Allan&Eve: Marriage Is Not a Game

Why a Sex Fast Might Be Exactly What Your Relationship Needs. (Completely Changed Our Marriage!)

Hey everybody!  In this episode, I am getting completely raw and transparent with you about a major turning point in my marriage: the day I realized we needed to go on a 40-day fast from sex. I’m breaking down the serious problems we were facing early on, from my own struggles with body changes and self-entitlement to how I had to deep dive, pray, and completely break free from a heavy porn addiction.           I want to share the lightbulb moment God gave me when I finally stopped worrying about my own needs and started focusing on how to be a real helper to my queen. We’re talking about the mental load our wives carry with the kids, the house, and the bills, and how lifting that weight changes the entire dynamic of your relationship. If you’re ready to learn what it truly means to be a selfless spiritual leader and build a foundation that can last a lifetime, let's get right into it—because marriage is definitely not a game.

Does Adultery MEAN Automatic Divorce? (Our Honest Conversation About Cheating)

Is a Christian marriage automatically over after the very first instance of infidelity? When the sacred vows are broken, is packing your bags the only scriptural response, or does grace demand a harder path? 💔 In this episode, we are diving deep into a heartbreaking marital crisis we stumbled across on Reddit. A devastated wife discovered her husband's infidelity, but instead of finding repentance, she was met with gaslighting—her husband turned the blame back on her, making her feel like she was the one destroying the marriage. When she turned to the internet for advice, the comment section gave her one loud, unanimous ultimatum: pack your bags, get an automatic divorce, and walk away. This Reddit thread sparked a massive, incredibly raw debate between the two of us right here in the studio. We face the hardest questions head-on: Is cheating an automatic, first-time dealbreaker? If it happened to us, would we stay and fight to rebuild the trust, or would we walk out the door? Join the Conversation We don't entirely agree on this one, and we want to know where you stand. If you are listening on Spotify, use the Q&A feature below to leave your thoughts. If you are listening on Apple Podcasts, leave us a review and tell us your perspective! 📌 Connect with Us & Support the Show: * If this honest conversation brought value to your life or your marriage, please Leave a 5-Star Rating and Review on your favorite podcast app! It helps other couples find these tough conversations. * Share this episode with a friend, a spouse, or someone who needs to hear this raw breakdown today. Disclaimer: We are not licensed marriage counselors or pastors; we are a husband and wife having real, unfiltered conversations about faith, relationships, and the hard realities of keeping a covenant alive.

You can't tell him to take the lead as a husband if you're always challenging his leadership.

Hey everybody! How you doing? Welcome back to the podcast. Today, we are diving deep into a topic that gets a little uncomfortable but is so necessary for a healthy marriage: leadership and submission. We're breaking down what it really looks like to trust your husband's leadership, especially when he's made some bad decisions or is just trying to figure things out. We talk about the struggle wives face when they want to take the wheel out of fear, the pride men battle when it comes to admitting they don't have all the answers, and why biblical submission isn't about being silent—it's about trusting God's order. We also discuss the power of communication, why husbands need to include their wives in decision-making, and how to stop letting past mistakes dictate your future. Grab your coffee and let's get into it!

Is It Cruel to Tell Your Partner They’re Gaining Weight, or Is It Fake Love to Stay Silent?

Hello, good people! Welcome back to the show.       Is it cruel to tell your spouse that they are gaining weight? Or is it fake love to just stay silent?    Welcome to another raw and unfiltered episode of the Allen and Eve Podcast! Today, we are putting ourselves on the hot seat with a game of boards to tackle one of the absolute hardest situations a married couple can navigate: dealing with a partner's weight gain and declining health.     In this episode, we debate two completely opposite approaches to this sensitive topic: * The Speak Up Approach: Why waiting in silence can breed resentment, mask insecurities, and why loving your spouse means having tough, respectful, and open communication about health and attraction. * The Stay Silent Approach: Why taking the initiative through your own actions, leading by example, and quietly inviting your partner to join your fitness journey can prevent defensive arguments and protect their feelings.     We dive deep into why people get defensive, how to hold each other accountable without putting each other down, and how to build a marriage where difficult conversations don't automatically turn into a war.        Remember, marriage is not a game! Tune in, listen to both of our perspectives, and ask yourself: if it were your relationship, would you want your partner to speak up or stay silent?

When Plan A Fails: The 3-Step Backup Plan for Marriage Fights

Hey believers, what do you do when you hit a wall in your marriage, a disagreement gets heated, and your go-to strategy completely fails? Most couples rely on a "Plan A" that leaves them trapped in the same frustrating cycles over and over again. In this episode of the Allen and Eve podcast, we are getting incredibly raw about a recent, real-life disagreement that put our own communication tools to the test. When avoidance started creeping in, and our usual strategies broke down, we had to instantly shift to a powerful 3-step "Plan B" framework to save the conversation from spinning out of control. We are introducing the core concepts behind this backup plan, including: 1. The essential mindset shift required to halt the negative momentum of a fight before it riles you up inside. 2. The hardest thing a spouse can do to genuinely drop their armor and see the real issue. 3. The "slam dunk" anchor of communication that completely breaks down walls and stops the blame game in its tracks. When you hold a mirror up to the situation, healthy communication becomes contagious—but you have to know how to open that door. Stop letting the enemy create distance between you and your spouse. Pull up a chair, find out exactly how we navigated the heat of the moment, and learn how to build a backup plan that actually works for your marriage. Because when things get real, you can't rely on a broken plan—and remember, marriage is not a game! If this conversation challenges or blesses you, hit that subscribe button, slam the like button, and let us know your thoughts in the comments below       🔥Remember, it's Allan & Eve here to help you believe that marriage is not a game!!!🔥