Dating in your 40's

Episode 48 - The Boyfriend

After countless low-effort matches, ghostings, and confusing conversations, I’ve finally met someone who feels different. In this episode, I share what it’s been like to date someone who is sweet, emotionally present, physically confident, intellectually stimulating (hello, PhD in humanities!), and genuinely invested in getting to know me. He plans dates. He calls. He brought flowers on our first official date. And most surprisingly? He makes it easy. Being with him is not only refreshing—it’s making me realize just how wrong my last relationship was. Sometimes, clarity doesn’t come from what goes wrong… but from finally experiencing what feels right. 💌 Have you found someone who made you rethink everything you accepted before? I’d love to hear from you: moderndating2025@gmail.com

Episode 47 - The Salesman and Me

Some dating conversations feel like an interview, others feel like a monologue, and some… just leave you confused. In this episode, I share my bizarre exchange with a former Marine—who went from serving his country to selling Tempurpedic mattresses—and how the conversation took a sharp turn when I dared to have thoughts and opinions. 💌 Ever been unmatched for a ridiculous reason? Tell me about it at moderndating2025@gmail.com

Episode 46 - Librarians, Low Effort, and Lukewarm Interest

If you’ve ever had a guy assume your profession for absolutely no reason, this episode is for you. First, I talk about a guy who confidently decided I was a librarian—based solely on the fact that I read books. Then, I dive into the painfully slow fade of someone who seemed interested… until his response time went from thoughtful messages to one every two days. Spoiler: it ended with an underwhelming coffee invite that made me question why I even bothered. If you’re tired of low-effort dating, lukewarm interest, and men who don’t even try—this episode is a must-listen. 💌 Got your own low-effort dating story? Share it with me at moderndating2025@gmail.com

Episode 45 - Is Low Effort Dating a Cultural Thing?

I’ve been wracking my brain over the shockingly low level of effort in dating where I live. Is it just me? Or is this an actual cultural thing? A friend of mine said that women in my area have just accepted that this is how things are—so men don’t need to try. And honestly? That blew my mind. In this episode, I unpack the frustrating reality of modern dating, whether we set the bar too low, and why so many men seem comfortable putting in bare minimum effort. Is this a regional issue? A generational one? And more importantly—how do we fix it? 💌 What’s the dating culture like where you live? Let me know at moderndating2025@gmail.com

Episode 44 - The Five-Hour Ghosting: When Connection Feels Like an Illusion

Ever had a conversation so good that you knew it was going somewhere… only to be completely ghosted the next day? In this episode, I talk about my five-hour-long phone call with a guy who seemed like he was actually interested—until he wasn’t. I break down what happened, the odd red flags (including a weird entitlement about speaking Italian in Italy), and the way I tend to dwell on these moments even when I know I shouldn’t. If you’ve ever been left questioning what you did wrong when, really, it wasn’t about you at all—this episode is for you. 💌 Have a similar story? Let’s connect! Email me at moderndating2025@gmail.com