The Notion of You

Episode 24: Self‑Trust in Transitions: Morning, After Work, and Bedtime

WHEN YOU STOP SKIPPING THE DOORWAYS, EVERYTHING CHANGES. Episode Snapshot: You're not falling apart between your roles — you're just skipping the transitions. In this episode, Tashi walks through three transition rituals for moms that work with your nervous system, not against it, so you can close one chapter before opening the next and actually show up for yourself, your kids, and your work. What You'll Learn * Why your nervous system can't reset automatically when you switch roles * What it means that transitions are "regulation opportunities" — and what happens when you skip them * How to create a micro-ritual for each of the three main doorways: morning, midday, and evening * How Notion can hold your daily rhythm so your brain doesn't have to * How to pair a specific oil with each transition so your body learns to switch modes through scent Key Moments 0:00 — Welcome + who this episode is for 3:30 — The story: this morning, a crib, and a lost buffer 10:00 — Why skipping transitions doesn’t save time — it costs you presence 17:00 — The three doorways: morning, midday, and evening rituals 26:00 — Your oils, your Notion, and your one practice this week The Lesson * You don’t skip transitions to save time — you skip them and spend the rest of the day carrying what you didn’t process * Your nervous system can’t switch modes on command; it needs a deliberate signal that one chapter is closing and another is beginning * The goal isn’t a perfect routine — it’s one repeatable micro-ritual at each doorway that your body learns to trust over time * “Good enough” transitions on the hard days are still transitions; even a fragment of the ritual counts * When your systems hold the structure, your brain is freed to be present — that’s the real payoff of gentle organization QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING YOU DON'T NEED A NEW LIFE — JUST NEW TRANSITIONS. This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here [https://tashijones.com/about/]. Links & Resources * From Burnout to Alignment [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML] — your support system for the journey back to yourself * Scattered to Steady workbook [https://subscribepage.io/RRVy9z] — a free resource for creating calm in the chaos THIS WEEK: HESE TRANSITION RITUALS FOR MOMS ARE NERVOUS SYSTEM TOOLS, NOT TO-DO LIST ADDITIONS. CHOOSE ONE DOORWAY, ADD ONE MICRO-RITUAL, AND DO IT IMPERFECTLY FOR SEVEN DAYS. NOTICE WHAT SHIFTS.

Episdde 23: Self-Compassion in the Messy Middle

WHEN YOU'RE DOING ALL THE WORK, AND IT STILL DOESN'T FEEL LIKE IT'S WORKING. Episode Snapshot: If you've ever whispered you should be further along by now, this episode is for you. Self-compassion in the messy middle is not about giving up — it's the one practice that makes staying in your growth process actually possible. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN * Why healing and personal growth are not linear — and what the "messy middle" actually means * How harsh self-talk keeps you stuck in a cycle of shame and disconnection * A simple three-part compassion script you can use the next time the inner critic gets loud * How to build a Notion Compassion File to track your own resilience over time * One small, practical integration step to rebuild self-trust this week Key Moments: 0:00 Welcome and grounding: this episode is for the part of you that whispers you should be further along Tashi's personal story: two years of infertility, ignoring her body's signals, and the spiral of self-criticism What the messy middle really is, and why you are not behind The three-part Compassion Script: Of course I feel . It makes sense because . What do I need right now? Integration practice: how to build your own Compassion File in Notion and use it once this week THE LESSON: SELF-COMPASSION IN THE MESSY MIDDLE COMES DOWN TO FIVE CORE SHIFTS. * Growth is not linear — and that's not a problem. The messy middle is the space between who you were and who you're becoming. It is not evidence that something has gone wrong. It is the most necessary part of the process. * Self-criticism is not discipline. Harsh self-talk does not push you forward. It keeps you spinning in the same exhausted circle — doing more, trusting yourself less, and getting more disconnected from the signals your body is sending you. * Self-compassion is what makes staying possible. Compassion is not a shortcut or a bypass. It is the practice that allows you to remain in the process long enough for the process to actually work. * The three-part Compassion Script gives you something to reach for. Of course I feel . Acknowledge it without judgment. It makes sense because . Witness your own experience. What do I need right now? Start to rebuild self-trust one honest answer at a time. * Small, consistent anchors regulate your nervous system. Whether it's a Notion Compassion File that holds evidence of your own resilience, or a comfort oil ritual that signals safety to your body — practical tools matter. Your nervous system learns through repetition. QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING YOU CAN BE A WORK IN PROGRESS AND STILL BE WORTHY OF KINDNESS. This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework — a four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here [https://tashijones.com/about/]. LINKS & RESOURCES Free resource: Scattered to Steady Workbook [https://tashijones.com] — your first step toward getting out of overwhelm and into a calmer, more grounded daily rhythm. This episode supports: From Burnout to Alignment [https://tashijones.com] — not a quick fix, but a companion for the woman who is ready to stop pushing and start listening. If the messy middle feels like where you live right now, this is the support system I built for you. You did the work today — you showed up, you listened, and you chose yourself. If one line from this episode landed for you, share your compassion script with me. I'd love to hear it.

