Dads And Daddies

Brian and Judson celebrate 100 episodes with Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Sydney James Harcourt and talk sex with straight men, preferring faceless Grindr profiles, his affair with Andy Cohen, recognizing realness as a trauma response, and more

It’s Dads and Daddies 100th episode! Judson and Brian reminisce about the days before they were open to the idea of non-monogamy. They attend the LGBTQ Community Center of New York’s annual fundraising gala. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who shares the details of a recent session with a regular of more than a decade that he describes as being one of his best hookups ever. Brian and Judson are then joined by the sexiest cat on Broadway, Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Rum Tum Tugger himself, Sydney James Harcourt! Sydney talks about his journey from a childhood in Michigan spent hiding in the closet, feeling unattractive, uncool, unmanly and seeking comfort in food, to moving to New York and feeling othered as a minority man in the mainstream gay scene, to the person he is today exuding sex and confidence on a Broadway stage eight times a week. He tells them about the role that connections and community played in his transformation, how he found the sexiness of Rum Tum Tugger, and about how “Realness,” Tugger’s ballroom category that showcases a person’s ability to pass as straight, is, at its core, a trauma response to homophobia. Sydney gets even more personal and talks about some of the various reasons he likes to have sex, the demise of finding hookups on Craig’s List, his “mad, passionate lust affair” with Andy Cohen, why we should have sex with the straight men on the apps, and his preference for faceless Grindr profiles. Sydney then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener in his 30s who is newly out of the closet and wants to know what the three consider must-have experiences for a gay man. Find Sydney James Harcourt on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/sydneyharcourt/ [https://www.instagram.com/sydneyharcourt/]  Check out Austin Naked Yoga camp to join Judson for his “Dial into Daddy” workship at https://www.nakedyogacamp.com/ [https://www.nakedyogacamp.com/]  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com [dadsanddaddies@gmail.com] Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ [https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/] Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social] Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson [https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson] Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Brian and Judson hookup with Claybourne Elder and talk growing up Mormon and gay, wanting to be evil, aging in the public eye, and gay wedding planning

Brian returns from a complicated week celebrating Passover in Hawaii. Judson’s libido surges with the change in the weather and guides him to a pair of pleasurable parties. The Hookup of the Week finds the submitter reclaiming his sexuality after abstaining for 15 years, and entering into an intricate roleplay scenario. Brian and Judson ponder whether or not the tagline of the show needs to evolve as they approach the podcast’s 100th episode next week. The two are then joined by Broadway’s favorite DILF, Claybourne Elder. The Gilded Age star and Grammy, Screen Actors Guild Award, Drama Desk and Lucille Lortel Award nominee tells Brian and Judson about the origin of his City of Strangers initiative that provides free tickets to Broadway shows for people who might not have the means, and takes them through the process of recording his debut album out now, If the Stars Were Mine. He also talks about growing up gay and Mormon, his time as a performing missionary in the Nauvoo, Illinois Historic District, getting kicked out of Brigham Young University for being gay, how he met his Jewish husband, their path to parenthood, and how they address religion with their son. Claybourne shares his Daddy Issue, which is around aging, and particularly how he wrestles with whether or not, as an actor, he should be considering any procedures to maintain his youth. He then joins Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener wanting advice on planning a wedding that is true to him and his partner. Find Claybourne Elder on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/claybourneelder/ [https://www.instagram.com/claybourneelder/]  Get Claybourne’s debut album, If the Stars Were Mine at https://www.broadwayrecords.com/products/claybourne-elder-if-the-stars-were-mine-cd [https://www.broadwayrecords.com/products/claybourne-elder-if-the-stars-were-mine-cd]  Donate to Claybourne’s https://www.cityofstrangers.org/ [https://www.cityofstrangers.org/] to provide theater tickets to individuals and community organizations who may not otherwise be able afford them.  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com [dadsanddaddies@gmail.com] Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ [https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/] Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social] Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson [https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson] Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Brian and Judson hookup with John Paul Brammer and talk about giving advice to the international LGBTQ community, choosing between religions, hookup etiquette, managing queer-specific anxieties, and more

