The Wild Haul with Elise

17: When the 'mother wound' enters the marriage

This episode is a tender one. Walk with me in a deeply personal conversation about the wounds we may carry from our mothers — and how those wounds can quietly enter our adult relationships, especially marriage. Through the lens of my own separation, motherhood, therapy, and long arc of repair with my mother, I explore how conditional love, abandonment, rejection, and emotional neglect shaped the way I received love, tested love, pushed love away, and ached to be chosen. It's an episode about what happens when an old wound enters the room of a present relationship — and becomes mature enough to finally be named. To the woman who has done “the healing work” and is shocked to find another layer rising in love, partnership, or marriage — this episode is for you. Not healed.  Healing. RESOURCES The Association for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology and Health [https://birthpsychology.com/] RELATED EPISODES 8: Trapped in labels [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/episodes/18696463] 16: Mom's Health Care Compass - be the medicine woman of your family [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/episodes/19068544] COMPANION READING FROM THE BLOG Why you need to understand limbic imprinting [https://www.birthhumanity.com/blog/why-you-need-to-understand-limbic-imprinting_ae112.html] HERstory timeline [https://www.birthhumanity.com/blog/herstory-timeline_ae132.html] BONUS Below is an affirmation/dedication I created (which may serve as inspiration) for myself as a loving reminder of my devotion to heal these wounds with grace... and speediness 🤞😅  I release the intense feelings of rejection, abandonment, and conditional love. I see them. And I remember they are not the whole truth. They are separate from me, the person, or situation they may be rising in right now. I will pause and take time to tend to myself. To return to stability and truth. I will confide in the people I trust and care about, and let them know the wounds I'm actively healing. Co-regulation is supportive. I deserve loving support while I heal. I can hold myself with devotion as I return to what's real. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/support] CONNECT WITH ELISE 🌐 website: BirthHumanity.com [https://www.birthhumanity.com/about.html]   📲 Instagram: @BirthHumanity [https://www.instagram.com/birthhumanity/]   💬 You're invited to ask Elise [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdeHz_WkqUlZuTmKt7bVKq8PW2baQH8-1rjrcJrN-zItZJa8g/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=116070537309396558570] what you'd like clarification on or learn more about. She'll do her best to address it in an upcoming episode. If one thing rings true, follow that sound. Return the rest to the wind. 💗 Please follow, leave a review, and share this episode with someone you feel will resonate with it.  This podcast is not medical advice. It’s education, story, discernment, and conversation. You are the authority of your life, your body, and your children.

16: Mom's Health Care Compass - be the medicine woman of your family

You do not need an MD, a PhD, or a list of certifications to be the medicine woman of your family. In this episode, I share a tender personal story that shaped my belief in maternal discernment, patient advocacy, and the importance of building a clear, intentional model of care inside your home. EXPLORE * why many holistic-minded women still feel disconnected from the medicine piece of holistic living  * the difference between emergency medicine and long-term healing  * how difficult it can be to step out of the allopathic cycle once you are in it  * why being the medicine woman is not only intuition, but also organization, structure, and responsibility  * how fear can disconnect a mother from her own knowing  * the importance of household clarity around who leads, what is used first, and how your family responds in a health event  * how to begin building your own internal compass with more confidence and less panic  If this episode speaks to you, Mom’s Health Care Compass [https://l.bttr.to/KHHl6] 📖 was made for you. It is a guide to help you ask better questions, get more organized, strengthen your discernment, and feel more supported in the care of your children and yourself. 👉  CLICK HERE to get your guide now [https://l.bttr.to/KHHl6] When you purchase the Compass, you’ll also receive access to my private support space for women walking this path. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/support] CONNECT WITH ELISE 🌐 website: BirthHumanity.com [https://www.birthhumanity.com/about.html]   📲 Instagram: @BirthHumanity [https://www.instagram.com/birthhumanity/]   💬 You're invited to ask Elise [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdeHz_WkqUlZuTmKt7bVKq8PW2baQH8-1rjrcJrN-zItZJa8g/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=116070537309396558570] what you'd like clarification on or learn more about. She'll do her best to address it in an upcoming episode. If one thing rings true, follow that sound. Return the rest to the wind. 💗 Please follow, leave a review, and share this episode with someone you feel will resonate with it.  This podcast is not medical advice. It’s education, story, discernment, and conversation. You are the authority of your life, your body, and your children.

