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Ep. 15 Reframe This...Time & Order :Part II

Reframe This Podcast – Episode 15: Time & Order (Part Two) In this solo episode, Matt offers a thoughtful reflection on time, order, and the roots of anxiety, while we await Corinna’s return. He explores how anxiety is often not a lack of effort, but a lack of order—where overwhelming demands and distractions disrupt both inner stability and relationships. Matt introduces key reframes: aligning time with values (not urgency), recognizing how distraction keeps us from depth and connection, challenging internal “rules” that keep us stuck, and understanding that true peace comes from alignment—not efficiency. He emphasizes that many pressures are self-perpetuated, and that reclaiming order requires intentional boundaries and reflection. Grounded in faith, Matt highlights that peace is our natural state when our time, values, and purpose are aligned. Ultimately, we don’t need more time—we need clearer order.

Ep. 14 Reframe This... Time & Order: Don't Rush the Verdict

In this episode of Reframe This, Matt and Corinna explore how often we rush our lives to a verdict before the process is complete. Borrowing the framework of Law & Order, they remind us that verdicts don’t come first—investigation does. Yet in our own lives, we’re quick to declare, “I’m failing,” or “This isn’t working,” long before the evidence is in. The reframe is simple but powerful: peace doesn’t come from outcomes—it comes from order. Through personal stories, humor, and thoughtful insight, they unpack how order isn’t about control, but intentional structure. When we organize our lives around identity and action rather than results, we create space for peace—even while things are still unfinished. Messy seasons aren’t meaningless. They’re often where the most important work is happening. ---------------------------------------- KEY TAKEAWAYS * Unfinished doesn’t mean failed—sometimes the investigation is still ongoing * Peace grows from intentional action, not perfect outcomes * Structure creates safety; control creates anxiety * Lessons often come before blessings SCRIPTURES REFERENCED * Ecclesiastes 3:1 [https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes%203%3A1&version=NIV] – There is a time for everything and a season for every activity * Proverbs 24:3–4 [https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs%2024%3A3-4&version=NIV] – Wisdom and understanding come before fullness * Proverbs 16:9 [https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Proverbs%2016%3A9%20&version=NIV]– We plan our course, but our steps are established over time If you’re walking through a season that feels overwhelming and would benefit from extra support, working with a licensed therapist can help you navigate it with care and intention. You can find a therapist near you using Psychology Today’s Therapist Directory [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists]. For listeners in Arizona: Matt’s practice, Dynamis Counseling [https://dynamisaz.com/], offers therapy and support for individuals, couples, and families. Arizona residents are welcome to reach out to learn more or get connected with a therapist who fits their needs.

Ep. 13 Reframe This... Not a New Year - A New Day

In this episode of Reframe This, Matt Rosenkilde challenges the traditional “New Year, New Me” mindset that often leads to burnout and discouragement by February. Rather than waiting for January 1st to make a change, Matt explores the idea that transformation doesn’t require a new year—just a new choice and a meaningful why. He reframes New Year’s resolutions as small, consistent shifts that are anchored to identity and purpose, not external pressure or perfection. Through personal reflections, stories, and evidence from therapy and faith, Matt explains how small changes, made consistently, can lead to sustainable growth. He emphasizes that growth isn’t about dramatic, immediate results, but about making a series of 1% improvements each day that compound over time. If you’ve ever felt like resolutions don’t stick, or that change is too difficult to sustain, this episode offers a fresh perspective that invites you to reframe your approach to growth—whether it’s a new habit, personal goal, or mindset shift. ---------------------------------------- SHOW NOTES Key Reframes from the Episode: 1. Change is a direction, not a deadline: Avoid the pressure of big changes that happen in a rush; focus on continuous small shifts. 2. Identity changes through behavior—not before it: Be the person you want to become by practicing small behaviors aligned with that identity. 3. Every day is a reset, not a restart: Give yourself grace and view missteps as part of the process, not a reason to quit. Reflection Questions: * Where have you been treating growth like a deadline instead of a direction? * What small change have you dismissed because it felt insignificant? * What identity are you trying to feel before acting, and what behavior could support it now? * Where have you mistaken a slip for failure? * What’s one 1% shift you can make today? ---------------------------------------- 💡 REFRAME OF THE WEEK "You don’t need a new year to change; you need a meaningful why and a consistent choice. Real transformation happens one decision at a time, and the smallest shifts, repeated daily, compound into lasting growth." ---------------------------------------- 🕊️ SPIRITUAL REFLECTION * Lamentations 3:22-23 — “Because of the Lord’s great love, we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning…” * Zechariah 4:10 — “Do not despise these small beginnings…” ---------------------------------------- 📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED: * Atomic Habits by James Clear: A must-read for anyone interested in how small habits can lead to big changes over time. Learn more about Atomic Habits [https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits] * Psychology Today’s Therapist Directory: If you’re seeking support for your mental health, you can find a licensed therapist near you. Visit Psychology Today [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists] For listeners in Arizona: * Dynamis Counseling: Matt’s practice provides therapy services for individuals, couples, and families. If you're in Arizona, reach out to Dynamis Counseling to get matched with a therapist who fits your needs. Learn more about Dynamis Counseling ---------------------------------------- 📬 STAY CONNECTED If you have a topic you'd like us to reframe, or a question for the show, feel free to reach out at info@reframethis. ---------------------------------------- Until next time: Remember, you don’t need a new year to start creating change. You have a new day, a new choice, and a new chance—right now. 💛 ----------------------------------------

