Fathers Sons Brothers

#67 The Hidden Cost of People-Pleasing in Your Relationship with Dr Robert Glover

Why do so many men feel like they’re doing everything right, but still feel lonely, unseen, and resentful? In this raw and deeply practical episode, I’m joined once again by No More Mr. Nice Guy author Dr. Robert Glover. In this no-holds-barred conversation, we unpack the real reasons men struggle to ask for what they want, receive love, and build lasting relationships. We explore the covert contracts that keep men stuck in silent resentment. We also unpack the hidden shame around masculine needs and the painful effects of emotional isolation. But this episode isn’t just about naming the problem. It’s a masterclass for reclaiming your power, building real brotherhood, and creating the kind of life and relationship you actually want. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why you might believe (consciously or unconsciously) that having needs makes you weak or bad. * What a “covert contract” is and how it's silently sabotaging your relationships. * Why most men struggle to receive, and how that blocks intimacy, connection and wealth. * How to identify the “junk food” behaviours and relationships that are draining your energy. * A powerful 3-step life audit to help you reconnect with your purpose, community, and emotional needs. * The evolutionary reason men crave brotherhood and why isolation is destroying your health. * Why men's groups are the antidote to digital distraction, porn addiction, and emotional loneliness. Episode Resources Stop People-Pleasing. Start Leading. 15 Questions to Take Back Control of Your Life - From the Boardroom to the Bedroom. Get the free PDF here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/uy-playbook [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/uy-playbook]. Integration Nation Men’s Community [https://integrationnation.net] No More Mr. Nice Guy — Dr. Glover’s book [https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/1402580223] This episode is all about reclaiming your needs! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to watch our first interview with Dr Glover, which has received over 5,880 views - Episode 39 "From People Pleaser to Unapologetically You [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gs4IlKR8G_4&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=36]". THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots. Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders. When you regularly invest in this type of training: - You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best. - You get clear on what you came here to do. You reconnect with your mission. - You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission. - You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships. - You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle. All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for. Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle].  ABOUT OUR GUEST Dr. Robert Glover is an author, a marriage & family therapist, a coach, an educator, a sought-after public speaker, and a seminal figure in men’s self-improvement. His groundbreaking book, "No More Mr. Nice Guy", has changed the lives of countless men around the world. His other work – including his online courses and his books Dating Essentials for Men and Dating Essentials for Men: FAQ have been just as impactful. Connect with him on: Website [https://www.drglover.com/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/tysonadams__/?hl=en], Facebook [https://web.facebook.com/drrobertglover] ABOUT YOUR HOST Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and help them live life to the fullest. He’s a relational growth advocate who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely. Connect with him on: Website [https://garethpickering.com/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/garethpickering/], Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/gareth-pickering/], X [https://twitter.com/garethpickering/status/1485729202208915470], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/itsmegareth/]

#66 What the F*ck is Men's Work?

"WHY WOULD I WANT TO JOIN A MEN'S GROUP?" This is a common response we hear from men when we introduce them to men's work. A lot of men think that a men's group is either a religious gathering or a pity party. It's neither. It's the medicine that unlocks parts of yourself that you have been battling with on your own. The more discomfort you feel about being authentic in a group of men, the more magic awaits you on the other side. So if you're ready to unlock more power in your life and learn about this ancient technology and how it can support your life and leadership, this episode is for you. If you received value from this episode, please share it with your networks and spread the word. Also, be sure to leave a review here on the app you're consuming this episode on - it takes you less than a minute, and it really supports more people to find our show. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to watch Episode 41 "You Can't Thrive Without a Tribe" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1acmcc-jtaE&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=33&t=947s].   JOIN OUR WHATSAPP GROUP A free space to connect with like-minded men, share wins and challenges, and stay plugged into conversations, resources, and events that keep you moving forward between our live gatherings. Join here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/whatsapp [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/whatsapp]   BECOME A MEMBER OF THE FSB TRIBE A committed brotherhood for men ready to go beyond conversation and into transformation. Inside the Tribe, you’ll join regular men’s circles, get practical tools to strengthen relationships and leadership, and surround yourself with brothers who challenge and support you at the highest level.  This is where you sharpen your edge, stop carrying challenges alone, and live with more clarity, confidence, and purpose. Join here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/gettribe [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/gettribe]   THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blind spots. Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers hosts the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders. When you regularly invest in this type of training:  * You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best. * You get clear on what you came here to do. You reconnect with your mission. * You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission. * You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships.  * You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle. All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you.  We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for. Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle]. ABOUT YOUR HOST Gareth Pickering [https://garethpickering.com/] is a men’s coach and founder of Fathers Sons Brothers, a global community helping men reconnect to their inner strength, live with more purpose, and build better relationships—with themselves and those they love. His work focuses on helping men who’ve been successful in the outside world but feel disconnected or stuck on the inside. Through group circles, retreats, and practical tools, Gareth supports men to lead with courage, integrity, and authenticity. He believes that when a man changes, everyone around him benefits. Connect with him on:  Website [https://garethpickering.com/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/garethpickering/], Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/gareth-pickering/], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/itsmegareth/]

