Finding Noble

5 Key Steps to Help Children of Divorce stay Attached, Healthy and Happy.

With around 800,000 to 900,000 divorces occurring annually in the U.S., it's crucial as a society we learn how to better create safety, attachment, and emotional health for children of divorce. Dr. Skinner reminds us all, "It's never too late"-- to heal, grow and get better in all of our relationships. Wherever you're at, please join us as we aim to compassionately touch on five key areas to help make life better for children and families experiencing the aftermath of divorce. You and us, We got this. Carly Red & Dr. Skinner. 00:00 Introduction and Today's Topic 00:24 The Impact of Divorce on Families 01:16 Statistics on Divorce Rates 03:29 Betrayal Trauma and PTSD Post-Divorce 06:31 The Importance of Safety and Attachment for Children 12:18 Five Key Steps to Help Children of Divorce 12:48 Creating a Safe and Structured Environment 15:27 Effective Parenting Styles 18:29 Handling Transitions Between Homes 25:44 The Language We Use About Our Ex-Spouse 29:24 Protecting Your Child's Safety 30:08 Seeking Professional Help 31:00 Communicating Divorce with Children 33:14 Handling Emotional Conversations 38:26 Navigating Parenting Differences 42:17 The Importance of Maturity and Reconciliation 42:45 The Never-Ending Relationship of Divorced Parents 44:57 Healing, Moving Forward, Finding Happiness 48:51 Never Too Late: Acknowledging Pain and Rebuilding Relationships 53:31 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured] ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast] We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://findingnoble.com/about/] ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

[Part 2] Understanding and Treating Real OCD with Berkeley Runia Paulsen

Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old. Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy. We also learn about the heavy impact of OCD on daily life, the importance of cultivating uncertainty over "certainty" reassurances, and how family and caregivers can offer support. Berkeley's story highlights how a brain and a person suffering from OCD can transform through very accessible and effective treatment processes. There is a way out and we hope Berkeley's story delivers a lot of light to many who feel trapped in the dark spiraling tunnels of real OCD. You and Us, We got this. Carly Red and Dr. Skinner Treatment Center Referenced: https://www.ocdanxietycenters.com/ Book Referenced: https://a.co/d/9K5NCV2 Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast 01:19 Berkeley's Personal Beginning with OCD 03:27 Understanding OCD Symptoms and Triggers 08:34 Exploring Common OCD Obsessions 13:09 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life 25:58 Seeking Treatment and Finding Hope 27:39 Understanding Exposure Therapy 27:58 Introduction to DBT and Its Modalities 28:51 The OCD Cycle Explained 30:18 Neuroplasticity and OCD 32:59 Personal Experiences with Exposure Therapy 33:34 Body Dysmorphic Disorder and OCD 36:01 Living with OCD: Challenges and Coping Strategies 39:20 The Importance of Comprehensive & Professional Help 50:04 Parental Guidance for Children with OCD 55:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured] ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast] We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://findingnoble.com/about/] ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

[Part 1] Understanding and Treating Real OCD with Berkeley Runia Paulsen

Our guide today, Berkeley Runia Paulsen, shares her personal experience with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), which began after the death of her brother when she was 11 years old. Our conversation walks through the lonely nature of OCD, common yet widely unknown obsessions and compulsions, and Berkeley's journey through various treatments, including exposure response prevention (ERP) therapy. We also learn about the heavy impact of OCD on daily life, the importance of cultivating uncertainty over "certainty" reassurances, and how family and caregivers can offer support. Berkeley's story highlights how a brain and a person suffering from OCD can transform through very accessible and effective treatment processes. There is a way out and we hope Berkeley's story delivers a lot of light to many who feel trapped in the dark spiraling tunnels of real OCD. You and Us, We got this. Carly Red and Dr. Skinner Treatment Center Referenced: https://www.ocdanxietycenters.com/ Book Referenced: https://a.co/d/9K5NCV2 Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble Podcast 01:19 Berkeley's Personal Beginning with OCD 03:27 Understanding OCD Symptoms and Triggers 08:34 Exploring Common OCD Obsessions 13:09 The Impact of OCD on Daily Life 25:58 Seeking Treatment and Finding Hope 27:39 Understanding Exposure Therapy 27:58 Introduction to DBT and Its Modalities 28:51 The OCD Cycle Explained 30:18 Neuroplasticity and OCD 32:59 Personal Experiences with Exposure Therapy 33:34 Body Dysmorphic Disorder and OCD 36:01 Living with OCD: Challenges and Coping Strategies 39:20 The Importance of Comprehensive & Professional Help 50:04 Parental Guidance for Children with OCD 55:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured] ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast] We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://findingnoble.com/about/] ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

"Ask a Therapist": How Do I Know if my Own Child is at Risk of Suicide? And is Prevention Possible?

