Self Help(ed)

The Internet’s Boyfriend: Dr Ned Rohrt

This week on Self Help(ed), we’re joined by our very first guest - none other than the Internet’s favourite boyfriend, certified golden retriever energy, and all-round good egg: Dr Ned Rohrt. Tully’s better half (and real-life dentist) takes the hot seat for a deep-dive chat about love, loyalty, life online, and what it’s really like dating someone whose life is lived publicly. Maggie doesn’t hold back - asking Ned everything from how he handles the constant spotlight and proposal pressure to how he feels about Tully’s family history and future. It’s candid, emotional, and surprisingly funny. Then, while Ned catches his breath, the girls unpack Lily Allen’s blistering new divorce album, West End Girl. From addiction to betrayal, it’s a masterclass in female rage and creative revenge. Because, truly, no one turns heartbreak into high art quite like Lily. And to finish? A little chaos in the form of ‘Who Knows Tully Best?’ - where Maggie and Ned battle it out for bragging rights, revealing who really knows Tully inside out.  Tune in for a reminder that real love isn’t perfect, it’s patient - and sometimes it shows up on Hinge when you least expect it. CHAPTERS: 01:14 - On the Couch. Enter Dr Ned 02:17 - Ned’s first pod. Sweat pads and martinis 04:08 - Hinge to happily ever after 08:48 - Life online. Dating a creator 11:11 - Proposal pressure vs reality 15:10 - Dementia, love, and choice 20:30 - Panic attacks to therapy wins 24:46 - Couples counselling and money talks 41:52 - Scoop of the Week: Lily Allen’s West End Girl 48:42 - Game time: Who Knows Tully Best 52:59 - Tattoos, hall passes, chaos 55:02 - Clickbait king Ned signs off 56:03 - Season wrap and 2026 tease If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod [https://www.instagram.com/selfhelpedpod]. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter [https://www.instagram.com/maggiekellywriter]and Tully over on @tee_smyth [https://www.instagram.com/tee_smyth]. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod

Swipe, Cry, School Run.

A month ago, Maggie got dumped over text - classy! All while juggling job hunting, co-parenting logistics, and the daily chaos of solo mum life. But instead of collapsing into a rom-com montage of tissues and Häagen-Dazs, she just kept going (mostly because small humans still need breakfast). In this week’s On The Couch, the girls unpack the messy, hilarious, and strangely empowering art of managing your own heartbreak while still being the adult in the room. From dating as a single mum to finding love again after divorce, Maggie shares what she’s learned about resilience, perspective, and why sometimes the most radical thing you can do is not fall apart. Then, in Self Help(ed) Scoop of the Week, Tully and Maggie react to Sylvester Stallone’s wife Jennifer Flavin’s… let’s call it “creative” theory on the rise of trans kids in Hollywood and finally, they wrap up with a brand-new game segment: Guess the Dumb Dumb - celebrating the greatest thinkers saying the dumbest things.  It’s heartache, healing, and a healthy dose of chaos - just another week of Self Help(ed). CHAPTERS:  01:08 - Milk sip intro. On the Couch 02:21 - Maggie’s breakup reveal 06:28 - Booted while abroad 07:15 - The ick list 09:59 - Single parent dating 12:58 - Mother vs romantic identity 17:02 - Heartbreak while parenting 22:03 - Decentering men 30:02 - Data points in dating 36:46 - Tully’s Milkman diagnosis 42:09 - Scoop Of The Week 46:28 - Guess the Dumb Dumb If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod.

When It Rains, It Pours: Why Everything Happens All at Once

We all know the saying: “when it rains, it pours”. Usually, it’s describing how problems- or sometimes good fortune- seem to arrive all at once. While it sounds like a simple idiom, there’s actually some scientific and psychological reasoning behind why it feels true. Cognitively, humans are wired to detect patterns. When multiple stressful or fortunate events happen close together, our brains naturally link them, amplifying the sense of clustering. From a statistical perspective, clustering does occur in random distributions. Studies in probability and chaos theory show that even purely random data often contains streaks or clusters. But in terms of scientific proof that bad luck usually arrives at once? Nope, not a thing. So while there’s no supernatural proof that life conspires to pile things on, there is psychological and mathematical evidence explaining why it feels that way. This week, we try and unpack our coping mechanisms for periods of ‘heavy rain’ - and the bad habits we need to kick. CHAPTERS:  01:09 – On the Couch: When It Rains, It Pours 09:32 – Brains love patterns. Hello, fake “clusters” 16:31 – Best tip: You don’t have to reply yet 18:55 – Glass balls vs rubber balls 24:09 – Survival mode makes joy feel risky 32:04 – Scoop of the Week: Skims hairy thong 33:52 – Are we being trolled or is this fashion? Discuss 37:36 – Internet Genius: Habit stacking If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. [https://www.instagram.com/selfhelpedpod] You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter [https://www.instagram.com/maggiekellywriter] and Tully over on @tee_smyth [https://www.instagram.com/tee_smyth]. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod

The Death of the Makeover Montage

In this episode of Self Help(ed), the girls chat all things reinvention - and how it used to be as simple as a haircut and a new postcode, but now social media now makes it nearly impossible to start fresh. From cringe-worthy old posts to cancel culture panic, they argue that reinvention isn’t fake, it’s growth. Plus: a scoop on Craig McLachlan’s Cluedo controversy, and a fiery “Change My Mind” debate, this time tackling Reality TV vs. Coffee. Big laughs, bold takes, and maybe a nudge to try your own mini reinvention (offline, for once). Chapter Notes: 02:00 – Reinvention in the Social Media Age 06:00 – Pressure to Stay Consistent (Cancel Culture, Tall Poppy Syndrome) 13:00 – Cancel Culture, Comparison & TikTok Inspiration 17:00 – Therapy Notes: Reinvention as Integration, Not Erasure 19:00 – Scoop of the Week: Craig McLachlan & Cluedo Controversy 23:00 – Change My Mind: Reality TV vs. Coffee 28:40 – Homework & Closing Thoughts If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod

Is Anybody Sleeping?!

Call it age, call it stress, call it toddlers… but it feels like no one is sleeping anymore. This week, Maggie brings one of her most tired topics to the table: sleep. From random bouts of insomnia to 3.30am cats demanding breakfast, the dream of a solid eight hours feels like exactly that- a dream. Tully and Maggie unpack the ever-popular concept of “sleep hygiene” and confess their own questionable bedtime habits. They explore what sleeplessness is doing to our energy, moods, relationships, and mental health long-term. Spoiler: the effects aren’t pretty. Then, in classic Self Help(ed) fashion, the girls veer into the idea of “Frog Day”- a quirky tool for tackling your most dreaded tasks before they snowball into stress monsters. And of course, they close out with a spirited round of Walk Of Shame, because no episode is complete without a little ribbing. So if you’ve ever stared at the ceiling at 2am replaying tomorrow’s to-do list- or if your pet thinks breakfast is a pre-dawn activity -- you’ll enjoy this one. CHAPTERS:  00:58 – On the Couch: Cat vs sleep 01:37 – Why we’re all so tired 03:59 – Sleep as a productivity killer 05:14 – Sleep hygiene myths 06:51 – ADHD, anxiety & bedtime brains 10:00 – Good night vs insomnia night 18:00 – Medication as reset 20:09 – Screen time & frazzled brains 23:04 – Brain dumps & lists 24:46 – Dressing gown upgrade 26:58 – Therapy notes 30:05 – Homework: Sleep diary 31:28 – Internet Genius of the Week 32:22 – What is Frog Day? 35:13 – Walk of Shame  If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod