The Love Doctor

Today on the show, I’m talking to the host of the Rethinking Manhood podcast, Destyn Land. Destyn and I discuss men and sex. Sounds simple but when you start to layer in shame, silence, and how by grade 3 you’re already comparing penis size–it gets a lot more complicated. I first saw Destyn’s work when a friend shared one of his posts on Instagram. It was a beautiful piece about men and how society has created this pressure to prove how “straight” you are. This could be by catcalling women or making homophobic comments. Destyn’s posts are always thoughtful, well researched and when I found out he had a podcast, I just had to listen. Resources from the Show Destyn Land: @destynforgreatness Rethinking Manhood Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3bQw3DWTRuCmlGXFvYrVya?si=c26149d4a7474d36 [https://open.spotify.com/show/3bQw3DWTRuCmlGXFvYrVya?si=c26149d4a7474d36] Instagram: @rethinkingmanhood Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex [https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex] Euphoria on Crave Heartstopper on Netflix and Comics Bi-erasure definition: https://www.glaad.org/bisexual The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks

Today on the show, I have brought back a crowd favourite—my husband, Levi Hildebrand. Levi and I talk about our experience of using Fertility Awareness Method over the past 8 months and the impact not being on birth control has had on our sex life. We also do a bit of a deep dive on masculinity and how just now Levi feels like he is choosing what that means for himself. Resources from the show! Levi Hildebrand Instagram: @levihildebrand Levi and Leah YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/LeviHildebrand Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex Come As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski : https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are

Today on the show, I am answering your questions about opening up relationships and BDSM. But I’m not answering them alone. I am honoured to share my interview with Registered Clinical Counsellor, Sarah Watson, who helps me navigate your questions surrounding trauma and sexuality. References from the Show! Sarah Watson: https://sarahwatsontherapy.com/ [https://sarahwatsontherapy.com/] Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel S.F. Heller: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9547888-attached Polysecure by Jessica Fern: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecure Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-as-You-Are/Emily-Nagoski/9781476762111 Allura Website $50 webinars: Sex and Trauma : https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5b162a5675f9ee6cc62c56b5/t/61a68fc8cdbab21c1afb1d71/1638305736878/Sex+%2B+Trauma+Flyer.pdf Self Harm Resources: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/cutting-and-self-harm.htm Sexual Configurations Theory: https://www.academia.edu/37691857/_SCT_Zine_Mapping_Your_Sexuality_From_Sexual_Orientation_to_Sexual_Configurations_Theory Sue Johnson: A(ccessible)R(esponsive)E(ngaged) you there for me? Debunking 5 Common Myths About Kink: https://www.slice.ca/sex-sessions-art-debunking-common-myths-about-kink/ 5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/2021/8/16/5-things-science-has-taught-us-about-bdsm/ [https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/2021/8/16/5-things-science-has-taught-us-about-bdsm/] B.C.’s Capital City Leads the Country in Trans and Non-binary Representation: https://www.coastmountainnews.com/news/b-c-s-capital-city-leads-the-country-in-trans-and-non-binary-representation/ [https://www.coastmountainnews.com/news/b-c-s-capital-city-leads-the-country-in-trans-and-non-binary-representation/]

Today on the show, I am sharing my interview with Farzana Doctor where we talk about non-monogamy, what sexuality looks like in your 40s, and what it means to be a quote unquote “good woman.” We also discuss her new book that is a collection of poetry, You Still Look the Same. I particularly resonated with her poem Boundaries and I know it’s a topic a lot of folks have asked me about. Resources from the Show! Farzana Doctor: https://farzanadoctor.com/ You Still Look The Same Discount Code: use DOCTOR20 at check-out at https://freehand-books.com [https://freehand-books.com/] Audiobook link: https://libro.fm/audiobooks/9781778520648 Seven Link: https://farzanadoctor.com/seven/ Interview with Farzana in Season 2: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-love-doctor/id1519672109?i=1000536137699 Burnout by Nagoski sisters: https://www.burnoutbook.net/ Internal Family Systems therapy: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapy Polysecure by Jessica Fern: ​​https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecure Metamour definition: https://www.polydictionary.org/metamour/

Today on the show, we are talking about what you missed in your high school sex education and how puppets may be the best way to talk about sex. In our first ever group interview on the podcast, I talk to Hannah Mariko Bell, Sophie Underwood, and Kiley Verbowski, about our experience co-creating the play Going All The Way. We talk about our own experiences with sex education and how creating art has helped us navigate our own sexual journeys. Resources from the Show! Going All The Way Tickets: skam.ca/going-all-the-way [http://skam.ca/going-all-the-way] Theatre SKAM: https://skam.ca/ What is Intersectionality? Kimberlé Crenshaw: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ViDtnfQ9FHc&ab_channel=NationalAssociationofIndependentSchools%28NAIS%29 Schitt's Creek Star Dan Levy on Playing Pansexual: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4IXXM0A6vg&ab_channel=LarryKing Schitt's Creek Wine Analogy Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrHYlJTqud0&ab_channel=RozCoreyClark Japanese Fertility Festivals: https://allabout-japan.com/en/article/4349/