A Soft Mess

Remerging into the Digital World (or, the Return of Barelyn)

Barelyn (previously Bare Ly) is back after a few months of getting swallowed by that thing we call life. Take a listen to the stuff that has happened to them, lessons they’ve learned, and whats to come. Zaddy Bare is back and ready to talk some more about softness. —-Follow us on Instagram (@asoftmess) for more updates and other featured content.

Ep 17: Attachment Theory and the Ways We Connect

In this episode of A Soft Mess, Bare and Michaela get a chance to ask a local queer therapist questions about how we connect and form relationships with people. Talking about Attachment Theory is so important. So here's a conversation to start you off. Our guest, Lyndsey Lyons (she/her/hers) is a polyamorous, queer therapist living in Boulder, Colorado. She works with individuals and couples in various relationship configurations to form and maintain loving connections in their lives.  She believes that relationships are one of the most powerful tools we have in healing. Her journey to support others began with her own process of healing trauma and learning to embrace secure attachments in her life. Lyndsey practices Diane Poolheller's Somatic Attachment work along with Stan Tatkin's attachment focused therapy for couples. In addition to her private practice at the Love, Sex, and Gender Center, she is also a Psychedelic Therapist at Innate Path, a clinic utilizing medicine assisted therapy for trauma healing. Lyndsey spends much of her free time with her partner, pup, and friends - often while plotting ways to help reduce sexual shame, dismantle toxic systems, and practice authentic connection. // To support the creation of A Soft Mess Podcast, leave a review on iTunes and share your favorite episode with a friend or three! Also, monetary donations can be sent to @thebarecaveco on Venmo!

Introducing Our New Co-Host!

A Soft Mess is so happy to bring Michaela onto the team. We are both dedicated to open listening and uplifting marginalized voices so this is a perfect match! Get to know Michaela through this short update.

Ep 16: Surviving Mental Illness

On the newest episode of A Soft Mess, Bare Ly and guests get real about mental illness. What's it like to survive a hard day? Who are some mental health role models? And lots more. If you have a story about mental illness that you want to share, Bare is here to listen. Follow A Soft Mess on Facebook an Instagram @asoftmess and DM us to chat. <3

A Word from Bare

A short update from your queer host, Bare Ly