Episode 22: Self‑Trust Around Your Phone & Digital Life

HOW TO PROTECT YOUR ATTENTION, REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM, AND CHOOSE DIGITAL BOUNDARIES THAT ACTUALLY FEEL SUPPORTIVE Episode Snapshot: If your phone (or even “just one chapter”) has been running your nervous system, this episode will help you come back to your body and make calmer, clearer choices. You’ll learn gentle digital boundaries that protect your attention—so you can feel more present, regulated, and aligned. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN * Why your digital habits are often nervous system coping (not a willpower problem) * How constant input impacts stress, sleep, mood, and decision-making * “Digital Boundaries Lite”: simple limits that help you feel safe in your body again * How to create screen-free pockets that restore presence and self-trust Key Moments 0:00 — You’re not alone if your phone runs your nervous system 2:40 — A real Sunday spiral: pressure, avoidance, and the “escape hatch” 7:01 — Why your attention is one of your most valuable self-trust resources 13:52 — Digital Boundaries Lite: mornings, notifications, and screen-free pockets 22:56 — A 7-day practice to rebuild calm, clarity, and presence THE LESSON * Your attention is a form of self‑trust * Constant input keeps your body in low‑level bracing * Digital Boundaries Lite (no-scroll mornings, notification care, one screen‑free pocket) * Notion support: a simple “Digital Calm Dashboard” to notice patterns without shame * Natural support: use scent cues (citrus day / calming evening) to help your body transition offline QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING: YOUR ATTENTION IS ONE OF YOUR MOST VALUABLE SELF‑TRUST RESOURCES. This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework. A four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here [https://tashijones.com/about/]. Links & Resources * First, grab my free Scattered to Steady Workbook [https://subscribepage.io/RRVy9z]– it’s the exact framework I use when life feels chaotic. * Then, if you want the full transformation, check out my framework From Burnout to Alignment [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML] – 45+ pages of practices, oil pairings, and guided rituals.  IF YOU’RE READY FOR A SUPPORT SYSTEM (NOT A HUSTLE PLAN), CHECK OUT MY EBOOK FROM BURNOUT TO ALIGNMENT [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML] AND START REBUILDING SELF-TRUST ONE SMALL CHOICE AT A TIME.

Episode 21: Decision-Making with Your Body, Not Just Your Brain

STOP LETTING PANIC CHOOSE FOR YOU Episode Snapshot: If you've been making decisions from a place of anxiety, urgency, or other people's expectations — and still ending up somewhere that doesn't feel right — this episode is for you. Tashi walks you through the neuroscience of body-based decision making and a simple ritual to help you stop second-guessing and start trusting yourself again. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN * Why decisions made in fight-or-flight are neurologically different — and why they often feel wrong afterward * How to use the Body Check ritual to move from panic to grounded clarity before you choose * The difference between a decision that feels "open and light" versus "heavy and closed" — and what your body is actually telling you * How to use a simple Notion Decision Clarity log to build lasting evidence of your own intuition Key Moments 0:00 — Welcome + opening grounding practice: drop in, breathe, and slow down 2:26 — The college decision made from pressure, fear, and someone else's urgency — and what it cost 4:14 — The morning prayer that made a high-stakes decision feel already made 11:18 — The Body Check ritual: four steps to regulate your nervous system before you choose 15:08 — The Notion Decision Clarity log, centering oils, and your integration practice for the week The Lesson * Your body state determines your decision quality. In fight-or-flight, your brain narrows. In calm, it opens. The state you're in when you choose matters as much as the choice itself. * The Body Check Ritual. Pause before responding. Notice your breath. Drop into your shoulders, chest, and gut. Then ask: does this feel open or closed, heavy or light? * Panic-based decisions have a signature feeling. Tightness. Shutdown. Walking on eggshells. Learning to recognize that feeling is the first step to not letting it drive. * The Notion Decision Clarity log builds self-trust over time. Tracking choices, body sensations, emotions, and outcomes creates a personal case file for your own intuition — so you stop needing outside permission to trust yourself. * Ritual creates regulation. A centering oil used only during decision-making moments becomes a sensory cue that tells your nervous system: we're going inward now. Simple, consistent, and powerful. QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING "THE WOMEN WHO LEARN TO TRUST THEMSELVES DIDN'T ARRIVE THERE BY THINKING HARDER. THEY ARRIVED THERE BY LISTENING MORE." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework — a four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. [https://tashijones.com/about/] Links & Resources * First, grab my free Scattered to Steady Workbook [https://subscribepage.io/RRVy9z]– it’s the exact framework I use when life feels chaotic. * Then, if you want the full transformation, check out From Burnout to Alignment [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML] – 45 pages of practices, oil pairings, and guided rituals.  YOUR INVITATION: TRY THE BODY CHECK THIS WEEK ON ONE DECISION YOU'VE BEEN POSTPONING. LOG WHAT YOU NOTICE. THEN SHARE IT — WITH ONE SAFE PERSON, OR IN YOUR OWN NOTES. THE THINGS WE NAME, WE BEGIN TO TRUST.

