Embrace Your Value | Boundaries, Self Worth & Limiting Beliefs for Women

The Fear of Being Judged Is Keeping You Stuck

What we cover: * What judgment fear actually looks like in daily life — and why it's so much quieter and more constant than we think * The neuroscience of why judgment fear is wired for survival, not weakness * Three patterns: why we edit ourselves, why confidence grows when you stop performing, and why authenticity builds better relationships * The specific cost of staying small — including how shrinking trains the people around you to expect less * Three practical tools: the opinion question, the editing catch, and one unedited moment Your homework this week:Write: "What would I do differently if I wasn't afraid of people's opinions?" Then pick one thing from that list and do it this week. Reflection question:What would it feel like to be truly known — not liked by everyone, but genuinely known by someone? References worth exploring: * Brené Brown — Daring Greatly (vulnerability and true belonging) * Susan David — Emotional Agility (self-editing and authentic expression) * Naomi Eisenberger — research on social pain and physical pain (UCLA) If you enjoyed this episode please connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Contact us at the podcast at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services [https://www.instagram.com/enlighten_services/] Website : www.kristenburrus.com [http://www.kristenburrus.com] Facebook : enlighten_services [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557450505773]  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ [https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/] Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  [https://www.facebook.com/ThankfulHeartsCoaching/] Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson [https://www.instagram.com/the.jennifer.anderson/] thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

What Permission Are You Waiting For?

Jen Anderson and Kristen Burrus explore why so many smart, capable women keep waiting for “the right time” to pursue what they want—after the kids are older, finances are perfect, work calms down, or someone finally understands. They argue that these conditions are rarely fully met and that waiting often masks fear and avoidance, reinforced by beliefs that joy must be earned and that women’s desires are less legitimate than others’ needs. They explain that confidence comes after action, not before, and frame midlife dissatisfaction as a normal invitation to reevaluate who you’re becoming. The episode emphasizes reclaiming self-authorization through small, consistent steps, tolerating disappointment, and using three tools: a permission-writing prompt, naming what you’re waiting for, and one real act of self-authorization this week. 00:00 What Permission Awaits 03:05 Meet the Hosts 03:57 Waiting for Kids 06:00 Waiting for Money 07:04 Waiting for Validation 09:36 Fear and Avoidance 12:35 Joy Must Be Earned 14:28 Confidence After Action 17:14 Midlife Wake Up Call 19:40 Stop Waiting Start Small 22:21 Three Practical Tools 25:47 Permission Is Yours 26:58 Final Question and Goodbye If you enjoyed this episode, connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Email us at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services [https://www.instagram.com/enlighten_services/] Website : www.kristenburrus.com [http://www.kristenburrus.com] Facebook : enlighten_services [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557450505773]  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ [https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/] Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  [https://www.facebook.com/ThankfulHeartsCoaching/] Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson [https://www.instagram.com/the.jennifer.anderson/] thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

If No One Was Watching, What Would You Stop Doing Tomorrow

Trauma therapist Kristin Burrus and co-host Jen Anderson explore “performance mode”—the version of yourself shaped to meet others’ expectations—and what it costs to live there. They unpack how people pleasing often begins as an early survival strategy in unpredictable environments, then persists into adulthood as an automatic “audit life” of self-editing for approval. They name four common patterns: overcommitting, overexplaining boundaries, staying in outgrown roles, and saying yes out of guilt, and discuss how chronic performance can erode identity and make it hard to know what you want. They also describe what it looks like to step out of performance mode—slower, more deliberate responses, discomfort and pushback, and eventual relief—and offer three tools: the audit question, a 24-hour pause before commitments, and setting limits without explanations. The episode closes by revisiting the prompt, “If no one was watching, what would you stop doing tomorrow?” and asking what you’d start if you trusted you were enough. 00:00 The No One Watching Question 02:22 Meet the Hosts and Theme 03:06 What Performance Mode Looks Like 05:49 People Pleasing as Survival 08:27 Four Patterns of Performing 08:43 Overcommitting and Busyness 10:16 Overexplaining Boundaries 11:37 Outgrown Family Roles 13:31 Guilt Driven Yeses 15:30 Losing Your Sense of Self 16:57 Stepping Out of Performance 19:14 Three Tools to Practice 19:22 Tool One Audit Question 20:16 Tool Two 24 Hour Rule 21:00 Tool Three Drop the Receipt 22:02 Closing Questions and Wrap Up If you enjoyed this episode, connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Email us at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services [https://www.instagram.com/enlighten_services/] Website : www.kristenburrus.com [http://www.kristenburrus.com] Facebook : enlighten_services [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557450505773]  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ [https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/] Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  [https://www.facebook.com/ThankfulHeartsCoaching/] Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson [https://www.instagram.com/the.jennifer.anderson/] thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

