FutureCast 0014 - Carly Feldman: a Conversation on ADHD, Novelty Sluts, and Anger as a Compass
Carly Feldman is an integrative nutrition health coach, chef, and DJ based between Berlin and New York. She specializes in helping neurodivergent brains — especially those with ADHD — navigate dopamine, motivation, and the gap between knowing what to do and doing it. She runs the Dopamine Reset Challenge and is launching a Dopamine Reset Retreat in Bavaria. She also DJs in clubs in Berlin and New York with what she calls her truest artistic expression — messy transitions, impulsive selection, and a hard-won willingness to post the imperfect set.
Carly and I have crossed paths in a few cities and keep landing in the same global network of weird, generous, unapologetic humans. We recorded this on March 31, 2026 while she was back in New York for a month, deep in retreat-planning and a few degrees more overwhelmed than her usual.
We get into: the morning phone trap and why we keep falling into it even when we coach other people not to, procrastinating on one hard thing by doing another hard thing, the ADHD brain's addiction to novelty and how to stop fighting it, ChatGPT confirmation bias and the client who spent three days convinced she had a parasite, Tay's failed experiment trying to record a podcast with an AI, being a "novelty slut" and the case for limiting your own options, maximizers vs satisficers and why a vegan menu was a relief, what makes a value a real value (it's what you get angry about), the homophobic guy in Mazunte and the love letter Carly wrote him with a heart on the outside, the DJ back-to-back from four years ago that came full circle in a New York club last week, the imperfect New Year's set that became her most-played, and Rejection Collection (we're maybe doing it).
Find Carly:
* Website: https://carlyfeldman.com [https://carlyfeldman.com]
* Dopamine Reset Retreat: https://carlyfeldman.com/dopamineresetretreat [https://carlyfeldman.com/dopamineresetretreat]
* SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/karlimusik [https://soundcloud.com/karlimusik]
Find Tay:
* Nature Club — a platform for finding activities, retreats, and classes based in nature (mentioned in this episode)
* Rejection Collection — app concept discussed in this episode
Books Mentioned:
* Existential Kink — Carolyn Elliott
People & Concepts Mentioned:
* Maximizers vs satisficers — research distinction on decision-making and happiness
* Decision fatigue — the cost of having unlimited options
* Rejection therapy — collecting rejections as a resilience practice
* Nicholas Jaar — electronic musician; the concert that was a gateway into Carly's NYC community
* Burning Man community — the global network seeded by one introduction in 2016