Episode 20: Rest Without Guilt

YOU WERE NEVER MEANT TO EARN THE RIGHT TO STOP. Episode Snapshot: If you have ever wondered how to rest without guilt, you are not alone — and you are not lazy. Hustle culture taught you that productivity proves your worth. This episode challenges that lie directly. You will learn a nervous-system-aware framework for reclaiming rest as a daily act of self-trust. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN * How hustle conditioning trains your nervous system to treat rest as a threat * How chronic overwork disconnects you from your body and your sense of worth * How to use a Minimum Rest Dose to rebuild internal safety one day at a time * How to track four types of rest so you start filling the right tank * How to build a simple two-minute pre-rest ritual that actually helps your body slow down Key Moments 0:00 — Tashi opens with a grounding breath practice to help you land in your body 3:14 — Tashi shares the season she lived for her job and what her body paid for it 8:22 — Tashi explains why your nervous system treats rest as danger and how to change that 14:09 — Tashi introduces the Minimum Rest Dose and walks through the four types of rest 20:56 — Tashi guides you through naming your MRD and setting up your Notion Rest Tracker THE LESSON * Hustle conditioning trains your nervous system, not just your mindset. When you tie productivity to worth, your body learns to treat stillness as a threat. You can unlearn that pattern. It takes repetition, not willpower. * Your nervous system needs rhythm to function well. It moves naturally between activation and restoration. When you override that rhythm consistently, you lose your ability to feel safe being still. That shows up as exhaustion that sleep alone does not fix. * Your Minimum Rest Dose gives your nervous system a daily anchor. Choose the smallest repeatable act of rest you can commit to every day. Show up for it consistently. Your nervous system builds safety through repetition, not through perfect days. * Different kinds of rest restore different kinds of depletion. Mental, emotional, physical, and sensory rest each target something specific. Start tracking what kind of rest you get and how you feel after. You will quickly see where you are running dry. * A short ritual helps your body shift out of activation. Before you rest, try this: reach for lavender, bergamot, or chamomile, take three slow breaths, and put your devices out of reach. That sequence takes under two minutes and tells your nervous system it is safe to exhale. QUOTE WORTH REMEMBERING "YOU CAN BE REPLACED AT A JOB. YOU CANNOT BE REPLACED IN YOUR OWN LIFE." This episode is part of the Natural Alignment framework — a four-step method to regulate your nervous system, reconnect to your intuition, realign your identity, and rebuild self-trust. → Read the full framework here. [https://tashijones.com/about/] Links & Resources * First, grab my free Scattered to Steady Workbook [https://subscribepage.io/RRVy9z]– it’s the exact framework I use when life feels chaotic. * Then, if you want the full transformation, check out my ebook From Burnout to Alignment [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML] – 45 pages of practices, oil pairings, and guided rituals.  ✨ Ready to go deeper? If you are in a season of transition and you are tired of feeling disconnected from yourself, From Burnout to Alignment was written for exactly this moment. It is not a program. It is a support system. And it will meet you exactly where you are. → [Get your copy here.] [https://payhip.com/b/q2wML]