Judson shares a fashion sensibility with Brian’s ten year-old daughter and celebrates a victory at work. Brian prioritizes scheduling a surgery over attending his favorite sex party and responds to some online hate about his parenting that he can’t ignore. The Hookup of the Week paints a detailed picture of a sub’s annual trip to New York to see his dom. Brian and Judson then launch the Dads and Daddies Book Club with the arrival of guest John Paul Brammer, famed LGBTQ+ advice columnist and author of ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons. John Paul tells Brian and Judson all about the origin of his ¡Hola Papi! advice column, how he overcame the feeling that he didn’t have the authority to give advice, and shares how he feels now that he’s retired his column after eight years. He also provides a sneak peek at his next two books, and responds to Brian’s ask for advice by giving his thoughts about steeling oneself against internet commenters. John Paul then goes all the way to the top to discuss his Daddy Issue, which is his recent fascination with Jesus, particularly the comforting discovery that he may not have been attractive, and talks about the time he almost converted to Judaism for a boyfriend. The episode ends with the renowned advice giver joining Brian and Judson in responding to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who is curious about the etiquette of hooking up when one is hanging out with friends. Find John Paul Brammer on Substack at https://johnpaulbrammer.substack.com/ [https://johnpaulbrammer.substack.com/]  Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com [dadsanddaddies@gmail.com] Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ [https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/] Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social] Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson [https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson] Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Brian and Judson hookup with Bright Light Bright Light and talk career building as an independent artist, befriending your heroes, hypocrisy within the queer community and whether sex is an interesting subject for music

Judson considers moving in with Brian. Brian and his family make a return visit to Cats: The Jellicle Ball now that it’s on Broadway. Judson sets out on an adventure to find his misdelivered phone. Brian and his husband participate in their neighborhood’s annual progressive dinner. The Hookup of the Week comes from a repeat submitter who takes some lessons from the podcast into his latest encounter. The two are then joined by Rod Thomas, aka electro-pop music artist and DJ Bright Light Bright Light! Rod sits down with Brian and Judson just two days before kicking off his co-headling Cosmic Light tour with “Queen of the Universe” winner and “Drag Race Brasil” host, Grag Queen, and talks about his mission with this and every one of his tours to bring joy and build community during these dark and divisive times. He teaches Brian and Judson all about his home country of Wales and its connection to music, he goes deep into his friendships and collaborations with Elton John and Scissor Sisters, and talks about how he has made a name and career for himself without ever signing with a label. They discuss the prevalence of misogyny in the gay community, they share thoughts on maintaining youth and taking risks throughout one’s life, and they debate the importance of sex as a subject of artistic expression. Rod then helps Brian and Judson respond to a Go Ask Your Dad question from a 50 year-old listener in a 25-year open relationship who has never used the gay hookup apps and wants advice about how to start.   Find Bright Light Bright Light on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/brightlightx2 [https://www.instagram.com/brightlightx2], on TikTok at https://www.tiktok.com/@brightlightx2 and at his site https://www.brightlightx2.com/ [https://www.brightlightx2.com/] See Bright Light Bright Light on his co-headling Cosmic Light tour with Grag Queen: https://www.brightlightx2.com/cosmiclight   Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com [dadsanddaddies@gmail.com]   Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ [https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/] Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social]   Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson [https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson]   Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Brian and Judson hookup with Grey Henson and talk the sexual appeal of Bigfoot, the challenges of dating as an actor, Daddy physique vs energy, and moving past the fear of new connections

Judson and his husband escape to the warm weather getaway of Playa Del Carmen. Brian feels his age during back to back nights on the town, but the outings also inspire a night of youthful sex with his husband. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener trying out The Blowers after hearing about it on this podcast, and finding new joy in receiving oral sex. Brian and Judson are then joined by Broadway musical theatre star Grey Henson! Grey takes Brian and Judson through his nonstop career that took off immediately upon leaving college with his casting as Elder McKinley in the first national tour and Broadway productions of The Book of Mormon, through his Tony-nominated performance as the iconic role of Damian in Mean Girls, to 2023's surprise hit musical, Shucked, to starring as Buddy the Elf in the recent revival of Elf,to now playing the title role in the current off-Broadway show, Bigfoot The Musical. Grey also gets personal and talks about his search for a partner since moving to New York twelve years ago, the struggle of people making assumptions about who he is as a person based on how they perceive him on the stage, and the absence in his life of his father, both now that he has passed, but also even while he was alive. He also talks about existing at the paradox of having Daddy physique, but without feeling he possesses Daddy energy. Grey then helps Brian and Judson address a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener who has become paralyzed with fear about making new connections. Find Grey Henson on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/greyhenson Email your Hookup of the Week, Go Ask Your Dad and Dr. Daddy submissions to dadsanddaddies@gmail.com [dadsanddaddies@gmail.com] Dads and Daddies on the Web: https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/ [https://www.dadsanddaddies.com/] Dads and Daddies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.instagram.com/dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod [https://www.tiktok.com/@dadsanddaddiespod] Dads and Daddies on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social [https://bsky.app/profile/dadsanddaddiespod.bsky.social] Your hosts, Dad Brian Rubin-Sowers - https://www.instagram.com/ditmasparkpapa and Daddy Judson Morrow - https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson [https://www.instagram.com/gunclejudson] Edited by Toby Rubin-Sowers Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.