The Road Out Podcast

Defining Spiritual Abuse w. Shelby Hofer, Pt. 3

This is the final part of our series with our guest, Shelby Hofer. In this episode, Shelby continues to identify and put language to the ways she has personally experienced spiritual abuse in action in YWAM as she has worked through her own entanglement and counseled many staff and students through Member Care. If you are looking for a list of resources, check out the description in part one or our Facebook page.

Defining Spiritual Abuse w/ Shelby Hofer, Pt. 2

Continuing our series on Defining Spiritual Abuse, Shelby spells out some examples of how to spot spiritual abuse including how some bible verses can be used to control and manipulate. Resources on spiritual abuse: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/W9ocfPpBnXFBYMRR/

Defining Spiritual Abuse w/ Shelby Hofer, Pt. 1

Professional counselor, Shelby Hofer, joins us from Switzerland. 18 years of experience with YWAM has earned her invaluable knowledge on the topic of spiritual abuse. Below is an extensive list of resources provided by Shelby categorized by media type. Enjoy! Books * “Escaping the Maze of Spiritual Abuse: How to create healthy Christian cultures” by Dr. Lisa Oakley and Justin Humphreys * “The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse” by David Johnson and Jeff van Vonderen * “Safe People” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend * “When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing your community from emotional and spiritual abuse” by Chuck DeGroat * “We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis” by Mary DeMuth, page 112, The Problem with Predators * Daigle, “The relationship between spiritual health, spiritual dissonance and positive mental health”, 2019 * “Something’s not right: Decoding the hidden tactics of abuse and freeing yourself from its power” - Wade Mullen Articles * https://www.marydemuth.com/spiritual-abuse-10-ways-to-spot-it/ [https://www.marydemuth.com/spiritual-abuse-10-ways-to-spot-it/] * https://www.marydemuth.com/resource-for-the-spiritually-abused/ [https://www.marydemuth.com/resource-for-the-spiritually-abused/] * https://www.saritahartz.com/abuse-in-missions-sending-orgs-are-failing-missionaries/#disqus_thread [https://www.saritahartz.com/abuse-in-missions-sending-orgs-are-failing-missionaries/#disqus_thread] * https://www.spiritualabuseresources.com/articles/the-dangers-of-spiritual-abuse-clinical-implications-and-best-practices [https://www.spiritualabuseresources.com/articles/the-dangers-of-spiritual-abuse-clinical-implications-and-best-practices] * https://www.asimpleblog.online/post/christians-in-conflict-the-use-and-abuse-of-matthew-18 [https://www.asimpleblog.online/post/christians-in-conflict-the-use-and-abuse-of-matthew-18] * https://www.christianitytoday.com/scot-mcknight/2020/december/what-is-spiritual-abuse-working-definition.html [https://www.christianitytoday.com/scot-mcknight/2020/december/what-is-spiritual-abuse-working-definition.html] * https://www.choosingtherapy.com/spiritual-abuse/ [https://www.choosingtherapy.com/spiritual-abuse/] * https://www.genesisshelter.org/the-experience-of-spiritual-abuse/ [https://www.genesisshelter.org/the-experience-of-spiritual-abuse/] * https://www.salvationarmy.org.nz/research-policy/positional-statements/spiritual-abuse [https://www.salvationarmy.org.nz/research-policy/positional-statements/spiritual-abuse] * https://www.spiritualabuseresources.com/articles/guidelines-for-spiritually-abused-persons [https://www.spiritualabuseresources.com/articles/guidelines-for-spiritually-abused-persons] * https://www.spiritualabuseresources.com/articles/checks-on-power-and-authority-in-the-new-testament [https://www.spiritualabuseresources.com/articles/checks-on-power-and-authority-in-the-new-testament] * https://www.recoveringmissionaries.org/understanding-abuse-in-missions/ [https://www.recoveringmissionaries.org/understanding-abuse-in-missions/] Videos * What are Red Flags For Spiritual Abuse in Your Church? with Teasi Cannon [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=suiB7_MUv2I] Organizations / Websites * G.R.A.C.E - https://www.netgrace.org/ [https://www.netgrace.org/] - USA Resource * psycom.net [http://psycom.net/] * Thirtyoneeight - https://thirtyoneeight.org/ [https://thirtyoneeight.org/] - an independent, non-denominational charity providing a range of resources and support regarding spiritual abuse. - UK Resource * https://thirtyoneeight.org/media/4upcux21/spiritual-abuse-position-statement.pdf [https://thirtyoneeight.org/media/4upcux21/spiritual-abuse-position-statement.pdf] * Christian Safeguarding Services - https://thecss.co.uk/ [https://thecss.co.uk/] * https://www.episcopalchurch.org/safe-church/ [https://www.episcopalchurch.org/safe-church/] * https://upci.org/safechurch/ [https://upci.org/safechurch/] * www.replenished.life - UK Resource - Replenished aims to provide a safe place and space for survivors of spiritual abuse. * StepsSA - stepssa.weebly.com/contact.html [http://stepssa.weebly.com/contact.html] - Offers counseling and psychotherapy for survivors and training for counselors on spiritual abuse. * International Cultic Studies Association - www.icsahome.com [http://www.icsahome.com/] * 1800RESPECT - Australia Resource - the national sexual assault, domestic and family violence counseling service, providing confidentinal help available 24/7 0 www.1800respect.org.au [http://www.1800respect.org.au/] * Lifeline Australia - a national charity providing all Australians experiencing a personal crisis with access to 24-hour crisis support and suice prevention services. - Australia Resource * MensLine Australia (Changing for Good) - a telephone and online counseling service for men with family and relationship concerns. www.mensline.org.au/changingforgoodx [http://www.mensline.org.au/changingforgoodx] Podcasts * Untangled Faith Podcast- Amy Fritz w/Krispin Mayfield - Should I stay in my faith community to try to make a difference? - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5o9JMjnsS7rmFbJS2LGELY?si=d155986c44d64f71 [https://open.spotify.com/episode/5o9JMjnsS7rmFbJS2LGELY?si=d155986c44d64f71] * Missionary Life Podcast - Sarita Hartz * The Allender Center Podcast - Dr. Dan Allender and others - search “spiritual abuse” * The Roys Report with Julie Roys - reporting exclusively on abuse in the Christian world, but also runs a wonderful conference called Restore.

Why We Left Pt. 2

Katie and Daniel wrap up their story of why they left YWAM and their meetings with staff that led to their untimely departure from the organization. TW: infant loss, grief, PTSD

Why We Left - Pt. 1

In this episode, Daniel and Katie finally share the first half of the full story on why they left YWAM and the events leading up to their exit. TW: trauma, PTSD, infant loss, grief