The One Where Becky Takes on Romance Fraud
In this episode of Due Diligence Download, Sylwia and Amritha sit down with Becky Holmes, author of Keanu Reeves Is Not in Love With You, to unpack the reality behind romance fraud — one of the most emotionally manipulative and misunderstood financial crimes out there.
What starts as funny (and often absurd) interactions with celebrity impersonators quickly reveals something much darker: a global, organised system of deception that blends psychology, technology, and financial crime.
You’ll learn:
Why romance fraud is not a victimless crime — and why victim stereotypes are dangerously wrong
How Becky went from “bored in lockdown” to uncovering repeatable scam scripts, tactics, and patterns
The evolution from traditional romance scams to “pig butchering” — where emotional grooming turns into large-scale investment fraud
The growing role of AI in fraud, from synthetic personas to scaling deception faster than ever
The uncomfortable truth about scam farms, organised crime, and links to human trafficking
Where this all intersects with money laundering, mule activity, and the financial system
This episode is a reminder that romance fraud isn’t just about fake relationships — it’s a gateway crime that feeds wider criminal networks and exposes serious gaps in how we detect and prevent financial crime.
Author profile:
Becky Holmes is an author, journalist, speaker and the creator of the popular Twitter/X account @deathtospinach, which exposes fraudsters in humorous ways.
In 2020, having been on the receiving end of an annoying number of direct messages from online romance scammers, Becky started to enjoy wasting their time and publicly ‘outing’ their accounts. Six years later she is now a well-known expert on romance fraud, called upon by both professionals and the media. Her first book, Keanu Reeves Is Not in Love with You, received outstanding reviews from critics, journalists, counter-fraud professionals, comedians and everyday readers. Her second book, The Future of Fraud, which examines AI, cryptocurrency, social media and the dark web, hit the shelves in April 2026. She also sometimes writes for The Times about fraud.
Becky uses humorous examples of her conversations with online fraudsters to shine a light on the darkest corners of the world of romance fraud. Examining the similarities between romance fraud and domestic abuse, she talks about coercive control and confirmation bias, gaslighting and shame. She also reveals the even lesser-known sides to this crime: human trafficking, voodoo and scammer pyramid schemes.
No other woman has had so many online romances – from Keanu Reeves to Brad Pitt to Prince William and she is a firm favourite with brave US peacekeeping soldiers and oil rig workers who desperately need iTunes vouchers or Amazon gift cards.
Resources & Links:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/erinnordbywest/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-rowe-95323753/
https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2026/feb/24/destitute-survivors-of-south-east-asias-cyberscam-farms-an-international-crisis
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c5yr7j18edjo
https://news.un.org/en/story/2026/03/1167144
Becky’s Books:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Keanu-Reeves-Not-Love-You/dp/1789651638
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Future-Fraud-FUTURES-Book-11-ebook/dp/B0GK2RJG9J?ref_=ast_author_dp&th=1&psc=1
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