Ep. 12 Reframe This... Belief Isn’t Certainty—It’s an Anchor

In this reflective solo episode of Reframe This, Matt explores the often-overlooked power of belief and how it quietly shapes our confidence, relationships, faith, and endurance—especially during seasons of uncertainty. While belief is frequently framed as religious or philosophical, Matt reframes it as deeply functional: an internal anchor that determines how we interpret setbacks, navigate conflict, and remain grounded when emotions feel unstable. Using relatable examples—from childhood wonder and believing in Santa to adult relationships, marriage, and purpose—Matt unpacks what happens when belief erodes and why anxiety often rises in its place. Rather than encouraging forced optimism or certainty, this episode invites listeners to reconsider belief as a choice—something we revisit, practice, and sometimes borrow when we’re tired. Throughout the conversation, Matt blends therapeutic insight, personal experience, and spiritual reflection to help listeners gently reclaim belief in themselves, others, and the meaning beneath their everyday lives. The episode ultimately reframes belief not as proof or emotional intensity, but as what we choose to stand on when clarity isn’t available. ---------------------------------------- ---------------------------------------- 💡 Reframe of the Week > “Belief isn’t about certainty—it’s about what you choose to stand on when certainty isn’t available.” Belief grounds us when emotions are wobbly, restores meaning when life feels heavy, and reminds us that wonder didn’t disappear as we grew older—it evolved. Choosing belief isn’t pretending everything is okay; it’s choosing an anchor when understanding runs out. ---------------------------------------- ---------------------------------------- 🕊️ Spiritual Reflection Matt shares how his understanding of belief is shaped by faith while inviting listeners of all backgrounds into reflection rather than agreement. These passages highlight belief as confidence, trust, and anchoring—especially when emotions fluctuate or circumstances feel unclear: * Hebrews 11:1 — “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” A reminder that belief is not proof or certainty, but confidence and assurance when we can’t see the outcome. * Proverbs 3:5–6 — “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding…” An invitation to consider what we lean on when our own understanding feels insufficient. These reflections emphasize that every human needs an anchor—whether faith, values, philosophy, or lived experience—to steady us when emotions and circumstances are unreliable. ---------------------------------------- ---------------------------------------- 🧠 Mental Health & Support Resources If this episode stirred questions about belief, anxiety, burnout, or emotional fatigue, connecting with a licensed therapist can be a meaningful next step. * Find a Therapist Near You: Psychology Today Therapist Directory https://www.psychologytoday.com [https://www.psychologytoday.com] * For Arizona Residents: Matt’s practice, Dynamis Counseling, provides therapy services for individuals, couples, and families. Arizona residents can reach out to learn more or get matched with a therapist who fits their needs. https://www.dynamiscounseling.com [https://www.dynamiscounseling.com] ---------------------------------------- Have a topic you’d like us to reframe? 📧 Email us at info@reframethis.org [info@reframethis.org]

Ep. 11 Reframe This... Kindness is a Choice: We Don't Have to Feel Kind to Be Kind

---------------------------------------- In this holiday-focused episode of Reframe This Podcast, Matt dives deep into how we can practice kindness, love, and grace during the holiday season—even when our emotions don’t align with the expectations around us. The holidays often bring a complicated mix of joy, stress, exhaustion, and family dynamics. Matt reflects on how we can choose kindness, love, and grace intentionally, even when those feelings don’t come naturally. Matt challenges the common misconception that kindness requires us to “feel” a certain way first. Instead, he reframes these values as actions we can choose, regardless of how we feel. From navigating stressful family gatherings to managing holiday shopping crowds and the pressure to be perfect, Matt shares practical strategies for maintaining grounded, intentional connections during a busy and emotionally charged time. ---------------------------------------- 💡 Reframe of the Week “Kindness isn’t a feeling you wait for—it’s a value you choose to live from. Love isn’t proven by how warm you feel, but by how intentionally you act. Grace doesn’t excuse harm, but it gives space for compassion in the middle of a difficult moment.” ---------------------------------------- 🕊️ Spiritual Reflection Matt closes with some grounding reflections from Scripture that support the idea of practicing kindness, love, and grace when emotions are complicated, especially during the holiday season: * 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 [https://biblehub.com/context/1_corinthians/13-4.htm] — Love is described not as a feeling, but through verbs: patience, kindness, restraint, and humility. It is a choice, not an emotion. * Colossians 3:12-14 [https://biblehub.com/context/1_corinthians/13-4.htm] — “Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. And over all these virtues, put on love.” Just as we intentionally choose our clothes every day, we must also intentionally choose these virtues. These reflections encourage us to ground ourselves in values, especially during a season that can feel emotionally complex. ---------------------------------------- Mentioned in this Episode: * Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck* — The concept of emotions as “signposts, not commandments.” * Psychology Today’s Therapist Directory — Find a licensed therapist near you to help with navigating holiday stress and emotional well-being. Resources for Support: If you're struggling with mental health or emotional overwhelm during the holidays, speaking with a licensed therapist can provide much-needed support. You can find a therapist near you through Psychology Today's Therapist Directory [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists]. For listeners in Arizona: Matt’s counseling practice, Dynamis Counseling [https://dynamisaz.com/], offers therapy services for individuals, couples, and families. Arizona residents can reach out to Dynamis Counseling to get matched with a therapist who fits their needs. Visit Dynamis Counseling for more information. ---------------------------------------- Subscribe & Share: If today’s episode encouraged you, share it with someone who might need a little extra kindness, love, or grace this holiday season. And don’t forget to leave us a review! Reviews help others find this podcast and join the conversation. Contact Us: Have a topic you’d like us to reframe? Email us at info@reframethis.org.