15: The life waiting for you beyond the circle

In this follow-up to episode 14: Being Seen Is Not the Same as Being Known [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/episodes/19054715], we will explore friendship, attachment, and discernment in healing spaces and growth containers.  Here, is reflection on receiving what is helpful, without losing sight of real life, real relationships, and real rhythms waiting for you beyond the circle. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/support] CONNECT WITH ELISE 🌐 website: BirthHumanity.com [https://www.birthhumanity.com/about.html]   📲 Instagram: @BirthHumanity [https://www.instagram.com/birthhumanity/]   💬 You're invited to ask Elise [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdeHz_WkqUlZuTmKt7bVKq8PW2baQH8-1rjrcJrN-zItZJa8g/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=116070537309396558570] what you'd like clarification on or learn more about. She'll do her best to address it in an upcoming episode. If one thing rings true, follow that sound. Return the rest to the wind. 💗 Please follow, leave a review, and share this episode with someone you feel will resonate with it.  This podcast is not medical advice. It’s education, story, discernment, and conversation. You are the authority of your life, your body, and your children.

14: Being seen is not the same as being known

What happens when a healing space starts to feel more intimate than your real life? The potential risks of coed healing spaces (if you're heterosexual), emotional attachment, transference, and the blurred boundaries that can form when vulnerability is held without enough discernment or ethics.  I also unpack: * the difference between true healing and emotional dependency,  * the seduction of being deeply seen,  * and why being witnessed in a room is not the same as being deeply known in a life. This is a conversation on facilitator integrity, relationships, self-trust, and the kind of healing that can help you return to your real life more honest, more awake, and more embodied. RELATED EPISODES FROM THE PODCAST 3: Feet on the ground - that is "the work" [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/episodes/18597899] 8: Trapped in labels [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/episodes/18696463] 11: The journey is not the integration [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/episodes/18778198] NATIONWIDE RESOURCES For men: The Unbreakable Man Project [https://www.theunbreakablemanproject.com/] For women: The Living Temple [https://livingtemplehq.com/], Priestess Presence [https://pp.priestesspresence.com/], and The Relaxed Woman System [https://www.kellybroganmd.com/offerings] For marriages: Modern Marriage [https://modernmarriage.us/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/support] CONNECT WITH ELISE 🌐 website: BirthHumanity.com [https://www.birthhumanity.com/about.html]   📲 Instagram: @BirthHumanity [https://www.instagram.com/birthhumanity/]   💬 You're invited to ask Elise [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdeHz_WkqUlZuTmKt7bVKq8PW2baQH8-1rjrcJrN-zItZJa8g/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=116070537309396558570] what you'd like clarification on or learn more about. She'll do her best to address it in an upcoming episode. If one thing rings true, follow that sound. Return the rest to the wind. 💗 Please follow, leave a review, and share this episode with someone you feel will resonate with it.  This podcast is not medical advice. It’s education, story, discernment, and conversation. You are the authority of your life, your body, and your children.

13: Mothering is masculine

There’s a popular narrative that motherhood naturally brings women deeper into their feminine: softness, intuition, flow, devotion. And while motherhood can absolutely deepen those qualities, it also asks women to hold an extraordinary amount of masculine energy. In this episode, I name what so many mothers feel but struggle to articulate: that mothering often requires structure, containment, leadership, anticipation, protection, decision-making, and emotional steadiness. In other words, it requires a tremendous amount of masculine capacity. EXPLORE * what masculine and feminine energy look like in real life * why motherhood is not only nurturing, but leadership * the invisible mental and emotional load mothers often carry * how disconnection from the body often begins before motherhood * how marriage can suffer when one person holds the tone and weight of the home alone * why softness is not something a woman performs, but something that emerges when she feels safe enough to put some of the weight down Motherhood is sacred work.  But sacred does not mean weightless. RESOURCE 🖨️ Download + print your FREE sacred masculine & feminine guide here [https://www.birthhumanity.com/cm/dpl/downloads/content/1/Sacred_Feminine_Masculine_Birth_Humanity.pdf] ☯️ COMPANION READING FROM THE BLOG Gifts of motherhood every husband deserves to understand [https://www.birthhumanity.com/blog/gifts-of-motherhood-every-husband-deserves-to-understand_ae169.html] Motherhood requires more masculine energy than you realize [https://www.birthhumanity.com/blog/motherhood-requires-more-masculine-energy-than-you-realize_ae164.html] There is no finish line [https://www.birthhumanity.com/blog/there-is-no-finish-line_ae152.html?view=2GR22] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2571274/support] CONNECT WITH ELISE 🌐 website: BirthHumanity.com [https://www.birthhumanity.com/about.html]   📲 Instagram: @BirthHumanity [https://www.instagram.com/birthhumanity/]   💬 You're invited to ask Elise [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdeHz_WkqUlZuTmKt7bVKq8PW2baQH8-1rjrcJrN-zItZJa8g/viewform?usp=sharing&ouid=116070537309396558570] what you'd like clarification on or learn more about. She'll do her best to address it in an upcoming episode. If one thing rings true, follow that sound. Return the rest to the wind. 💗 Please follow, leave a review, and share this episode with someone you feel will resonate with it.  This podcast is not medical advice. It’s education, story, discernment, and conversation. You are the authority of your life, your body, and your children.