-term effects of being treated as labor instead of family? 00:26:42 How does chronic fear wire your body into constant survival mode? 00:29:10 Why do victims of control struggle to trust anyone, even after freedom? 00:31:35 How can one traumatic parent shape every future relationship? 00:34:20 Why do some survivors still feel guilty for escaping abuse? 00:36:58 What does it do to a child to witness violence toward animals or siblings? 00:39:45 How does manipulation disguise itself as religion or discipline? 00:42:12 What happens when the justice system fails children in abusive homes? 00:44:50 How can therapy re-traumatize you if the wrong person is listening? 00:47:05 Why do abusers often seem charming and respectable in public? 00:50:12 How does financial control keep families trapped in cycles of abuse? 00:53:25 Why do children normalize chaos when peace feels unsafe? 00:56:40 What survival instincts form when love and fear come from the same person? 00:59:15 How can dissociation protect the mind from unbearable experiences? 01:02:00 Why do kids in abusive homes learn to read energy before words? 01:05:20 How can losing your childhood make adulthood feel like constant catch-up? 01:09:00 What are the hidden costs of being the “resilient one” in a broken family? 01:12:45 How does guilt follow survivors even when they did nothing wrong? 01:16:30 What happens when trauma becomes your entire personality? 01:20:15 How can siblings experience the same abuse but remember it differently? 01:28:10 What does forgiveness actually look like when the pain never stopped? 01:36:00 What’s the psychological toll of being silenced by family loyalty? 01:43:25 Why does healing feel lonely after growing up in constant crisis? 01:51:00 How do religion and shame intertwine in abusive households? 02:09:40 What are the first signs that you’re finally healing from childhood trauma? 02:36:00 What does it mean to turn lifelong trauma into meaningful purpose? Topics: Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Parent, Survival, Abuse Recovery If you have a unique story you'd like to share on the podcast, please fill out this form: https://forms.gle/ZiHgdoK4PLRAddiB9 or send an email to wereallinsanepodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Hit and Run Over 3 Times

#foryou #podcast On May 21st, 2018, Naseem’s life changed forever when she was hit and then run over three times by a car. What could have been the end became the beginning of a remarkable journey of healing, transformation, and purpose. Now, Naseem celebrates that day each year as Unbreakable Day, a reminder of her decision to turn unimaginable pain into empowerment. Her book, “The Unexpected Benefits of Being Run Over,” and her work as a speaker help others find meaning, growth, and strength in their own experiences of trauma. Naseem's Links: Website: https://naseemrochette.com/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Unexpected-Benefits-Being-Run-Over/dp/B0BW3LK86X/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1678558072&sr=8-1 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/naseemrochette?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=ios_app 00:00:00 What happens psychologically when you face death and survive? 00:01:03 Why do near-death experiences completely change how people view life? 00:02:14 What does it feel like to realize you might die — and make peace with it? 00:03:28 Why do people only appreciate life once they almost lose it? 00:04:40 How can trauma reveal what actually matters most in life? 00:06:07 Why is accepting help so hard for people who are usually independent? 00:07:21 How does vulnerability become a strength after tragedy? 00:08:36 What can the Japanese art of kintsugi teach us about healing from pain? 00:09:52 How do people rebuild confidence and identity after trauma? 00:11:03 Why do small acts of kindness feel so powerful during recovery? 00:12:19 How can sharing your story help others heal too? 00:13:42 Why is perfectionism often a mask for pain or control issues? 00:14:58 How does social media make it harder to show our real struggles? 00:16:15 What does it mean to “relearn yourself” after surviving the impossible? 00:18:07 How can letting others help become an act of strength? 00:19:43 Why does slowing down feel like weakness for high-achievers? 00:21:02 How can reframing pain as purpose transform your healing journey? 00:22:28 What does it mean to turn scars into gold, like kintsugi art? 00:23:44 How does openness and community speed up emotional recovery? 00:25:12 Why do some people disappear during your hardest moments? 00:26:30 How can understanding others’ limitations bring peace instead of anger? 00:28:10 What happens when the person who hurt you never apologizes? 00:30:02 How can therapy and medication support true emotional healing? 00:31:45 How does gratitude shift your mindset after trauma? 00:33:18 How can rewriting your story turn victimhood into empowerment? 00:35:01 What does it mean to forgive without closure? 00:37:10 How can giving grace to people who failed you set you free? 00:39:05 Why is vulnerability actually a form of strength? 00:41:27 How can self-awareness and reframing thoughts rebuild confidence? 00:44:02 What does it mean to live every day as a second chance? Topics: Car Accident, Survivor, Hit and Run, Near Death If you have a unique story you'd like to share on the podcast, please fill out this form: https://forms.gle/ZiHgdoK4PLRAddiB9 or send an email to wereallinsanepodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]