Why We Struggle to Receive Support

Jen Anderson and Kristen Burrus explore why many women struggle to receive support even when it’s offered, using “Maya” as an example of someone overwhelmed by work, family health, and marriage yet reflexively declining help. They explain that difficulty receiving isn’t a character flaw but often a learned adaptation, including patterns from being a parentified child, being praised for being low-maintenance, and tying value to usefulness. They discuss nervous system discomfort with unfamiliar care, the fawn response, and the “capable woman trap,” where competence becomes identity and vulnerability feels unsafe. They outline costs to health, relationships, and self-worth, then share three practices: a two-second pause, saying “thank you,” and starting small while tracking it, ending with a weekly reflection on noticing and gently examining your first reaction to support. 00:00 Maya’s Breaking Point 02:15 Why Receiving Is Hard 03:16 Parentified Child Pattern 04:53 Nervous System and Fawn 06:40 Capable Woman Trap 09:09 Hidden Costs of Doing It Alone 11:10 Three Tools to Practice Receiving 13:33 Worthy Without Earning 15:50 Weekly Reflection Prompt 16:51 Door Holding Example 17:57 Final Takeaways and Goodbye If you enjoyed this episode, connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Email us at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services [https://www.instagram.com/enlighten_services/] Website : www.kristenburrus.com [http://www.kristenburrus.com] Facebook : enlighten_services [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557450505773]  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ [https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/] Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  [https://www.facebook.com/ThankfulHeartsCoaching/] Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson [https://www.instagram.com/the.jennifer.anderson/] thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com

Healing Worthiness Through Your Voice (and Growing a Podcast with Kim Parkinson)

The host welcomes Kim Parkinson, a podcast growth coach and founder of KP Creative Media, who helps spiritually aligned women use aligned podcast strategy to be seen and heard. Kim shares how childhood experiences around money—working a paper route without pay and being shamed over 20 cents—shaped long-term feelings of unworthiness and financial struggle, later echoed during a multi-year family lawsuit where her support went uncompensated by some relatives. Through journaling, speaking things out, therapy, and recognizing her strength in using her voice, she’s begun taking ownership of her finances, including letting her bookkeeper go to stay engaged. Kim then describes her path from owning a craft store and hosting a local TV show to podcast production and becoming a certified podcast growth coach, including tactics like organic discoverability, guesting, and monthly “activations,” plus advice for localized businesses using pillar episodes and targeted Spotify ads. 00:00 Welcome and Introductions 02:32 Kim’s Money Wound Story 05:08 Journaling to Heal Worth 08:07 Taking Charge of Finances 11:09 Voice as a Healing Tool 13:43 Therapy and Safe Support 15:17 Voxer and Gratitude Practice 17:36 Becoming a Podcast Growth Coach 22:49 Client Wins and Results 24:05 Podcasting for Local Businesses 30:05 Where to Find Kim 31:29 Final Thanks and Subscribe If you want to learn more about Kim, you can find her at the links below: Website: https://kpcreativemedia.com/ [https://kpcreativemedia.com/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kim.parkinson1 [https://www.facebook.com/kim.parkinson1] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kpcreativemedia/ [https://www.instagram.com/kpcreativemedia/] If you enjoyed this episode, connect with your hosts, Kristen or Jen, you can find us at the links below! Email us at:  embraceyourvalue20@gmail.com Learn more about Kristen here:  Instagram : enlighten_services [https://www.instagram.com/enlighten_services/] Website : www.kristenburrus.com [http://www.kristenburrus.com] Facebook : enlighten_services [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557450505773]  Learn more about Jen here:  Website : https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/ [https://www.thankfulheartscoaching.com/] Facebook : @thankfulheartscoaching  [https://www.facebook.com/ThankfulHeartsCoaching/] Instagram : @the.jennifer.anderson [https://www.instagram.com/the.jennifer.anderson/] thankfulheartscoaching@gmail.com