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#116: Introducing Erototypes: A Playful Way to Understand What Turns You On

Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁 In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring how you actually want to feel, and the different flavours of turn-on that make up your unique eroticism. Because the truth is, most of us aren’t just one thing. Our desires are layered, complex, and often a little contradictory… and that’s exactly what makes them so interesting! If you’re curious to discover your own erototypes, you can download the free PDF guide [https://harleyrabbit.com/erototypes-sign-up/] or visit harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/] and start meeting your own naughty little spirit animals. 🐰🐶🦁 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]

#115: What Actually Makes Kinky Relationships Feel Secure

Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together. The surprising part is that security is rarely built through big gestures or complicated relationship rules. More often, it grows through the small rituals and routines we share every day — the little ways we show up for each other that quietly build trust over time. I share a few examples from my own relationship and invite you to notice the tiny moments that might already be strengthening yours. Mentioned in this Episode: Polysecure - by Jessica Fern xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]

#114: Wearable Claws: The Primal Toy You Didn't Know You Needed – with J from Claws & Clamps

Claws are much more than a costume piece. They can completely change how your hands feel in play — and how you feel wearing them. In this episode, I’m joined by J from Claws & Clamps to talk about wearable claws for sensation play. We explore how they’re designed, the difference between sharp and scratchy (yes, that’s a real thing), how to choose the right material and fit, and how to actually use them well. We also dive into calibration, power shifts, primal energy, and why slowing down might be the sexiest move you can make. If you’re curious about trying claws yourself, you can check out J's work at clawsandclamps.com.au [https://clawsandclamps.com.au?ta_aff=UE84DFG1SK&discount=harley]and use the code HARLEY for 10% off. Mentioned in this episode: Viroclean - hospital grade disinfectant [https://www.whiteley.com.au/product/viraclean/?srsltid=AfmBOoqSoe63wTrt4JQM-l7U-8WIVKFpOz6eRsfQzSbZcphm02IH9UfD] Are Nylon Claws Safe? - article  [https://clawsandclamps.com.au/blogs/claws-and-clamps-blog/premium-nylon-claws-and-body-safety] Mindfulness Exercise  [https://clawsandclamps.com.au/blogs/claws-and-clamps-blog/mindful-kink-an-exercise-in-sensory-awareness-and-connection] Book recommendation: Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams [https://www.booktopia.com.au/the-hitchhiker-s-guide-to-the-galaxy-hitchhiker-s-guide-to-the-galaxy-book-1-douglas-adams/book/9781529034523.html?source=pla&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21844631717&gbraid=0AAAAA-Ia9hP574nESCFbs-qGQ8mS8lQW3&gclid=Cj0KCQiA7-rMBhCFARIsAKnLKtBeVkt41m9BTKVM6PDBJYeaKsHaFyaASg-42u6JHJuGn4WooQF5ThcaAi_oEALw_wcB] Follow Claws & Clamps: Instagram @claws_and_clamps [https://www.instagram.com/claws_and_clamps/] Fetlife Claws_and_Clamps [https://fetlife.com/Claws_and_Clamps] Facebook ClawsAndClamps [https://www.facebook.com/ClawsAndClamps] xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]

#113: I’m Pretty Sure the World Is Secretly Kinky

Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing… Except it’s actually everywhere. In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast, from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language for why. Turns out, maybe our “taboo” desires aren’t as rare as we think. Maybe they’ve been woven into our culture all along. Keep your eyes open. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Vote for Harley: It’s an honour to be shortlisted for Black Noise Magazine’s Kink Educator of the Year award. Huge thank you to Black Noise for supporting kink educators and helping our voices be heard. If you’d like to vote for me — or any of the other incredible nominees — click here [https://strawpoll.com/GPgVYWQ1Bna]. From our Sponsor: This episode of Turns Out I’m Into It is sponsored by Nothosaur, a fantasy toy brand bringing erotic imagination to life. If you’ve ever been turned on by mythical creatures, powerful beasts, or otherworldly encounters, Nothosaur creates beautifully handcrafted fantasy toys designed to match those desires. With a wide range of designs — and customisable options for size, firmness, and colour — you can create something as unique as your own imagination.  Visit nothosaur.com [https://nothosaur.com/]  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]

#112: Using Kink to Stay in My Body When I’m Not Okay

This episode is a little more vulnerable than usual, but so many of us are impacted by our mental health. So this week I’m sharing how kink is helping me stay grounded when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I talk about what it’s like when your mind starts spiralling, and how sensation, containment, and surrender can sometimes do what other tools can’t. Gentle reminder: we do touch on mental health, so take care of yourself while listening.  Sponsor Message This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur, makers of stunning, body-safe fantasy toys designed to help you reconnect with your body and your pleasure. Self-pleasure can be a powerful form of self-care, especially when life feels overwhelming — and Nothosaur’s beautifully crafted, customisable toys are made exactly for that kind of intentional, embodied experience. If you’re curious, head to nothosaur.com [https://nothosaur.com/] to explore their range.  Thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping keep these conversations alive. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: * Fetlife [https://fetlife.com/users/13253650] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/harley_rabbit/] Visit my website harleyrabbit.com [https://www.harleyrabbit.com/]