#65 Porn: The Billion Dollar Business That Commercialises Your Life Force with Tyson Adams

What if your sexual energy could fuel your confidence, deepen intimacy, and transform your entire life? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Tyson Adams, a men's coach and sex educator specialising in helping men outgrow porn and master semen retention. We explore how unconscious patterns around sex and pornography drain your energy, dull your purpose, and keep you disconnected from your body and your relationships. Together, we offer a roadmap to reclaim your desire as a force for creation rather than compulsion. Listen now and start your journey toward a more powerful relationship with your sexuality. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✔️ How to tell the difference between healthy self-pleasure and addiction ✔️ Why porn companies are commercialising your life force, and how to step off the hamster wheel ✔️ Simple practices to reconnect with your body and activate real intimacy ✔️ The truth about semen retention and how it can transform your focus, energy, and relationships ✔️ How your relationship with your own body shapes every other area of your life ✔️ Ways to bring intention and depth to your erotic experiences, whether alone or with a partner This episode is all about reclaiming your sexual power! Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 53 "Expanding Consciousness in the Bedroom and the Boardroom with Tantric expert Raffaello Manacorda [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uMcibssE_L4&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=15&t=1837s]". RESOURCE LINKS Recommended Reading: Your Brain on Porn by Gary Wilson [https://www.amazon.com/Your-Brain-Porn-Pornography-Addiction-ebook/dp/B00N2AH8NW] Kings and Queens - Free Relationship Training for Men + Women [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-and-queens] THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS “We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons. An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blindspots. Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders. When you regularly invest in this type of training: - You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best. - You get clear on what you came here to do. - You reconnect with your mission.  You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission. - You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships. - You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle. All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you. We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for. Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle. [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle.] ABOUT OUR GUEST Tyson Adams is a trauma-informed IFS men’s coach, somatic bodyworker and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it seven years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men’s work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he’s not working, you’ll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego. Connect with him on: Website [https://www.thriive.life/lifeforce], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/tysonadams__/?hl=en], Facebook [https://web.facebook.com/adams.tyson] ABOUT YOUR HOST Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely. Connect with him on: Website [https://garethpickering.com/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/garethpickering/], Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/gareth-pickering/], X [https://twitter.com/garethpickering/status/1485729202208915470], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/itsmegareth/]