* What are the 3 factors highly increasing your teen's risk of suicide? * Is my child at risk? * Do I really know my child? * Do I know how my child sees themselves? * Does my child really feel seen and like they belong here? In this episode, Dr. Skinner shares how suicidal thoughts are actually much more common than we might believe, noting that most people have momentarily entertained the thought. However, those at risk are typically individuals who align with these 3 factors: 1. I'm impulsive, 2. I feel I am in a crisis, 3. I have access. Hence, the unusually high risk of teen suicide. Studies show access to a gun or a form of poisoning likely through medical pills or substances, HIGHLY increases chances of a teen attempting suicide. Also, most teens attempt suicide under an hour of deciding. Our discussion also highlights the role we have as parents of creating and sustaining a warm home environment, drawing on the Grant Study to show how loving, deeply communicative relationships in childhood lead to longterm resilience, safety and belonging. The concept of "accompaniment" is introduced, illustrating how attuned parenting help children feel known and safe along their years of tender growth. Our conversation concludes with the importance of community support, kindness, education...... and these resources below. Support and Resources Mentioned in this Episode: My Life Is Worth Living Series: ⁠https://mylifeisworthliving.org/⁠ [https://mylifeisworthliving.org/] Parent Guidance Courses On Suicide: ⁠https://parentguidance.org/all-courses/ [https://parentguidance.org/all-courses/] "How to Know a Person" by David Brooks: [https://a.co/d/45LYFUD] https://a.co/d/45LYFUD [https://a.co/d/45LYFUD] Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction to Finding Noble 00:28 Special Edition: Suicide Awareness 02:36 Understanding Who is at Risk of Suicide  05:40 Warning Signs and Prevention 08:31 The Necessity for Vulnerable Dialogue 13:32 The Story Formation of Identity 17:43 Numbing Out of our Feelings 23:27 Loneliness, Trust, and Safety in our Closest Relationships 24:13 Understanding the Art of Connection 24:27 The Core Need to Be Seen 25:28 Reframing to See Oneself as Part of Whole– Belonging to the World 27:49 The Impact of Childhood Relationships– Grant Study 28:41 Warm Homes vs. Cold Homes 31:41 Eliminating Barriers and Realigning our Time with our Values 37:45 Generational Trauma and Cellular Memories 42:25 The Power of Accompaniment 47:54 Support for Families Facing Suicide Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured] https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast [https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast] We are hoping to help homes, families and educators everywhere… so please  like, review, subscribe and...  even share with friends and family looking for parenting support. To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://findingnoble.com/about/] ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com

The Silent Killer of Your Teen’s Mental Health: Lack of Sleep. Why Sweet Dreams Make Happy Kids & Teens with Sleep Expert Dr. Jessica Meers

Welcome to the sleep revolution. More than ever experts know how SLEEP defines the health of cognitive function, emotional regulation, social interaction... for everyone... but most especially teenagers! Sleep-deprived teens often struggle with moodiness, risky behaviors, relational skills and even academics due to being forced to operate on insufficient sleep.  The cascade of poor sleep can result in what Dr. Skinner refers to as "ego depletion," leaving teens incapable of functioning at their best, or even just adequately.  Are our teenagers being rebellious or lazy, or is there more to the story? Dr. Meers enlightens us on the biological changes that occur during adolescence, which can account for those infamous late nights and groggy mornings. Maybe their disengagement isn’t just teenage defiance— maybe our kids are exhausted! In this fascinating episode, renowned clinical psychologist and certified sleep medicine specialist, Dr. Jessica Meers, uncovers the hidden intricacies of sleep, focusing on the enigmatic and often elusive sleep patterns of teenagers—a topic more vital to their well-being than we might think. Join us to find out how better sleep for our kids and teens is possible, today on Finding Noble.  You and us, We got this. Carly Red & Dr. Skinner ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://findingnoble.com/] Show Notes: 00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement 00:45 Dr. Jessica Meers' Background and Expertise 01:26 The Importance of Sleep for Mental Health 02:00 Challenges of Adolescent Sleep 03:18 Biological Changes in Teen Sleep Patterns 07:47 Impact of Sleep Deprivation on Teens 11:11 Solutions for Better Sleep 12:00 The Role of Consistency in Sleep 14:12 Advocating for Later School Start Times 15:40 Real-Life Examples of Sleep Deprivation 20:20 The Perfect Storm of Sleep Risks for Teens 23:15 The Connection Between Sleep and Health 24:53 Modeling Good Sleep Habits for Teens 26:04 Parenting Challenges: Screen Time Before Bed 26:41 The Science Behind Device Usage and Sleep 27:37 Balancing Screen Time and Sleep Quality 28:30 The Role of Anxiety in Sleep Patterns 31:23 The Benefits and Drawbacks of Napping 36:08 Caffeine vs. Napping: What's Better? 37:44 Understanding Individual Sleep Needs 41:54 The Importance of Early Sleep 43:46 When to Seek Professional Help for Sleep Issues 47:57 Final Thoughts and Resources for Better Sleep Link to freebie: Teen Sleep Survival Guide [https://www.rhythm-well.com/teen-sleep-guide] To find out more about Dr. Jessica Meers: -          Visit her website: rhythm-well.com [http://rhythm-well.com/] -          Follow her on Instagram: shetalkssleep [https://www.instagram.com/shetalkssleep/] To subscribe to helpful emails head here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://findingnoble.com/about/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://findingnoble.com/about/] Watch the episodes on Youtube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoble/featured] https://www.youtube.com/@FindingNoblePodcast ***SEND YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO: hello@findingnoble.com Find expert-led parenting courses on: https://parentguidance.org/