#63 The Quantum Path to Freedom With Christopher Armstrong

This podcast is a space for having courageous conversations. We aim to open the places most are too scared to tread.  This episode will touch on some of your most deep-seated beliefs and make you question everything.  Do you really have to pay taxes and listen to people in uniform? Are you brave enough to dig deep to the bottom of your money beliefs?  What if everything you believe about yourself… isn’t even yours? In this mind-expanding conversation, Christopher Armstrong joins me to dismantle the invisible programming that runs your life - beliefs inherited through culture, conditioning, and even your DNA. We explore how to reclaim sovereignty, reprogram your mind, and create your life from a place of deep inner truth. In this episode, we explore: * What it really means to “reclaim your power” in a world built on illusion * The hidden gift of being neurodivergent (and how society labels it all wrong) * How emotions, embodiment, and nervous system awareness help you find your truth * How your parents and your birth certificate contracted you into a contractual business deal with your government - and how to get out of it! * Why the “quantum leap” isn't instant but compounded through daily action * How to build community as a key to breaking free from conditioning * A behind-the-scenes look at Christopher’s Rise & Reset program This episode is all about personal sovereignty. Please be sure to tag me @garethpickering on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this content! I love to hear about all your experiences. Also, be sure to leave a review on iTunes in order to receive a free meditation to reclaim your power. Just screenshot it before submitting it and email it to my team at studio@fatherssonsbrothers.com, and I will see you in the next episode. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure you also check out Episode 56 "Love, Life & Leadership - Lessons for Success with Toni Versic" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wq8Dz0QYzd8&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=10]. 🔗 Resources & Links: * Learn more about Christopher’s Rise & Reset course [https://portal.risewithchristopher.com/reset-your-mind] * Explore the Freedom People [https://thefreedompeople.org/?ref=risewithchristopher] platform THE KING'S CIRCLE: A DOJO FOR INTEGRATED LEADERS “We’re magnificent, and we’re broken” - Tom Hirons. An integrated leader recognises that we all have inner work to do. So, these new-paradigm leaders seek out people, processes, and places that support them in recognising and integrating their blindspots. Each month, Fathers Sons Brothers host the King's Circle, a two-hour transformational leadership training experience. It’s a men-only space where visionaries gather to learn tools and frameworks that make them better communicators and more integrated leaders. When you regularly invest in this type of training:  * You gain access to a space where men from all over the world support and encourage you to show up at your best. * You get clear on what you came here to do. You reconnect with your mission. * You recognise where you’re leaking energy, and you reclaim that power to allocate towards serving your mission. * You develop more trust in yourself, and this improvement is reflected in all your relationships.  * You feel inspired and excited about our brave new world, as you connect deeper with the other Integrated Leaders through the King’s Circle. All growth after puberty is optional and the men who attend our circle have a growth mindset like you.  We support each other in becoming the new paradigm of courageous leaders we've been waiting for. Secure your free seat in The King’s Circle here: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-circle]. ABOUT OUR GUEST Christopher Armstrong is a transformational guide and Inner Architect who helps neurodivergent misfits and visionaries break free from overwhelm, confusion, and burnout. Through a unique blend of nervous system healing, subconscious reprogramming, and soul alignment, he empowers high-performing individuals to reclaim their purpose and step into the grounded, powerful leaders they were born to be. His work supports those who have never fit the mold in rising beyond survival and creating lives rooted in clarity, authenticity, and deep inner freedom. Connect with him on: Website [https://www.risewithchristopher.com], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/risewithchristopher], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/chris.armstrong369],Youtube [https://www.youtube.com/@risewithchristopher] ABOUT YOUR HOST Gareth Pickering [https://garethpickering.com/] is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely. Connect with him on:  Website [https://garethpickering.com/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/garethpickering/], Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/gareth-pickering/], X [https://twitter.com/garethpickering/status/1485729202208915470], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/itsmegareth/]

#62 How Boundaries Build Better Relationships

Episode Summary: If you feel like you're giving everything to your relationship but still ending up stressed, resentful, or unappreciated, this episode is for you. Gareth and Matt unpack the real reason why things might feel off and explore how one simple shift—setting clear boundaries—can radically improve how you show up in love, parenting, and partnership. This powerful conversation emerges from the lessons and breakthroughs inside the Legendary Lover Method, their signature relationship and intimacy program for men. 💡 What You’ll Learn: 1. Why knowing and communicating your needs isn’t enough—and what’s missing. The 3-step framework for setting boundaries that create clarity and connection. 2. How to avoid hidden resentment and miscommunication by speaking your "why." Why setting boundaries is actually an act of love and leadership. 3. The difference between expressing a need and protecting it. 4. How masculine clarity creates safety in your relationship. 🧠 Quote of the Episode: “You can’t be the husband or father you want to be unless you first prioritise the relationship you have with yourself.” — Gareth Pickering 🎁 Free Training: Join our upcoming Relationship Reflections part of the Kings and Queens series – A guided process to mine gold from past relationships, close old energetic loops, and prepare to love with clarity. Get the details on this page: https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-and-queens [https://www.fatherssonsbrothers.com/kings-and-queens]. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to catch Episode 59 "Stop Stepping on Relationship Landmines" [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sGQFZhAKnYg&list=PLf0aX4k0hbBZXlTdr1s15Sr65ZpAm1S5v&index=6] with Gareth Pickering. About your hosts: Gareth Pickering is an artist and thought leader. His inspiration is to create spaces for men to have open and honest conversations that shift their mindset and live life to the fullest. He’s a human connection specialist who guides others to level up with their lives through “relationships”. Relationships are a rocket ship for personal development. Gareth provides the tools and maps to fly and land your rocket safely.   Connect with him on:   Website [https://garethpickering.com/], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/garethpickering/], Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/gareth-pickering/], X [https://twitter.com/garethpickering/status/1485729202208915470], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/itsmegareth/] Matt Dahse is a father and conscious creator, designing pathways for men to follow to unlock their potential and step into their power.